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There Will Probably Be Another Meal

Thursday, November 20, 2014

When I am eating something the I really enjoy I try to remind myself that this is probably not my last meal of "it." I will have another opportunity at some point to eat and enjoy it or something equally as enjoyable. In other words I eat a reasonable portion, telling myself I don't need to stuff myself now because I can have more later.



At holiday time this is really helpful. There are so many traditional foods around that have become part of our holiday. For example, I love turkey stuffing and tend to make it only at Thanksgiving time. But still I remind myself that if I really want stuffing again, I can make it anytime. Somehow that helps me with portion control.

Over 10 years ago my husband took a nutrition course after he had heart surgery. (And yes, he is healthy and fine right now.) At one point he raised his hand and asked the teacher: Does this mean I can never have another croissant? (He said this with a grief stricken face--LOL) The nutritionist replied, "Not at all. It means you can have one croissant a year."

Deprivation doesn't work, but knowing we're allowed, in moderation does. At least for me. And my DH!

  
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BA5454 11/24/2014 10:24AM

    This is a good mantra to keep in mind =, especially for the holidays--thanks very much!

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SUNNYBEACHGIRL 11/23/2014 8:52AM

    Good reminder about the holiday foods.

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BESSHAILE 11/22/2014 4:50AM

    LOL - I love the picture you painted of your husband looking into a croissant-less future.

But you are also so very right about the truth of there always being another meal. We don't have to eat as if we were walking into a famine the day after thanksgiving.

Yours is the first blog that has really pulled my own thoughts into focus. Thank you.

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GRAMMYX7 11/21/2014 7:44PM

    I truly believe there is nothing I can't eat during this healthy journey. It comes down to moderation. With moderation you never need to feel deprived.
Great blog. Happy Thanksgiving.
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TUDAFD 11/20/2014 11:08PM

    Just what I needed to hear at this time of year. Love your background, too. Beautiful.

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KANSASROSE67 11/20/2014 10:53PM

    You are so right! This is something I need to remember...it works for me, too.

Have a Blessed Thanksgiving.

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MM11113 11/20/2014 10:39PM

    love the concept. and, I need to remember it when at parties and there is so much to taste that I don't have in my house! There will always be another carry in!

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SANDICANE 11/20/2014 9:24PM

    Hear hear to moderation!!! And lots of it!!! lol

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JANTHEBLONDE 11/20/2014 6:21PM

    I absolutely Love your blog! That is so true that if you really want stuffing again, you can make it anytime! Portion control during the holidays is the key! Thanks so much for sharing this wonderful blog! Hope you're having a great day!
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PATTI_PAL1 11/20/2014 6:07PM

    Good philosophy the rest of the year, too.

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KANOE10 11/20/2014 11:14AM

    That is a good comment. I also love stuffing and usually only make it at Thanksgiving. No it is not our last and only meal. There is no need to stuff yourself. Moderation is the key. Well said.

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DALID414 11/20/2014 9:43AM

    Me too!

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NELLJONES 11/20/2014 8:15AM

    One of the things about being The Cook is that you can make anything you want whenever you want to make it.

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OLIVIANIGHT 11/20/2014 7:15AM

    That's a good strategy! I'm going to try that next time I eat my favourite foods.

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ELRIDDICK 11/20/2014 6:58AM

  Thanks for sharing

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Looking for an Apology?

Tuesday, November 18, 2014

I have been taking an on line class that poses powerful questions, life changing questions, every other day or so. Yesterday this one came up:



I realized that I was still upset about a friend who betrayed me many years ago. I don't think she understood how deeply she hurt me. But when I worked with yesterday's question I realized that what I really needed was to recognize for myself that she really did hurt me. That I felt alone and upset by it. And that I can just accept that and move on. Her apology would not change that. I needed to understand (and feel) how deeply she hurt me!

It's like saying OUCH when injured. After that healing can take place. Feeling lighter today.

  
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SHEILA1505 11/23/2014 2:42AM

    Thank you - I've allowed a couple of things to block me. I know it is time to move on, and perhaps this will let it flow

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BESSHAILE 11/22/2014 4:55AM

    OMG this is the most amazing post!! And I'm so glad you feel better. And I completely know exactly what you are talking about. There was a deep betrayal in my past and one day I realized that there would be no apology for it and I let it go - it was almost as if something fluttered out of my heart and off into the distance.

and can you imagine my drop-your-jaw shock when, a few months later that person was dining with me and she looked up and said "How could I have ever done that?"

We weren't even talking about it -we were just chatting. I nearly fell out of my chair. And I am glad if that helped her own heart heal but ... I hadn't needed that apology at all.

So just be prepared - sometime out of the blue you might just get that apology for real.

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SANDICANE 11/18/2014 8:59PM

    I really like your blog and I like that saying "Life becomes easier when you learn to accept an apology you never got." It's a bit different from the Oh Well, I've been trying to use lately...I think your saying is more healing.

As a matter of fact, your saying might be life-changing!

Thanks for posting it.

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MM11113 11/18/2014 5:09PM

    good idea to explore

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KELLIEBEAN 11/18/2014 4:52PM

    Wow, never thought about it like that, that the apology doesn't fix the hurt. We have to say ouch to begin healing.

thanks for sharing this!

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JANTHEBLONDE 11/18/2014 4:27PM

    This class you're taking online... sounds absolutely wonderful! The key in my life is learning to"Accept" everything! Thanks for sharing your class! I hope you have a wonderful day!
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PATTI_PAL1 11/18/2014 2:47PM

    That's a tough one. Glad you were able to get through to resolution. We always carry baggage like this way too long.

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DALID414 11/18/2014 10:12AM

    yeah, the apology won't change the hurt.

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KANOE10 11/18/2014 7:01AM

    That was a great insight. There are times when we will not ever get the apology we deserved. There is no choice but to accept that and move on. I am glad you came to peace with that episode in your life. This is healing.

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RANAF222 11/18/2014 6:59AM

    Good for you! We are the only ones responsible for our happiness!

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Putting My Stamp on Today

Thursday, November 06, 2014

I drove to the gym this morning at 5:45. It was dark and raining. I felt intrepid as I drove down a suburban street on my way to the fitness center even though I was sipping French Roast and listening to music. Then I saw a man in reflective clothing running outside on the sidewalk. Now I mentioned that it was raining; but actually it was pouring. That runner, I decided, was really INTREPID.

Still, in some ways that runner and I were both doing the same thing. We were both up early putting our stamp on the day.



I donít know about you, but I never ever regret a workout. When I do oneóeven a hard one--I always feel more in charge, and frankly, happier. I think itís because Iíve claimed a piece of the day and made it my own.

  
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BESSHAILE 11/8/2014 7:07AM

    I never regret one either. In fact - on the rare occasions when I start to talk myself out of one ... I know that's the day I MUST get a workout and ... once started, I'm always glad.

Yay for the both of you!

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GORIANA 11/7/2014 11:16AM

    True! emoticon

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MM11113 11/6/2014 10:15PM

    I waited all day for this infernal rain to stop so I could walk. Had to go out in rain, and guess what, I didn't melt!

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KANSASROSE67 11/6/2014 5:26PM

    Good blog! I agree 100%...I have NEVER regretted a workout I've done, no matter how much I didn't want to do it.

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PEGGY11 11/6/2014 12:53PM

    I find when I exercise I don't binge the rest of the day. Otherwise it is non stop pigging out.

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DALID414 11/6/2014 12:43PM

    Thanks for the emoticon I needed it today

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JANTHEBLONDE 11/6/2014 11:39AM

    What an awesome blog! I am so proud of you going to the gym first thing in the morning when it's pouring down rain! You put the sparks in Sparks! You are what sparks is all about!
I hope your day is full of lots of love, peace and happiness! Have a great day! xoxo
Hugs and love,
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PATTI_PAL1 11/6/2014 10:26AM

    Well said!!! Now to put my "completed" stamp on my day...

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SANDICANE 11/6/2014 9:11AM

    Lovely, yes an early morning self-victory is always a wonderful way to start the day!

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DAVISM6 11/6/2014 8:48AM

    GREAT JOB! Reminds me of a quote from one of my favorite movies, Empire Records... "I don't regret the things I've done, but those I did not do!"

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KANOE10 11/6/2014 8:28AM

    I like that comment of claiming a piece of the day and making it my own. Nice. I feel better after exercise also.

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KELLIEBEAN 11/6/2014 8:15AM

    Amen! An awesome start to your day!

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Four Miles on a Country Road

Sunday, October 19, 2014

Somedays are better than others for lacing up my walking shoes and getting outside. This weekend has been glorious. One of my goals on Spark is to get outside every day. I do mean everyday, even when the weather is not the best. Getting out the door reminds me of the kid I once was who could not wait to get home, get out of her school clothes and go outside.



On my walk a few days ago I saw some things that made me smile and laugh. These pumpkins, in particular, were a riot. (Which may make you think I am easily entertained!) Anyway, here they are:



Wishing everyone who reads this a fine day. And if you can, I suggest you get outside!

  
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SPARKLINGME176 10/25/2014 10:07AM

    Pretty!

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GIZMOLUVSME 10/21/2014 7:27PM

    Sometimes I have to force myself to go outside. But this time of year I really look forward to it. I love the fall colors, pumpkins, fall leaves and the crisp fall air! emoticon Thanks for sharing the pics!

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KANSASROSE67 10/21/2014 11:38AM

    I'm like you...no matter what, I feel happier when I get outside. Your pics are beautiful!

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SWEDE_SU 10/20/2014 4:29AM

    we also get out every day, regardless of weather. having the border collie is a great excuse, he has to go out no matter what, but even when we are traveling, we still get out for our walks!

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PATTI_PAL1 10/19/2014 9:42PM

    You brought me right outside with you! Beautiful pictures. Yes, it was a great day to be outside. Four miles. Good for you!

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JACKIEWALKS4FUN 10/19/2014 6:12PM

    Beautiful area to walk. I get out most days too. emoticon

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DALID414 10/19/2014 2:17PM

    Friday after picking up my nephew from Kindergarten I tried entertaining him by telling him to point out any pumpkins he saw on the drive home....there were none! I'm gonna go down a didferent street tomorrow emoticon

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1HAPPYSPIRIT 10/19/2014 12:46PM

    Keep building your streaking of getting outside daily. It will strengthen your mind, body and soul!

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JANTHEBLONDE 10/19/2014 12:17PM

    I am so proud of you lacing up your walking shoes and getting outside everyday this week! Thanks for sharing your beautiful pictures! The pumpkins are absolutely adorable! I hope you have a wonderful day!
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DI_NAMIC 10/19/2014 11:13AM

    Hey - prize for the best blog title!
Hubby and I walked the grounds of Audley End House, ( English Heritage) UK today.
Isn't it wonderful to be outdoors on such a beautiful day!

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KLMEIRING 10/19/2014 9:33AM

    Thanks for sharing your walk and the pictures. I tend to be someone who is easily amused as well. Enjoyed the pumpkins!

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KELLIEBEAN 10/19/2014 8:16AM

    Beautiful! I love fall walks! I'm heading out shortly with the dog and hope to get a walk in on my own later!

Thanks for the inspiration!

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KANOE10 10/19/2014 8:06AM

    Good for you getting a walk. It looks lovely. Cute pumpkins.

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SANDICANE 10/19/2014 7:38AM

    Four miles on a country road...how lovely was that! Some of us don't need skyscrapers and flashing lights to feel alive. Apparently 2 of those people are you and I. If we lived closer together we could be "outside together daily". But, since we're not, we can be together virtually.

Have a wonderful day!

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RAPUNZEL53 10/19/2014 6:59AM

  Pumpkins look really pretty! I am waiting for daylight to go for my walk. Usually I walk in the dark. Today is a day off so I can enjoy looking at the fall colors if I wait a bit. You have a great day!

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