Friday, November 26, 2010
I know some of you were waiting for the update on how everything went, so here goes...
That's saying A LOT! LOL
I did clean like a maniac though! I organized and put things away and brought some decorations from upstairs downstairs for a fresh look. I used things in unconventional ways and they worked practically. I put a slipcover on my ratty old sofa in the basement (thanks to my Mom) and it was presentable. I even scrubbed walls. Well, thanks to Magic Eraser--I love that product--I didn't have to do too much "scrubbing" but I cleaned the walls. My arm is hurting this morning from all the wall cleaning aerobics! My guns have probably swelled an inch or two. LOL! I went to sleep late and woke up early and the house (living room, dining room, bathroom, basement) have never been cleaner. I felt great.
But there was ONE hitch in my giddy-up (as my sister would say).... Let me explain....
Earlier, when I was doing all that cleaning, my husband suggested that I concentrate on the bedroom more than the basement. Uhhhh....confused face. Why? He said because of the television. (We have a 42" HD television in the bedroom and the basement has a little itty bitty 26" tv which we brought downstairs from my son's bedroom when the old 50" plasma blinked out.) Okay, I understand that the tv in the basement is tiny but NOBODY needs to be up in OUR bedroom watching television. That's such an invasion of privacy, in my opinion. I told him that and the discussion was over, I thought. Soooooo, I didn't bother cleaning the upstairs. I had been totally exhausted and I saw no need since nobody was going to be up there, other than maybe my sister or my mother who have been over a trillion times. I was pretty sure we agreed upon that, so no worries. I was still feeling good and comfortable. Until......
My dear, most precious and beloved husband did something unthinkable... unimaginable... totally reprehensible...
He took our friend UPSTAIRS!!!!!!!
I didn't even see it coming!! My mom had gone to the basement to chill. My sister was entertaining me while I finished cooking the salmon. The kids were around. My husband was somewhere entertaining our friend... I didn't know. I was busy. Then my daughter comes running upstairs looking for our friend. I said, "He's not downstairs?" "Maybe he's in the bathroom." He wasn't. He was UPSTAIRS with my husband watching the game on our television!!!! I was livid!
I called my mom upstairs (who already knew what happened) and she and my sister calmed me down. But when hubby and our friend came down for dinner and after our friend had gone to the bathroom, I expressed my utter dismay to my husband in a whisper. One statement, "You know you're wrong, right?" He knew exactly what I meant. Now my husband's explanation for this injustice is that he wasn't IN the bedroom. They were sitting in the hallway outside of the bedroom with the door open and watching the television from there. Huh???!!! What?!!! I said not upstairs at all!!! Ughhh!!!!! Husbands! They don't have a clue sometimes about how much the home is tied to "womanhood" in society's view. A poorly kept house is, unfortunately, a reflection on me, not him. It's hard to shake that and he doesn't get that.
I was pleased with the dinner and I did stick to my plan of ONE plate, ONE dessert, for ONE day. But, I did have more than one cup. That punch I made was bangin!!...hittin!...slammin! LOLOLOL (showing my age, huh? LOL) It was Dole's Tropical Smoothie Punch. Sooo good. You can find it online at dole.com if interested--only 73 calories a cup.
So all in all (aside from that one hitch) everything went well.
I SURVIVED THANKSGIVING!!!!
Tuesday, November 23, 2010
One thing you should know about me before you read further is that I don't like company. Well...I take that back. It's not so much that I don't like company, because I do. I love to be with people that I love...............OUT....... or at *their* homes. I guess what I could say is that I don't like having company over; but even that isn't totally true. The most accurate thing I could say is that I don't like what having company over does to me. Yeh, that's it.
I get so overwhelmed with thoughts of inadequacy and wondering what others think or will think of me, my home, my hostessing abilities (or lack thereof), etc... I get totally stressed.
So, why did I agree to host Thanksgiving dinner at my house this year??? Why? Well, it would have been cool if I had kept it "in-the-family." With only my mom and my sister coming over to enjoy the meal and fellowship with me, my hubby and kids there is no stress...Easy breezy. But, I decided to invite a friend from our church. Then two of my girlfriends said they were going to "drop by" as well. (How long does a "drop by" lasts exactly?)
Is the house clean enough? Should I have re-painted the walls?...scrubbed them down with bleach? Will they think I'm a terrible and lazy hostess for choosing to use disposable dinnerware? Should I have made a dessert instead of bought one? Should I make holiday punch instead of offering assorted sodas? Will they like the food? It goes on and on...the ramblings in my head.
I'm kind of stressed! It's silly, I know.
My uncle used to say, "I live here." There was a lot packed in that simple sentence. In other words, I'm the one who lives here and if you don't like it you can either not come in or choose to leave. I wish I had that kind of confidence about my home. I don't. I *kind of* care what others think... but I can't change anything about my home right now. No renovations or upgrades in the works. So, I just don't invite people over so I don't have to imagine what they'd think.
I really need to relax, relate, and release!
Thankfully, I'm not stressed at all about the food aspect of Thanksgiving. That's a blessing. I feel somewhat in control.
I plan to have just ONE. One plate, one dessert, one cup...for ONE day. It will be a HUGE accomplishment for me to stick to that plan. The success (and resulting high) of that one night can carry over for weeks!! I'm looking forward to that feeling.
Well, anyway.... the next couple of days will be BUSY. So, if I don't get a chance to update my status and say it to you all on Thanksgiving Day, I'll say it now.....
HAPPY HAPPY HAPPY THANKSGIVING!!! :-)
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