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I've Missed... Everything and Everyone!

Thursday, April 25, 2013

Hello Everybody!!!

I've missed you all!! It's been FAR FAR FAR too long!! I'm telling you... I have MISSED you guys!

I can't use my sister's wedding as an excuse any longer, but honestly, that threw everything way off. All my normal healthy habits.. all my routines... all my goals... they had all taken a backburner to her wedding. But, it's been over two weeks since that blessed event and it's PAST time to get it in high gear and start moving again!!

There are a little over two weeks until Mother's Day; so I think I'll use that as a mini goal marker. I'm going to try to get at least 500 fitness points by then. That'll get me moving again. It'll also be a good way to close out April and a great way to start off May!

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WARRIORGIRL121 5/15/2013 11:26PM

    We all go through times like this.. don't beat yourself up. Glad you're coming back! :)

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KTTAYLOR21 4/26/2013 2:39PM

    Hey Vanessa!! We are all still here trying to conquer this journey! I'm sure you will have no problem falling back in line!!


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LOVINSHERRY78 4/26/2013 1:30PM

    it happens to all of us! glad your back and you are planning on getting back on track...i'm right there with ya girlie! :)

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PINKBEANBOO 4/26/2013 11:11AM

    Hi Vanessa!

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CRYSTLE4HIMTX12 4/26/2013 9:29AM

    Glad you are back. We missed you too. emoticon

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PIXIE-LICIOUS 4/26/2013 8:55AM

    Welcome back...and good luck on reaching your fitness goal! emoticon

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HOLLYS_NEW_LIFE 4/25/2013 8:27PM

    I'm so glad you're back! I used my SC vacay as a bit of an excuse, and May 1st is my day one!

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POOKASLUAGH 4/25/2013 7:49PM

    Missed you too! I'm leaving in a few hours and will be gone for 10 days without internet, but I'll catch up with you when I'm back. :)

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My Sister Wed Today!!!

Saturday, April 06, 2013

Hello Sparkpeeps!

I don't have much to say... I'm tired. BUT...

My sister's wedding was TODAY!!! WooooHooooo!!!! It was so awesome and I'm so happy for her!!! I'm also happy for ME... because IT'S OVER. LOL My life can get back to some semblance of normalcy. LOL

This was me, TODAY at the wedding:

Remember how I looked in my dress back in DECEMBER...


I see a difference. I certainly FELT different. I felt good... confident... assured... pretty... AND dare I say it... "ski#@!." Well.... I better not use that word... it's too soon. Well... Let's just say that I felt... "not-fat." Yeah... that's the right combo word choice. LOL (I may not be skinny yet, but "not-fat" aint too bad. BIG mental improvement for me. LOL)

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WARRIORGIRL121 5/15/2013 11:27PM

    oh honey, you both look absolutely gorgeous! Beautiful! Love the dresses! Congratulations to your sister! emoticon emoticon Karen

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MBETTIS3 4/9/2013 8:49PM

    yall look like twins! Just wonderful. congratulations - keep it going.

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KTTAYLOR21 4/8/2013 1:46AM

    The big day finally arrived and the 2 of you look very pretty!! Ya'll look so much alike!!

Congrats to your sister!! Wishing her a harmonious marriage!!

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CRYSTLE4HIMTX12 4/7/2013 2:16PM

    You are very svelte looking in your dress. You look amazing and your confidence shows. emoticon

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HOLLYS_NEW_LIFE 4/7/2013 9:42AM

    You look FABULOUS and SOOO not-fat! Lol, I think I may start using that! You're sister looks radiant, congrats to her = )

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CELLO23 4/7/2013 9:09AM

    You look gorgeous! (both of you!) I see such a difference from the Dec pic - confident and so pretty! Congratulations to sis and YOU! emoticon

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    Wow how exciting! You both look beautiful ... You worked really hard to get to this place - I'm really happy for you!

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POOKASLUAGH 4/7/2013 8:26AM

    Congrats to her, and you look gorgeous! I think we're about the same weight right now, but you look far better than I do! :D

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FERRETLOVER1 4/7/2013 7:45AM

    Both you and your sister looked lovely - please give her my best wishes on a happy married life.

You keep up the great work - you are doing simply emoticon

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CHANGING4ME49 4/7/2013 12:30AM

    Love the dress! You look beautiful in it. emoticon Congratulations to your sister too!

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BONNIEMCB 4/6/2013 10:58PM

    The dress is beautiful, and you are SOOOOO not fat!!! emoticon

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MICHSTATE 4/6/2013 10:50PM

    Looking good!!!! Congrats to your sister!!!!!!

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SHRED Update and Other Realizations...

Thursday, February 28, 2013

I know many of you have been waiting for an update on how I've been doing with the SHRED Diet.

Well, I had been taking a break from SHRED because I had been so busy with planning my sister's bridal shower and various other wedding planning activities. I did partially do Week 2. I kind of hit and missed my way through it, the same as I did Week 1... but it was more miss than hit. Nevertheless, I managed to maintain the weight I had lost that first week. No loss, but no gain. No harm, no foul.

It was my intention to just resume from where I'd left off after the confetti cleared. But, when that day came, I had devised a different plan.

I decided that since I had one week left before my fitting for alterations to my dress, I would try for some quick weight loss... I decided to go back to my old staple diet: The South Beach Diet. I knew that if I followed it, I could lose about 8-10 lbs in about 14 days. So, I was motivated.

But, ONE day into it and I just came to the realization...


I just can't do it. I just can't follow what somebody says to eat, when they say to eat it and how much they say to eat. I just can't do it anymore. It feels confining and restrictive (even when there is SO MUCH to choose from and SO MUCH to eat. Yeah, you could say I'm sort of choosing. But, I'm choosing from a prescribed menu. I'm eating at a prescribed time. I'm eating a prescribed amount. Ultimately, it still doesn't feel like ME, fully cognizant, making choices.

And, I just can't do it anymore. I'm just so OVER and BEYOND it.

I already KNOW what I'm "supposed" to eat and how much and when. I'm "supposed" to eat whatever I want in moderation. I'm "supposed" to eat when I'm hungry. I'm "supposed" to eat enough to satisfy me but not fill me. And, I'm supposed to MOVE and maintain an active lifestyle. This is what Sparkpeople has taught me. Until recently, I hadn't attempted a diet since joining Sparkpeople in 2010. I've just learned so much here that, though the journey has been slow, I never felt compelled to return to a diet of any sort.

Don't get me wrong. I'm not knocking the various diets and I'm not knocking those who choose to follow them. They work! Lord, knows they do. I may, at some point, incorporate some of the ideas and recipes from SHRED--especially the eating cleanse during the week that I didn't even get to--into my healthy eating program. But to follow a diet--any diet--in its entirety again... I just can't go there.

"The places that used to fit me, cannot hold the things I've learned, and those roads were closed off to me, while my back was turned." - Sara Groves

I just know too much about this lifestyle, at this point, to be reverting and turning back to that diet mentality... I know I still have so much to learn; but THIS is what the journey is about... Growing and understanding and learning and correcting and changing, etc. This is how I'm going to successfully lose and keep it off. I'm convinced of it. Diet books and manuals won't teach you that... experience will.

So, I'll just continue to hit and miss... and fall and get back up... and learn... and, ultimately, SUCCEED. It may be taking a little longer than the quick diet fix; but that's just because I've got a hard head. LOL I'll get there.

Until then, I'm just going to go with the flow and do what I know... one day at a time.

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STSCOTT11 3/12/2013 2:46PM

    I understand...I am no expert...and I haven't got to my goal YET...but I am close.
I agree that diets DO NOT WORK.
I gave up "DIETS" long ago in the sense I don't see how I eat as "a diet" any longer. I see that word as A TEMPORARY FIX.
What I am doing is what I will do FOR LIFE. I eat healthy more often than not. I call it proper NUTRITION and have divorced the word diet.

And don't get me wrong cause I DO respect and use a diet when needed. I now call it A MEAL PLAN.
A plan to KNOW WHAT I WILL EAT all day long for a period of time.
I use it when I need to BUCKLE DOWN due to the scale sliding too many units in the wrong direction. And then there are times I get out of control with eating for different reasons.
I use it at those times too.

But day to day...I TRACK my calories to ensure I am eating healthy balanced diet. Or I use meal plans I have memorized THA I LOVE. I allow myself all kind of different things...and it really makes eating SATISFYING. I still look forward to lunch and dinner...AND SNACKS. lol ...and IT WORKS.

I don't know how you feel about Jillians Shred OVERALL. Do you like it?
What I liked was it was only 20 minutes. :)
What I didn't like was doing the exact same thing every day.

I have tried it now that I am a little smaller and have built my endurance up with other workouts. I like it more NOW than I did back then.
At this point I use it as a supplemental workout and not as a primary one. I do the same thing with my P90X videos.

All the best with the wedding planning. emoticon
Hey...and try not to put so much of yourself the wedding planning that it takes you off your mark with what you're trying to do for YOURSELF.
I KNOW it is not easy...and I am going to need that advice IN RETURN in April when my Mom goes for her 2nd knee surgery...okay?
Can't wait to see the wedding pics.

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CRYSTLE4HIMTX12 3/3/2013 5:03PM

    That is all we can do, take one day at a time. You'll do great. Just take all the great things you know and go with it. And watch out for the rabbit trails. emoticon

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CELLO23 3/2/2013 11:23AM

    That sounds fair enough, True-ness. By now we know what works, and someone telling us what to do is likely to be too generic. And frankly, I get annoyed at being told what to do, because I KNOW!
Keep it up your own way, and good luck with the wedding preps! emoticon

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BONNIEMCB 3/1/2013 12:22PM

    I hope you don't mind, but I am going to steal your Sara Groves quote---love it! emoticon

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KTTAYLOR21 3/1/2013 9:29AM

    I have never attempted to try a diet because I never liked the restrictions of it. I feel like it's not something I'll follow for the rest of my life so I need to just change how I eat by adding in healthy and eliminating the unhealthy so often.

We all have to do what works for us and it sounds like you are ready to tackle this weightloss with healthy choices! emoticon You've done it and you are emoticon

Good luck with the wedding. I've never planned one because it sounds sssoo stressful! I just took a trip to Upper Marlboro, spent $45 and called it a day emoticon

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LUV2PUMP 2/28/2013 9:35PM

    I love that you expressed exactly how you feel and also understand what you've learned along the way on your journey. I fully believe we are all limitless to what we make our minds up to do. So do what works best for you. Each step taken towards your goal bring you closer to victory.

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BONNIEMCB 2/28/2013 8:53PM

    I totally get where you're coming from. I think we could all write a book on how to lose weight, there are just different approaches to manage the old "calories in, calories out" truth of it. I, personally, am appreciating a lot of the aspects of The Shred. Halfway through and I've lost over 7 lbs. I figure I can do anything for 6 weeks, so I will see it through. It's a healthy approach, and it's gotten me back to the gym, to the point that I am almost obsessive about it. All good. After that, we'll see. Lets check back with each other from time to time so see how things are going. Have a wonderful time at the wedding!! emoticon

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MADTHENURSE 2/28/2013 8:39PM

    Knowing the right choices and making them consistently (with some hitting and missing here and there) is the key to lifetime health!! So, yes, it may take longer to get to our ultimate goal - but we will be more likely to stay AT our goal. YOU GOT THIS!!!!!

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POOKASLUAGH 2/28/2013 8:38PM


Yes. This.

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What’s New?: SHRED Week 1 (PRIME) Review

Friday, February 15, 2013

I started a new program last week: SHRED: The Revolutionary Diet, by Dr. Ian Smith.

I began the program on February 8th!


The program is divided into six cycles, each cycle lasting a week. Each week is designed to stand on it's own and to be different from the weeks before. The weeks are Prime, Challenge, Transformation, Ascend, Cleanse, and Explode.

SHRED strongly focuses on two components that might not be talked about in a lot of weight loss programs: Meal Spacing and Diet Confusion. So, during the program, you are supposed to eat every 3-4 hours. You are NOT supposed to skip any meals, though you don't have to eat everything listed. BEFORE each meal, you are supposed to drink a cup of water and DURING the meal, you are to drink another cup. With four meals planned every day you are guaranteed to get in your minimum 8 glasses! There are also snacks (2-3) that you may incorporate as well if you feel the need. You are supposed to stop when you're satisfied, not full. Each week and each day has a list of choices for the different meals and in the back of the book are recipes and listings of 100- and 150- calorie snacks. But, don't think you have to buy a ton of food. You don't. It's very reasonable and I'm sure there is something on the list that you already eat or have in your fridge or pantry.


I just completed the PRIME week.

The book says: "This week is an induction into SHREDDER Nation. You'll learn about the importance of meal spacing, proper snack techniques, and suppressing hunger without consuming too many calories. The average weight loss this week will be 3.5 pounds. This could be less if you're within 20 pounds of your goal weight. The further you are away from your target weight and the worse your habits have been prior to starting the program, the more weight you will lose."

I started at 160.2. I ended at 156.8. So, I lost exactly 3.4 lbs. I'm right on target!

But, check this out: I didn't even follow the plan exactly!!! This week was exactly what it said it would be--an opportunity to familiarize myself with the program and work out all the kinks. There were plenty of kinks.

Kink #1 - Water Retention. The first four days, my weight remained exactly the same (160.2). The program says that you should only weight yourself the first day of each new week; but I couldn't do it. I understand why it advises that though. I have to admit that I was very discouraged the first four days. I felt bloated and soooo full. I think it was water retention or something. After that, I started to see losses for the next three days.

Kink #2 - Lack of Exercise. You are supposed to exercise 5 out of 7 days. I didn't exercise one single day! I have been in a serious exercise slump and haven't been able to successfully jump out of it yet. But that was LAST WEEK.

Kink #3 - Missed Meals. There were some days that I just couldn't get in those meals... mainly it occurred on Sundays. I'm in church all day and it's hard at the 3-4 hour mark to eat the specific foods that the plan calls for. There were also days when I was working a specific job at that time and couldn't eat on schedule, so my meal spacing was off by 30 minutes or so. But, it is what it is.

Kink #4 - Chocolate Chocolate Chocolate!!! - Between me putting together favor boxes for my sister's upcoming bridal shower AND Valentine's Day, I ate a TON of chocolates last week. I mean yesterday alone, I had about 12 Lindor chocolate truffles!!!!!! Don't even say a word! Shhhh! LOL

But through all the kinks, I never registered a gain during the week. My weight either stayed the same or went down. And at the end of it all, I'm right on target as far as weight loss for this week. So, I'm happy.

I'm not as obsessed as I was at the beginning of the PRIME week. By the end of the week, I was in a little groove with the planning and spacing of meals.

I'm expecting this new week to go well. I have a dinner planned with my best friend tomorrow; but it'll be fine. I follow Dr. Ian on twitter and he's always saying that one day isn't going to stump your progress with SHRED. It's about LIFESTYLE. And my crazy week, proved his point exactly. I had my kinks and I still lost weight.

The plan doesn't call for calorie logging or counting (except for the limitations for smoothies and soups) but I've been logging everything (except the chocolate...LOL) on my SP tracker. So, if you want to see what I've been eating (though your choices might be different) then you can just view my tracker. Also, in my notes section, I write down the times of the meals that I plan/have. So, check it out if you're interested. And by all means, buy the book if you're REALLY interested!

Until next week...

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LUV2PUMP 2/28/2013 12:29PM

    Thanks for sharing. I am encouraged. I am on day four and look forward to reading the rest of your journey.


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LRLANE619 2/20/2013 11:14PM

    Thank you for sharing your journey. I am very interested in doing this and it's great when we share our trials and victories. I'll keep you in my prayers as continue through this phase. emoticon

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PINKBEANBOO 2/20/2013 3:56PM

    This is so cool, Vanessa! I bet you are so excited about the loss the first week that you are all pumped up to get some exercise in this week. Keep up the great work!

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BONNIEMCB 2/17/2013 8:11AM

    I enjoyed reading your thoughtful reflections in this blog. I am facing W3, so I think I am exactly a week ahead of you (weigh-in tomorrow for w2!). Keep up the good work! emoticon

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POLACALINDA 2/15/2013 4:54PM

    Very interesting. I want to try the water before and during the meal. That should make it easier to stay within goal range for calories, because you fill up on water. I didn't lose any weight this week, and I worked SOOOO hard. Hopefully adding some of your ideas in will help me out. I know I am making progress, even if the scale doesn't want to admit it. How do I know? Well, I nearly lost my skirt, slip and unders in my walk this morning. The kids left me in the dirt, because I just couldn't keep anything in place. :O

Thanks for the ideas, though. I read your tracking and am going to mimic your patterns this week and see where it goes from there.

Keep up the great job, sister!!! emoticon

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POOKASLUAGH 2/15/2013 12:53PM

    This sounds like a really interesting program! A lot of the principles are ones I already follow, particularly the spacing and the water (though I tend to drink my two glasses per meal WITH the meal instead of one before). I think this is a program I can get behind - it sounds very reasonable!

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KTTAYLOR21 2/15/2013 12:23PM

    Man that sounds great!!! Chocolate AND your still on track, that's EXCELLENT!

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STSCOTT11 2/15/2013 11:33AM

    WOW! That's good results...and especially that it allowed you to color outside the lines and STILL make progress.
Keep up the good work.

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Friday, August 17, 2012

Stagnant: characterized by lack of development, advancement, or progressive movement.

That one word pretty much sums up how I feel right now and how I'm doing as well. I've been struggling and my inconsistent efforts leave me in this stagnant condition.

I'm TRYING to stay motivated. But, with me, I lose motivation very easily when I don't see results of hard work. It doesn't take long either. If I work hard ONE lil ole week and I don't see immediate results on the scale--yes, the results MUST show on the scale--I get discouraged and I become unmotivated to try as hard the following week. In actuality, the following week I may do NOTHING. It may be total sabotage.

That's where I am THIS WEEK. But, I shall not remain. I am NOT defeated. I'm always reevaluating...always thinking... always looking deeper into ME. And, I'm always starting over. I'm NEVER down and out. I'm just a work in progress... mentally, most of all. The physical will follow when the mental is in order.

So, my evaluation has led me to come up with a new plan for the next two weeks. I have only 6 weeks until the dress fitting for my sister's wedding. I want to be closer to my goal weight. She has everything planned so early out that we'll own the dresses and have them in our possession well before the date of the wedding. That means, we'll probably not be able to have them taken in or let out after we own them. That's my thinking anyway.

SOOOOOOO...... I have GOT TO BUCKLE DOWN and stop seesawing. It's time to get serious. Well, "getting" serious has never been the's the STAYING serious that trips me up. So, it's time to BE/STAY serious about the course I'm on and the goals I'm trying to reach.

Don't be surprised if you SEE me soon. I'm gonna try vlogging as an added motivation and accountability factor. A sparkfriend of mine vlogs EVERY single weekly weigh-in. I WANT to do that, but it absolutely terrifies me. LOL I don't know if I'm bold/confident enough to have you all find out (at the same time as me, what my weight is. Also, I normally weigh in naked. LOL Wouldn't that be lovely for all the Sparkers to see? NOT!!! LOL So, I'll have to see how I feel, but definitely I'll be vlogging before, after, or during my workouts. emoticon

Thanks for being there for me!!


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BLKLILY 8/20/2012 4:58PM

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SHAY30114 8/20/2012 8:30AM

  Reading the comments here...It looks like we've all been there. You said something, though, that I believe is so important...

"I'm always reevaluating...always thinking... always looking deeper into ME. And, I'm always starting over. I'm NEVER down and out. I'm just a work in progress... mentally, most of all. The physical will follow when the mental is in order."

You hit the nail on the head and this is why you are successful. This is about the journey!

Because I struggle so much with the scale, I try and weigh in once a month. You are pretty much guaranteed to see results versus weekly weigh-ins. The ups and downs of a weekly weigh-in proved to be more than I could handle...emotionally. It's just like you described. It took me out of the game mentally...and where does that get me? EXACTLY!!!

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CELLO23 8/19/2012 6:45AM

    Sorry to hear about stagnation, but you have a big deadline to motor you on: how about putting a pic of lovely dresses up somewhere, or the old 'two bags of sugar in a prominent place' trick as a reminder of the weight you want to lose?

Wow - Pookasluagh's comment about '20 weeks left in 2012' really hit home. I have let slide too - let's gee this thing up a gear!

BTW I've tried getting into my gym clothes in the morning and going straight there before work - not always possible, but far easier than motivating myself to change halfway through the day or after work. I think the key thing is tricking myself into NOT THINKING, just DOING - might that help in anyway?

Good on you for goal-setting - I always admire your fire and dedication. And results! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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LOVINSHERRY78 8/17/2012 9:34PM

    i know that feeling all to well. been there and felt that for sure! you def have to press through. it's great that you see the bigger picture and are bound and determined to stay the course. u can do this and u will get there eventually...hang in there!!!!
and yeah, blogging is a great tool to keep you accountable and allows some venting too. we are all here for your ups and downs!! :) u can do this!!

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APOSTOLIC84 8/17/2012 9:17PM

    I know stagnation is a big problem for me . i start off well then get bored, trying to find different ways to stop that, i find if i pay for things that gets me going, and as long as we keep cheering each other on we can do this , you can do this it is not how fast you run the race , just keep going even if this lap is slow , as they say in the wizard of oz , put one foot in front of the other and soon you'll but walking
'cross the floor, put on foot in front of the other and soon you'll be walking out the door! emoticon

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HDHAWK 8/17/2012 8:27PM

    I can relate totally to what you're saying. I've been stagnant for over a year! I lost the weight before and felt awesome. Not sure why I can't stay consistent right now. Let's do this!

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CRYSTLE4HIMTX12 8/17/2012 7:47PM

    Hang in there. I know how hard it is when the scales don't move. Until this week I have been stuck for MONTHS. emoticon emoticon

You can totally do this

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POOKASLUAGH 8/17/2012 7:46PM

    I hear you! This summer has been pure stagnation for me, partly from reasons out of my control, and partly from my own complacency. No more! There are 20 weeks left of 2012 - let's make them fantastic!!

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