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Thursday, January 17, 2013

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JEWELMAKER1 1/18/2013 7:05AM

    emoticon Well said!

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_RAMONA 1/17/2013 10:23PM


...my focus for Advent was (and remains) gratitude... my life is changing immeasurably.

{{{{{{{{{ HUGS }}}}}}}}}

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MSGO72 1/17/2013 9:51PM


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1CRAZYDOG 1/17/2013 9:39PM

    This is so true! HUGS

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TDEMAIO2 1/17/2013 9:33PM

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When Opportunity Knocks......

Saturday, December 08, 2012

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BETH_46 12/11/2012 5:01AM

    Very good!

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ANGRITTER 12/9/2012 5:28PM

    Oh I thought that was just the cute guy from down the road! HAHA

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EILEEN828 12/9/2012 3:20AM


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DEBBY4576 12/8/2012 8:54PM

    Haha. So true.

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TOTHEFUTURE1 12/8/2012 5:19PM

    Sad but true

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1CRAZYDOG 12/8/2012 4:56PM

    LOVE it! HUGS

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Today's Funny

Thursday, December 06, 2012

Don't know where it originated, was emailed to me...


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JEWELMAKER1 12/6/2012 6:02PM

    LOL! Now THAT I can do! Hope all is well for you or at least going better. Happy Holidays! emoticon

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ANGRITTER 12/6/2012 2:03PM

    Can I set them back every month?? That would surely help me out!

Love these e-cards. My facebook acct is littered with them!

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LADYROSE 12/6/2012 1:05PM



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1CRAZYDOG 12/6/2012 1:03PM

    Oh yeah! ON IT! LOL

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MISSPEACHES3 12/6/2012 12:32PM

    I wish it were that easy to lose 10 pounds. LOL.

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One More Thing....

Tuesday, December 04, 2012

Ah, those famous words, when uttered by Columbo, were your cue to get ready for the trap to spring on the bad guy. Columbo would seem to blunder aimlessly through an investigation but he was really giving the bad guy all the rope he needed to hang himself.

But this isn't about Columbo. Nope.

It's about receiving what you ask for - even if you do not understand that you are asking.

For much of 2012, things have been so weird and stressful around my house. Inlaws, siblings and parents all seeming to act up. I found myself shielding my children from people they love because of toxic behaviors and attitudes.

With each (seemingly escalating) incident/issue, I'd say "Seriously? I need ONE MORE THING?"

Then, BOOM. One. More. Thing.

One more butthead thing. One more expense. One more breakdown. One more injury. One more Xray. One more blood test. Clothing moths ATE MY DAD's PENDLETON JACKET. Then DH was out of work.

Seriously? I don't need ONE MORE THING.

Bang. One More Thing. My mother fell and broke herself. We brought her home and BTW, stuff for injured, elderly folks is SHAMEFULLY expensive. $200 for a bedside commode? Seriously? (BTW, I have one of the aforementioned items if anyone needs one - will let it go cheap or in trade. It's clean and back in the box it came in.)

As I said before, this entire year hasn't been the best, but things seemed to ramp up starting in August. All through August, September, October and November, my life has been someone else's. LOL

There were weeks that melted together and passed in a blink of an eye.

There were days that felt like unmitigated torture to me emotionally. Realized that I was being presented with a huge opportunity for changing myself yet again.

Utilized my time as well as I could. Bad habits melted away. Much baggage seemed to fall away along with the fears/negativities. There was a lot I didn't even realize I was packing around! It just bubbled up really bad one day in early November and I felt so toxic. I learned some things, though.

As I go, so goes my entire household and my kids don't need to be nervous wrecks.

Things are only as big and scary as we let them get. Fear is powerful and it draws more negativity to us - the same way happiness and fearlessness draws positivity. It really is a choice, fear doesn't fall out of the sky on our heads - it's a REACTION and one we can learn to control. We CAN choose to be less fearful every time it tries to jump on us.

Each person is different, but I used replacement therapy. Every time I would think of something that caused me to feel fear and/or anxiety, I'd mindfully feel the fear for just a moment, then think of something else that made me feel happy or brave (or both - my kids) and I would let the happy, brave feelings push the fear away.

I also stopped asking for one more thing. Didn't let the words pass my lips. The bad things stopped happening. LOL Good things started happening...

My DH got a job and he likes it. Despite a 30% pay cut, it's a good fit. That's a huge blessing.

My mom is back at her home and getting around with her 4-legged cane. She can't use a walker because of her broken shoulder. Truthfully, I think the cane has been better - she can't lean on it and is being forced to use muscles - consequently, she's rebuilding muscles.

There are several other things that have had positive outcomes around here and we are truly grateful for them. I'd enumerate them, but the list would be painfully long and honestly, I'm letting so much just go so I can live in the now and enjoy life.

There are still some things hanging out there pending, but I'm keeping good thoughts for positive outcomes and not letting the fear bug have any footing.

Looking forward to some really Happy, Happy, Happy Holidays! emoticon

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ITS_MY_TURN_NOW 12/4/2012 11:05PM

    You are an inspiration. I am so glad I stopped in. I have been facing my own set of challenges lately and even though things are starting to get better I keep waiting for the next "thing" to happen. Need to stop that. LOL I am so glad things are getting better for you! Sounds like you have been through a lot. May we all have a healthy, happy holiday season!

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BRAVELUTE 12/4/2012 8:16PM

    You have been a loyal caregiver, and now it is time to give care to yourself.

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1CRAZYDOG 12/4/2012 2:07PM

    The old "When it rains, it pours" scenario! VERY glad your DH has found a job. I can't believe my BIL has now been out of work . . . AGAIN . . . for 6 mths. Not one nibble. Seriously depressing! Well, anywho, wishing DH all the best.

Sorry to hear your Mom had fall injuries. **Sigh** Some days you just wan to put your parents in bubble wrap! Well, anyway, hope she's progressing.

MOST of all, sorry that you've been thru so much. That just doesn't help the health at all, but sounds like you have the right attitude. You can't control situations, but you can control reactions. I applaud you for backing away from toxic situations. That's the best thing you can do!

HUGS Julee and hope things improve.

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LADYROSE 12/4/2012 12:51PM

    "Realized that I was being presented with a huge opportunity for changing myself yet again. "

Brilliant and just what I needed to read! It's so true... every obstacle is an opportunity to learn and grow and evolve. When we're in the thick of Change and fight that Change with every fiber of our being, it's basically saying I'm not willing to stop being the person I am now and grow into who I need to be, and learn what I need to learn. (and by "we" and "our", I mean "I" and "my" ;)

Thank you for that wonderful teaching!!! And so glad that you have gotten through this phase of learning!! Lots of hugs!

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Wednesday, November 07, 2012

As some of you know, my elderly mother fell in early October. She broke her shoulder in 4 places, her hip in 3 places and split her femur lengthwise.

She had an awesome surgeon who put Mom back together again in such a manner that he avoided cutting muscles, saved her rotator cuff and managed not to have to replace any joints. She will have full range of motion in her shoulder and her hip.

She was in the hospital for some time, then she went to rehab. In Rehab, Mom learned how to dress herself, how to walk with a 4 legged cane as well as other tasks those of us with everything working well take for granted.

Now she's here with my family. Our daughter gave her room to her grandmother with such a generous spirit it made me quite proud. She even packed up a lot of her things to make room for Mom's things and helped me rearrange furniture so that my mother could get around in there.

Our son checks on my mother every night (cuz I'm worn out by 8 or 9...LOL) to see if she needs an ice pack or anything else.

I'm so proud of my kids and their generosities - things that seem so small mean so much. Especially to my mom.

It's really weird to be in the position of helping my mother bathe and dress and stuff like that. I don't have to DO a lot - lay out the clothing, put the bench in the shower and get towels, etc. But for now, I need to be present to make sure she doesn't fall again and/or catch her if she does...

My sister has taken this opportunity to have Mom's house worked on to make it more accommodating when Mom goes home.

It's not easy. But so far, things are working out OK.

Mom has gotten quite a few really hilarious Get Well cards.

The inside says "Don't worry, you have 8-1/2 lives left!"

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JEWELMAKER1 11/9/2012 1:49PM

    Your family is absolutely wonderful. So glad your mother is healing and that the you and the kids are there for her.



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MARY1313 11/8/2012 12:37AM

    Wow you kids are AWESOME! They love their Gram. that is great. I know it's a big adjustment but you and your kids will always always be glad that you did. You are a wonderful daughter too kiddo!!!

Mary in Alabama emoticon

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1CRAZYDOG 11/7/2012 5:54PM

    That is so wonderful that the kids are so willing to help their grandmother. That's heartwarming.

I am happy that she's recuperating . It is a long, slow process. It's so good you can help her.

HUGS and prayers for continued recuperation without problems.

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DEBBY4576 11/7/2012 4:38PM

    What a joy your children are. They are showing the inner selves with their treatment of Grandma. You have done a great job with them. Your care of your mom shows your inner self too. How old is your mom? My mom has fallen several times, but never like that. Minor injuries. She does live with us. Has for 10 years. She's 91 next week.

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LASKIE2 11/7/2012 2:38PM

    Wishing your Mother to emoticon !

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LADYROSE 11/7/2012 1:46PM

    HA! Love the card! So appropriate! :)

Glad that the whole family is helping out with your mom and even better that she's on the mend!

Many hugs!!!

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