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Wow! It's been a while.

Monday, October 20, 2014

I know I have been away for a while. I just didn't realize that it has been that long! That's ... let's see ... September 7 to October 20 ... that's ... carry the two and borrow ten ... the sine of the cosecant is ... Wow! Six weeks.

I basically took some time to dial back my social media stuff. I was getting other stuff done. I was trying to readjust my sleep patterns. And I was watching too much TV.

Let's see.

Well, Mom is still kicking it. Her ability to communicate is severely limited, but she does enjoy visitors. So that's good. When anyone asks me I tell them it's day to day. If I get The Call tomorrow or I get it three months from now, I think I am ready.

It's cool. She has had a great life. The mother of 13, grandmother to 17 and great grandmother to 5. When th etime comes, it will be a well deserved rest.

We have a brother-in-law who is a disc jockey. I told my sister that we should have Jerry stand by and bring his gear to the post funeral reception. (We were discussing "arrangements" and Mom was present for the discussion.)

"Because there should be dancing. We should celebrate Mom's life, not mourn her death." Mom nodded her head.
"But Mommy doesn't dance."
"Ah," I responded, "But she won't have to." Mom chuckled at that. "And we should have cake!"
Here Mom put in her two cents, "Chocolate!"
"See? She wants us to have Chocolate cake!"
Then she said something and my sister laughed, "She said, 'And McDonald's ice cream.' Mom, I think that can be arranged."

She is dying. She knows she is dying and is pretty much in a waiting mode. But she can participate in the party planning.

This is a picture from Sunday with two of her Great Grandaughters and their new dogs. She said she wanted a dog like them.

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CIPHER1971 10/21/2014 3:12PM

    I have missed you, your mum seems to be an amazing person, inspirational - you are going to have a great shin-dig I can see.

Have a great day

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BIGPAWSUP 10/21/2014 11:48AM

    I can see where you get your awesome attitude from. Plan away mom!

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DEBBYFROMMT 10/21/2014 9:38AM

    Your Mom sounds like a wonderful lady!

I have missed your blogs! So neither one of our teams made the World Series, but it was a great year! (I was rooting for the Orioles even though I'm from Missouri. Always a Cardinal fan though).

Take care of yourself!

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GARDENCHRIS 10/21/2014 7:29AM

    glad to hear you are still enjoying your Mom..... and we missed you! emoticon

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Mom threw me out! (And I am not hurt about it)

Sunday, September 07, 2014

Sorry I haven't been writing here lately. I just have been ...

Oh, let's not beat around the bush ...

I've been letting a lot of good habits slip.


I went up to see my mother this week. My sisters have arranged for home hospice for her. She herself told my sisters that she was tired of running to the hospital for everything. She had pneumonia and didn't want to the hospital for even that.

She knows what's going on. And she wants the end to come for her at home. This tim eshe was in the hospital and was most displeased about that.

I was sitting in her room and after about 45 minutes of visiting, with her nodding in and out of sleep, she woke and looked at me and asked "What are you doing here? Go home." I kissed her on the head and said good bye. My feelings were not hurt. I understand.

We are all being kept in the loop as to what is going on with Mom. And all of us are pretty much of an age where we absolutely understand that death, especially for a 93 year old mother of 13, is a natural part of her wonderful life.

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BIGPAWSUP 9/13/2014 3:25PM

    Love and prayer for you and your family.

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KAREN-IS-HERE 9/12/2014 12:02PM


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SQUIRRELMOMMA1 9/8/2014 4:11PM

    Thanks for sharing. But at 93 you have been blessed to have your mother in your life for so long. Both my parents got to pass away in their own home, and while it was hard for us it was nice for them to be in the surroundings they loved and felt most comfortable in.

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MSLZZY 9/8/2014 9:09AM

    So emoticon to read this. At least she knows what is going on and can make her own choices. emoticon

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BOILHAM 9/8/2014 7:54AM

  Thanks for sharing, Tim. Sorry for the sad time for you.

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GARDENCHRIS 9/8/2014 7:09AM

    hoping she gets to go home, where she wants to be..... you are a good son. thoughts and prayers for your mom and family.

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MARGARITTM 9/8/2014 6:42AM

    I am pretty sure I really like your Mom..... pretty spunky.

No matter what age it is always hard. My heart aches for you and your family.

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CIPHER1971 9/8/2014 6:24AM

    I hope your mum gets to go home, you display a wonderful relationship.

Have a great day

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    Wow, God bless you all. She sounds like she is ready. (((Hugs))) Take care.

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_CYNDY55_ 9/7/2014 11:38PM


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    Aww - I'm sorry you're going through this

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KIPSTER52 9/7/2014 10:31PM


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DEBBYFROMMT 9/7/2014 10:12PM

    emoticon Having to say goodbye to your mother at any age is still tough. Thoughts and prayers are with you, your sisters, and your mother.

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Money well spent.

Monday, August 25, 2014

I bought a couple of inexpensive ($50) sports cameras for my trike. One front, one back, and I hope I never need them. But the sad truth is, if there is an accident between a cyclist and a motorist, the police will believe the word of the motorist unless if (1) it is obvious that the cyclist is not at fault, (2) there are witnesses supporting the cyclist, or (3) a video shows what happened. I hope they were a waste of money.

But one of them paid for itself yesterday.

I wear cycling gloves and when I got home, I was missing them with no idea where I took them off. So I went to the video and there they were laying on the track at the train museum as I pulled away. It's not a long drive so when I put a load of towels and jeans in the dryer, I drove down and there they still were. Those gloves aren't cheap ... anything to do with a specialized sport is not cheap. Suffice to say, that $50 camera saved me from having to buy a new $50 pair of gloves.

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CIPHER1971 8/27/2014 4:59PM

    WOOT emoticon

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SQUIRRELMOMMA1 8/26/2014 10:54AM

    So that camera was free! or the gloves.

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APRILRUSSELL3 8/26/2014 10:44AM

    Sounds like a good bargain!

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KAREN-IS-HERE 8/26/2014 12:34AM

    emoticon emoticon well that's a fair exchange

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Cycling into the Big City.

Monday, August 25, 2014

Last night Patrick and I had tickets to the Ravens/Redskins game.


Last night Patrick and I had tickets to the Ravens/Washington NFL Football club game.

I just wish they would change that name and get it over with. It's going to happen sooner or later why not just do it sooner and move on to harassing the Cleveland and Atlanta MLB Clubs. You know, important stuff.

Anyway. Short story made long. A number of years ago, a man named Kevin Scally from Baltimore check into a particular hotel near Big Sur for a marathon. My sister works the night desk. "Scally. I know some Scallys back in Baltimore. My cousins Kathy, Maggie, Rose ..."

And Kevin finished for her, "... Marietta, Mike, and Phil. Yeah, they're my cousins too!"

Then I was running a marathon and we happened to run into each other. Kevin ran up to me and called me Mike. "Mike's my son," I said.

"Sorry, I thought you were my cousin Mike. You look just like him. I couldn't imagine him running."

"Funny, I have a cousin Mike whom everyone thinks I look like, though we can't see it."

"Do you have a cousin Marietta, too?" Kevin asked. And he told me the story about my sister in Big Sur. Small world. We're friends now. After all we go to all the same weddings and funerals.

So here we have 60,000 people cnverging on M&T Bank Stadium in the gathering darkness and I here "TIM!, TIM NOHE!" And what do you know! It's Kevin. And he's with his friend from Big Sur.

I am not sure why I got onto that story except ...

... no, not sure at all. Oh well, here's a picture from the game.

Today, was a lovely day with low humidity and temperatures in the lower 80s. This has been a spectacular summer. (Nothing like last year when we a a couple of days with heat indices around 120ºF. That was brutal.) I I got on the trike and headed out for the City. Baltimore is only about seven miles as the Raven flies. A little farther by road. I was able to do my "Travelocity Gnome" think with my tricycle.

My first stop downtown was at the B&O Museum on Pratt Street. I didn't go in but I did lose my gloves there. And since I video my rides, I know EXACTLY where they were when I left.

The B&O Roundhouse Railroad Museum

Babe Ruth Birthplace Museum

Babe’s Dream in the courtyard at the entrance of CamdenYards

On Eutaw Street Plaza looking into the Baseball field

The Golden Arm, Johnny Unitas who made his career in Baltimore with Colts, in from of M&T Bank Stadium where the Ravens play

The finish line to the Baltimore Marathon, coming up in October. I shall run the half.

Inner Harbor with the Power Plant (one of the few buildings to survive the 1905 fire) and part of the National Aquarium.

Another angle of the Inner Harbor showing the other part of the Aquarium. I like how my windsocks match the flags in front of Baltimore World Trade Center.

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DEBBYFROMMT 8/25/2014 9:13AM

    Hey, I've been there! Watched the Orioles beat the Dodgers. (Even though we are National League fans, I do not like the Dodgers. ) And the Inner Harbor was really cool!
Baltimore is a beautiful town. Great picture of you and your trike!

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GARDENCHRIS 8/25/2014 7:12AM

    thanks for taking us around your neck of the woods...... glad your back from the land of no wifi!

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CIPHER1971 8/25/2014 3:33AM

    Thanks for the city tour, I always love your rides.

Have a great day

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I am a horrible monster

Friday, August 22, 2014

I have been watching with morbid fascination this whole ALS Ice Bucket Challenge thing.

Frankly, to me, it looks stupid.

But if you are having fun with it, enjoy it. And it has admittedly raised a lot of money for that horrible disease and not money that would have gone to other diseases because most of the people who are donating likely would not have donated to another cause anyway.

But here is where I became a monster.

I chose not to participate. And I called out questionable tactics being used to coerce participation.

"What's the matter with you?" I was questioned, "You can't spare 10 minutes for ALS?"

How in the world is dumping ice water on my head going to do anything for ALS?

"It raises awareness."

I already know what it is. I have watched over the last 30 years as it has ravaged Dr Hawking. It's a horrible disease.

"Well, if you don't do it within 24 hours you," and here we go, "have to donate $100 to ALSA.org."

I will donate how much I want to whom I want when I want and you will never know about it.

"But that's the game. You can afford to give and if you can't then you can give something."

And I didn't choose to play. And yes I can and it's not your business.

And suddenly I was an uncaring heartless SOB who was putting down everyone doing the challenge. (No I am not and no I wasn't.)

I felt like these were bullying tactics. And I called it out on my Facebook status. I did not name the prime one who sent me over the edge, but it took him about a day to realize that it was he who finally prompted me to call out the tactics being used. He called to apologize. He was so swept up in the "game" that he didn't even realize what he was doing.

Get challenged, get wet or a penalty imposed if you choose not to and if you refuse the penalty you are publicly shamed.

Here, smoke this.
Some other time.
Come on. Everyone is doing it.
Then gimme your lunch money.
(Punch) Ok. Fine if that’s the way you want to be. Nobody’s forcing you to smoke.
Thanks. (Walking away)
Hey everybody. This guy’s a big p*ssy!

If that's not bullying, I don't know what is.

Well, you know I had my asbestos undies on after that. I was so totally flamed. People totally misunderstood what I was saying. They felt like I was trying to dump icewater on their fun. That I was saying the awareness campaign was a bad thing.

I was not saying any of that.

I was saying that the tactics of some were akin to shaming and bullying. For example, here is a comment to my status from one of my High School classmates. I apologize in advance for the coarse language used in the photo. But I think you need to know what I am talking about.

DanielK -- Little Tim,, I can't believe you are being an ass about this....get challenge, do it and have fun or just walk away. you do not have to donate...there is no bullying about it...this cause has raised over 10 million dollars so far....we have just lost a classmate to ALS, DannyK, and I think he would have loved to see these people taking the challenge and donate to this cause....

Insulting name to start.
Calls me an ass
Claims that there is no pressure ... wait a minute, didn't he start by calling me names?
You don't have to donate
But you know one of our classmates just died of ALS (you heartless bastard)
Then an inflammatory picture.

No, there's no bullying.

I have seen people post the names of people they challenged who declined and complained that they surely had the money to donate.

No, there's no bullying.

I was called a shallow person who was too gutless to stand for anything. (Seems I took an unpopular stand against bullying on a very popular cause. That's hardly gutless)

No, there's no bullying.

We'll just call it arm twisting. Coercion. Extortion.

But there's no bullying.

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DEBBYFROMMT 8/24/2014 8:25PM

    I agree, what and how much you donate to someone is your own business. We donate to a lot of stuff, mostly local stuff, but no one knows. That's the way I like it. Personally I think the Ice Bucket thing could be promoted better. There have been injuries with it too.

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CIPHER1971 8/24/2014 4:37PM

    I haven't been called out (another friendless person) but I agree with you the tactics are bullying, and it reminds me too much of neknomination another foolish facebook thing.

Have a great day

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GARDENCHRIS 8/23/2014 11:46AM

    Tim you are our "horrible monster" (NOT!) and I happen to agree with you. Cause is good, maybe even fun for some, BUT I will decide to who or what I will give to.

Glad you called them out on the bullying......

By the way, my son said why this is so viral right now is the guy who did this for his friend who has ALS died in a car crash right after he made the video, so this is why it went viral. Don't know how true it is.

Also glad to have you back in communication!

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NELLJONES 8/23/2014 7:58AM

    I am happy to contribute to ALS, but I choose not to dump ice water on my head. Having watched someone die of the disease day by day, his wife had to divorce him just to be able to afford to survive his death, I am happy to contribute. But before this challenge many people didn't even know of the disease until someone they knew was diagnosed. In that light, it's probably been a good thing.

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KAREN-IS-HERE 8/22/2014 11:34PM

    luckily I'm terribly unpopular and nobody I mean not one of my family nor friends nor associates challenged me- thank god- because when put on the spot my first reaction is nearly always "NO, however thanks for asking." I didn't know what the challenge was about until I saw it being done on Big Brother Season 16 this week.

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SQUIRRELMOMMA1 8/22/2014 9:53PM

    I've been watching all the ice bucket challenges too and am left wondering why this is such a popular thing lately. Is this the 'hot' disease of the moment? I agree with you about the seemingly bullying tactics used for the donations. Making a donation is a personal thing and I don't broadcast who I choose to give to. I agree with your post.

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BIGPAWSUP 8/22/2014 7:37PM

    I think you are spot on! That is out of hand.

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MELYROD18 8/22/2014 5:42PM

    By the way... you are not a horrible monster emoticon

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MELYROD18 8/22/2014 5:41PM

    I agree with just about everything you said. emoticon

I was actually nominated to do the ice bucket challenge and I found it stupid but it actually made me aware of it. I even researched it. So I decided that I will be doing the ice bucket challenge for fun and I'm donating to a fundraiser for Lymphoma cancer. It's the cancer the took my grandfather's life.

Have a great weekend and thanks for sharing your thoughts and feelings. emoticon

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