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Me the Perfectionist!

Sunday, August 23, 2009

Everyone on Sparkpeople that know, thaI have served 17 years in the US Army. But to keep it real, I am a perfectionist. I used to think there was something wrong with others, but after being diagnosed with Tuberculosis 2 years ago. I realized I had seriously high expectations on myself and others.

You see, I have never weighed over 130lbs in my life until contracting TB while in Iraq. I had to take 5 different types of meds (3 x a day), just for the TB alone. I went from a sz 6/8 to a sz 14 in the past year. The doctor and I agree its' from the meds. But I was in denial. I had never been a sz 14 in my life at 5'8 and weighing 201 lbs. It took me a while to mentally except, yeah it may be the medication, but how long is that gonna be your excuse for not doing a darn thing. I was ashamed, because everyone who has known me for the past 17 years in the Army, couldn't understand what and how it happened.

I could out run most guys, placed 2nd place as soldier of the in the Army while at FT Bragg, NC. Then 6 months ago, I had a nervous breakdown. I did not realize it stemmed from being sexually assaulted while in Iraq. They have diagnosed it as severe and permanent PTSD-Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.

When I joined Sparkpeople, no one but the doctors, knew about what happen over there, not even my husband. And he has not been supported, but that is okay! Because GOD has done a lot of work on me in the past three months. I don't cry myself to sleep anymore. But sirens and other things still scares, but that is okay too!

GOD has taught me, that I am somebody, and he loves just as I am. Today, I am not ashamed anymore. But I have embraced that doesn't have to be me forever. And that's a good thing.

I am learning what peace is for first time in life, and I am so happy. I don't care what others think about me anymore. I used need their validation of me. But I am standing on my own self-worth and knowing, that I am beautiful, and it feels so damn good. Just to be happy, for no reason at all. Be bold, Be beautiful, Be free.

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SKSCHULTE1997 8/30/2009 9:58PM

    emoticon GOD and we love you and support you!!!!

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VRCATON 8/23/2009 10:28PM

    Bless you, I'm glad you are feeling better about yourself! Keep on Sparking and check out some of the teams here on Spark. Here's an address, cut and paste:


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Every Man, Woman, Mother, Father, Loved One ...that Supported a Soldier!

Monday, August 10, 2009

I, Elizabeth, Thank you for always crying a tear, when one of us is injured. For every shoe box, every tin of baked cookies from grandmother, that the whole platoon ate, and you didn't know. Thank you grandmother! Every care package filled with toothpaste, socks, pens, magazines, letters from K-12th graders with of love and support.

I, WE SALUTE YOU ALL! You give us hope, to keep going, even when we have nothing left in our bodies.
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If I had to do it all over again, I would so graciously serve my country. Because women and men like you have helped soldiers like me remember the purpose of why we protect this great land of the U.S.A. I salute you! HOAH! emoticon

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SKSCHULTE1997 8/13/2009 1:32PM

    Thanks for serving!!! I would send you a care package any day!! emoticon emoticon

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NO_SNOW_BODY 8/11/2009 7:59AM

    emoticon Bless everyone that supports and serves. emoticon

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    We so appreciate you emoticon
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Picture Yourself in a positive Light!

Saturday, August 08, 2009

Recently, I have seen several blogs or post of negative affirmations of one's self. Please do not misunderstand me. I am no where near where I want to be and will be.

I remeber when my unit at FT Bragg was deployed to Iraq in 1990. I was 18 going 19. When we got to Iraq, it was a hold another world over there. We have built this place up. Bu my special ops, was the first units there. Many of my buddies, were attempting suicide, some succeeded. Others got pregant intentionally to be returned the States.

I joined the choir that our tent city had formed. I watched so many people my age going,; creating all kinds of situations, some detrimental than others to go. I lay in my sleeping that nigh, as the air war beginned crying, asking God, to not allow me to give up on him. I knew I could easily give up on myself. As a I am breathing today, God said to me, I will never put more on you than you can bear.

I did not want slit my wrist, or try to get pregnant, but I was scared as h ---. What I have learned through my military experience, you may not always like the circumstances, the pain that you will endure. I am in no way above or have mastered this logic. But I believe whole heatedly, if God allows us to go through it, we have the strength, the faith to get through it.

So to all my Spark Friends, who feel like I can't write as good as others, my article won't make sense. This maybe to much to expose before people I barely know.

Remember this is not about or them, this is your personal walk with yourself and God. So I have put some inspirations that I hope every time, you think I am not posting, or I am going to quit Sparks today. Whether its' SparkPeople, Jenny Craig, Weight Watchers.

Hang in there! You will get to the good stuff, and reap the fruit of your hard labor. I love you and be encouraged, as I will eat a dose of my own medicine...everyday.

because you are worth it! and you are beautiful, just the way you are...we just know it yet! Haaaa!

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TOM1204 8/9/2009 4:45PM

    emoticon Thank you emoticon

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GRAMIAM7 8/9/2009 8:50AM

    This blog is awesome and you are an awesome lady. Thank you for serving our country. God bless you for that. God is with us always. Sometimes is big major situations like yours. But in small little situations like mine today. I was bumming because I gained a couple of pounds. Pounds that I worked hard to lose. God led me to your blog so I would see how silly my issue really is in the greater scheme of life.
We Americans go through our daily lives with little thought of what our men and women in the military are going through. Much more and worse than we can imagine. Many come home and just can't talk about what happened so again we just don't get a feel for how terrible it really was for them God Bless you and all who serve and have served and are living with the nightmares of that experience.

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MOMMA48 8/8/2009 10:27PM

    What a truly wonderful blog, MJ! Your words touched me and how sweet and caring of you to share! You're right -- we are never alone and we always have someone by our side -- through the good and the bad times. Everything has a purpose and God has a plan for us -- one that we do not even know! But that's where the faith and trust comes in -- we are to live each day as we believe is true, right and would please our Maker! You said it beautifully and I thank you for your wonderful words and thoughts! I loved them!!! Thank you!!!
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DAWNKEY1975 8/8/2009 10:11PM

    Thank you for this... I needed it today.


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A Mother's Love!

Saturday, July 25, 2009

Truly happy, my daughter's father has recently returned safely from 6 years overseas from rotating back and forth from Afghanistan to Germany.

She has not seen him in 6 years. So I decided to let her go stay with him in Florida for her last 2 years of high school. It was hard at first. I cried often, called a minimum of 5 times a day. She is now 15 and I have raised her to be a strong, intelligent, confident, but rebellious at time young lady. She has traveled everywhere with me.

At times they seem to get along, and others he seems clueless. I try to support and encourage him, but I can't help but feel worried. I know that's just the mothering in me. I have watched her grow into this thriving for life beautiful butterfly and I am so proud of her.

To be honest, I thought he would try and replace me, but that could never happen, just a thought. Then yesterday, she said out of nowhere, "There's nothing that can compare to Mother's Love". Instead of cherishing those words, I begin to question is her father taking good care of my most precious love. I had to check myself and realize...Christine's just letting me know that:

No one can cook like mom; no one holds her close to make her feel safe like mom; no one allows her to jump in the bed; no one wakes up at 3 o' clock in the morning to bake fresh chocolate chip cookies (her favorite); no one thinks its cool to play dress-up, even at 15, except mom; no sings her to sleep, even though she is a teenager, but mom. I could go, but I won't.

So, I think to myself... God has believed in me and trusted me to raised this awesome individual, and now her father who has missed all those years. Will now get to see and watch her evolve into the woman she is destined to become. I thank God for blessing me with this child and entrusting and guiding me with enough courage, faith, love, and patience to help mold her into her potential.

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U8RMY007 7/27/2009 4:17PM

  Thank you everyone, for commenting on my blog, and thank you DALLEN16...I could not thank you on your page (no page link), so I will say it here. emoticon

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DALLEN16 7/27/2009 7:18AM

  Being a Mom is a very important job we never know what is required until we realize that we will do anything for our children but give up. You did a very unselfish thing by letting your daughter stay with her father. I pray that this experience help each one of you learn just how important you all are to each other.

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SKSCHULTE1997 7/27/2009 12:50AM

    You are an amazing woman!!! A mom's unconditional love still amazes me. I will keep you in my prayers often for the next couple of years. emoticon emoticon

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MOMMA48 7/25/2009 6:24PM

    What a touching blog and one written by a super caring Mom! You have done well, Mom! What better gift can a Mom give -- than support, values, nurturing and, most importantly, love, all of which she will carry with her for her lifetime! You are truly a wonderful Mom!!!
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WILLOWWINDS 7/25/2009 11:13AM

    I love this blog. It was a joy to read.

Sounds like Mom has done a lot of growing too. emoticon

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THINMEANT1205 7/25/2009 10:29AM

    This is an awesome observation. Your exhusband will see how well you've done with raising your daughter. From the looks of it, you've done a swell job. Be blessed always.


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Learning To Let Go!

Tuesday, July 14, 2009

Letting go doesn't mean the end. It means the beginning of possibilities. Sometimes you have to encourage a person by showing them they are no good for you.

I felt stuck, unsure of myself, and what step to take next. Removing yourself emotionally from a situation can be the best thing you will ever do for yourself.

I contemplated for months should I hold onto a marriage that does not inspire me, lift me up, or bring out the best in me.

When you act like the best friend, you will be treated as such. But when you take back your power, you will be treated like the leading lady.

This can be applied to anything...family, friends, or work, where a boss is overbearing and keeping from your potential.

I used it to symbolize, sick and tired of being sick and tired. Then and only then will you cherish you enough, to put you first.

Doing so, tells people how to treat you, by how you treat myself.

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    I know this blog is from last year - but I thank you for writing this. It's something I needed to see today.

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U8RMY007 7/20/2009 10:52AM

  Thank you DALLEN16,I would like to personally thank you, but could not locate you on Sparkpeople search! emoticon

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DALLEN16 7/18/2009 9:03AM

  I love what you have to say. I am in the same place in my life right now.

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MOMMA48 7/14/2009 9:20PM

    I hear you, MJ! I'm at that stage in my life also -- after being verbally abused and/or belittled by someone and feel as though you're only a friend and there is no emotion left, be it love in a relationship or appreciation at work -- doesn't matter -- it somewhat erases us as a person. We allow others to take control over us in ways -- but we do have the power to bring ourselves back and to that fullest potential! And, that fullest potential is only another positive that you are able to share with others -- and feel more alive and be able to feel that happiness inside and out -- and enjoy life as it was meant to be enjoyed! And, you, my friend, deserve to enjoy! Letting go or holding on -- all super emotional decisions -- but we have to know when it is time to do just that -- let the negative go and go on with life.
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