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Back to Beck Day Nine: Select an Exercise Plan

Wednesday, October 22, 2014

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Right now and for the past 24 hours my exercise plan has been tap dancing at work . . . . and that's OK.

Because I am committed to exercise. I have been a long-time exerciser. I get back to exercising after illness, injury, work stress -- it's who I am.

Again, something for which I can give myself credit (even though maybe not today!!). But I'll be getting in as much spontaneous exercise as possible, chugging up and down stairs and lugging around heavy brief cases and . . .

And then I'll happily get to the gym, or the golf course -- and XC skiing looks pretty imminent too!! -- and all will be good.

Exercise doesn't help me much in managing my weight -- but it does help me in managing the stress that can lead to out-of-control eating. And it helps with health, of course it does: cardio, strength, flexibility, toning.

Got this one.

  
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KANOE10 10/22/2014 9:47PM

    Yes. Exercise is so good for stress and toning. I am walking waikiki streets for stress. I love the tap dancing at work. I have walked laps in my room. Yay. For exercise.

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DOGLADY13 10/22/2014 8:27PM

    And for me, if I don't exercise, I won't lose weight. It is paramount, right now, in staying healthy and losing/keeping weight off. We are all so different.

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ONEKIDSMOM 10/22/2014 6:49PM

    " it does help me in managing the stress that can lead to out-of-control eating" ... so true. If I don't exercise, I eat more! From being anxious.

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GABY1948 10/22/2014 5:23PM

    I love your blogs...I LEARN SO much from them...thought I was pretty inventive on impromptu exercise but you still teach me more. Sparkpeople are the BEST....but exercise does help me and it is necessary for my being able to move my body without pain.

Another excellent blog!

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_LINDA 10/22/2014 4:36PM

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Exercise, the non-drug high -got to love it in all forms! Especially can't wait to try out my new shoes in the gym!!!!

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OHMEMEME 10/22/2014 4:23PM

    Go Watermellen! Excellent perspectives and awesome job keeping up with blogging on Beck. I agree that exercise does not make me drop weight but it keeps me focused and body conscious. It feels good and EMPOWERS me mentally and physically. I too consider myself a natural exerciser whether fatter or not. I enjoy it. Some phases are more strenuous, regimented, consistent but it's always part of me. It feels good. Being able to say that actually makes me smile. Keep Sparking! emoticon emoticon

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PAMAPPLE 10/22/2014 4:06PM

    I feel the same way about you that exercise doesn't do much for my weight management, however, it is so good for your health, ie., cardio for preventing heart and blood vessel disease, muscle strengthening for osteoporosis ( which I have and need to do more of). and flexibility for keeping muscles and tendons healthy. Yep, it does look like you got this exercise stuff down! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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FEEDTHEHUNGER 10/22/2014 1:36PM

    I'm with you on that. No matter how fat I ever was (and am), I always exercised. Maybe not consistently and evenly, but it was always there calling my name every day. I'm so grateful for that because I think it has been a big factor in helping me to keep pushing to lose the extra weight. It doesn't make me lose weight, like you say, but it helps me focus on my body, which does.

Great blog!

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JANTHEBLONDE 10/22/2014 12:15PM

    Love your blog! You're absolutely right... exercising is definitely a way to relieve stress! Congratulations on being on day nine! I hope you have a beautiful day!
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1CRAZYDOG 10/22/2014 11:46AM

    I guess I'm lucky that exercise does help me w/weight control, but you're right . . . the other huge benefit is stress relief!

Hugs and smiles.

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SLENDERELLA61 10/22/2014 11:19AM

    Yes, you do. You've got this one. (But I honestly bet you'd be surprised if you quit exercising how much you'd have to cut back in order not to gain. Just saying --- it does burn calories.) Hope that work challenge smooths out for you. I suspect you have that one, too!!

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PHEBESS 10/22/2014 9:50AM

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BOOKAPHILE 10/22/2014 9:05AM

    You do indeed have this one!

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FUNLOVEN 10/22/2014 8:46AM

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Although over the years I have done exercise classes of various kinds I really have never considered myself a natural exerciser. It is something that I have to force myself to do and it doesn't take much of an excuse for my to not do it.

Since getting back into Spark 1 1/2 yrs. ago I have made more of an attempt to get an exercise routine going, but health issues have kept getting in the way. I am sooo looking forward to 2015 when there will be nothing more physically to hinder me.



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DDOORN 10/22/2014 8:39AM

    Agreed, re: exercise is not for weight management...been there, tried that and learned the hard way that poor food choices deep-sixed any workout regimen I tried to throw at it...lol!

But it IS terrific for stress management plus I have enjoyed growing muscle and toning my body.

Don

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SANDICANE 10/22/2014 8:30AM

    Yep, you're certainly an inspiration and I'll bet you're a FABULOUS tap dancer!

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KELLIEBEAN 10/22/2014 8:28AM

    I'm right with ya! Several times a day, I get up and walk around the building for a couple minutes, run up the stairs and use my breaks to walk laps. This in addition to any workout I do in the evening. I like burning calories all day long.

Onward!

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ROXYZMOM 10/22/2014 8:12AM

    I agree! Even when I train and run Half Marathons I don't lose weight unless I am on a low calorie diet! It's all about food consumption.
It is suppose to be an awesome winter. Enjoy skiing!!

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NANCY- 10/22/2014 8:01AM

    Love your perspective and that you get back to it.
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Back to Beck Day Eight: Take the Time!

Tuesday, October 21, 2014

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Making time to be healthy: my 2011 blog on this topic was a long one!! And (although it's still the case that I could be making more time for exercise) this is something I'm continuing to make a priority.

Because at this age and stage (unlike the demands of child care and commuting and back to school experienced by my "younger self") I can.

My schedule really hasn't changed a whole lot since 2011. I do still prepare my lunch salads the night before. I do still make a supper soup once a week that's sitting in the fridge waiting for me each evening. I do still "make up" exercise time on the weekends when the work week intervenes -- and I do stay as active as I can during the work day, running up and down the stairs and zooming to the photocopier.

So Day Eight is a useful reminder that some things I'm handling OK.

Well done, good job (giving myself credit!!)

  
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DOGLADY13 10/21/2014 9:52PM

    You inspired me to buy the Beck Diet Solution. The Hubster and I are going to try it. We both have had success with Cognitive Behavior Therapy, so expect good results with this.

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ONEKIDSMOM 10/21/2014 6:59PM

    Indeed well done. And thank you for sharing your strategies with the rest of us. Took a page out of your book with my soup supper tonight... yum! Comfort food. emoticon emoticon

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PAMAPPLE 10/21/2014 5:21PM

    I, also, prepare salads for lunch with dark green lettuce, tomato, shredded cheese, sometimes, egg and all-natural lunch meat or chicken, and cucumber and avocado. Hubby and I just made split pea soup with ham last weekend, and we like to eat soups, also, during the work week.

For exercise, I make my rounds going into eight different classrooms throughout the day, up and downstairs, and am planning on joining the gym since my school day ends at 3:20. There is a gym halfway inbetween my work and house, that I can use for cardio and weights.

So, like you, I can give myself credit for all of this... now, I just need to get back to tracking my food!

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ALIIDA 10/21/2014 5:16PM

    I've just read the earlier blog. Wow! An inspiration! I need to schedule EVERYTHING because of the huge potential to waste time in a year off work. I didn't even get in my exercise yesterday. The more time I have, the less well I use it! Oh crumbs!

Thank you. Reading this will get me back on it today!

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JANTHEBLONDE 10/21/2014 3:48PM

    Congratulations on being on day eight! I'm really proud of you! I think you're doing an awesome job! Hope you have a wonderful Tuesday!
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_LINDA 10/21/2014 11:27AM

    You are indeed, and that is why you are one of the most successful maintainers on here that the rest of us look up to! You go girl!

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DSHONEYC 10/21/2014 11:14AM

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DDOORN 10/21/2014 9:53AM

    Life has been getting in the way too often to suit me these days...ugh! Getting to the fitness center today. When I skip the fitness center I find it SO difficult to push myself onto the treadmill or use my dumb bells at home. WAY too easy to settle into the pc and "coast" through my night.

Don

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BOOKAPHILE 10/21/2014 9:29AM

    Well done, indeed! You not only do well for yourself, you encourage a whole bunch of us to keep up the effort. Thanks.

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KANOE10 10/21/2014 9:25AM

    Staying healthy does require a te commitment. I also do make up times when u schedule gets off. That is excellent that you are maintaining a healthy lifestyle.

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FUNLOVEN 10/21/2014 9:15AM

    There sure are a lot of young and busy people here at SP and I agree 100% with you in your 2011 blog that when a person is that busy there just are not enough hours in the day to "have it all" and keep your sanity too!

One thing about reaching that age when the demands of life lesson and there can be more "me" time is that a person also loses the sense of urgency. At lease I have. Because there is always tomorrow to get it done.

I admit I waste a lot of time. When I look at the things that need to be done around my home I sometimes just plain don't want to do them; They represent work and not fun to me. I'm not in the mood for any more general cleaning or I don't want to wash windows, etc. etc. So I sit instead and it is usually in front of the TV or my computer. I just might benefit from developing some kind of schedule for myself and then train myself to stick to it!

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SANDICANE 10/21/2014 9:03AM

    Ok is a strange word to use to praise yourself. I choose the word "well" or "extremely well" or "excellently" when thinking about what I know about how you take the time to exercise and plan meals, cook healthy foods and eat healthy foods.

Great going and a wonderful reminder of how "extremely well" you do this on an on-going basis!!

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SLENDERELLA61 10/21/2014 8:56AM

    Great healthy routine you've developed and mastered!! You deserve much credit.

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PHEBESS 10/21/2014 8:52AM

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Good job on taking the time AND giving yourself credit!!!!

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BROOKLYN_BORN 10/21/2014 8:18AM

    Good for you! Credit well deserved.
Got to say also that I follow you around. When you comment on a blog, I read it and I'm never disappointed. You're my spark GPS.

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MM11113 10/21/2014 7:58AM

    I just got up, and after reading the old blog, I am ready to go back to bed. I don't think I could maintain such a regimen. But, I agree, you have to have your priorities.

I am still struggling my way along!

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GABY1948 10/21/2014 7:51AM

    Oh such wonderful blogs. I agree. SO much for me is not being caught "off guard". Like when I visit my kids, I ALWAYS bring my food...they know it and I think appreciate it....they don't have to figure out what to give mom. emoticon

As for your comment on abandoning tv that is one thing I did early on....and you are right I do accomplish so much more. I allow myself only two hours TOPS at the end of the day of television...I get SO much more done around the house and am not sitting on my butt watching it spread!

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FEEDTHEHUNGER 10/21/2014 7:42AM

    Wonderful past blog and present keeping of the fire, Ellen! What you said back then is true: people with multiple responsibilities have a difficult time having it all and a smile too pasted on a perfectly made up face. Yet, at the same time, and I know it's true in my life, how much more we could accomplish if we would abandon the TV.

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ROXYZMOM 10/21/2014 7:39AM

    I was reading your 2011 blog thinking the same thing - you have been very consistent for a long time! Wonderful!!!

And I totally agree with you on young Moms. There are demands flying at them from all sides. I actually started a support group for Moms who stayed home with their kids when I had young kids. There were 85 local Moms in the club. It helped a lot.



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1CRAZYDOG 10/21/2014 7:35AM

    Kudos!

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Back to Beck Day Seven: Organizing My Environment

Monday, October 20, 2014

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I can resist anything but temptation.

And if I see it, I wanna eat it. Right now. Probably standing up. As fast as possible. So I don't really have to acknowledge what I'm doing.

The above applied in 2011 and still applies to my fave trigger foods (baby carrots, kale, big brimming glasses of water, not so much).

But potato chips? Yup, bought large bags of them for my son again recently and asked him to hide 'em in his room.

Nuts and trail mix? Regularly purchases for my vegan daughter who needs the protein -- but it's better for me not to see them.

Ditto peanut butter from a spoon.

Keeping breads in the bread box.

Leaving the kitchen when my dear husband makes his eggs and bacon and multiple slices of hot buttered toast.

Organizing my environment is definitely a Beck technique which had slipped. And I'm right back at it again.

And yup, something I absolutely needed to relearn.

  
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SLENDERELLA61 10/21/2014 8:58AM

    Great lesson to re-learn. Isn't that the value of re-doing Beck? You are doing great! Love your honesty and self-awareness. Just keep getting better and better!!

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FUNLOVEN 10/21/2014 8:49AM

    Out Of Sight, Our Of Mind doesn't do much for me. If I am really craving something, I know exactly where I hid it. I am far better off just to not have it in the house. Now I have to figure out how to hide my DH when he starts snacking - LOL!

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NANCY- 10/21/2014 8:48AM

    This is a wonderful thing to do especially as the holiday season approaches. Setting ourselves up for success, is such a good thing.
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KALIGIRL 10/21/2014 8:22AM

    Same for me - especially this time of year - so I freeze the 'temptations' to be savored @ special 'planned' times!
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PAMAPPLE 10/20/2014 11:34PM

    I am pushing my peanut butter to the back of the pantry since it is one of my go to foods!

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PHEBESS 10/20/2014 9:59PM

    Yes to all of that! (Sometimes I ask DH to buy his sweet treats and eat them at the store, instead of bringing them home.)

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DOGLADY13 10/20/2014 9:34PM

    If your family lived with me, I'd have to divorce them.



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KANOE10 10/20/2014 8:08PM

    I like to keep trigger foods away as well. Nice job of creating a healthy environment for yourself.

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ONEKIDSMOM 10/20/2014 7:53PM

    You'd think I would have an advantage living alone... but I have to be careful what I bring into the environment, too. One thing living alone does do... it prevents me from lying to myself about who I'm buying the treat for! emoticon

Spark on!

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BEEAUTIFULDAY 10/20/2014 7:52PM

    Good tips, thanks. I think if kale was my trigger food I'd have to go nuts... lol

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GABY1948 10/20/2014 6:17PM

    OH MY GOODNESS....I feel like I am looking into a mirror here with these foods. But the bottom line I am now thinking is "If WATERMELLEN can do it, just maybe I can too!" Those foods are triggers for me also. But I honestly cannot imagine you being the same way...I have SEEN your pictures! Thank you for even more inspiration today! emoticon

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JANTHEBLONDE 10/20/2014 6:06PM

    That is too funny... we both have the same trigger foods! Thank God my kids are grown up now so I don't have to deal with the potato chips and trail mix! The only food that comes in my house is clean.. no processed foods allowed in this house! I even DVR my favorite television shows so I don't have to watch the commercials.... because all the commercials are all food!
I'm really proud of you being on day seven of the Becks plan! I think you're doing an awesome job!
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P.S. I just read what other people wrote... "out of sight out of mind". That's not true for me! I'm always thinking about food! My husband used to hide all his snacks but I would always find them. Now he doesn't bring any snacks in the house anymore! LOL

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2BDYNAMIC 10/20/2014 5:01PM

    Seems to some level we are always in the classroom of life, doesn't it? ...... I thought we 'hid' the Halloween candy ............ but Sunday I 'needed' a bite of chocolate BAD so I carefully cut an end and slipped two bite sized Three Musketeers out .. (when my hubby discovers, I plan to tell him we must have a mouse!! emoticon (or we bought it that way) .................. Then again, maybe I had better be the one to pour the candies for the kidlets! emoticon

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SWEDE_SU 10/20/2014 4:42PM

    i have DH hide his chips and crackers behind the healthy nuts in the pantry. and even the healthy nuts are in the pantry. we have the fruit and veggie bowl sitting outů

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SANDICANE 10/20/2014 4:34PM

    In Dr. Phil's book The Ultimate Weight Loss Solution, he says we can eventually have "just one". I'm not sure when "eventually" is b/c I'm 59 now and certainly am not good at "just one" of anything yummy (baby carrots, kale, and water excluded)!

This Day 7 is a wonderful reminder of how we need to keep our trigger foods out of sight, and mostly out of the house.

Kudo's to you for your "re-arranging"!!!!

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BOOKAPHILE 10/20/2014 4:29PM

    It's amazing how much sight causes desire. I'd like to have selective sight much like my daughters' had selective hearing in their teens when I asked them to do something they didn't want to do!

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BROOKLYN_BORN 10/20/2014 4:24PM

    Oh yeah. Out of sight, out of mind is the best way for me to stay on track.

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CRYSTALJEM 10/20/2014 3:16PM

    Yep often it's best to know where to be when. Kudos

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1CRAZYDOG 10/20/2014 3:01PM

    Definitely employ the "out of sight, out of mind" strategy with things like chips, etc. that DH and DD eat, but I cannot/will not.

Great reminder about organization of the environment being so important in supporting our success in healthful choices.



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DSHONEYC 10/20/2014 2:33PM

    Right up my alley...don't buy it, don't eat it. Where's the chapter on "vegetable binging"?

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WIFE48 10/20/2014 1:51PM

    Organizing always feels so good.

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PICKIE98 10/20/2014 1:38PM

    I was waiting for the HVAC guy last week and when he did not show on the button, I went to one closet and hauled everything out and organized it. I felt so great later!!

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FORZACHANDMATT 10/20/2014 1:38PM

    Great ways to not cave - I might borrow some...

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DDOORN 10/20/2014 1:36PM

    This is such an absolutely essential strategy for me! I wilt and cave into SO many foods if they are around me so I take great care to 1) not buy it in the first place, 2) when others in the house DO I have them keep it out of sight while I work on keeping it out of mind...lol!

I guess this doesn't do much for building will power; totally avoiding temptation. And perhaps in time I might tackle the challenge of having "just a little" in a controlled fashion...but I know that is WAY way off if it ever even happens. I am very envious of people who are able to triumph over their trigger foods in such a manner. True Olympic Will Power Athletes!

Don

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Back to Beck Day Six: Diet Coach!

Sunday, October 19, 2014

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Back in January 2011, SLENDERELLA had been blogging about the Beck Diet Solution and about learning to think like a thin person -- she got me reading the book, and (when at Day Six I realized I needed to find a diet coach) she graciously and immediately agreed to coach me.

Thanks, Marsha!! This is a role I know she's taken on for others too -- and she is superb! Supportive, inspiring, quick to "give credit" and gently prepared to redirect attention back to goals as needed. Plus, of course, she's an amazing role model of fitness herself, while juggling some challenging roles in her personal life.

So: why is a diet coach helpful? Building motivation (reminding me why I want to do this); building self-confidence (encouraging me to believe I can do this); and helping solve problems (how to get around a particular obstacle such as work pressures or travel or injury).

This time around as I take my Beck refresher, although there's been so much support and coaching right here with comments from Spark buddies (thank you, all) -- one particular Spark buddy and I have decided to "coach each other". We've been in pretty much daily contact by Spark Message. And Beck does identify internet contacts as a good source of diet coaching -- or organized groups such as Weight Watchers, or of course diet professionals.

So why don't people seek out a diet coach? As always, Beck is particularly good at identifying the "sabotaging thoughts": fear of failure, fear of imposing, belief that I should be able to do this myself. But the reality of experience tells us: weight loss is tough, going it alone may not have worked in the past -- and weight maintenance is even tougher.

One of the great strengths of the Spark People community is -- ongoing diet coaching, from a whole group of dedicated and supportive people. That's why lots of us are here, and stay here even after weight loss.

  
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KALIGIRL 10/20/2014 8:46AM

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ROXYZMOM 10/20/2014 8:45AM

    I think that's why I love the 5% challenge teams so much. I always learn something new and love the support and camaraderie.

Congrats on completing Day 6 and thanks for sharing!

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NANCY- 10/20/2014 7:39AM

    Great blog. Sometimes a coach can see what we do not or cannot.

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JANTHEBLONDE 10/19/2014 12:21PM

    You are so right.... Maintenance is tougher than ever! Congratulations on being on day six of the Beck Plan! I am so proud of you reaching out and getting the coach! I hope that really helps you! Thanks for sharing! I hope you have a wonderful day hey!
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_LINDA 10/19/2014 11:07AM

    That's great you are taking on coaching in spite of your busy life! Even better she is from the same country and province as you! Maybe some day you will have the chance to meet in real life too!
I am afraid I have always been one of those go it alone people. I haven't had a personal friend since grade school. My Mom is my best friend and I am fortunate to have her! I would still be a hermit today if I hadn't tried bridge. It forced me to learn to socialize and deal with people at all levels, especially with people above my 'station' I was the only factory worker there! They were all white collar well to do, highly educated people.
I find the contact here on Sparkpeople is about all I can handle, its wonderful and why I keep hanging around, but trying to focus on one person would be too much and perhaps at the expense of keeping up with others, and I would not want to do that as there are so many inspirational people to follow on here.. I am just born to be a single.

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ONEKIDSMOM 10/19/2014 10:19AM

    I totally use Spark to remind me why I keep doing this, well into maintenance. Even when I'm "not feeling it", reading a few blogs leads me back to the center. So does that make SparkPeople my diet coach? Maaaaybe?

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CRYSTALJEM 10/19/2014 9:40AM

    Never quite thought of it that way. Really good point. Thanks for sharing.

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FUNLOVEN 10/19/2014 9:00AM

    I'm really enjoying your daily reviews of this Beck philosophy. Thanks for sharing.

Somewhere I have a book about "How Thin People Think". I started to read it years ago, but never finished. Then I picked it up again a couple of years ago and tried again. I even bought a copy for a friend who was struggling with weight loss. I never finished the book this time either. I'm going to have to go digging to find the book and see if it is this Beck book that everyone is talking about. I don't think it is. The Beck book sounds more instructional and I like that idea. I think I will be heading to the bookstore on Monday.

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PHEBESS 10/19/2014 8:45AM

    Kicking myself mentally for not ready Beck when I had time and opportunity.

And yes, having the teams and all of Spark to coach and cheer us on definitely helps!

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DDOORN 10/19/2014 8:40AM

    I'm absolutely HOOKED on our wonderfully supportive sense of community here among our SparkFamily! Thank you Ellen for being such a vital role in this!

Don

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SLENDERELLA61 10/19/2014 8:25AM

    Thanks for the kind words, Ellen. You are the most outstanding Beck follower I have ever met. Believe me, I got a lot out of your effort, too. Yes, having a coach is helpful. It sure was for me. I look forward to more coaching in the future.

By the way, you would be an awesome coach yourself! I recommend the experience. -Marsha

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GABY1948 10/19/2014 8:19AM

    I agree with you, Marsha is SO very inspiring and gracious and a beautiful model of victory! She has also blessed me by offering to be my coach and I begin after a trip south this week. I am MORE than SO excited!

It has helped me oh-so-much to read your daily accounts of revisiting this!

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SANDICANE 10/19/2014 8:00AM

    I have been looking for a diet coach/buddy for years with no takers. I attended 2 TOPS groups and after feeling very foolish after standing up in the group to ask who would like a "buddy" and NO ONE responding, gave up on the thought of ever having one.

Years ago I could see the value...someone to yack with. Someone to run "rough spots" by. Someone to trouble shoot with. Someone to cheer with. Someone to encourage. Someone to bolster motivation should it slip.

It took Beck to finally bring one into my life...and I am grateful. I am ever so grateful.

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1CRAZYDOG 10/19/2014 8:00AM

    My take away is that we need to admit our humanness and when we need help/support, seek it out! That has ALWAYS worked in my life. Great blog. Thanks


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KANOE10 10/19/2014 7:58AM

    I used two diet coaches to lose weight. It was very helpful , I am glad you have a new one as you work through Beck. The warm support here is also wonderful.

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BA5454 10/19/2014 7:56AM

    Glad you found a diet coach in the past that guided you to success and have one now, too. I think I'm going to have find the Beck book....

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Back to Beck Day Five: Day Five, Slow Down and Be Mindful

Saturday, October 18, 2014

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This is a difficult issue for me -- was back in 2011 and still is. But it's not enough to sit down while I'm eating. Every time. Every bite.

I also need to slow down. I also need to be mindful.

Of every bite.

So this time I'm reframing.

I GET to slow down. I GET to be mindful.

I GET to experience the maximum enjoyment possible from every bite I eat.

I GET to take the time to enjoy.

The taste (sweet? sour? savoury? salty? bitter?).

The texture (smooth? crunchy?)

And the sounds! (slurp? chomp chomp?)

The colour (and I eat the rainbow).

The delicious odours! (inhale, exhale).

Food isn't something shameful, to be inhaled as quickly as possible so nobody knows that I eat at all.

Food deserves celebration. And I deserve to celebrate it. Which mean I don't have to eat while I'm eating. I don't have to be loading my fork with the next forkful while I'm chewing this forkful and have barely swallowed the last forkful.

All right then, I know slowing down and being mindful is tough for me . . . but maybe this will change my mind. It's not what I "should" do but what I "could" do.

Because: "I'm worth it, baby!"

Making a new Beck card for myself right now!!

Done. It reads:

I GET to eat slowly and mindfully.

I GET to enjoy the taste, texture, sound, colours, odours of every mouthful.

I'm worth it.

  
  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

OHMEMEME 10/20/2014 7:55AM

    Thanks for sharing your insights!!!
It makes me ask myself "why?" Do I rush and stuff it down. Eating is very emotional for me. It is so much of a comforting, pacifying thing for me or should I say medicating, avoiding emotions thing! I rush to get it into my mouth and swallow it whole! Now really...if it is such a wonderful thing why not savor, celebrate and appreciate?!?!
I really liked your perspectives...keep Sparking! emoticon

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BBEAGAN 10/19/2014 8:50AM

    It's wild what a difference eating mindfully makes. I tend to eat slowly anyway, but a number of years ago, I would join a former partner on her Buddhist retreats (Vietnamese engaged Buddhism), and one of the practices was 'eating meditation.' Each meal, the first 20 min were spent in silence, eating with as much mindfulness as one could muster. I'll never forget the experience of first eating raw red pepper that way! It BURST with flavour! And before eating we'd speak some things about gratitude for those who made the food possible etc... I have rarely been so aware of the farmers and food producers and rarely thought so much about where my food comes from - while eating - as when eating in silence. Even though I grew up on a farm! Mindful eating can be a wonderful practice...

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DDOORN 10/19/2014 8:36AM

    Big challenge for me as 1) I have one of the world's WORST dental bites, but I'm 2) ALWAYS chowing & plowing through veggies, mostly raw. Generally I'm the slowest eater in a group of people, yet I feel that I'm always rushing, never enough time, etc. Life generally goes at such a pace that I'm rushing through everything.

Don

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SWEDE_SU 10/19/2014 6:21AM

    thanks for sharing - an interesting way of reframing the approach to eating!

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DOGLADY13 10/18/2014 10:58PM

    I enjoyed some frozen blackberries a little while ago. I especially noticed the tart notes.

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PAMAPPLE 10/18/2014 6:34PM

    Thank you for summarizing your experience with Beck, and today's taking time to enjoy your food one bite at a time, chewing thoroughly, swallowing, then loading your fork with another savory bite. I will practice this tonight when eating my dinner, and be mindful of this at other mealtimes.

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POSITIVEHOPE 10/18/2014 5:58PM

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DSHONEYC 10/18/2014 3:32PM

    emoticon Yes, you are worth it!

Yes the good food is worth the time to enjoy, savor and meditate upon.

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ROXYZMOM 10/18/2014 3:08PM

    You are worth it! And I am so appreciative that you are sharing your experience. This morning, as I was hurrying to get the boat packed up - and hubby on my heels! - I realized I hadn't eaten breakfast. I quickly warmed up a hard boiled egg and veggie sausage, cut them up at the counter...then--this thought came to mind "wait -- gotta sit down to eat"!

Thanks!!

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SLENDERELLA61 10/18/2014 12:26PM

    Love this reframing! Yes, I get up usually 45 minutes early so that I can have a leisurely breakfast and enjoy every bite. If I ate my breakfast with Gwen it would be gone and I wouldn't even notice it. Lunch is already with Gwen and I try to enjoy as much as possible, but I make sure my breakfast is savored and almost always supper, too. It helps. A lot.

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NANCY- 10/18/2014 10:38AM

    This was a favorite of mine from Beck. It was how I discovered that I didn't really like something and no longer "Eat" it. Plus it helped me to appreciate fresh local ripe produce.
You are doing great with this refresher.

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BOOKAPHILE 10/18/2014 10:09AM

    "I don't have to eat while I'm eating. I don't have to be loading my fork with the next forkful while I'm chewing this forkful and have barely swallowed the last forkful."

The WAY you phrased this made an impact on me. I wish I'd read it before breakfast, but I'll be practicing it the rest of the day in an extended family setting...always a difficult place for me to be controlled. Perhaps I can out wait and avoid some of the calories I don't need.

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JANTHEBLONDE 10/18/2014 10:04AM

    Wow! That gives me something to think about today....every time I put something in my mouth I will be thinking about your blog! Thanks for sharing! I really needed to hear this today! I hope you have a great day!
Hugs and love,
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CRYSTALJEM 10/18/2014 9:50AM

    One of the hardest things in this fast paced world.

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ALIIDA 10/18/2014 9:39AM

    It's amazing how hard this is! And we need to be disciplined about what we eat but enjoy the food too. The healthy eating has to be pleasurable to be maintained for life.
Thank you again for making me get back to Beck.

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_LINDA 10/18/2014 9:38AM

    Yes, this is my problem too, in spades. But it is tough to mow throw a salad or plate of veggies, so if that is what I am eating I slow down by default. But if its any easy food like carb grains, I am through it zippy quick, which is why I try to avoid them.
Challenges today -eating out for one bridge meeting, dessert and pizza for the bridge celebrations. A day of landmines..

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KALIGIRL 10/18/2014 9:24AM

    Here's to "Getting To"!
Love it!

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FUNLOVEN 10/18/2014 8:41AM

    I just did a blog on this very subject myself! There seems to be several of us who are in the same boat when it comes to the need to slow down.

I love your idea that "Food deserves celebration". I have a party to go to tonight and I am going to keep this in mind with every bite. I think that just looking at each bite and saying "You deserve to be celebrated" might be just enough to slow me down.

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1CRAZYDOG 10/18/2014 8:21AM

    Awesome!

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GABY1948 10/18/2014 8:18AM

    This is also a very BIGGIE for me. I am so thankful you are redoing this program...I'm starting it officially next week when I come home from a trip to my kids'. I shall come back and reread them each day as I work them.

emoticon for the timing.....they are all excellent blogs!

Gaye

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KRISZTA11 10/18/2014 8:15AM

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This is a great attitude.
I wish I could remember and eat like this every day.
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PHEBESS 10/18/2014 7:52AM

    Savour, enjoy, luxuriate in every taste and every bite!!!

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FEEDTHEHUNGER 10/18/2014 7:50AM

    Such a different feeling to the words "I get to..." which connotes a privilege and an exciting one at that. Of course, the incredible variety of food at our fingertips is a huge privilege, one we would be wise to acknowledge by surveying and savoring every bite.

Great blog!

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OSDOWNS 10/18/2014 7:36AM

    Eating mindfully is so hard sometimes. We are worth it!

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ONEKIDSMOM 10/18/2014 7:21AM

    LOVE it. You ARE worth it! emoticon

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SANDICANE 10/18/2014 7:15AM

    Yes you are worth it! We're all worth it! Great blog.

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