Wednesday, November 26, 2008
by Sharon R. Poet
"I stood in the line where every body goes,
To fix the aging form of skin, hair or nose.
But strong as stone, I stood as I studied my reflection,
And found these words, I felt, in my bodyís deep rejection,
ďEach crevice built for tears - these wrinkles on my face,
Are proof of precious years that NOTHING can erase.
In the grey of my fine hair, I sometimes see a glow.
Please handle it with care and let the magic show.
The sparkle in my eyes grows brighter every day.
Please donít cover it up. Donít take that away.
Every blemish, bump or sag, in the eyes of the weak,
May make me a hag. But HEAR these words I speak.
I want to remain human - the Truest kind of all.
Donít stretch, tweak or fix me. I donít want to be a doll.
I may not fit in, because of how I feel.
But I donít want to change. So, let me just be REAL.Ē
My sister and I have had talks before about aging gracefully. She continues to dye her hair, where I quit about 4 years ago. She also keeps her hair cut short, thinking that long hair makes you look older. I decided to rebel when I quit dyeing my hair and let it go long. I have naturally curly (more like frizzy) hair and with most of them gray now, they tend to be coarse. Having long hair seems to pull some of the frizz out and staighten it somewhat. Another thing we have talked about is that she wants to have a face lift and other facial treatments to make her keep her youth as long as possible. Me....on the other hand, think I've earned every wrinkle, nook, and cranny in my body and I want to wear them with pride. It seems the older I get the more comfortable I get in this body.
Exercise is not something I can do without in my aging process. I have found if I don't get some type exercise, I lose more muscle tone. I can sometimes get a little back but not what I had before. Another thing with aging is that I've learned to slow down and see and smell the flowers along the way. I look for more beauty in the world now instead of making a mad dash through life getting places that don't matter if I'm there or not. I've decided to enjoy the ride or walk whereever it takes me. I want to enjoy life to the fullest and going at a mad dash is bypassing the best things in life. I have learned to laugh more and enjoy good company and do away with those people in my life who try to pull me down or who tend to carp and gripe about every little thing. I try to spend time with those I love and who can enjoy the trip.
And now when the sons' tease me about my white hair, I just say I earned them and partly because of them. God didn't make us to be perfect specimens but to learn to become a better human being on the inside. I plan to cultivate that "soul person" on the inside of me as I get healthier and more fit. I want to be a real human being both to myself and to those around me.