Tuesday, December 04, 2012
Ah, those famous words, when uttered by Columbo, were your cue to get ready for the trap to spring on the bad guy. Columbo would seem to blunder aimlessly through an investigation but he was really giving the bad guy all the rope he needed to hang himself.
But this isn't about Columbo. Nope.
It's about receiving what you ask for - even if you do not understand that you are asking.
For much of 2012, things have been so weird and stressful around my house. Inlaws, siblings and parents all seeming to act up. I found myself shielding my children from people they love because of toxic behaviors and attitudes.
With each (seemingly escalating) incident/issue, I'd say "Seriously? I need ONE MORE THING?"
Then, BOOM. One. More. Thing.
One more butthead thing. One more expense. One more breakdown. One more injury. One more Xray. One more blood test. Clothing moths ATE MY DAD's PENDLETON JACKET. Then DH was out of work.
Seriously? I don't need ONE MORE THING.
Bang. One More Thing. My mother fell and broke herself. We brought her home and BTW, stuff for injured, elderly folks is SHAMEFULLY expensive. $200 for a bedside commode? Seriously? (BTW, I have one of the aforementioned items if anyone needs one - will let it go cheap or in trade. It's clean and back in the box it came in.)
As I said before, this entire year hasn't been the best, but things seemed to ramp up starting in August. All through August, September, October and November, my life has been someone else's. LOL
There were weeks that melted together and passed in a blink of an eye.
There were days that felt like unmitigated torture to me emotionally. Realized that I was being presented with a huge opportunity for changing myself yet again.
Utilized my time as well as I could. Bad habits melted away. Much baggage seemed to fall away along with the fears/negativities. There was a lot I didn't even realize I was packing around! It just bubbled up really bad one day in early November and I felt so toxic. I learned some things, though.
As I go, so goes my entire household and my kids don't need to be nervous wrecks.
Things are only as big and scary as we let them get. Fear is powerful and it draws more negativity to us - the same way happiness and fearlessness draws positivity. It really is a choice, fear doesn't fall out of the sky on our heads - it's a REACTION and one we can learn to control. We CAN choose to be less fearful every time it tries to jump on us.
Each person is different, but I used replacement therapy. Every time I would think of something that caused me to feel fear and/or anxiety, I'd mindfully feel the fear for just a moment, then think of something else that made me feel happy or brave (or both - my kids) and I would let the happy, brave feelings push the fear away.
I also stopped asking for one more thing. Didn't let the words pass my lips. The bad things stopped happening. LOL Good things started happening...
My DH got a job and he likes it. Despite a 30% pay cut, it's a good fit. That's a huge blessing.
My mom is back at her home and getting around with her 4-legged cane. She can't use a walker because of her broken shoulder. Truthfully, I think the cane has been better - she can't lean on it and is being forced to use muscles - consequently, she's rebuilding muscles.
There are several other things that have had positive outcomes around here and we are truly grateful for them. I'd enumerate them, but the list would be painfully long and honestly, I'm letting so much just go so I can live in the now and enjoy life.
There are still some things hanging out there pending, but I'm keeping good thoughts for positive outcomes and not letting the fear bug have any footing.
Looking forward to some really Happy, Happy, Happy Holidays!
Wednesday, November 07, 2012
As some of you know, my elderly mother fell in early October. She broke her shoulder in 4 places, her hip in 3 places and split her femur lengthwise.
She had an awesome surgeon who put Mom back together again in such a manner that he avoided cutting muscles, saved her rotator cuff and managed not to have to replace any joints. She will have full range of motion in her shoulder and her hip.
She was in the hospital for some time, then she went to rehab. In Rehab, Mom learned how to dress herself, how to walk with a 4 legged cane as well as other tasks those of us with everything working well take for granted.
Now she's here with my family. Our daughter gave her room to her grandmother with such a generous spirit it made me quite proud. She even packed up a lot of her things to make room for Mom's things and helped me rearrange furniture so that my mother could get around in there.
Our son checks on my mother every night (cuz I'm worn out by 8 or 9...LOL) to see if she needs an ice pack or anything else.
I'm so proud of my kids and their generosities - things that seem so small mean so much. Especially to my mom.
It's really weird to be in the position of helping my mother bathe and dress and stuff like that. I don't have to DO a lot - lay out the clothing, put the bench in the shower and get towels, etc. But for now, I need to be present to make sure she doesn't fall again and/or catch her if she does...
My sister has taken this opportunity to have Mom's house worked on to make it more accommodating when Mom goes home.
It's not easy. But so far, things are working out OK.
Mom has gotten quite a few really hilarious Get Well cards.
The inside says "Don't worry, you have 8-1/2 lives left!"
Have a great day
Saturday, November 03, 2012
Take time to think- It is the source of all power.
Take time to read- It is the fountain of wisdom.
Take time to play- It is the source of perpetual youth.
Take time to be quiet- It is the opportunity to seek God.
Take time to be aware- It is the opportunity to help others.
Take time to love and be loved- It is God's greatest gift.
Take time to laugh- It is the music of the soul.
Take time to be friendly- It is the road to happiness.
Take time to dream- It is what the future is made of.
Take time to pray- It is the greatest power on earth.
Take time to give- It is too short a day to be selfish.
Take time to work- It is the price of success.
There is a time for everything. . . .
Monday, September 17, 2012
I love avocado. Always have... likely always will... My favorite way to eat them is with a spoon and a little sea salt... LOL
During the summer, I lucked out and got a gonga deal on organic 'cados. One of the little darlings got buried under something else in the fridge and wasn't discovered until it was seriously in bad shape. Not stinky, but yeah, not edible.
So I made soap with it. Yeah... you read that right.
Hadn't even considered making an Avocado Soap until that point, so I carefully saved the flesh from the avocado, wrapped it up and put it in the freezer. Sometimes it takes me several days to fully calculate my soap recipes as I really do fully consider the total complement of fatty acids from each fat or oil added, how much of a superfat percentage to incorporate into the formula, etc.
By taking the time to be careful in formulating, I find that my soaps don't often need 'trial runs'. That's not saying there haven't been a few trial runs that my friends and family have had the fun of participating in! LOL
At any rate, the formula for this one is truly delish. My husband even likes it and he was the guy turning his nose up at my homemade soap in the beginning... LOL
All of these are Avocado Soaps - I just played around with earth-based colors in the darker bar while the lighter bars have no colors added. One of these will be the prize in the Great Soap Giveaway drawing to be held on October 1, 2012.
Tallow, Palm oil (sustainable), Olive Oil, Spring Water, Organic Aloe Vera, Goat Milk, Organic Avocado Oil, Organic Avocado Fruit, Mango Butter, Shea Butter, Emu Oil, Coconut Milk, Lanolin, Jojoba Oil, Castor Oil, NaOH, Lavender Essential Oil, Kelp, Organic Spirulina, Comfrey Leaves, Lemongrass Essential Oil, Sage Essential Oil.
Monday, September 17, 2012
What an awesome day.
We had a much smaller group show up than the RSVPs reflected. I guess folks were scared of a little rain.. :) LOL In all fairness, I DO get it, being a desert rat myself... water evokes a strong reaction - some go dance in the rain, others hide from it. So if you were out dancing in the rain and completely FORGOT (LOL), it's OK. We had a good time and YOU MISSED IT!
First, I apologize for the lack of photos... Have become so accustomed to my son hauling the camera around (or grabbing a cell phone) and taking photos of everything that I've just gotten out of the habit... Remembered to take pics somewhere in the middle of this and only got a few...
Maggeriffic graciously and enthusiastically led a warmup (workout) and then she led the walk. We walked around Reid Park, well, MOST of Reid Park and clocked 2 miles. I wore flip flops (duh! FORGOT to grab decent shoes & that cost me a nickel-sized blister), but had a good time walking with everyone, especially my walking partner for the day, FITNESSBULLY.
We ate REALLY WELL! JEWELMAKER1 brought a quinoa salad that was AWESOME! recipes.sparkpeople.com/recipe-detai
PAYJAW brought a fruit salad that was super delicious!
We had an assortment of yummies - corn chips, kale chips, a veggie tray, dips. It was a very nice day.
Maggeriffic, PAYJAW and RETIREDAT60.
PAYJAW, JEWELMAKER1, THANDI8, LADYROSE
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