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Friday, October 17, 2014

Where to start... who even knows at this point. Let's just cut to the chase, I'm lazy and I've gained 42 pounds back, taking me from the glorious 178 that I had reached last year to the 221 mark where I currently reside. There is no other reason for it besides the fact that I am lazy. Although I must say, I've come up with a pretty hefty list of excuses as to why it's happened...

Excuse #1, I work graveyard shifts, and I don't have the time or energy. I've been on graveyard shifts for close to 4 months now, and it sucks. My eating is haywire because of my sleeping schedule. Some days, I won't eat anything at all because I'll just sleep the entire day away (which I'm guessing is largely due to the fact that I'm so lazy that I have no motivation to stay awake). I'll go to work that night, get off the next morning, and grab about $10-15 worth of junk food. I'll go home, get my kiddo ready for school and take her to the bus, then go park my arse on the couch with the Netflix remote and my bag of crappy food. I'll inhale it all, then go to sleep a few hours later with a mega tummy ache. Generally, I'll repeat the cycle every day. Truth be told, I have the time. I just don't take it because I'm lazy. Lazy is what I've become accustomed to. Anything beyond coming home and relaxing sounds like torture to me. Hell, even thinking about taking a walk around the block makes me cringe. It's not even really on a lazy scale anymore, it's slothful status.

Excuse #2, I live in the country about 35 minutes away from the closest grocery store, so it's nearly impossible for me to keep fresh fruits/veggies on hand at all times. Although this is an excuse, it's one that I kind of stand behind. Is that any reason to still not try and eat as healthy as I can aside from that? Not at all. But you bet your ass I'm using it as a pathetic excuse. Before I moved to CA back in March, I lived in AZ in the city. I had grocery stores all around me. I could go to the store every few days, pick up a batch of produce, and be set for the next few days before I ran out and would go back. Going from having a ton of grocery stores within 5 minutes of you to having nothing even remotely close to you is pretty daunting. I can't really bulk buy fruit, because I am seriously limited on counter space, not to mention I live in the country so bugs/other crap gets in the house easily, and fruit doesn't last THAT long as it is.

Excuse #3, I'm too tired to prepare my meals, and I don't have time. Okay, maybe the too tired thing is slightly true. But I do have the time. Or rather, I could MAKE the time. But the fact is that I don't. Why? Because, I'm lazy. Am I proud of that fact? Not at all. But the sad truth is, it's where I'm stuck right now. It's easy to comfort myself with multiple cups of sweet, creamy coffee while at work to distract myself from the fact that it's friggin 3 am and I want to be at home in my warm bed asleep. It's easy to get off of work and buy a bunch of junk food to eat instantly instead of going home and cooking myself breakfast. It's easy to change into my comfy clothes once I get home and sit on the couch to relax instead of making myself do some kind of physical activity first. Mentally, I'm NOT lazy. Mentally, I think about becoming healthy again. I plan things out while I'm lying in bed, thinking about how at midnight that night, I will start over (I'm at work at midnight, so my days are all wonky, midnight begins a new day in my mind). Thinking of how once I get off work, I will go home and do some exercise. Or I will cook food to have on hand when I wake up. Do I do any of that? No, it all stays in my head. And the "motivation" or "desire" or whatever it is goes away, only to come back a few days later again.

It's not that I DON'T know how to do this. How to be healthy, how to lose weight, how to cut back... because I do. Any of you that have been following me for long enough, you know that I lost almost 60 pounds last year, and I was rocking the crap out of my healthy lifestyle. What happened? Honestly, I don't know. I could blame the move to CA, the living in the country away from a grocery store, the loneliness from not having any friends out here (except for my parents and my boyfriend and my daughter, I'm a loner)... but the fact is that the laziness started before I ever moved. In fact, it started around December of last year. It probably started with the typical holiday gain (God help me, I do love me some holiday time food), the lack of exercise around that time (because of the holiday gains, I got complacent and comfortable because I was feeling good about my weight loss), and it just continued once I moved, because things got more "difficult". It's like I can hardly even look in the mirror anymore, because I'm repulsed by how I look. I used to never leave the house without makeup, now I can't even count the number of times I've left the house in the past few months barefaced, because I can't bring myself to put any effort into looking nice. All I want to do is sleep and be lazy. I'm pretty sure at this point, I'm in a bit of a depression about how far I've let myself go. And I know that's what it is, because I really have nothing else to be sad about. My daughter is doing wonderful in school (she started this year), I have a boyfriend who loves and supports me through everything (and has taken the father role with my daughter, which is FANTASTIC), parents who live nearby and are able to help me with whatever I need, a full time job (although it is INSANELY stressful with the way it's run and how short staffed we are)... the only thing I'm unhappy with is myself, because I know I'm better than this. I KNOW that I know how to do this, but the fact that I'm NOT doing it is really getting to me. And yet, I can't seem to break out of this lazy rut and try. And I want to, believe me, I do. None of my clothes fit, hell, even my fat pants are tight. My work clothes are tight. Even my comfy clothes fit bad! I jiggle all over the place, I have NO muscle whatsoever, I feel like I'm suffocating in my fatness...but what do I do? I continue to be lazy and stuff my face of course. Because I'm so wrapped up in this lazy spiral, anything else feels like torture. It feels impossible. It feels like something I can never achieve.

Am I looking for sympathy? No, not really. Because I know I was the one who brought this upon myself. I know that I am the one who let myself get out of control again, and I know that I am the one who is keeping myself here. Do I know how to get off of this crazy carousel and hop back on the healthy horse? Yes... I do. But as we all know, KNOWING and DOING are 2 completely different things. One is easy, one is hard. It's easy to think, but to put thoughts into actions is a whole different ball game. All I know is that I'm tired of feeling like this. I'm tired of hating myself for how I look now. I'm tired of trying to look nice for my man and feeling like I just look like a sloppy blob. I'm tired of looking in the mirror and just being disgusted with everything that I see. Somehow I have to get motivated to do this again, because vanity aside, I can feel the toll it's taking on my body. I have bad tummy troubles, indigestion, knee pain...etc. The onslaught of fast and furious weight gain is what did it. Now I just have to figure out how to knock sense into myself and reverse this process before it goes any further in the wrong direction....

Steps 1 and 2 are to get active on Spark again, and get my eating under control. I would LOVE if anyone has helpful advice to send my way, especially if there are any people out there who work graveyard shifts or HAVE worked graveyard shifts, and can give me some pointers on how to work a healthy lifestyle around crazy weird work hours. I've missed you all, and I'm so sorry that I've been away for so long. I hope there are still some of you out there who are still willing to support me.

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TENS_GIRL75 10/30/2014 11:08AM

    We are like two peas in a pod! I just came back to SP after disappearing back in May. I am in the same boat as you. Last year I got down to 155 from 180...it was my lowest weight since before I had my middle daughter. Then the holidays hit and I got complacent. I figured once the weight came off it would stay off magically without work. Boy was I wrong! I had a real hard time getting back in. I would walk some, maybe eat a little better but without fail I would fall back into laying on the couch watching tv.
I used to work nights for 7 years and it does make eating difficult. My suggestion is to forget about the traditional titles of "breakfast", "lunch", ect. When you get up for work, make breakfast (even if it's 9 at night), pack a healthy lunch with lots of snacks. It easy to get munchy when it the middle of the night. Eat "dinner" before you leave work or about 3 hours before you go to bed...just like you would if you had a normal schedule.
I joined WW about a month ago and purchased their "Activelink" device during a flash sale. I wear it all day and it automatically converts my activity into points.
Also, check out DailyBurn...I joined this week with a 30 day trial and love it. The "True Beginner" program is great for getting back on the wagon! I made the mistake of trying to jump right back into T25 and couldn't walk for a week!
So glad to see you still around!

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KIKKI-G 10/30/2014 12:00AM

    My mom has been on midnights (11pm-7am) as long as I can remember. Over the years,she has complained that an eating schedule is difficult & she definitely eats less than she should therefore not losing weight. She is a nurse so she is pretty active all night but has settled into schedule of waking up around 2pm then she goes to Curves.

I know it's difficult girl. Big changes and stress make it tough & I couldn't imagine being without much social support but you can do this.
I fell of the wagon recently because of my licensing exam.I didn't want the stress or time constriction of trying to fit workouts in while i had to study & gained some weight from stress eating & not working out.
We all fall down but we have to get back up again. You deserve a better self.
I'm so jealous of the climate you live in! geeeze, send it up here!

if you need another sweaty work out face off, just holla at ;P

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BANDITOBOY 10/28/2014 10:41AM

    Okay, so I don't, and have never, worked graveyard shift, but I can be lazy, and it just feeds off of itself. I can help you with the healthy meals. You have to prepare several at a time. Every Sunday evening, I make myself put together four salads for lunches. The wet ingredients go on the bottom, which in my case are dressing, tomatoes, cucumber and green pepper. I use 1/4 of a large tomato, cucumber and green pepper in each one. Then I add 2.5 oz of shredded chicken (which I cooked in the crockpot on Saturday night), then some radish sticks, then broccoli slaw, and finally some spring mix. I bring along 2 T of roasted pumpkin seeds in a baggie (I have these all bagged up ahead of time too). I pre-measure some Uncle Sam cereal and walnuts in little baggies to add in my yogurt. Each evening, I mix 1/2 cup non-fat plain greek yogurt and a few drops of stevia in a mug, add a half cup of frozen fruit, cover with plastic wrap and put in the fridge with my salad fixings, granola, piece of string cheese and snack size baggie of grapes, which I washed, dried, and bagged on Saturday. I get 7 or 8 baggies of them ready for the week. This is the food I have to eat at work, and do 99% of the time since we don't have a cafeteria. I make a Beachbody shake with banana for breakfast and that leaves me dinner to worry about. Since I've eaten so well all day, and feel beat when I get home, I can have avocado or PB toast, or a Lean Cuisine, or a grilled cheese on my George Foreman. Sometimes I just have to "suck it up" and make the salads on Sunday night when I don't feel like it. I have all of the ingredients, and knowing that I'll be done for the 4 lunches then helps with the motivation.

If had a hard time getting motivated to exercise in the mornings lately because I haven't been sleeping so well. I'm hopefully on track again, but I have to "pop" out of bed when the alarm goes off without thinking about it. If I hit snooze, it's all over.

Good luck getting back into the swing of things. It is tough once you've fallen back into old habits. Time to make some new ones!

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NEWLEAF16 10/28/2014 2:20AM

    So so so happy to see you here! Once again I read your blog and just think "Get outta my head!!" wow - it is amazing how squarely you hit the nail on the head. I have been there, right there, so may times.

I wish I had some advice on graveyard shift or other unusual hours to share but I have not had that experience. I do hope you will be able to find something that works well for you or that someone will have some tips to share.

I do work two jobs though, and I often come home late and exhausted. I am about to list some things that have helped me to get through, and I do hope you will find something in them that helps you. I also think you probably know a lot of this already, and I sure can relate to the difference between knowing and doing!! It is one of my biggest challenges and I often ask myself why, if I know what to do why can't I seem to do it? I will tell you what has helped me just in case, I wish I could offer some insight into how to move into "action" . It is hard to describe but right now I am just 'there' in the 'I am doing this' mindset. And it is working. but I am scared for the day I come home and put on pj's and order food and then keep doing that for months on end. I simply seem to be "doing it" or "not doing it" and it is hard to put a finger on what flips the switch between the two, I am working on figuring that out. But for now I am managing to do these things and it is working for me:

One thing that helps me is to do a 'batch cooking' on a day I only work one of the jobs, I do a crock pot meal that cooks on low for 8 hours while I work. It;s minimal prep and I come home to warm, home made food and it makes enough to last for several days.

On a day off from both jobs I do a big pot of soup and a bunch of chicken breasts. Those help to get through the week for sure. Once the prep is done the soup just does it's thing on the stove and the chicken just bakes in the oven. on a good day I clean or exercise at my apt while the food cooks - but most days I sit and read or watch tv while it cooks and figure I am not completely wasting time, after all i AM cooking!

Lack of grocery store is awful - I feel your frustration there. Can you get frozen fruits and veggies? Frozen fruit is great in smoothies, and frozen veggies have close to the same nutritional content as fresh.

I am not about to cook a big meal in the morning - I admit it. Getting up and to work on time is the hardest part of my day. My go-to breakfasts are toasted Ezekiel english muffin with almond butter and banana or greek yogurt with berries and a few chopped nuts (I do like frozen berries for this because the juice flavors the yogurt nicely), or microwaved oatmeal with cinnamon and raisins. All quick quick quick.

Anyway, thanks so much for writing this blog. Sorry for the long reply but hope something in it will be helpful. You will always have my support and I love reading what you have to say.

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WHOVIAN3 10/22/2014 12:58PM

    Hey girl!! You sound just like me! read my latest blog : ) Sucks to fail once again!! My problem is as yours, I am Lazy and do not want to put in the work and eat good! I do not like eating good! pretty sad and pathetic huh? But hey I am back at it slowly. Logging in and tracking for now. Hey you current with Who? u like the new Doc?

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STEPH-KNEE 10/22/2014 8:04AM

    You can do this, 1 day 1 pound at a time. I will tell you (I haven't been ready to talk about it yet cuz it's the first week) but I started Weight watchers last week. Why would someone has lost 80 pounds and kept it off want to get help now? Because it's exactly what was going on with you "I know how to do this, but I'm obviously not doing it right now". If I was, I woul dhave lost the last 30 pounds already... so I told them exactly that. I know exactly what to do, but I need the in face accountability to get this show on the road. It is still the first week, but I feel recharged and ready to go, I hope it lasts. So glad to see you back, that is half the battle and I know you will get the ball rolling in the right direction again. emoticon

I work 12 hour graveyard shifts, and I am more than used to it now, I hope you are able to get a little more accustomed to it in time. emoticon

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STRONGCOURAGE 10/18/2014 6:38PM

    Let me say this. Its good you wrote this blog!!! Its ok. Sometimes writing down things help other things surface you didn't expect or wouldn't dare to admit aloud. For me, when I reached 248...my big 20 plus size pants were *tight*. I was NOT going to see 250 mark. I was SUPER scared when it dawned on me thats where I was...I had avoided the mirror, the camera...and suddenly I just saw a lot of "little" things that were actually significant unhealthy in my life--short of breath so fast, trouble tieing my shoe...getting in and out of a car...I couldn't do things gracefully anymore (not that I'm a ballet dancer, ha! I'm a clutz! :D but you get my jist...) But really it was me being scared and realizing I made this mess and it was going to just get worse if I didn't step up & take responsibility! I was SUPER freaked out to exercise. But I started with that something small--get a 15 minute walk in each day. That was my goal. I also started with a hard but *helpful* task of thinking of 3 things I really liked about my body. I realized in this process I actually loathed/hated my body/myself...and hence began a journey of loving, and discovering value & respect for me! Girl, I was miserable back then...please know you are worth more than where you are right now. Take an honest look at yourself and find three things you DO love about yourself, 3 things you DO love about your body. Just start somewhere, small...buy 1 bunch of banans onces a week. At least you'll get fruit in some days. Keep your goals small, doable and then be proud as heck about them! You do this for YOU, because you are precious, valuable...worth SO much more than you realize right now. Cheering for you & sending you hugs! (& a bowl of fresh vegggies :) emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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IAMZBEE 10/18/2014 10:56AM

    I'm happy to see you back here. You know you can always count on me for support.

Here's an idea: when do you watch the new Who episodes Why not do some simple workouts during commercials, like sits ups, planks, and squats. OR! Every time someone says 'The Doctor,' you do 5 jumping jacks? emoticon

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WEEPINGANGEL74 10/18/2014 10:42AM

    You sound like me! I'm in the same place. You might consider going to your doctor to be treated for depression. Not an easy conversation but it has started working for me. Good luck!

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SOJOCHICK 10/18/2014 10:35AM

    You've got this! The real first step is acknowledging you have work to do, and you've done that! I lived way out of town (like you) for the past year and I understand the problems of grocery shopping. Frozen fruits and veggies are your friend! And dry beans are easy to make and freeze for easy use later! Spark is here for you!

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MISSUSRIVERRAT 10/18/2014 8:46AM

    Welcome back ! I really never worked nights for long, so can't comment on that.
I do live in the country though. I buy a lot of frozen fruits and vegetables.
I figure that these were picked fresh and at their prime and are even better for you than some of the sickly stuff at the grocery store that came from far away, was picked green, and has been sitting somewhere for a few weeks.
I really don't like to cook and will use very simple recipes. When I started on Spark a few years ago, I started with The Simple Diet, which uses meal replacements.
You might want to check that out. It was just so refreshingly simple and easy.
I really liked it for a long time and got good results. I kind of felt it was the cheap & easy version of some of the more expensive meal programs like Nutrisystem.
I have branched out some from this, but still keep food preparation simple.
I also developed my home-based exercise program using free weights, bands, & DVD's. I also walk and do a lot of yard work.

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JAM314 10/17/2014 5:47PM

    Welcome back!
I went from glorious 165 to 202 by thinking I didn't have to be diligent and being lazy.

I used to work bad hours, and would default to frozen meals with microwaveable veggies, fruit, nuts, oatmeal, and nutrition bars. emoticon

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THELILEA 10/17/2014 5:47PM

    I feel you, girl!!!!! I relate in the struggles. It sounds like a lot of new challenges. But, the biggest is your frame of mind, and it seems like you are making great strides in that right now! WELCOME BACK!! let's get back to who we want to be TOGETHER!

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LILSUZY1057 10/17/2014 5:33PM

    OMGosh! This could have been a blog that I had written. Everything you wrote has been true with me except for the third shift. I can absolutely be LAZY!!! And it is lazy, not tired or uneducated or anything else. Just like you, when I go to bed at night I lay there thinking of all the things I'm going to start doing the next day and I get all excited about it only to think it is too much effort to actually do it the next day.

I think you are on the right track though by getting back with Spark People. For some reason, getting those Spark Points seems to motivate me and knowing that some of my Spark Friends keep track of me also makes me accountable. Even though you know the whole program, maybe you should jump back in a little at a time. Baby steps are a lot easier than a full out marathon for me, at least in the beginning.

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ARUNNINGKAT 10/17/2014 5:09PM

    So glad to see you back! You can count on my support 110%! I understand some of what you are feeling and going through. I have been there a bit myself in some ways, at least when it comes to knowing what needs to be done, but just not getting around to it. Ugh!

I don't have experience on working graveyard, but one thing I thought of while reading your grocery store dilemma is the option of freezing fresh fruit. Maybe eat it fresh for a few days and then freeze the rest. It can then be made into smooties that are choke full of fruit. It's not as good as fresh, but it is better than nothing. Just a thought.

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SLIMMERJESSE 10/17/2014 4:22PM

    I understand this so well. Just stay on the right track, even with baby steps. I love that song, btw. (smiling)

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AKPIPER 10/17/2014 4:14PM

    Hi there, glad you've come back to Spark. I myself work nights and have for the last 3 yrs. I dropped almost 30 lbs almost 2yrs or so ago, but somehow managed to regain it and then some. I got down to my lowest of 282 then ballooned back to 315. I can totally relate to what your saying in your blog. It's the work / sleep cycle and it's hard to break it. i work 11-730am, but sometimes am at work till after 8am. I come home and will sometimes take a walk with my fiance, but majority of time will come home make coffee and play online. So like you, there is time, were just not making the most of it. Making healthier choices will benefit us in the end. I'm here on spark almost everyday so feel free to message me or send me spark mail anytime. When it comes to taking stuff to work, I attempt to take fruits / veges. my own bread for toast. Some stuff and in the morning after work, I'll have some yogurt or something small. Sometimes I'll make us breakfast, which isn't always healthy. emoticon emoticon Just gotta get back into that positive thinking. Good luck! And have a wonderful day.

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Caught in a trap...

Wednesday, May 28, 2014

I can't walk out!

Hello ssparkles... long time no talk! I apologize in advance for spelli any mistakes, I'm typing this on my lovely touchscreen phone, and as we all know, touchscreen can play havoc on words.

Anyway, I'm struggling (I know, big shocker).. I should actually be asleep right now since I have to get up early for work, but my mind is just racing right now, so sleep isn't really happening.

So those of you that have been around long enough to really know me, know that I lost almost 60 lbs last year, purely through healthy eating, portion control, treats in moderation, and exercise. Unfortunately, most of you also know that I gained a little over half of it back, and I'm still hanging on to that gain. At the beginning of this year, when I still worked at Target, I was introduced to Herbalife by a girl that I worked with. I bought quite a bit of it, and have been trying to do it off and on for months now. The longest stretch of time that I've managed to stay on track was 14 days. I know what you're all thinking, that I bought into the typical "fast fix" idea. I'm not stupid, I know that there is no such thing as a fast fix to a life long problem.. but for some reason, even though drinking shakes for 2 of my meals a day is SO easy, I can't seem to stick with it. I don't know if it's that I miss actually EATING and CHEWING food, or if I just feel too much pressure to adhere to the program... I'm not sure what it is. But I just cannot seem to keep my head in the game. I fall off the Wagon for weeks at a time before getting back on. Not healthy in the slightest. I feel like crap most of the time because I'm jerking my body so violently between being super healthy and being super gluttonous. I know that although the healthy eating + exercise way is harder, takes longer, and sometimes is a lot more time consuming, it works. I know from experiwnce. I think a lot of my problem is fear.. I'm afraid to lose a lot of weight again, because whose to say I won't screw up and gain it all back plus more again? Negative thinking is my biggest downfall. It's also the hardest thing to work on...

I know this isn't even a very coherent sounding blog. It's mostly a jumbled mess that was in my head and had to come out.. I guess I'm looking for some affirmation or even all your thoughts on this.. or even maybe ideas of how to stop being afraid and start believing in myself again.. even the thought of exercise is terrifying, and I used to be a freaking machine. It's sad, really, how far I've retreated into my dark and obese days.

I'm also sorry I haven't been around much.. not having Internet at my house is taking a huge toll on my ability to get online all the time. Stupid limited phone data and whatnot. Hopefully there's still some of you out there who believe in me, and are willing to support me. I miss you all!!

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TENS_GIRL75 6/19/2014 11:47PM

    I keep coming back to Spark to see how your doing! I am in the same boat as you sister. I lost 20 pounds back before the holidays, fell off the boat and just can't get back on. I had a great run in April where I lost 7 pounds (after gaining 15 of the 20 back) but have since gained that 7 back. Life just seems to get in the way for me. I'm starting a new day position at the end of the month. I'm hoping that will help get me back on track. I have to add you on FB...us Whovians need to stick together!

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CAFALL 6/17/2014 2:47PM

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CAFALL 6/17/2014 2:46PM

    What I do, when I decide to really start over again (which I'm doing now, incidentally) is pick one thing to focus on. When that thing doesn't require thought or effort anymore, then I keep doing that thing and pick another thing, and go on that way. First I was focusing on drinking a ton of water. Now I'm trying to actually eat at least five servings of fruit and veggies a day. That's getting easier, so I'm trying to think of how to start exercising again.

Good luck, strength, and perseverance to you as you get back into it. :)

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EMMY_DUCKIE149 6/2/2014 8:09PM

    If you liked the ease of it, perhaps sub it in for breakfast only?

Baby steps! Maybe write down one positive thing a day?

You can do it!

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NOTGVGUP83 6/2/2014 10:59AM

    Good to see you blog regardless of your mood! You're so ambitious and a true fighter. You're not alone on this up and down roller coaster. I think negative mentality is also what holds me back. It sucks to know that we once lost XX amount of weight just to gain most of it back and we can't get a grip of getting back into the groove of things! I believe in you. You have to find balance. I think if you quit thinking so much about it and just do the best you can everyday without beating yourself up you're going to start a good cycle again! I'm about to order some new dvd's and then when I get back from my mini weekend vacation start back up! You did it once, you havent given up and you're going to find your balance soon and get grooving! Keep your head up, I know you can do this!!!!! emoticon

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KIKKI-G 5/28/2014 10:28PM

    You've got this!!!! sometimes we just take on too much at once. you just experienced a huge life change but gradually things will fall back into normalcy & getting back to it will be so easy! slow & steady wins the race! do i need to send you another workout sweaty selfie??hahaha i will if it will help!

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AMBERLICIOUS88 5/28/2014 4:24PM

    I'm still here for ya sista! And sooooo there too! It's the balance we are having trouble finding. It seems to just happen when it happens. It's still in your mind tho. That's the biggest thing. When we completely stop thinking about it and caring about it is when we go back to being obese. You still have lost 30 some lbs right? Still further ahead than you were when you started right? I bet you are firmer and have more muscle than when you started too. Consistency seems to be the toughest thing to conquer and we all have to find our own way to do it. You WILL figure this out. Have faith in yourself :)

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UWPALUM 5/28/2014 2:13PM

    Your story is SO my story right now. I'm back to every bad habit I've ever had, and I know better! But when I am in the darkness of those habits and the feelings they bring with them, it's just hard to get back out.

But you can absolutely do it. I can do it as well. I've gained back most of the 90 pounds I lost last year I'm embarrased to say. Time to turn it around and get back on track. It's so easy to go back to the bad habits and get off track. But that stops now, right?

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NEWLEAF16 5/28/2014 1:21PM

    Great to see you! Sorry to hear you are struggling, whenever you write a blog I just feel like you are reading my mind. You have it in you to start again, and eventually break this cycle, I know you do! I have the same cycle going on too and know how frustrating and infuriating it can be. Hang in there, and thanks again for sharing your journey even when you are struggling!!!!!

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ARUNNINGKAT 5/28/2014 12:10PM

    Oh, yes! I definitely still believe in you! We all have our struggles and I know the feeling that fear is playing with your mind. I have that sometimes too, but like you I have a very hard time determining what is actually causing it. Just staying on track should be so easy, but sometimes it just is not. Unfortunately, I don't have any great solutions for you (yet!) because I am working to figure it out for myself. But you are determined and I know that the same determination that helped you lose the weight last year will help you again. emoticon

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CHODGES83 5/28/2014 12:03PM

    I think we have all been right where you are. I know it has been a long journey for myself learning what works for me and wanting to actually do what works. I still struggle with doing what I know is best for me. The biggest thing I've learned is not to shame myself or feel guilty about anything. I make the choices. It's about learning to have healthy relationship with your body. emoticon

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GYPSYGOTH 5/28/2014 10:09AM

    So sorry to hear you are struggling! I know that I could not consistently take in two of my meals in liquid-only form. Depressing to even consider emoticon

You are so young and I suspect that you are looking at this as "I want to be skinny" or "I want to be x weight." -- I really hope that you can try a bit more to focus on HEALTH rather than weight. Exercise because it's great for your body. Choose fresh produce because your body craves it-- more than your brain craves chips or sweets, but you have to override that habit.

You can do it! Hope you find your rope to pull yourself up out of that hole!

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PENNYLANE15 5/28/2014 9:29AM

    I've been there! For a year I bounced back and forth , gaining and losing. It's very frustrating. Took me awhile to recommit hardcore but when it finally happened I just kept going & tried my best to avoid falling off again. Just keep pushing. What worked for me was I scheduled "cheat days" once-twice a month. Gave me something to look forward to. You can do it!!!

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SLIMMERJESSE 5/28/2014 9:15AM

    You'll do this when you're ready and make up your mind. Have a wonderful day.

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BAZOOKABOBCAT 5/28/2014 9:12AM

    There is no failure. And ultimately, there's no "success". This is just your life. You can't fail because you're going to constantly move. And your life is not affirmed by what you eat or how much you exercise. Nor is it affirmed by your weight.

When you work out, it is to feel good and to be healthy. Just think of that as your goal. Weight loss isn't religion. You have nothing to confess or admit to. Eat well because it makes you feel well. Move your body because it is a miracle to be able to move it. Just be happy. Eat. Move. Feel good. Those goals you can accomplish.

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CARI2012 5/28/2014 9:09AM

    I completely agree. Your world was practically flipped upside down! I know that you were starting to slip before the move, but soon you will be in a new routine and everything will fall into place. You know that you have the skills necessary to reach your goals, you just have to find the motivation! Hope you're loving your new area :)

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STFRENCH 5/28/2014 8:36AM

    Glad to see you again!

Maybe you need to take baby-steps to get you back in to the swing of things and rebuild your good habits one at a time.

Good luck! Let us know how you do emoticon

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BONOLICIOUS2 5/28/2014 8:18AM

    So glad to hear from you! We're still here too!

I really struggle with even the idea of "meal replacements" - pretty much because of what you described - I swear my stomach doesn't think it has been fed if I don't physically chew and swallow food! It could be part of why you are struggling, no joke!

I also think you have had ALOT of change in your life in the past few months and that can throw you for a loop. Sometimes it can take a while to find your stride again. Hopefully it all starts fitting back together for you soon. In the meantime, we'll wait!

You can doooo it!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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    It is good you are being honest & opening up to others that provided support in the past. That tells me that you are ready to turn the tide, even though you are also expressing being down and disheartened. You did it once...you can do it again.
This time you can STAY at the lower weight. This is something most losers struggle with. There are many people that will be there to fight the battle with you once you get there this time. Maybe you could check out the maintainers team for some inspiration and support. You know you're not happy where you are. But you don't have to stay there. And you really can put behind you the fear that even if you work very, very hard
that you still will end up there again. If you explore the concept of maintenance, maybe you will develop confidence that you can make it happen when the time comes.

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California dreamin'.

Wednesday, April 23, 2014

Heya sparkles, I'm back! Sorry for my extended absence... at first I was avoiding Spark because I was off track (naturally, that's generally always the time that I avoid it), but then before I knew it, moving time was upon me! I'm in CA now, have been for almost 2 weeks (it'll be 2 weeks on Friday). No internet yet, so my contact is limited unless I'm at my parents house using internet (which is what I'm currently doing).

Cali is pretty nice so far. I live out in the country, which is definitely an adjustment, considering that I came from a big city. The scenery is really pretty though, it's a really old town so there is a lot of old abandoned buildings and shop fronts from way back when. It's also really quiet, which I'm still not used to. I go to bed at night listening to crickets, and wake up listening to birds. Quite the change from city/town noises. I live really close to the border (I can see it from my street) so border patrol is around a lot. I actually saw them go by on horseback yesterday, I had to do a double take to make sure of what I was seeing!
I also landed my first ever full time job, pending background check. Super excited (and nervous) about that... but mostly anxious to start working again. It's been a month since I left my last job, boredom has officially set in! I'm looking forward to actually making good money and being able to pay all my bills and whatnot.

Aaaaaand of course in all the craziness, I gained weight. I wasn't even TRYING to not gain. I pretty much ate anything and everything bad, for weeks on end. And the scale is most definitely reflecting it... so instead of doing my usual "jump in head first" approach of getting back on track, I'm trying to take it slowly... Monday I did good until the night time, yesterday I was perfect, and today so far I've been good. Living in the country means there's a LOT of outdoor areas to walk/do outdoor exercises... so I'm forcing myself to take advantage of it. Yesterday I walked/jogged around the lake a couple times. If I can get in the habit of doing that, then slowly I'll progress and add more exercise into it. Food is definitely the big focus though, because that's been beyond out of control. I know that after a week or two of being good, it'll get easier... what sucks is the GETTING THROUGH those few weeks... those first few weeks when you always feel hungry... when you crave the bad stuff... when you just DON'T WANNA workout... but I will keep reminding myself that it will get better... fake it til I make it! I've done it before and I can do it again.

I hope all of you are doing awesome. I will check in when I can, and hopefully I'll start working soon so that I can start getting paychecks! Because paychecks = internet in my house! TTFN!

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GREGGWEISBROD 5/13/2014 11:18AM

    I love following your posts on FB and am definitely thinking of you tons during this big transition in your life! I'm so stink in' happy for you that you landed the job, and hope it goes incredibly well for you. Body health is a life long battle, and you know this as well as anyone, so just keep learning to love yourself, forgive yourself, and make more good days than bad. I never stop rooting for you, Ms. Pond, never. Even if I'm not vocal about it, I always in your corner.

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AHTRAP 4/24/2014 2:29PM

    welcome back

Glad you're getting settled in.

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CHODGES83 4/24/2014 2:25PM

    Happy for a happy report! Sounds like you've got all sorts of fresh start opportunities. Keep channeling that positivity!

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THELILEA 4/24/2014 1:12PM

    So nice to hear from you! Glad you are settling in. Huge transition periods like those are super tough, and I'm sure you'll get back into an awesome routine soon! It sounds like you are in a great environment for getting active!! Can't wait for more updates!! HUG!

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BAZOOKABOBCAT 4/24/2014 9:57AM

    Love to have you back! And I like your small steps! Sounds like a wonderful place to journey outside.

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IAMZBEE 4/24/2014 9:51AM

    YAY! So happy that you're settling in well. emoticon

Moving, especially to a totally new state, is very hard and tiring, and the last thing you want to think about is cooking and planning your meals... It's great that you're taking the opportunity to go outdoors. Way to go, chica!!

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GYPSYGOTH 4/24/2014 9:18AM

    Lucky you! I love California and am totally jealous :P

Enjoy the beautiful nature around you and the new job and everything! emoticon

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NOTGVGUP83 4/24/2014 9:10AM

    It's great to see you back to blogging and sparking! It sounds like you're adjusting very well to your move and that you have a lot of exploring to do. Slowing getting back into the groove of healthy habits is the key so you don't get overwhelmed! WTG on the new job. Keep balancing and staying positive. I hear Cali weather is much nicer than my Texas weather.

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BONOLICIOUS2 4/24/2014 8:19AM

    Aw yayyyy! This sounds so happy and good! Congrats! I bet it is WARM where you are too right?! Jealous!

Sounds like you have so many good things going for you & this is a great opportunity for all kinds of fresh starts - health & weight loss included! Channel that positive change girl!

So happy to hear from you, can't wait to continue to hear how much you love this job and your new life!!!!!!

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RAINA413 4/24/2014 2:20AM

    Good luck with the new job! I am sure that you will get it if all they need to do is a background check. Obviously you aren't a felon or psycho killer! Ha!! Ha!!

As for the gain, not to make excuses, but moving is severely stressful, so it is not unsurprising, however, I am thrilled to hear you are making the most of your new home town with walking and jogging around the lake, etc. I am sure you will be right back on track before you know it!!

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WHOVIAN3 4/23/2014 11:03PM

    good to see you sparking again!

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KIKKI-G 4/23/2014 9:41PM

    Good to hear that things are looking up. I look forward to getting back to a simpler life vs city life for sure. Super jealous of your weather & would definitely be taking advantage!!! But I know you got this & slow & steady does win the race.

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DEBADEAU 4/23/2014 7:20PM

    Glad to see you are back!! You're going to do amazing!

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ARUNNINGKAT 4/23/2014 7:14PM

    So good to hear from you! Good luck on the job! I know you will be completely back on track with your weight loss and inspiring us all very soon! I am slightly jealous of your close access to a lake! emoticon

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JADED_CHICK19 4/23/2014 6:46PM

    Glad you're back on spark because now I have my best cheerleader back! We can do this! Here's to getting healthy again! :)


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NIMIRRA137 4/23/2014 6:10PM

    Great to hear from you! I have been wondering but knew you had the move coming up. Good luck with the prospective job!

Taking the healthy lifestyle, fitness, weightloss one day at a time is the way to go. Eventually you may look forward to your walk/jogs around the lake! Keep up the good work.

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REBECKY441 4/23/2014 5:36PM

    Glad your back! I'm a California Girl too... always been. I live in No. Calif. and love to hear the sounds of nature. Although I actually hear wild turkeys and the neighbor's roosters in the morning to wake me up! I'm glad to see you are enjoying your new environment... and hope that new environment will soon include paychecks that will equal internet! :)

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I can feel it coming in the air tonight.

Tuesday, March 11, 2014

Well, I'm happy to report that today is day 9 of my "back on track" streak!! Being back at Zumba feels AMAAAAAAAAAAZING. The first couple classes were ridiculously hard. I remembered most of the moves, but oh my gosh... my grace had pretty much all disappeared... as well as my flexibility.. and my ability to move... I pretty much gallumphed around like a baby calf for the whole hour, and left feeling frustrated (but still happy). It's only been about a week, but the classes are already getting easier again. I'm going to go and do a R.I.P.P.E.D class tonight, so I think it's safe to say that I'll be pretty sore tomorrow!

I won't be as small as I had hoped in time for Vegas (which is 17 days away, WOOOOOOOOOOO), but that's just something I have to deal with. I think I've got all my clothes shopping done. I FINALLY found a maxi skirt that is the PERFECT length, which is amazing because I'm short and usually maxi skirts devour my lower half and make it look like a have a wedding train. Found some shirts, a bathing suit, flip flops.. So all I can do is be as good as I can with food and exercise until we go, and then just accept how I look while I'm there. All that matters is that I'll be having a blast with my sister! I plan on having an amazing time no matter what I weigh. And naturally, we will take a gajillion pictures to show everyone. I wish it was sooner, but time will fly!!

In other news... the move to CA is quickly approaching, and I'm getting nervous. My last day at Target should be two weeks from today. The house I'll be renting in CA is being renovated.. moving plans are being made... I can't believe it's all actually happening...and so quickly. I'm hoping it's a blessing in disguise, and not a mistake. I guess in the long run, I will find out. I can't wait to actually see the house in person, instead of just through pictures. I hope it's as awesome as my parents told me it is!

Anyway, tata for now Sparkles. Hope everyone is having a good week!

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EMMY_DUCKIE149 3/16/2014 9:49PM

    Think positive, happy thoughts! Get HYPE!

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AHTRAP 3/14/2014 11:23PM

    Good luck with the move...I hadn't caught that bit...you think maybe the stress of the thought of packing up and moving might have had something to do with knocking you off track for a bit?

Either way, you're back on the right track...keep it rolling that way!

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RAVEN_SKY 3/14/2014 9:03PM

    Congrats on your streak, awesome!
Love that you have such a positive outlook on things and taking it as it comes. Zumba was always hard for me, I never felt coordinated and usually get confused. But no matter what it is a great workout and I always felt amazing afterwards. Good luck on your move :)

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BRADMILL2922 3/13/2014 3:33AM

    Things are moving right along for you, aren't they? Good for you, you deserve it! You are right, time will fly until vacation and until the move. They will be here in no time! You will have a great time on vacation! Keep up that streak and keep working hard!

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CHODGES83 3/12/2014 2:24PM

    Sending good vibes that this move is just what you need! A change can be just the thing to turn you around...not that you're headed in the wrong direction...just that it may help you stay motivated being closer to family. Anyway, I'm sending you good vibes.

Definitely don't stress about Vegas. You are going to have a blast! Besides the only person worried about your weight in Vegas will be you! Everyone else will be too worried about what they look like. Actually, you won't be worried about it because you are going to be having too much fun!

In my best Kristen Wiig voice:
Ready to par-teeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

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GREGGWEISBROD 3/12/2014 1:36PM

    The mental image of a skirt eating your legs is making me laugh out loud for reals! :-D You know, I'm just so happy that you'll at least be heading to Vegas with feelings of pride in yourself for having gutted it out the last couple of months and have come out strong and re-focused. You're all the hero you need, all the hero you'll ever need. Remember that always. I'm so excited to see what this new chapter brings in your life, and really excited to see you out and running in those fab shoes! :-D Please don't ever hesitate to hit me up for advice with running, it would be my absolute pleasure to share whatever I can. *HUGS* Have a great rest of your week, Ms. Pond!

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NEWLEAF16 3/12/2014 11:58AM

    Congrats on the 9 days (and counting) streak!!! Have a great vacation and hope all goes well with the move

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WHOVIAN3 3/12/2014 10:02AM

    glad you are back on track! Dont stop!

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BONOLICIOUS2 3/12/2014 9:01AM

    Okay, fellow shorty here, where did you find a maxi skirt that doesn't look like a kid wearing her mother's oversized clothes?!?!??!

Awww I must have missed this upcoming move, but that sounds like a GREAT opportunity for a fresh start! I hope that is what it is for you - a nice fresh start with lots of open doors for you! What part of CA - because I hear the weather can be amazing there so you'll have lots of sunshine to get you going!

I was just talking about weight + vacations with another sparkie. I think the only people that TRULY will care about what your weight is on your vacation will be YOU. Everyone else is a complete stranger just trying to have a fun vacation, not focused on picking you out on your weight. Let yourself forget about that for a minute, just have fun, and when you get back you'll like the pictures not because you are "skinnier" but because you have a genuine happy smile on your face. HAVE FUN!

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SWEETNEEY 3/12/2014 8:46AM

    There are no mistakes just experiences. I love Zumba - I still galump around.

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BAZOOKABOBCAT 3/12/2014 8:45AM

    hahaha! Love the "baby calf" metaphor. Sounds kind of adorable, actually!

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YAEME79 3/12/2014 3:49AM

    If I go even a few days w/o exercise or any physical activity I have to start all over it seems. I am very uncoordinated! I get mad at people that can jump right back in like they never missed a day

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DEBADEAU 3/11/2014 7:55PM

    Baby calf? Iím crying laughing! Youíre doing SO great!! Nine days and counting. I wonder what your new streak will be! Iím happy youíve found your way back, and glad that we are in this together. Cali will be lucky to have you! This move will be a good thing :)

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NIMIRRA137 3/11/2014 7:03PM

    First off, love the song from the title of this blog! Second off, great job with your streak! You're doing awesome.

Be sure to take lots of pictures in Vegas. You'll have a blast and hopefully you won't even worry about whether you're as small as you had hoped or not. The size of your body shouldn't determine how much fun you have while in Las Vegas.

Good luck with your move.

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ARUNNINGKAT 3/11/2014 6:39PM

    Congrats on the 9 day streak! I don't know that I will ever be graceful at Zumba, but I always enjoy it anyway. emoticon Which reminds me that I should get back to attending a Zumba class at least once a week.

I am excited for you on your upcoming trip! I am sure you are going to have the best time ever!

Moving is super scary sometimes, but I am sure that it will turn out to be a great thing for you! And I agree with RAINA413, we need photos! emoticon

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RAINA413 3/11/2014 6:21PM

    So thrilled for you!!! Nine days and counting! that is an awesome streak! And just think of all the walking and swimming you will be doing in Vegas. Don't forget to track it because it all counts!
I have to ask, what is a R.I.P.P.E.D class? Sounds interesting. i might want to try that. Goodness knows I tried Zumba because of you, too!

Good luck with your move to CA. I think this will be a good thing for you. A fresh start and a new beginning. Plus, with all the good weather it gives you that much more opportunity to get outside and move around walking, jogging, mowing the lawn...whatever! At least you won't be cooped up indoors or stuck only going to the gym. You can get in extra fitness elsewhere to keep on track and to keep things from getting stale. Can't wait to read your blog all about the house. Hope you will post photos!

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The dreaded shame spiral.

Sunday, March 02, 2014

Ah yes, the old shame spiral. We all know it. It's that cycle that starts when you slip up and gain a few pounds back. You get angry, and instead of working to reverse the negative, you keep adding to it. You eat more, and workout less. Is it a punishment to yourself? In my case it is. Instead of reaching out for help, you lock it away in your shame box, and continue to pack on the pounds. You don't go back to classes, because you don't want everyone to see the weight you've put back on. You avoid all weight loss talk, because you don't want to admit how bad you've slipped (even though it's visually obvious). And so you continue to be depressed. Continue to pack in the food until you can't even breathe. And then you cry, because none of your clothes fit anymore. You pull out your fat clothes again, and cry at how uncomfortably they fit. You cry over how you look. You cry over how you feel. And STILL, instead of asking for help, you continue to hide it. You continue to eat. WHY? I don't know, I wish I did.

I lost my way during the holiday season. And I know I'm not the only one, a lot of people did. The difference between them and me, is that I'm STILL wandering blindly. I eat and eat and eat until I can't breathe and I feel like I'm going to throw up. I don't exercise, because months of bad food have made me feel so sluggish that I don't want to do anything but sleep or sit on the couch. I've gained about 30ish pounds back since October. May not seem like much, but it's about half of what I had lost. I know it's visually obvious. I don't feel pretty, I don't feel special (I feel special when I'm losing weight. Weight lossers really are a special and elite group, because it's such a hard thing to accomplish in my eyes). I feel like nothing but an enormous failure. It's not a fun feeling. It's a miserable one! I've tried to take steps to get back on track. But being this far off the wagon makes everything feel impossible. There was a time where I was BLAST through my workouts, and LOVE it. I would feel INCREDIBLE and couldn't wait to do it the next day again. Now? The thought of even putting out my workout clothes is horrific. Especially because they definitely show how far I've backtracked. Everything seems unattainable, even the simplest task (like not drinking soda).

But, the fight is STILL not over for me. There's been a couple times these past few months where I think "I guess this is over, I guess I'll just continue to gain weight until I tip the scales at 400 pounds and everyone points and laughs at me". But I know in the back of my mind, that won't happen. I wouldn't let it. Because even at this point, with as much progress as I've lost, I still haven't given up. I may be failing consistently with getting back on track, but yet I'm still trying. This is my last month in Tucson, so tomorrow, I plan to go back to Zumba. I know it will only be for a month, but I know that Zumba saved my life once already. And I bet that it can do it again. If I can force myself to do a month full of Zumba (initially a force, to get myself moving. I LOVE Zumba), as well as work on my food, I think that I can get back on track. Zumba was what really made me love working out in general, and I think that if I can get that feeling back in my heart and in my mind, then I will remember the rush I get from being healthy. It's going to take time (and probably a bit of stumbling), but even after all this time, I STILL refuse to give up.

I'm sorry to everyone that I've blown off or ignored. I didn't do it to be mean. I did it because when I feel ashamed, I hide from everyone. If any of you are still willing to support me, and haven't given up on me, I would definitely appreciate the love.

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TENS_GIRL75 3/25/2014 10:09AM

    You are not alone. I went off the rails back in December and never got back on. After losing 20 pounds I have gained 15 of them back. I was pretty much in denial until I realized I couldn't button any of the new pants I had bought. I hopped on the scale thinking "oh this won't be bad..." and it was. I know what I have been doing wrong. A couple weeks ago at work I ate a whole bag of donuts by myself, tons of fried chicken strips from the cafeteria, tons of excuses for not working out. So my spiral includes excuses and convincing myself its okay.
When I logged back in after being gone since January I came here first to check how you were doing! So glad to see the move is in progress and we are both getting back on track! emoticon

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BRADMILL2922 3/6/2014 3:19AM

    It really is a terrible cycle that we can fall into. It seems never ending but I promise there is an end. It seems like you are making steps by getting back to Zumba. It seems like you are sticking your hand up through the brush and reaching for that light. You will find it! You will get on track and you WILL do even better than before! I believe it...and I know that deep down that you do as well! Keep your chin up!

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AHTRAP 3/5/2014 7:08PM

    you do realize, don't you, that if weight lossers are a special and elite group, then by dint of having lost weight successfully before, you yourself are special and elite?

Yeah, backsliding happened. To the weight lossers who keep the weight off are the most specialist of those special elites, the Navy Seals of us weight loser types, if you will. Doesn't mean you aren't special and elite, though.

Swing on the spiral, but don't let it drown you. The fun thing about spirals is that you keep going, and you will find yourself facing the other way soon enough. When you get there, get off the spiral and keep going in that (good) direction.

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ASHESS85 3/5/2014 11:09AM

    I feel like your words are coming from my brain! LOL I feel soooo similar. I also started to fall off the wagon in November after my wedding and then with the holidays it really got bad. I think we both know the things we have done wrong and just need to push those silly excuses out the window! It's time to love ourselves again my friend! We can do it! emoticon

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TIGER_LILY_613 3/3/2014 11:25PM

    Shame sometimes distorts reality so much that things look and feel much worse than they really are.

Don't be too hard on yourself. You're doing great by reaching out when you need help. It takes courage to let people in when we feel vulnerable.

Years ago, I slipped badly and didn't ask for help, because I didn't want anyone to think less of me. I let the shame spiral take over and ended up ballooning past my starting point. You're doing the right thing by askign for help.

You have a great attitude. For your zumba class - just show up. Even if it means just being there for 5 minutes the first time. Sometimes all it takes is that first step. Once you're there for a while, things will pick up through force of habit.

You also mentioned in a previous blog that you'd be moving soon. You might be stress-eating - relocating can be very stressful. To make things easier for yourself, try, if you can, to put a system in place that makes things much easier for you. Like batch-cooking on the weekend or locating a nearby store that sells healthy meals, so that you'll have healthy options when the need to eat strikes.

Hang in there. We're here for ya. And I really do believe that you can do this :)

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RAINA413 3/3/2014 3:05PM

    I know just how you feel! I am just getting back to where I was before the holidays as well. It is never easy to get back on track but once you do it just becomes a healthy habit once again. Zumba freaked me out at first. I am so uncoordinated, but if you find a class with fun people and/or a good teacher you really enjoy it because you realize you aren't the only one who feels that way. The best thing about Zumba is that you don't have to be exact...just so long as you keep moving you keep burning! I have to say, it helped get my head back in the game. Shame and hopelessness is something that we all have to recognize as being the toughest challenge, we have all been there, but keep in mind, we are all fighting that fight alongside you. You are not alone!! We are all here to help each other get back onto the right track.

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MAUREENREDUX 3/3/2014 11:44AM

    I am just getting back to where I was before the holidays and I just had a bad weekend so I am trying to pull myself out from making a bad weekend turn into a bad week, a bad month...When I started at the gym in December, I was very intimidated by the classes - especially Zumba, because I didn't think I could do it, was too embarrassed by my lack of coordination, not to mention body shape...but then one day I walked in and tried it. I felt sweaty and exhausted, but great! I made it through the hour. Even the young, fit girls are so inclusive that I begin to forget that I am the uncoordinated old lady in the back row. I now look forward to classes and it has helped tremendously to keep my head in the game. The self flagellation and shame is something that we all have to recognize as being the toughest challenge to master. No apologies necessary---remember that many are fighting the same fight. I hope that something you read today will help propel you back onto the right track.

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AMBERLICIOUS88 3/3/2014 11:34AM

    I know exactly how you feel...but sometimes just going and DOING it is easier than the constant self abuse we give ourselves. I say this of course after a bad wknd of eating and I'm probably about to have a bad lunch too.. :( Go get em tiger..sometimes it's just that first time back that gives you the kick in the butt you need.

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KMK242003 3/3/2014 11:18AM

  This is EXACTLY me! You are so not alone and I congratulate you on not giving up. This is a step by step process and you made the 1st two - reaching out to your support group and then getting back to an exercise you find fun! Get back on track and you will start to feel better about yourself emotionally which will then show on the scale and in the fit of your clothes...YOU CAN DO IT!

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CARI2012 3/3/2014 11:15AM

    If we could all just get our brains to SHUT UP, I think we'd be much better off ;)
Good luck at Zumba today, and for the rest of the month! You've got good things coming, don't ruin them with spending all day beating yourself up!

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WEEPINGANGEL74 3/3/2014 9:34AM

    I'm stuck in the same spiral so I know exactly what you mean and what you are going through!

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ERIC_ANDREW 3/3/2014 7:28AM

    I can only think of all the times I was slipping and you were bugging me to be more consistent and communicative. Guess you'll be getting some more harassment from me. ;-)

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STEPH-KNEE 3/3/2014 7:07AM

    I have been there too many times to count, and it is a rough and awful feeling. I am glad you have a plan to get things moving back in the right direction again. emoticon emoticon

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SKAHONEY4U 3/2/2014 3:12PM

    It's ok! I have faith that whatever you need to finally kick you back into it will be found before you hit 400 pounds! I'm still struggling from after the holidays, too! I gained eight pounds from like October to January. I got back in January, lost those 8 pounds, and then now I am just bouncing back up and hovering around 250. I know I need to track, but it makes me want to stab myself. Every time my fiance mentions calories in a food, I want to hit him too. I'm hungry all the time, and I hate it. I hate raw vegetables and water. I hate swimming now. And walking. And everything. I try to work out, but something always manages to make it so I only do it like once a week (migraines, a cold, an injury, tired, ect). I feel like an incredible ball of negativity. I weighed in today, and once again the scale had not moved, and i think that was the final straw in my up and down crap. I'm going to track this week and see the difference.

I hope that Zumba is the kick in the butt that you need to get back into it. It's great that you still love it! You aren't alone in the struggle!

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BONOLICIOUS2 3/2/2014 1:08PM

    First of all, you are awesome. Remember that!

Second, we become a whole lot happier when we stop caring what other people think. You're not a failure! Life has its ups and downs for EVERYBODY and if someone was going to be mean to you about yours - they shouldn't be around you much longer!

Overall giving up would be the worst thing you could do. Stumble, trip, do that little awkward wave your arms while doing a half split so you don't fall all of the way on the ground, whatever it takes as long as you are still moving forward!

You have done it, you can do it, you WILL do it! You rock girly!

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HINK2013 3/2/2014 12:45PM

    YOU CAN DO THIS!!! And I totally understand what you mean by being in the shame spiral! But KNOW that no matter what the number on the scale says.... you are a beautiful person!


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