Sunday, December 01, 2013
As per your requests, How I forgive myself:
Pretend you are talking to a child with the same problem you are having. What would you tell a child? Would you berate them for doing something so innate as eating something good tasting or filling their tummies? No? You would totally understand the problem and make suggestions and try new things! You would reassure them of your love and commitment to help them make these changes.
That's where my "inner fat girl" comes in. She is who I don't want to be any more, but still wants to soothe herself with food and comfort herself with a food coma every now and then. She's a child inside of me who never got what she needed, so it's up to me to be her parent. I have to forgive her, teach her, understand her, and lead her.
Sometimes I talk out loud to her and tell her I love her and ask her what she needs to eat, not what she wants to eat. I ask her what she really DESERVES to eat. Crap or something really good and nutritious. And yes, if it costs more, I'll spend the extra money on something healthy for her. Wouldn't you for your child? I'll ask her out loud "What are we going to do? Sit or get moving? Let's put on some energizing music and see where the mood takes us!" Okay, so I talk to myself a lot, but not in front of people lol. It's part of re parenting my inner child and it's working.
If we all stop fighting with the side of us that wants to do unhealthy things, embrace it, forgive it, teach it, empower it and keep on forgiving.... We will realize that that side of us will become only a small part of us.