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We Need One Another

Saturday, July 30, 2011



Today, I was simply pondering how interdependent and interconnected we all are.... how much we need support from one another.

This song, "(Right Now) We Need One Another" came to mind. It's by BeBe and CeCe Winans, with Vince Gill and Wynona Judd. (I hope I'm sharing the link correctly... it's my first try.
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The lyrics state:

It makes no difference where you come from
Cuz I believe that who you are is not where you're born
We're alike in so many ways
Oh yes we are
Can't you see we're all just the same

That's why we need one another
You and I come together
We need one another right now
We need one another
Take my hand come whatever
We need one another right now

So who am I to sit here and judge
When what I know everything God made is beautiful
Celebrate the people we are
And I'll be there whenever, near or far

People we need one another
You and I come together
We need one another right now
We need one another take my hand come whatever
We need one another right now

Don't take me for granted
Say what you need to say
Don't let time slip away

Hold on, we need one another
You and I come together
We need one another right now
That's right we need one another
Take my hand come whatever
We need one another right now

We need one another right now
We need one another
We need one another right now
We need one another
Right now

I know we all came to SparkPeople for different reasons, but I would think the core reason is for support or to be a support. If you didn't need support or you didn't feel that you could offer support then you would simply keep your page private, not friend anyone, not join any groups and just use the tools for tracking and read all the immensely helpful articles.

But the fact that you have done those things means one of two things.... you realize that there is strength in numbers and that the support of others will help you to reach your individual goals OR that you have reached your goals and you want to share your insights, journey and support with others who are possibly struggling.

My point? You need me as much as I need you. We are MUTUALLY dependent on one another. And it's okay. It's actually pretty awesome! We were not created to walk this life on earth alone without any support, help or assistance. If that were the case we would surely FAIL. But, because we need one another, and we rely on one another...we SUCCEED and we are STRONGER!

So, today, I just want to THANK YOU for being here for me and reiterate that I AM HERE FOR YOU!!!

WE NEED ONE ANOTHER...RIGHT NOW!!

  
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SUMMERGIRLTASHA 8/6/2011 9:17AM

    Your blog reminded me of this passage: Romans 12:4-5 "Just as our bodies have many parts and each part has a special function, so it is with Christís body. We are many parts of one body, and we all belong to each other."

Excellent Blog!

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DIREXTOR 8/2/2011 12:48PM

    Great Blog! Sometimes we give and give and give but are not receptive to receiving. A wise old man (Daddy) said you can't receive anything with your fist balled up. Opening up (my hand/heart) to receive anything from anyone has been the bane of my existence for a long time. But I am so ready and the realization that we need each other is profound (yeah, I'm a little late to class but I'm here LOL!)

Keep Sparking!

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MAMADWARF 8/2/2011 10:56AM

    So true! I was never able to do it before but now with all my sparkies, I am rocking it!!

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LESLIES537 8/2/2011 10:02AM

    Awesome, awesome blog! I needed to hear this today. My independent self keeps telling me to keep my struggles bottled inside and for a second i thought I could do this on my own. But you're right. I can't. I need you like you need me! Why else would I be here?! emoticon

XOXOXO,

Leslie
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KTTAYLOR21 8/2/2011 8:07AM

    You are absolutely correct. I have met some great and motivating people here. This was a great blog and your page design is really really nice. Thanks Honey for all the support you have shown me on this journey.
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CELLO23 8/1/2011 7:19AM

    emoticon Lovely true-ness! Yep, I've learned so much from people in here. And we move through different stages and can hopefully pass it on. We're all in this together - whether SP, life or planet! Have a great August! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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CAROL5250 7/31/2011 11:58PM

    Great blog. I really like this website and the cyber friends I've made here. It feels like I know the people on the team even though I've never met anyone in person. You are right, we all need each other. We learn from each others posts and experiences. Thank you for this blog, and for your comments on my page. Have a great week.

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TAMARA6905 7/31/2011 9:35PM

    What a great blog, especially since there is no EPIC running this month. The team page seems empty without people trying to fulfill their requirements. Thanks for posting this, I hope it encourages people to stay active!

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SCHENPOSSIBLE 7/31/2011 8:15PM

    We all need to lean on each other for support. Wonderful blog. Thanks for posting.

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NEWATTITUDE2010 7/31/2011 3:19AM

  Also, I love your latest spark page design. Awesome!

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NEWATTITUDE2010 7/31/2011 3:18AM

  What an answer to prayer. I was just thinking how alone I feel in my weight loss journey. I am thankful for the cyber connect. God Bless You!

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PINKBEANBOO 7/30/2011 9:06PM

    Awe, I just love being your Sparkfriend. You've always got great advice & are uplifting & supportive.
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TEMPEST272002 7/30/2011 1:40PM

    I really do get a lot from the spark community & I hope I give it back too. Inspiration, support, advice, information - all of that & more I get from my sparkfriends. Glad we're on this journey together!

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Ahhhh Look at All the Lonely Suits! (PICS)

Friday, June 24, 2011

In my basement, I have a spare closet (portable). In that closet, I keep my suits that I can't wear. Every now and then I take a trip down to the basement and I just try to slip on the bottom of a suit just to see if it'll come up over my thighs and butt. (I can always fit the top portion without a problem.) Today was such a day, so I thought I'd share my discoveries...

SUIT #1
This is a size 10 suit... straight skirt. I haven't worn it in about 3 years. I was surprised to find that it came up without much of a problem. The last time I tried it on I thought I was going to bust the seams as I wiggled and pulled it over my butt... Zipping up was out of the question. But, today this is what it looked like:



Not too bad, BUT doesn't fit the way I like for suits to fit. It's a little tight on my bum but I could get away with it NOW if I needed to because the jacket portion is a little long (hits a little below the butt) but God help me if I had to raise my arms .... which I do often. LOL So, I can't have a suit hindering my praise. LOL But, honestly, I should be able to wear this suit in another 10 lbs.

SUIT #2
Another size 10 suit. Really, that's the size suit I wear comfortably when I'm at about 140 lbs. It's a comfortable weight for me. I can't remember the last time I wore this suit. When I tried it on today, I thought... another 15-20 lbs maybe. It's a little... UM a LOT... tight right now. LOL



SUIT #3
Another size 10 suit. But, this one is a A-line skirt....the most flattering skirt for my body shape. Also the type of skirt that I should be able to fit in a 6 or 8. I have a smaller waist and the only issue for me with suits is the hip/but area. A month ago it was hugging around the hip area. But today...



Surprise! Surprise!! This one fits NOW! Awesome! I'll be able to wear this one to church before the summer is out. Next month, I'm totally wearing it! WhooHooo!

SUIT #4
A size 8 suit!! Yikes! I've NEVER worn it! I purchased it about three or four years ago when I was about 5 lbs than I am right now. I figured I'd fit it nicely after another 10 lbs. But, I didn't lose that additional 10 lbs. Instead I steadily put on weight and my suit remained in the closet, never worn, with the tags still on it. BUT, here I am again... In about 15 lbs I should be able to wear this suit and have it fit decently. And at goal, it'll fit perfectly. I don't believe I'll be wearing it before this summer is out, but... we'll see. I mean it fits, just not the way it's supposed to. LOL



See that front split pleat... I think it's supposed to be closed. LOL

SUIT #5
This is a size 6!! Please don't ask me what in the world I was thinking. Please don't even ask me. I've NEVER worn a size 6 suit... EVER! LOL But, this is a size 6 misses, so it's more of a size 8. I GUESS that's what I was thinking at the time. I can't remember when I purchased it. But, needless to say, it's never been worn. LOL I was able to put it on... which is more than I was able to do a few months ago. But, with all my badonkadonk.... it aint happening! So, my goal for this suit is NEXT Fall/Winter.



SUIT #6
This is my standard size 10 suit. It's a straight skirt. It fits, but again, the bum is a little restricted. LOL But, it has a long jacket too, so there is coverage. But, I'm thinking by winter this year I should be able to fit it. BUT, I'm not sure if it'll be loose enough for my comfort or not. We'll see...



Well now that I look at that badonkadonk again in this picture, I'm thinking... NEXT winter! Yeah, NEXT winter. There is a little too much going on back there right now. LOL

So.... that's the tale of the suits! They are so lonely down in the basment and I know they are screaming for my attention. I intend to give them some lovin soon.

I'm comin my preciouses... Momma will be wearing you soon.. Keep holding on. LOL
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HALLELUL 7/4/2011 7:44PM

    I laughed out loud about the jacket covering but don't raise your hands. I too have the back end issues and just pitched several skirt that did nothing but highlighted that particular area. You have nice taste in suits and they have to be motivating for you.

Also love your hair...had to say that.

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NEWATTITUDE2010 7/2/2011 12:01PM

  I haven't been on SP in a while, but I always enjoy your blogs because they are refreshingly honest. I admire your willingness to share the good and the bad. This blog sounds so much like me, however, I haven't had the nerve to try any of the old suits on. I just look at them in my closet and convince myself to keep them. My favorite is a Size 10 that my hubby bought me back in 1995...How long ago was that. It was one of those classic suits that do not age and I only "squeezed" into it one time...Oh well, since he bought it, I still have it in my closet...LOL! Take care and happy "suiting" to you!!

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HEALTHYAMS 6/28/2011 9:10AM

    You'll be in those babies in no time flat! emoticon

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BET212 6/24/2011 11:04PM

    Those are all great suits and I just know you will be feeling comfortable in them soon.

I have a few size 8s in my closet that I keep checking on. They're lonely too but still just a little too tight for my comfort.



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TEMPEST272002 6/24/2011 12:17PM

    Good thing you went down to check because it won't be long at all for you to be wearing these! Good for you! I think it's time you moved 1 & 3 upstairs.

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URBBACHELORETTE 6/24/2011 11:28AM

  Wow those are some awesome suits! I'm kind of jealous! You'll fit into them in no time at all, and look smashing when you do. I have a few pairs of pants that are in my 'when I drop some inches pile' but nothing quite as nice as this. Congrats on being able to at least slip them up even if they're not quite fitting perfectly!

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PINKBEANBOO 6/24/2011 11:12AM

    I love #3! On my screen it looks like a light lavender. The belt is so cute!
These pictures will be great to have around after you lose 10#s. You'll have another set of before & afters!

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JOYSONG50 6/24/2011 11:04AM

    I'd like to place an order, please!!! I'd like suit #2, 3, 4 and 6. Thank you.
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Anyhoo... With all the time you're putting in to be able to fit those suits, you'll be back comfortably in them before you know it. Just don't lose hope along the way. Pay day is coming after a while!
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WORDLILY 6/24/2011 10:51AM

    You're doing great! These are all *so* close ó and you'll have a whole new wardrobe without spending any money! I'm sure it won't be long at all until you're wearing these with ease! Excellent motivators. :)

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POOKASLUAGH 6/24/2011 10:43AM

    Isn't it absolutely wonderful to go shopping in our old cloths, even when they don't QUITE fit. I keep mine in a container under the bed, then when they almost fit, within 10 lbs, I put them in my closet just to keep me motivated!! You're going to fit into all those perfectly soon Vanessa! I believe in you!

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SUPPORT: What Have You Done for Me Lately?

Wednesday, June 22, 2011

Lately...

I've been thinking about my SparkFriends. I think about the time that I invest in holding on to them, trying to encourage them, visiting their pages, liking their statuses, commenting on their blogs, trying to reach out when I feel they might be struggling... I cheer them on... I'm genuinely interested.

I've been thinking about my team memberships... my involvement in challenges... my activity on my team pages... my welcoming of new members... trying to get to know the members and maintain some kind of relationship with them... being a leader (in actions) without needing a title...

I've been thinking about a pattern that I see in real life and here on Spark: I seem to give more than I get in return. People get placed in my life who I encourage and support. I listen. I offer my shoulder. I pray. I offer advice or a different way of thinking/looking at their situation. In short, I'm THERE. I'm just THERE. BUT, in general, I don't feel this same kind of support when I need it. It can be kind of discouraging because it's time consuming. But, as I give out in real life, God replenishes me so that I'm not run down and overwhelmed and exhausted and disgruntled. But, that doesn't happen in cyberspace. At least it hasn't happened to me yet.

So, I've been thinking about the Mark Twain quote:

"Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option."

I've been genuinely interested in your journeys. I've been genuinely interested in YOU. I've tried to be the best spark friend I can be. I have made some of you priorities in my Spark world. But, if I'm not any of those things to you... If you really don't have an interest in ME... If you really don't even want to know ME... If you really could care less about my journey... If you don't have the time for me. Then, guess what? I'm not gonna spend my time on you. I have too many great, supportive Spark friends who need and want my time and attention and who give it back in return. So....

It's time to trim the fat!

  
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KWADHAMS 6/23/2011 7:28PM

    I so like your blog. It is so true. You try to be supportive to others but in return it's almost like they only care about themselves and not you. Like you said, If you can't spend time with me I won't spend time with you. Just remove them as a spark friend because apparently there not interested in you.

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PINKBEANBOO 6/22/2011 3:01PM

    I don't know how you are with others, but you have been a supportive Spark friend to me. I hope I've been there for you. I'm sorry if I haven't. Sometimes I worry that I'm not putting enough into supporting others. I have a ton of Spark friends but most of them don't seem to want to be involved with me.
I am sorry if I've ever let you down. Like I said, you are one of the best on here & you derserve to be treated as such.
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KIMMYLOU2012 6/22/2011 12:55PM

    I know how you are feeling. It was for this reason that I almost quit Spark altogether. I got tired of sending messages out and not hearing anything back and no responses to my posts when I out them out there. Then I found the SA team!

I am sorry you are feeling so down, just know we all, I know I do, appreciate your input and thoughts you send out. I missed your daily encouraging quotes, but though maybe you were taking time off due to your uncles death.

Just focus on yourself right now and write for yourself, that's what I started out doing when I joined this team and then it made me feel better and sometimes effected others that made me feel better. Take time and think about you and what you need. It is all about you! If t makes you feel go to share with other people then keep doing but if it upsets you that most people read and disregard, then by all means change things up.

Either way good luck and keep on going it is worth it!




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MJ-SHE-BEAST 6/22/2011 12:11PM

    You are definitely one of the most consistent and positive encouragers I've come across on spark. From notes on pages, thread replies, and encouragement on blogs I have seen you work to be a motivator. I'm sorry if you feel that you have been given less than you received. If I am guilty of this, I'm truly sorry. I tend to let the super-supporters slide a little on my reply list and focus more on those I feel are in more need. I guess that even while I know that I truly NEED lots of encouragement and support, I forget that others who give lots and show a positive attitude need it just as much.

You do need to do what feels right for you on this journey. I hope you find the balance and the support never lacking again. emoticon

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62NVON 6/22/2011 11:59AM

    What a beautiful person you are! I am ashamed that I haven't been as good at giving support as you have. Things get busy, life interrupts, etc.... all excuses for the inexcusable.

Your blog has given me the motivation to be more Sparklie!

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SCHENPOSSIBLE 6/22/2011 11:46AM

    I totally feel you on this and it's something that I've been thinking about for a few months. Every week I go through my friends list and comment on people's blogs, status updates, or page. And I get support from the same group of people on my page, status updates, and blogs. But I support people because it helps to support me. And i felt like I wasn't being gracious by having these thoughts. But I agree with you. Do what you gotta do. I'm still gonna support you and check in on you because we're gonna do this together.

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THEMIGHTYLILLIE 6/22/2011 11:34AM

    I completely understand! Here on Spark, you can give until you are blue in the face without getting half of it back............. but the bright side is the inner satisfaction that comes from being a giver. I may not always get the support I need from all my friends, but it does help me to realize that I am helping others with my constant support.

That all said, when I reach my goal and go into maintenance, I don't plan on being on Spark nearly as much... and when I am on Spark, I will be spending my time supporting those people who really need the support from me and who have earned my time. So, I completely understand your position here. I think it is important that you do what feels right for you here on Spark--- this is your journey and only you know what would be best.

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CRYSTLE4HIMTX10 6/22/2011 11:18AM

    I completely understand. emoticon

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BECKYBEFIT 6/22/2011 11:13AM

    I love this attitude and think it should be applied in all aspects of life, not just SP.

I am finally starting to get more active on SP and am gaining ten fold from it. Why it took me so long to get this active, I have no clue!! I went through my Sparkteams and left some of the ones I wasn't active in, or were inactive in themselves. I want to be active in all my groups and really connect with and support people, instead of being someone who joins a ton of groups but does nothing significant with any of them.

Thanks for sharing and keep on keepin on!!

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TEMPEST272002 6/22/2011 10:13AM

    I love sparkpeople. I give it lots of time & love & attention... and I mostly get it back. Even still, there have been times that I've thought about the balance between what I give out & what I get back.

Whenever I find myself feeling resentful, I know that it's time to do 2 things:

1. Re-focus on myself.
2. Scale back.

The truth of the matter is that we are here for ourselves. To meet our own goals. Resentment never helps us. If we are resentful, we are giving away too much. It's as simple as that. It's good to periodically review & discard all of our sparking activities that do not directly support our goals. It's a healthy thing to do!



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HEALTHYAMS 6/22/2011 10:02AM

    My my my! Trim that fat sister! emoticon

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WORDLILY 6/22/2011 9:25AM

    You are so very encouraging! A help and support to so many (including me). Thank you!!!

One-way friendships can be so very draining, and aren't generally sustainable; do what you have to do, don't feel guilty about it, and take care of yourself!

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WELLNESSME09 6/22/2011 9:16AM

    Well put and I agree with you.
Wishing you the very best and continuous support from your true Spark friends.
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TAMARA6905 6/22/2011 9:04AM

    That is one of my favorite quotes. I heard it from my mommy and I try and pass it on to everyone I know. We often give more than we get, especially as women, and it can take a toll on you. I know how it feels to think no one cares. And I'm sure that there are people here who don't, but I do! I care about everyone who has ever taken time out of their busy schedule to comment on a blog I wrote or on my page. So I want to take the time to thank you for supporting me and the sweet and encouraging comments you leave for me. I hope that I have been able to support you a fraction of the amount you've supported me! Keep up the good work, which I know you will, and don't let anyone get you down!

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DEBTEVELDAHL 6/22/2011 8:37AM

    Great quote. I hope that your day gets better from here. There are lots of us out here who appreciate the time that our leaders and members share together. It is a wonderful gift that you have the ability to care and share with so many others. I guess that we should say something more often. Just remember there is only one you and you are emoticon. emoticonand God Bless, Debi T.

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POOKASLUAGH 6/22/2011 8:31AM

    Wow I'm so glad you posted this! I've been thinking about this a lot lately as well and you took the words right out of my brain and made them better than I ever could have said them! There are a lot of people on here that I'm constantly out supporting and who never bother to come by my page at all, and I admit I do get frustrated with the one-way street at times. Not that I mind supporting people, not at all! But I do want it to be mutual. I definitely need support on my journey too.

I want to thank YOU for all you've done to support ME on this journey. I'm very glad to get to know you, and I hope I've been able to support you as well. :)

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The Plan Is Working (This Week in Review)

Saturday, June 18, 2011

This is going to be SUPER short...

Last week, when I denounced calorie-cycling (for ME) I changed my plan to eat between 1000 - 1350 calories with ONE "over-calorie" day and ONE "under-calorie" day per week. Well, that plan has resulted in a 3 lb. weight loss for this week's weigh-in. That's great!

Unfortunately, I did not knock out my strength training this week. I did only one day of Jillian's No More Trouble Zones and no more. I also only did cardio one day. So, this week in the exercise category could have definitely been better.

But, I give myself a pass because of everything going on with my uncle's death. Everything's been moving so quickly and steadily since Tuesday. We had a small viewing and memorial service for him last night for the family and friends that live int he DC/MD/VA area. But, next week we'll be headed out of town to have the official funeral service down in North Carolina for all our family there. So, the busyness really hasn't stopped yet.

To, my EPIC team, I'm sorry my numbers weren't as good this week as they have been the first two weeks. I know you will accept my apology because you are such an AWESOME team and AWESOME group!! Thanks for your support! Next week, I'm going to work super hard every single day until I leave on Friday. I'm going to have to report my points super early and take an "after" picture early too. So, please work with me.

Okay, that's it!! Gotta get ready to go and spend time with the fam. One of the cousins is having a cookout so that everyone can just wind down.

Later!! (Sorry, I guess it wasn't "SUPER" short afterall.)

  
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CAROL5250 6/22/2011 10:44AM

    Woohoo for the weight loss and for figuring out what works best for you. This is a journey. Take care of yourself. I'm sorry for your loss.

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HEALTHYAMS 6/21/2011 10:31AM

    3lbs dowb! Way to go!

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THEMIGHTYLILLIE 6/20/2011 12:53PM

    Great loss! I am glad you are paying attention to your body so closely.. it is super important. Just be sure to eat if you feel hunger!

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MELITOD 6/19/2011 11:40PM

    congratulations on your weight loss.. the rest will come together!! It is tough when there is a crisis to deal with in your week! Great plan!

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CALIGIRLDIANA 6/19/2011 7:48PM

    I'm sorry about your loss girlie. Congrats on the weight loss thats awesome!!!

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WORDLILY 6/18/2011 8:14PM

    Congrats on the weight loss, and figuring out a plan that works for you!! All the more impressive with the stress and chaos of a death in the family.

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ALESHABEE 6/18/2011 7:47PM

    Family comes first so no need to apologize to anyone. Sorry for your loss... emoticon

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HALLELUL 6/18/2011 7:30PM

    Safe travels and I'll continue to pray for you.

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PINKBEANBOO 6/18/2011 7:23PM

    emoticon Hooray on those 3 lbs!

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I Wasn't Expecting to Be THAT Close to Death!

Tuesday, June 14, 2011

My uncle has been suffering with Stage 4 colon cancer for a while. He had gotten to the point where he couldn't really keep down substantial amounts of food. He was weak. He was hurting. He was restless. He couldn't stay in the house by himself. He couldn't care for himself. The doctors said there was nothing else that could be done. The cancer spread throughout his body.

So, my mom was staying at his house every evening and others stayed with him during the day.... just caring for him and being with him and making him comfortable.

Today my mom contacted me and told me that my uncle had passed and that she was at my uncle's house. So I headed straight over there to help my mom and to be with her. My uncle's son, daughter-in-law and my aunt were also there.

But, when I got there, I was surprised to find that my uncle's body was STILL THERE. I was NOT expected that at all. I don't know what I was expecting. I guess I assumed things happened faster than that.. like on television. It was 1:40p when my mother contacted me. I guess I thought the coroner would have arrived, made the official pronouncement of death and would have taken the body... out of the house. But that's not how it goes.

First, the hospice nurse was contacted. She is the one who came and made the official pronouncement. My uncle had actually died at 11:30am but you're not "officially" dead until an "official" pronounces you so. So, he was "officially" dead at 12:30p. After that the funeral home was contacted. They indicated that they would not arrive until between 4:30p-5:00p. So my uncle's body was there, laying in the bed. My mother had washed him and put him on some fresh clean pajamas. He looked really good... like himself. So family members actually came into the room, saw his body and said their goodbye's.

When the funeral home directors actually showed up, they had a body bag. A BODY BAG??!! Huh? What's that for? Really?! Seriously? I thought that was only for crime scenes... like you see on cop shows or something. This isn't a crime scene! I assumed that he would be taken out on a stretcher, not in a body bag!

I couldn't look. It was the only way I really held myself together. I've never seen such a thing in real life. That was just toooo "ridiculous" for lack of a better word. "Ridiculous" ... yeah, that's the word. It was just ridiculous. Crazy! Just unbelievable... maybe that's a better word: UNBELIEVABLE!

I just wasn't expecting any of that!

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For those of you who believe in prayer... and who know my God who answers them... please keep my family in prayer. Everyone is doing okay. But prayers are much appreciated... and needed... ALWAYS!
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JUST-AMY 6/17/2011 10:53AM

    I am praying and feeling heaviness for you and your family. I also lift you up as a great example of mercy and love to others for having the courage and kindness to allow him to die at home, as so many people long to be able to do. This can be so frightening for the family, as you have experienced, but so peaceful for the loved one who is passing on. Hospital rooms are cold and impersonal. Home is HOME! Home is where are life journeys begin, and is there any other place more appropriate, if possible, for them to end? May the Lord bless you and comfort you in these hours of need. While a home death is not always possible--that is for certain--when it is, until we ourselves face our own mortality, we cannot fully fathom and respect what it means to our loved one to have the opportunity to be where they are familiar: their own warm bed.

Peace be to each and every one of your family.
Amy

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TURTLE_MOM 6/16/2011 1:34PM

    I'm so sorry for your loss. I don't know what to say, but I'll keep your family in my thoughts!

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TEMPEST272002 6/16/2011 1:13PM

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ELEXEY 6/15/2011 11:53PM

    I will keep your family in my prayers. I'm sorry for your loss. I've not experienced a home death either, haven't ever really thought about it. I guess, it seems, that that is how things would be handled, but it really was many hours for everything to happen, I would have thought it would have happened more quickly.

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HALLELUL 6/15/2011 4:12PM

    Vanessa,

I will pray for you and your family.

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TRUE-NESS 6/15/2011 3:59PM

    Thank you all so much for your support! Unfortunately, this wasn't my first real experience with death. My older brother died when I was 23 (he was 25). THAT was my first REAL experience with the death of a loved one. He was in a hospital though and I laid right on his chest after he had passed. So, I've been close to a corpse before. I've touched a corpse before. And I've been to plenty of funerals. I've just never experienced a home death before. I wasn't expecting the body to be there and I think it was the whole body bag thing that freaked me out the most.

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KIMMYLOU2012 6/15/2011 3:14PM

    I am so sorry for your loss and that you just had your first real experience with death. It suck s I know.

I am sending prayers to you and your family that you may find the strength you need to get through this time. emoticon

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PINKBEANBOO 6/15/2011 3:00PM

    I've never been that close to a death, either. I appreciate that you gave the details so if I am ever in this situation I'll know what to expect.
And yes, I will be praying for you & your family, Vanessa.

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GOLDENDOMER00 6/15/2011 2:53PM

    I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm keeping your family in my thoughts and prayers.

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ANANGELMOM 6/15/2011 10:01AM

    I'm so sorry you had to go through that, and witness that too. When Michael died they didn't pronounce him until we were at the hospital, after they had "worked" on him a while... so thankfully I didn't have to see that. I couldn't imagine. I'll be keeping you in my thoughts. Any time you need to talk, you just come on here and tell it hun. We're all here to listen!

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HEALTHYAMS 6/15/2011 9:29AM

    emoticon*sigh* I wasn't expecting that either. I knew his body was still there, because when I spoke to mommy she was giving him a bath, but I thought I would see a stretcher too. I wasn't prepared for the body bag... at all... emoticon

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CRYSTLE4HIMTX10 6/15/2011 9:16AM

    So sorry for your loss. emoticon

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MJ-SHE-BEAST 6/14/2011 11:48PM

    I'm sorry you had to face the unexpected. When my mom passed, the hospital let us stay with her as long as we wanted, but we did not stay when the funeral home attendants arrived because I knew that the body bag would be used and I couldn't allow any of my family members to see that. It's easier not to see what they have to do, you know?

You know you and your family have my prayers. God bless the family who stayed near him and kept him comfortable. Love to you all.

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SCHENPOSSIBLE 6/14/2011 11:29PM

    Condolences to you and your family. I'm sorry for this loss.

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JOYSONG50 6/14/2011 11:17PM

    Praying for you and your family.
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LEGALSEC20 6/14/2011 10:26PM

    God is a big and able God. You and your family are in my prayers.

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POOKASLUAGH 6/14/2011 9:49PM

    *sending lots of hugs and positive thoughts*

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