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Mom threw me out! (And I am not hurt about it)

Sunday, September 07, 2014

Sorry I haven't been writing here lately. I just have been ...

Oh, let's not beat around the bush ...

I've been letting a lot of good habits slip.

Hmm.

I went up to see my mother this week. My sisters have arranged for home hospice for her. She herself told my sisters that she was tired of running to the hospital for everything. She had pneumonia and didn't want to the hospital for even that.

She knows what's going on. And she wants the end to come for her at home. This tim eshe was in the hospital and was most displeased about that.

I was sitting in her room and after about 45 minutes of visiting, with her nodding in and out of sleep, she woke and looked at me and asked "What are you doing here? Go home." I kissed her on the head and said good bye. My feelings were not hurt. I understand.

We are all being kept in the loop as to what is going on with Mom. And all of us are pretty much of an age where we absolutely understand that death, especially for a 93 year old mother of 13, is a natural part of her wonderful life.

  
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BIGPAWSUP 9/13/2014 3:25PM

    Love and prayer for you and your family.

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KAREN-IS-HERE 9/12/2014 12:02PM

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SQUIRRELMOMMA1 9/8/2014 4:11PM

    Thanks for sharing. But at 93 you have been blessed to have your mother in your life for so long. Both my parents got to pass away in their own home, and while it was hard for us it was nice for them to be in the surroundings they loved and felt most comfortable in.

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MSLZZY 9/8/2014 9:09AM

    So emoticon to read this. At least she knows what is going on and can make her own choices. emoticon

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BOILHAM 9/8/2014 7:54AM

    Thanks for sharing, Tim. Sorry for the sad time for you.

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GARDENCHRIS 9/8/2014 7:09AM

    hoping she gets to go home, where she wants to be..... you are a good son. thoughts and prayers for your mom and family.

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MARGARITTM 9/8/2014 6:42AM

    I am pretty sure I really like your Mom..... pretty spunky.


No matter what age it is always hard. My heart aches for you and your family.

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CIPHER1971 9/8/2014 6:24AM

    I hope your mum gets to go home, you display a wonderful relationship.

Have a great day

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CHANGINGHORSES 9/8/2014 5:20AM

    Wow, God bless you all. She sounds like she is ready. (((Hugs))) Take care.

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_CYNDY55_ 9/7/2014 11:38PM

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FORZACHANDMATT 9/7/2014 11:21PM

    Aww - I'm sorry you're going through this

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KIPSTER52 9/7/2014 10:31PM

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DEBBYFROMMT 9/7/2014 10:12PM

    emoticon Having to say goodbye to your mother at any age is still tough. Thoughts and prayers are with you, your sisters, and your mother.

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Money well spent.

Monday, August 25, 2014

I bought a couple of inexpensive ($50) sports cameras for my trike. One front, one back, and I hope I never need them. But the sad truth is, if there is an accident between a cyclist and a motorist, the police will believe the word of the motorist unless if (1) it is obvious that the cyclist is not at fault, (2) there are witnesses supporting the cyclist, or (3) a video shows what happened. I hope they were a waste of money.

But one of them paid for itself yesterday.

I wear cycling gloves and when I got home, I was missing them with no idea where I took them off. So I went to the video and there they were laying on the track at the train museum as I pulled away. It's not a long drive so when I put a load of towels and jeans in the dryer, I drove down and there they still were. Those gloves aren't cheap ... anything to do with a specialized sport is not cheap. Suffice to say, that $50 camera saved me from having to buy a new $50 pair of gloves.

  
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CIPHER1971 8/27/2014 4:59PM

    WOOT emoticon

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SQUIRRELMOMMA1 8/26/2014 10:54AM

    So that camera was free! or the gloves.

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APRILRUSSELL3 8/26/2014 10:44AM

    Sounds like a good bargain!

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KAREN-IS-HERE 8/26/2014 12:34AM

    emoticon emoticon well that's a fair exchange

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Cycling into the Big City.

Monday, August 25, 2014

Last night Patrick and I had tickets to the Ravens/Redskins game.

Oops.

Last night Patrick and I had tickets to the Ravens/Washington NFL Football club game.

I just wish they would change that name and get it over with. It's going to happen sooner or later why not just do it sooner and move on to harassing the Cleveland and Atlanta MLB Clubs. You know, important stuff.

Anyway. Short story made long. A number of years ago, a man named Kevin Scally from Baltimore check into a particular hotel near Big Sur for a marathon. My sister works the night desk. "Scally. I know some Scallys back in Baltimore. My cousins Kathy, Maggie, Rose ..."

And Kevin finished for her, "... Marietta, Mike, and Phil. Yeah, they're my cousins too!"

Then I was running a marathon and we happened to run into each other. Kevin ran up to me and called me Mike. "Mike's my son," I said.

"Sorry, I thought you were my cousin Mike. You look just like him. I couldn't imagine him running."

"Funny, I have a cousin Mike whom everyone thinks I look like, though we can't see it."

"Do you have a cousin Marietta, too?" Kevin asked. And he told me the story about my sister in Big Sur. Small world. We're friends now. After all we go to all the same weddings and funerals.

So here we have 60,000 people cnverging on M&T Bank Stadium in the gathering darkness and I here "TIM!, TIM NOHE!" And what do you know! It's Kevin. And he's with his friend from Big Sur.

I am not sure why I got onto that story except ...

... no, not sure at all. Oh well, here's a picture from the game.


Today, was a lovely day with low humidity and temperatures in the lower 80s. This has been a spectacular summer. (Nothing like last year when we a a couple of days with heat indices around 120ºF. That was brutal.) I I got on the trike and headed out for the City. Baltimore is only about seven miles as the Raven flies. A little farther by road. I was able to do my "Travelocity Gnome" think with my tricycle.

My first stop downtown was at the B&O Museum on Pratt Street. I didn't go in but I did lose my gloves there. And since I video my rides, I know EXACTLY where they were when I left.

The B&O Roundhouse Railroad Museum


Babe Ruth Birthplace Museum


Babe’s Dream in the courtyard at the entrance of CamdenYards


On Eutaw Street Plaza looking into the Baseball field


The Golden Arm, Johnny Unitas who made his career in Baltimore with Colts, in from of M&T Bank Stadium where the Ravens play


The finish line to the Baltimore Marathon, coming up in October. I shall run the half.


Inner Harbor with the Power Plant (one of the few buildings to survive the 1905 fire) and part of the National Aquarium.


Another angle of the Inner Harbor showing the other part of the Aquarium. I like how my windsocks match the flags in front of Baltimore World Trade Center.

  
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DEBBYFROMMT 8/25/2014 9:13AM

    Hey, I've been there! Watched the Orioles beat the Dodgers. (Even though we are National League fans, I do not like the Dodgers. ) And the Inner Harbor was really cool!
Baltimore is a beautiful town. Great picture of you and your trike!

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GARDENCHRIS 8/25/2014 7:12AM

    thanks for taking us around your neck of the woods...... glad your back from the land of no wifi!

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CIPHER1971 8/25/2014 3:33AM

    Thanks for the city tour, I always love your rides.

Have a great day

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I am a horrible monster

Friday, August 22, 2014

I have been watching with morbid fascination this whole ALS Ice Bucket Challenge thing.

Frankly, to me, it looks stupid.

But if you are having fun with it, enjoy it. And it has admittedly raised a lot of money for that horrible disease and not money that would have gone to other diseases because most of the people who are donating likely would not have donated to another cause anyway.

But here is where I became a monster.

I chose not to participate. And I called out questionable tactics being used to coerce participation.

"What's the matter with you?" I was questioned, "You can't spare 10 minutes for ALS?"

How in the world is dumping ice water on my head going to do anything for ALS?

"It raises awareness."

I already know what it is. I have watched over the last 30 years as it has ravaged Dr Hawking. It's a horrible disease.

"Well, if you don't do it within 24 hours you," and here we go, "have to donate $100 to ALSA.org."

I will donate how much I want to whom I want when I want and you will never know about it.

"But that's the game. You can afford to give and if you can't then you can give something."

And I didn't choose to play. And yes I can and it's not your business.

And suddenly I was an uncaring heartless SOB who was putting down everyone doing the challenge. (No I am not and no I wasn't.)

I felt like these were bullying tactics. And I called it out on my Facebook status. I did not name the prime one who sent me over the edge, but it took him about a day to realize that it was he who finally prompted me to call out the tactics being used. He called to apologize. He was so swept up in the "game" that he didn't even realize what he was doing.

Get challenged, get wet or a penalty imposed if you choose not to and if you refuse the penalty you are publicly shamed.

Here, smoke this.
Some other time.
Come on. Everyone is doing it.
Nope.
Then gimme your lunch money.
No!
(Punch) Ok. Fine if that’s the way you want to be. Nobody’s forcing you to smoke.
Thanks. (Walking away)
Hey everybody. This guy’s a big p*ssy!

If that's not bullying, I don't know what is.

Well, you know I had my asbestos undies on after that. I was so totally flamed. People totally misunderstood what I was saying. They felt like I was trying to dump icewater on their fun. That I was saying the awareness campaign was a bad thing.

I was not saying any of that.

I was saying that the tactics of some were akin to shaming and bullying. For example, here is a comment to my status from one of my High School classmates. I apologize in advance for the coarse language used in the photo. But I think you need to know what I am talking about.

DanielK -- Little Tim,, I can't believe you are being an ass about this....get challenge, do it and have fun or just walk away. you do not have to donate...there is no bullying about it...this cause has raised over 10 million dollars so far....we have just lost a classmate to ALS, DannyK, and I think he would have loved to see these people taking the challenge and donate to this cause....


Insulting name to start.
Calls me an ass
Claims that there is no pressure ... wait a minute, didn't he start by calling me names?
You don't have to donate
But you know one of our classmates just died of ALS (you heartless bastard)
Then an inflammatory picture.

No, there's no bullying.

I have seen people post the names of people they challenged who declined and complained that they surely had the money to donate.

No, there's no bullying.

I was called a shallow person who was too gutless to stand for anything. (Seems I took an unpopular stand against bullying on a very popular cause. That's hardly gutless)

No, there's no bullying.

We'll just call it arm twisting. Coercion. Extortion.

But there's no bullying.

  
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DEBBYFROMMT 8/24/2014 8:25PM

    I agree, what and how much you donate to someone is your own business. We donate to a lot of stuff, mostly local stuff, but no one knows. That's the way I like it. Personally I think the Ice Bucket thing could be promoted better. There have been injuries with it too.

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CIPHER1971 8/24/2014 4:37PM

    I haven't been called out (another friendless person) but I agree with you the tactics are bullying, and it reminds me too much of neknomination another foolish facebook thing.

Have a great day

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GARDENCHRIS 8/23/2014 11:46AM

    Tim you are our "horrible monster" (NOT!) and I happen to agree with you. Cause is good, maybe even fun for some, BUT I will decide to who or what I will give to.

Glad you called them out on the bullying......

By the way, my son said why this is so viral right now is the guy who did this for his friend who has ALS died in a car crash right after he made the video, so this is why it went viral. Don't know how true it is.

Also glad to have you back in communication!

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NELLJONES 8/23/2014 7:58AM

    I am happy to contribute to ALS, but I choose not to dump ice water on my head. Having watched someone die of the disease day by day, his wife had to divorce him just to be able to afford to survive his death, I am happy to contribute. But before this challenge many people didn't even know of the disease until someone they knew was diagnosed. In that light, it's probably been a good thing.

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KAREN-IS-HERE 8/22/2014 11:34PM

    luckily I'm terribly unpopular and nobody I mean not one of my family nor friends nor associates challenged me- thank god- because when put on the spot my first reaction is nearly always "NO, however thanks for asking." I didn't know what the challenge was about until I saw it being done on Big Brother Season 16 this week.

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SQUIRRELMOMMA1 8/22/2014 9:53PM

    I've been watching all the ice bucket challenges too and am left wondering why this is such a popular thing lately. Is this the 'hot' disease of the moment? I agree with you about the seemingly bullying tactics used for the donations. Making a donation is a personal thing and I don't broadcast who I choose to give to. I agree with your post.

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BIGPAWSUP 8/22/2014 7:37PM

    I think you are spot on! That is out of hand.

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MELYROD18 8/22/2014 5:42PM

    By the way... you are not a horrible monster emoticon

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MELYROD18 8/22/2014 5:41PM

    I agree with just about everything you said. emoticon

I was actually nominated to do the ice bucket challenge and I found it stupid but it actually made me aware of it. I even researched it. So I decided that I will be doing the ice bucket challenge for fun and I'm donating to a fundraiser for Lymphoma cancer. It's the cancer the took my grandfather's life.

Have a great weekend and thanks for sharing your thoughts and feelings. emoticon

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Oh Captain, my Captain.

Wednesday, August 13, 2014

I have not a lot to say about the revelations of the past 24 hours.

I have never had much experience with clinical depression. A short 10 years ago, the boys and I went to Ireland and the first day we were there we wanted to visit the Cliffs of Moher. It was closed that day because a woman was visiting with her friends who thought a trip to Ireland would be just the thing to snap her out of her funk. They took her to the Cliffs of Moher. She looked around, took a drag off her cigarette and one step forward.



I was angry. Not because the Cliffs were closed to visitors. But because I thought she made a selfish gutless choice. Suicide is the coward's way out.

In those last 10 years, I have done enough reading and and listening and thought to come to the conclusion that it is not a gutless choice. It is not a coward's way out. It is extremely complex.

Several years ago, I think it was 2011, one of my favorite baseball players committed suicide. Mike Flanagan was a pitcher, a TV and radio voice of the Orioles, and a general manager for the O's. He was saddle with huge debt. He had other problems. But one thing he mentioned was that he believed that the fans of the team he loved felt that he was responsible for them being on a 14 year losing streak. I came to understand that his problems, when looked at individually seemed trivial, and in the case of taking responsibility for his team having a tight-fisted cheap owner actually a little silly. But when all balled together they were very complex.

The news of Robin Williams last night was a shock. And it was not. He often spoke openly about his depression and his addictions. He also took on a TV show, something a star of his calibre would normally be above. And that show failed. He had a well-known dislike for spin-offs and "sequels." And yet he did "Night at the Museum 2" and had just wrapped "Night at the Museum 3". He was supposed to start work on "Mrs Doubtfire 2" at the end of this summer. Why? As it turns out he was facing bankruptcy. At age 63, working in Hollywood for 40+ years, winning Oscars, this guy should not be having to work a TV series just to have a paycheck.

It all piled up on him I suppose. I was saddened. Shocked. But not surprised.

And the first thing that flashed through my mind was the scene from "What Dreams May Come" where he joined his wife, a suicide, in Hell.



youtu.be/Ns_XAco7e5o

  
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KAREN-IS-HERE 8/13/2014 2:00PM

    RIP Robin Williams

I watched weather channel and saw all that flooding- hoping you fared well


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DEBBYFROMMT 8/13/2014 10:37AM

    Of all the mental illnesses, depression is the worst. I hope anyone who is dealing with it gets help. Robin Williams was wonderful. I wonder if he even realized how much he was loved all over the world.

I saw you got quite a bit of rain out there yesterday. I hope all is well.




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BONOLICIOUS2 8/13/2014 8:32AM

    Holy cow, that Cliffs of Moher bit made the hairs raise up on my arm. I saw all of the signs when I was there, but to witness it? Oh man. You definitely won't forget that.

Depression does not discriminate, and it makes a person someone they are not. It has a strong grip and it can make someone do horrible things. I always try to be kind to everyone I meet because they could be fighting a battle that I know nothing about (I know I fight them, so I appreciate when people are kind to me). Depression is not necessarily a disease people wear on their skin.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts!



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TINA8605 8/13/2014 8:09AM

  I discuss this issue about suicide w/my bf last night....the first words out of his life is Robin Williams was rich. How could a rich person be depressed....he had the means to everything. I've heard my bf make these comments in the past. He makes really good money at this job. But he's not happy. Money might give you the means to pay the bills and the ability to have material things. But one thing you can't do is buy happiness. Happiness comes from within. I, too, suffer from depression (which is under control thru meds at this time). But deep deep down, I'm content, I have never consider suicide as the answer. Its sad for those that do.

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NELLJONES 8/13/2014 7:32AM

    He also had alimony payments to two ex-wives. Depression, addiction and financial pressures are each common motives for suicide. Robin Williams was dealing with all three.

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GARDENCHRIS 8/13/2014 7:12AM

    it is sad.

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CIPHER1971 8/13/2014 4:55AM

    Mental Health is so difficult, especially for those of us who have naturally robust psyches, but you are right it is complex, and because it is difficult to see it is easy to overlook.

Thank you for another thought provoking blog.

Have a good day

M

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