SparkPeople Parenting and Family Support Messageboard Trying to balance work, weight loss, and family? Share tips for keeping your whole family fit and healthy. SparkPeople Parenting and Family Support Messageboard New mom, always been overweight How do i get started? I have a one year old. I was 75 lbs overweight before I got pregnant and I still am! <BR> <BR> I haven't found an exercise that I love. (I've tried running, swimming, gyms, videos) <BR> I take care of my one year old when I'm not at work. <BR> Also, I'd like to get pregnant again in the next 6 months. <BR> <BR> Any starting advice? <BR> Thu, 24 Apr 2014 11:16:35 EST got rid of child's easter candy, feeling guilty My 10 year old son does not live with me, but he visits. He left some of his Easter candy at my house, and I told him several times that I did not want him to. I told him it may not be there when he comes next time. <BR> FromSunday until Wednesday I was eating his candy, and going over my recomended calories, fat, carbs or a combination of the three. This morning I decided to give the candy away. I decided that when he comes I can get him ONE piece of candy like a chocolate bar for the weeke... Thu, 24 Apr 2014 08:27:21 EST Need advice on jogging strollers for a 5yr old I've just recently taken up jogging and my 5yr old daughter loves to go with me when she doesn't have school, but she has asthma and can't run or walk for long without exacerbating it. I would love to get a jogging stroller so that she doesn't have to miss out on what's become our favorite quality time activity but after researching a bunch of strollers online I'm more confused than ever. I don't have a ton of money to spend but I want something safe that will accommodate her weight (she's t... Mon, 21 Apr 2014 11:02:07 EST Toddlers make it difficult to exercise That, and teens that are able to eat whatever and have these tempting treats all over the place. <BR> <BR> So parents...what do you do about exercise time without feeling guilty? We have a membership to the Y, but I feel awful dropping my girls there. They like it, have fun with the kids, and actually ask to go. But I feel selfish, especially when I don't want to take them swimming after. Advice?? <BR> <BR> Thanks :) Sun, 20 Apr 2014 21:02:50 EST Autism Awareness Day It is Autism Awareness Day! I encourage all of you who are on the spectrum or raising children on the spectrum to continue to be the brave, amazing people that you are. Those of you that do not deal with this on a daily basis, I encourage you to be accepting, open minded, and above all- kind. <BR> <BR> Remember that the kid who is spinning in circles isn't trying to get in your way, he may be trying to reset his nervous system; the kid who doesn't look you in the eye when you talk to him may... Wed, 2 Apr 2014 12:13:01 EST Did my first 5k yesterday! Eeek! Okay so place wise I didn't do stellar, but honestly my only goal was just to not come in last. Goal achieved. I have to say with it being my first 5k it was really the best experience! My husband and several friends from church did it with me. I didn't run as much as I had planned on, but a friend of ours couldn't really run due to a toe that was healing from being broken. We all had our own goals, but no competition between anyone. We just all wanted to do our best. We are all talking... Sun, 30 Mar 2014 17:09:53 EST Gastric Sleeve or Bypass?? I am scheduled for WLS. I was sure for months that I wanted the sleeve. Hpwever, after a recent meeting with my surgeon, she suggests the Bypass as that is her surgery of choice and believes it is the gold standard of WLS. It has the most data behind it. <BR> <BR> I do not have any co-morbid conditions other than arthritis. <BR> I am not a sugar addict. I eat in volume. <BR> <BR> From the research I have done, the sleeve would be a good match for me. However, I would like to follow my su... Sun, 30 Mar 2014 10:46:25 EST Hey ya'll, I'm new to this board Okay so this may get to be a little long. Our life is so very odd! <BR> <BR> Lets start with the basics. I am Teri. My hubby is Jim. We have two fantastic sons: Zack and Noah. We live in the Daytona Beach, Fl area. We are only in this area for 2 years though as Jim is in school and once he is done we will return home. <BR> <BR> I call Jim my hubby, which I see him as, but legally we are not married right now. Actually, we are divorced. He was my high school sweetheart. We got married enti... Tue, 25 Mar 2014 21:17:41 EST If your having bullying problems read this Do you know that if your child doesn't fall into certain categories such as: <BR> 1. having a disability <BR> 2. racism <BR> 3. or sexual orientation (gay , lesbian or transgender) <BR> That there is really nothing a parent can do????? That your at the mercy of the school system, I know because my son has had 2 threats made against him and I've called EVERYWHERE and was told that a child like mine that doesn't fall into any of those categories falls through the cracks. <BR> So a child can bul... Tue, 25 Mar 2014 17:54:56 EST The Easter Bunny got lost on the way to our house I am reaching out to ask for ideas and support around easter baskets, candy and chocolate. As much as I try to be creative with what else to put in our eggs, it inevitably ends up being those chocolate eggs. I have labeled "treat bags" for my girls and they do pretty much know what is in there but I have to admit I am already anxious about getting through this holiday. Suggestions, ideas and humor all most appreciated! <em>303</em> Tue, 25 Mar 2014 13:13:07 EST BEYOND THE SCALE~ 10 Week Challenge! How often have you wished you could find something to help you with your "stick-to-it-ness"? Have you found that you LOVE Sparkpeople, but have just hit a lull and need a little extra something? <BR> <BR> This 10 week challenge places you on a team with approx. 30 other members who are all working toward the same goal - to be accountable, get and give support, learn some nutrition tips, and build friendships! By setting a 10 week goal, and weighing in each week, you make a COMMITMENT to you... Sun, 23 Mar 2014 22:12:28 EST Disturbed Adult Child affecting Me Adversely I have made it thru this week without binge eating. We just got back Monday from Snowbirding in AZ. Our troubled 22-yr-old daughter was house-sitting and pet-sitting for us. While we were down there, she kept texting me 'I miss you mommy' and 'come home.' We came home two weeks early because we felt so bad. She is chronically unemployed, LOVES gambling, smoking, drinking, overeating, is bipolar. She had a job when we left in Oct and got 'laid off' again in Jan. I bought her all these s... Fri, 21 Mar 2014 20:54:33 EST Help...trying to motivate my 12 yr. old daughter.. My husband, daughter, and I have recently purchased the Focus T-25 series. We are all overweight and need to get healthier. The exercising is going ok (all going at our own pace, but working out together)'s the food part with our daughter. She doesn't like eggs, unless she can dip toast in them, she says she is tired of eating fruit, and she doesn't like a lot of vegetables....any suggestions would be greatly appreciated!!!! She lost 6 lbs. last week and we thought that would motivate... Wed, 12 Mar 2014 10:29:03 EST Disordered Eating Almost 20 years ago, my youngest sister died as a result of an eating disorder. She was 23 years old. She was funny, bright, creative and very hard on herself. I will call her "Emmy". Two years later, I had boy/girl twins after having 3 boys (yes, 5 kids!) and I promised the powers that be that I would name a baby Emmy if one turned out be a girl and that's what happened. Emmy is 17 years old now - funny, bright, creative and very hard on herself. She has struggled with anxiety and depression... Tue, 11 Mar 2014 12:59:34 EST 1st Recital 2+ Dances: Advice for a New Dance Mom? My LO for the first time this year will have multiple numbers in one recital show. In fact, she's in 2 shows the same day, one number in the 12pm show, three numbers in the 6pm show (her idea to take this many dance classes, not mine! She even wants to take an additional class next year <em>39</em> ). I was thinking of getting her a bag to keep all her costumes together, but what kind? How do you organize your dancer's costumes? Also, any advice on snacks to pack? What to give her to eat be... Fri, 7 Mar 2014 17:15:10 EST my gastric sleeve Hello everyone. I'm not sure if im doing this right posting under a new topic. This is my first time in an online community. I am having my gastric sleeve april 10th and I am just looking for some extra support. to give a little background on myself, I am 25 years old, and i have struggled with my weight for my whole life. I am excited to start my new life as a healthy active individual. The thing that scares me most is having extra skin. I know that to have that be my main fear is very... Wed, 5 Mar 2014 11:40:16 EST my gastric sleeve Hello everyone. I'm not sure if im doing this right posting under a new topic. This is my first time in an online community. I am having my gastric sleeve april 10th and I am just looking for some extra support. to give a little background on myself, I am 25 years old, and i have struggled with my weight for my whole life. I am excited to start my new life as a healthy active individual. The thing that scares me most is having extra skin. I know that to have that be my main fear is very... Wed, 5 Mar 2014 11:39:32 EST my gastric sleeve Hello everyone. I'm not sure if im doing this right posting under a new topic. This is my first time in an online community. I am having my gastric sleeve april 10th and I am just looking for some extra support. to give a little background on myself, I am 25 years old, and i have struggled with my weight for my whole life. I am excited to start my new life as a healthy active individual. The thing that scares me most is having extra skin. I know that to have that be my main fear is very... Wed, 5 Mar 2014 11:38:45 EST stop eating off my kids plates! Hello everyone! Just thought maybe you all could give me some good ideas on how I can stop the nibbling I do when I make dinner for my husband and children. I have been meal prepping my meals to make sure things are weighed out and healthy but family isn't on broad for the new way of eating just yet so I have been make meals for them every night and they are the healthiest. I notice I do a lot of nibbling while I cook and make plates for them. Its so hard when im eating that nice bowl of sala... Mon, 3 Mar 2014 20:08:12 EST Blood sugar drops Has any body experienced Blood sugar drops in the post op time after all my body was used to taking in 3000 to 5000 calories a day to less than 150 a day. Sat, 1 Mar 2014 13:32:48 EST Getting an Asperger's kid to be active I have an eight year old boy on the Autism Spectrum (would have been considered Aspergers before they removed the distinctions) he is very verbal but struggles a lot with social skills and reciprocal relationships. He is happiest in his own world which often includes Minecraft on his tablet. I want to get him to be more active and we do mess around in the house some but between his tendency to withdraw into himself and our incredibly crappy weather this winter (we're in MN and expecting -35 w... Tue, 25 Feb 2014 19:28:43 EST Are all scales the same? A scale is a scale right? I went to the doctor today and the scale weighed me 5 pounds heavier than my scale at home. I was kinda freaked out. Did I over react or can my scale at home be that off? Just wondering what your thoughts are. Thanks for any advise. <em>192</em> <em>11</em> <em>193</em> Tue, 25 Feb 2014 13:34:28 EST Very Defiant 6year old..HELP!?! I have a 6 year old daughter who is very defiant and will not listen to anyone. We have tried everything from, grounding, time outs, rewarding good behavior and nothing works. She is hyper active, but when she gets upset or doesnt wanna do something, she has the worst attitude. She is in Kindergarden and has already served detention for hitting other kids and a teacher. I have had many meetings with the school and she has has numerous therapy sessions and i do not see a change. I am afraid th... Thu, 20 Feb 2014 18:12:32 EST Twin Girls need to vent I have 16yr old twin girls that are driving me crazy … screaming is an everyday norm in our house….they have no chores they do not help around the house the stay on the computer all day and all night if I let them. When I try to give them chores they do a half ass job if I ask them to re-do it I get screaming and slamming doors…the problem was that I would take privileges away and my wonderful husband of 26yrs would let them have them back…we finally got on the same page after I threatened to... Thu, 20 Feb 2014 09:45:21 EST Tubal Ligation? I have been looking into sterilization. I have been researching it and see all sorts of stories but I'm getting mixed feelings. I love the thought of the Essure, but saw way too many reviews claiming weight gain and migraines. I already have issues with both. I gained 30 pounds on Depo. Before that about 20 on the patch. I only gained 30 pounds with my pregnancy and lost it all asap. I was lucky. Even with the lowest dose of bc I gain and get sick. I'm done having kids. But I am not sure ... Tue, 18 Feb 2014 14:11:53 EST New jogging stroller group Hello all! My name is Brook. I'm a 34 year old stay at home mom to 2 gorgeous girls ages 1 and 10. We stay very active. I love running with my bob jogging stroller. I have been a stay at home mom now for over a year and I love it. Prior to doing this I was a group fitness instructor and massage therapist. I have been a spark member since 2007. I have lost 60lbs since having my second daughter now, but would love to loose 10-20 more. I am looking for like minded happy, inspiring people to help... Fri, 14 Feb 2014 17:05:08 EST Scared of Pregnancy Hello, I am 25 years old and have been with my fiancé for 6 years now. We do not have kids, but eventually we want to, but it scares the c^@p out of me! The idea of having children in our lives doesn’t scare me, it’s the idea of pushing a baby out of my body… and the pain… and the changes… and especially any complications… it really really scares me. I’m so excited for one day to become a mother, but the whole process just really freaks me out. When people at work talk about child birth I get... Fri, 14 Feb 2014 12:22:37 EST Ahhhh toddler on the go! I have one of those super active, super crazy (albeit super adorable) toddlers that is basically way too smart for her age and way too fearless. Let's just say "limiting screen time" with her is not a problem---keeping her from jumping off the kitchen counters is.... <BR> <BR> The problem is this: I have been pretty good at watching the calories (and types thereof) and hitting the gym, but at the end of the day I just cannot seem to cut the nightcap out. I know two glasses of wine is 200+ ... Mon, 10 Feb 2014 12:30:56 EST Need advice regarding an overly critical mother Hey everyone, <BR> <BR> I hope this is the right board for this. I apologize if it isn't. I need some advice regarding my mother, and I apologize in advance, because I know it's going to be long! My mother has been critical of my appearance for over half of my life. She was the athletic and pretty member of her family while growing up. But after she married my dad in her early 20's she started gaining weight over the years. She's been obese as long as I can remember and has Type 2 Diabet... Thu, 6 Feb 2014 17:30:13 EST Need some help and advise Hello, <BR> <BR> I am a husband and father of a wonderful 2 year old boy. I know there is a time and place to ask for help and when your asking strangers you know you're desperate. My wife, son, and I are currently sharing a small room in my parents house after failing due to bills, school loans, medical bills, car payments, and vehicle repairs. We are both trying to live healthier and lose weight but the stress of our current situation is proving a massive hurdle. It has been over a year wi... Mon, 3 Feb 2014 23:57:10 EST Twin parents unite! Hi everyone, <BR> I am finally finding some time to take care of myself and get back on track with my weight after having twin girls 7 months ago. I would love to get any tips on keeping motivated and healthy food options for the little ones. <BR> <BR> Would love any feedback, comments, suggestions, support! Hope you're all doing well! <BR> ~J Tue, 28 Jan 2014 12:52:28 EST Cheating Newlywed Husband Good evening, all. <BR> <BR> Just found out last night that my husband of less than 4 months has been "sexting" and sexually video chatting other people. Although it was never physical, I consider this cheating. I confronted him and he said I don't have enough confidence in myself. I'm not looking to divorce him; our vows said "til death do us part" and I take that very seriously. He is wanting to work this out too, but says I need to boost my confidence. How should I go about fixing our mar... Sun, 26 Jan 2014 20:10:30 EST Weight confusion Hi I weighed myself last Friday and on tues was at dr and was weighed there where he said lost 9 lb which surprised me but when I weighed myself this Friday my weight is still same as last Friday , who's scale was wrong . Am controlling portion and doing exercise daily Sun, 26 Jan 2014 15:36:07 EST Fizzy drinks Hi me and my sons r trying to lose weight together but he struggled to not drink fizzy drinks when every one around him is drinking any tips Sun, 26 Jan 2014 15:34:12 EST Just Wondering If anyone has had a SO with an addiction to pornography who lost a bunch of weight. Did things improve? Or were they two completely unrelated issues? <BR> <BR> I know the whole "you two need counseling shebang". Just wondering if it made any difference. <em>41</em> Fri, 24 Jan 2014 14:59:43 EST "Fruit snacks" ??? What am I not seeing? Can anyone explain the allure of "fruit snacks"? I am confused about how they even exist when there is an abundant supply of real fruit. Thu, 23 Jan 2014 13:16:24 EST Stress eating and kids. has anyone else notice that they crave certain (simple carbs and sugar for me) when they are stressed with their kids? last night my daughter was really pushing all of my buttons, and all I wanted was to dig into the Christmas candy! I had a glass of water, did a few yoga poses and deep breaths. I was mostly okay then, but it is a struggle for me. anyone else out there? Sun, 19 Jan 2014 14:19:03 EST support getting support from friends, family, co-workers, church groups are fantastic. Thu, 16 Jan 2014 17:21:00 EST 'size' sometimes the smaller we are, the smaller we want to be, be true to yourself. Thu, 16 Jan 2014 17:19:35 EST staying together 'staying together' as a family can help in a big postive way. Thu, 16 Jan 2014 17:18:33 EST Morning Sickness Looking for other mothers who found a routine that worked despite extreme morning sickness. I am not looking to lose weight, I am looking to stay fit for the pregnancy and to be in shape to get the weight off when I have the baby. Any suggestions? Mon, 13 Jan 2014 17:06:16 EST Any Homeschool Moms/Dads Out There? Just want to connect with other homeschoolers out there. How do you manage to stay on track amidst the madness? Hints and tips are welcome. For me, I still haven't totally figured it out yet, but now on my third year teaching/wrangling and feeling okay. Fri, 10 Jan 2014 05:24:21 EST Anybody else in my situation? I am starting to feel like my own situation is standing between me and my weight loss goals. I have 6 kiddos age 2-18. My husband was in a work accident that left him disabled and unable to walk. My point is my life is super busy, high stress, and "me time" does not exist at the moment. My other obstacle seems to be that I am 5' 4" and have a very short torso, my point is that each pregnancy definitely left its mark, Its clear by my physical appearance that I am a mama. According to what I ... Tue, 7 Jan 2014 12:38:41 EST Help How do you post on here?? To already existing posts. Mon, 6 Jan 2014 17:18:41 EST Extended Breastfeeders post here! Hi All! I am wondering who all is breastfeeding their toddler past the age of 1? ***PLEASE, no judgement here!*** And how is your weight loss journey going in sight of that? What adjustments have you made to your journey to make it work without compromising your breastfeeding journey? <BR> <BR> I have a 21 month old boy who still nurses several times a day. My biggest challenge is the variance in appetite it causes if he has a heavy nursing day (teething, for example, he nurses a lot!). Some... Mon, 6 Jan 2014 10:27:10 EST Seeking Balance as a working Mother of preschooler I've had to go back to work somewhat recently. For me it was not the choice I wanted to chose, because I absolutely love be "home" with my kids, teaching, playing and taking them new places...It was a absolute necessity. <BR> <BR> I work 3 days a week 7:30am - 6pm. Since going back to work in November, I have used this as an excuse to stress eat and quit working out. I feel like crap. I've gained back a lot of the weight that I worked so hard to lose this year. <BR> <BR> I've been dea... Fri, 27 Dec 2013 23:09:00 EST Hello I'm new to this forum, just dropping in to say Hello. Tue, 24 Dec 2013 11:56:39 EST Smoothie ingredients for a teen athlete? My 14 year old plays football, wrestles, and is involved in other sports as well. He also likes to be creative in the kitchen, and is interested in increasing the protein in his diet as a strategy for helping to build muscle. So for Christmas I got him one of those personal blenders that makes one smoothie at a time, and am planning on buying a bunch of smoothie ingredients to go with it. <BR> <BR> I'm curious what are some healthy and yummy things to put in a smoothie. We sometimes do smo... Mon, 23 Dec 2013 00:58:29 EST Anyone Else With Diabetes? Hi everyone, I'm new to this site. I was wondering if anyone else had diabetes and wanted to pehaps be a buddy on this weight loss journey. I am having a difficult time right now. <BR> <BR> I am the mother of two beautiful children ages 8 and 3. <BR> <BR> Katie Sat, 21 Dec 2013 11:40:34 EST How to change settings? How do you change settings for pregnancy calorie intake? Wed, 18 Dec 2013 18:12:42 EST My daughter is grown but still a child So I need advice like never before!My 19 year old daughter moved out 14 months ago,lasted 11 months with her older sister moved back home with the understanding she get a job,save almost every penny to move out and so far she has made almost $1,000.She has a boyfriend she feels mad love for but he is a total deadbeat.He is 21 has no drivers license,a job he works when he feels like it or weather permitting aka a car wash owned by family.He told my daughter he saved up $1200 for a used car.He ... Thu, 12 Dec 2013 15:35:56 EST 6 1/2 year old Clingy My 6 1/2 year old daughter has always had me and her father. We grew close from the beginning with her and still are. We foster independence with all our kids, as well as family time. Although in the last year she has been abnormally clingy, expecially to her father and to her uncle. She likes to kiss a lot, hug a lot and hang all over them, She has no regard for personal space, and even gets upset when her 2 year old sister is near them. She is overly sensitive as well, even if you tell her ... Tue, 10 Dec 2013 08:30:51 EST biting my tongue Maybe it's the Italian in me, but sometimes I get frustrated. <BR> <BR> I'm in a very stressful point in my life, and I was wondering if anyone had any tips to control temper?? <BR> <BR> I noticed sometimes I get catty & even down right rude towards the person I care most about. Usually things build up and, for example like today, when he took my car out for an errand and I was almost late to work I got so mad. When he finally came back I glared at him harshly took the keys from his hands ... Mon, 9 Dec 2013 01:27:19 EST Gastric sleeve do.or dont New Mail Help Tell Friends Log Out <BR> <BR> <BR> Start <BR> my Nutrition <BR> my Fitness <BR> my Weight <BR> Other Goals <BR> SparkStreaks <BR> Reports <BR> Planner <BR> SparkMail <BR> my SparkPoints <BR> Web Search <BR> Articles & Videos Home <BR> Health Conditions <BR> Nutrition <BR> Condition Centers <BR> Depression <BR> Diabetes (Spark*D Program) <BR> GERD (Heartburn) <BR> Healthy Heart <BR> Healthy Skin <BR> High Blood Pressure <BR> High Cholesterol <BR> Insomnia <BR> Irritable Bow... Thu, 5 Dec 2013 21:06:03 EST Not sure it will work for me ,,need advice <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> I am a 56 yr old post menapausal women.I was the chubby child-that became an obese women.But at 22 I was 205 and LOST 75 POUNDS.How well its complicated: I did take diet pills back then,I also completly changed the quality and quantity of my diet. I also became Hyperthyoid. To this day I am unsure if the diet pills made me hyperthyoid..or if I was obese since a child because I had always had a thyroid issue! I from age 23-50..still struggled but within reason..... Thu, 5 Dec 2013 20:51:02 EST Any 40+ 1st time moms out there? <em>187</em> I had my son when I was 39 and turned 40 a couple of months after he was born. <em>123</em> He is two now. I lost the baby weight, but now on a mission to lose the pounds gained years before his arrival. <em>198</em> Progress is sloooooow. <em>134</em> Looking for moms with similar challenges and hoping to support each other reach our goals! <em>361</em> <em>381</em> <em>252</em> Wed, 4 Dec 2013 13:38:43 EST What Has Marriage Taught You?!?!?! Communication, trust and faith is so important! <em>337</em> Tue, 26 Nov 2013 07:30:45 EST Prayers For All! Prayer of the day <BR> <BR> "A Prayer For Seeing The Big Picture" <BR> <BR> Father, there is much that we can learn from our temporal problems here on earth that better prepares us for eternity. As we work through these troubles, they enable us to have the mind of Christ so that attitudes reflecting the fruit of the Spirit become a spontaneous response to the difficulties that challenge us daily. Just as light, soil, air and moisture are requirements for growth in vegetation so must faith... Thu, 21 Nov 2013 21:26:07 EST no one cares <em>24</em> Tue, 19 Nov 2013 15:34:39 EST Brother Issue This has nothing to do with weight loss, but I'm hoping it is okay for me to post this to get some feedback. <BR> <BR> My middle brother lives in Colorado, and I live in Minnesota. We typically see each other once a twice a year. <BR> <BR> I have booked a trip to go visit him and his wife over Thanksgiving. Before booking the trip, I asked him if it could just be the three of us for my trip, for dinner and the few days after that I'm there. The reason I asked is because everytime I go to v... Sun, 17 Nov 2013 22:43:15 EST new here! Hi everyone! I just started here on spark people and the first thing I wanted to do was find other women with pcos. I am 28 and getting married next fall. I was diagnose with pcos about 3 yrs ago and i know I'm it doing everything I can to help the situation. I want to start!! <BR> <BR> The one thing that worries me the most, and perhaps motivates me the most, is becoming pregnant. I have wanted to be a mom my entire life and my France and I want to start trying right after we get married. B... Mon, 11 Nov 2013 00:17:22 EST Adult Conversations Hi! I'm looking for advice on how to discuss adult issues with my husband when my son is always around! He's 6 and we have a very small apartment. I don't want him worrying about finances, etc. etc. etc.... Sat, 9 Nov 2013 11:05:31 EST Gained he's leaving me <BR> Hi...I'm new here, and I never posted a question or anything before,,,...but I need some inspiration, some advice. <BR> <BR> I was always chubby. Round, full figured. I'm 5'5 or 165cm. I was always a size 14 or 12. I met my fiancé 6 years ago and he did everything for me,we did everything for each other. I started running. I ran two marathons. I lost 10kgs, or 20lbs. I was amazingly well shaped, for being me. A size 8, or 36 eu size. My bf still thought I was a bit too chubby, but he l... Fri, 8 Nov 2013 22:29:38 EST Prioritizing your self first....... So I recently have become a stay at home mom this year and I am having a hard time fitting in time to workout or even have anything outside of taking care of my family and the household things. I have always worked and never let myself go like I have this past year. I have a 3yr old and a 5yr old who was recently diagnosed with ADHD. I feel this constant pressure from myself to keep up with cooking,cleaning the house,doing the laundry, and spending time with the kids. Whenever I do have a few... Fri, 8 Nov 2013 15:42:37 EST Pregnancy Buddy I am five months pregnant and now that I am able to eat again I am trying to get healthy again. I would like someone to trade ideas and thoughts with. I am at a normal weight though not active and I have gained 8 pounds so I am headed the right way just want to do it healthier :)) Sat, 2 Nov 2013 20:48:07 EST Need prayers and support! Hello, we have an urgent need for as much support and prayers as is possible. <BR> Our 22 year young daughter is a special needs patient as well as a heart patient. <BR> She is about to have her 10th open heart surgery (since she was 3 days old) and we need to get our old Water damaged single wide home repaired so that she and her 11 month old daughter can move down from Fayetteville beside us so we can help her husband to take care of her and her baby while she is recovering. We need funds ... Fri, 1 Nov 2013 14:21:37 EST father very critical Hello <BR> A brief history about me. I was on the site about a year or so ago was doing great and then life happened. Long story short I am 27 and on disability. I'd rather not go into why. I have to live with parents as a result and while my mom is great my dad is another story. I have always been fat but with medication and not working I have gained more weight. My health issue is not weight related and not effected by weight. <BR> Well two weeks ago I decided enough is enough and I was goi... Tue, 29 Oct 2013 23:26:27 EST Kids and weight I have a semi personal question for you all. Now, my daughter is only two and we make sure she eats healthy. She prefers apples,grapes, tomatoes and healthier snacks like fruit snack instead of junk food. <BR> <BR> Now my question is as she gets older and feels the pressure to eat unhealthier foods I am afraid she is going to join the wave of over weight children.I of course will love her no matter what size she ends up being but I want her to be the healthiest happy little girl she can be.... Sun, 27 Oct 2013 08:17:16 EST Need support with craziness I know there isn't a solution to my problem right now and I don't want a pity party. But I need objective opinions. <BR> My step-dad filed for divorce (and had my mom served at work) last November. I live with my mom because of my sister's severe and varied disabilities and medical needs. He has been verbally abusive for a long time, so the divorce wasn't necessarily a bad thing. I do wish it had happened like 15 years ago really. But now, my mom is in the funk. I don't think she's depr... Tue, 15 Oct 2013 18:36:22 EST Drowning in family problems Daughter and I went to our first counseling session today. Good counselor; don't know where we go from here. All I want to do is cry and curl up. Any ideas to help? Please! Tue, 8 Oct 2013 23:41:58 EST NEW TEAM- Secondary Infertility Support I know there is a team called Infertility...but we haven't had a team about SECONDARY infertility until now. <BR> <BR> This affects nearly 3 million Americans and the sad thing is that this group of people are LEAST likely to get help. <BR> <BR> I hope this groups helps as many as it can. <BR> <BR> <BR> <link><BR>oard_topics.asp?imboard=61 </link> <BR> <BR> No judgement. Just support. Thu, 3 Oct 2013 17:05:58 EST Losing a child Losing a child is the hardest thing especially when its your son or daughter. I lost my son Joey May 2012.He is survived by his younger brother Michael whom they were both close. Tue, 1 Oct 2013 08:39:53 EST Christmas Craft for my daughters party in December Hi. My name is Shauna and I am in charge of the Holiday Party in December for my 9 year old. The 3 other parents and I need to come up with one or 2 games, healthy peanut free snack and a craft. Does anyone have any ideas? Mon, 30 Sep 2013 17:51:01 EST Heart sick and frightened for my grandson Our very polite and fun loving18 yo grandson came to live with us to go to school, his lifelong dream. Managed to via text and phone get involved with a 16 yo girl back in home state. We immediately saw a change in him, but it got worse quickly. No he was not on drugs he was love struck. I also knew he was extremely depressed so made him was in he process of making him an appointment to see a doc. My neighbor called me at work and asked if I was aware he was leaving, no I wasn't. He sol... Sat, 28 Sep 2013 13:10:32 EST Mommy guilt I have two small children ages 4 yrs old and 9 months. I have been taking a boxing fitness class in the evening for the last week but I am starting to feel guilty about leaving my kids in the evening. They are away at childcare during the day, so we come home, I fix them dinner then I am off to my class and return in time to put them to bed. How do other moms deal with this feeling of guilt when working out in the evening? Wed, 25 Sep 2013 12:53:58 EST My three year old is out of control. Hello everyone! I have a 3 year old who is my only child and his behavior is out of control.I have tried time outs, taking away privileges (PBS kids website) and skipping play dates. He is very hyper so I thought I would sign him up for soccer to help him get some energy out.Instead he played a total of 20 minutes out of two games and refused to play after that.He stopped napping, so now I can barely get anything done, and I feel like I do not have any control anymore.Is anyone else dealing w... Tue, 24 Sep 2013 09:58:03 EST Deployment and stress So my husband is deployed. This is his first since he has been in the army NG. We have been married for 7 years in Nov and have a almost 3 year old. I am an RN at a local hospital and only work about 2-3 8hr shifts a week. I almost had a mental breakdown today. I just feel so overwhelmed. Not only is my toddler in his independent stage, but I am trying to potty train him. I just feel so alone in all this. I have a sister-in-law who will come over a couple of times a week so I can work out, bu... Sat, 21 Sep 2013 17:38:41 EST time management I have alot of things that need done but I'm having problems with time management. <BR> <BR> mostly, I get distracted by so many community forums or whatever. <BR> <BR> ideas and advice to NOT be so addicted to them? Mon, 16 Sep 2013 19:58:15 EST SOMEONE NEED'S YOUR SUPPORT !! I AM ASKING ALL SPARKER'S TO EITHER TO EITHER BLOG OR POST ON "MANDELOVICH" PAGE. HER HUSBAND IS NOT WELL AND NEED'S OUR SUPPORT. PLEASE DO THIS FOR HER. <em>304</em> . Fri, 13 Sep 2013 00:44:07 EST Newly Diagnosed with PCOS Hi, <BR> <BR> Just got diagnosed actually yesterday with PCOS. I have many of the symptoms: Weight gain, facial hair, acne and cysts on my ovaries oh plus hjgh blood pressure oh and depression. What do I do and where do I turn? I'm sick of how I feel........ <BR> <BR> I am currently doing a low carb diet but it is not easy. <BR> <BR> -Kim Tue, 10 Sep 2013 07:14:46 EST my kids wont eat my cooking!!! Help!! I make great food, according to my kids friends and family... So why are MY kids not eating my food. Everyone but my kids eat my food... all they want is to load up on Carbs. What do I do... Mon, 9 Sep 2013 12:56:18 EST Sleeve I am currently in the process of have the sleeve surgery as this is what my doctor recommended for me I am super excited but would live to hear from people who had it done,if it was a good choice and how are things going. Sun, 8 Sep 2013 22:46:11 EST Struggling with the School Schedule Is anyone else struggling to find time for the gym now that school has started? <BR> <BR> I thought that getting to the gym would be easier; because the schedule is set, and I have one child during the morning hours. But it isn't easier. I am juggling getting my older child to school, household chores, and activities for two children. On days when I do get to the gym we are in a mad rush. And we are only going to get busier. <BR> <BR> How are you handling the time management? Sun, 8 Sep 2013 08:51:28 EST Childrens Exercise DVD's My daughter is 9 years old and weighs 115 pounds 4.5 ft, she loves watching me do "insanity" and wants to try it, of course I will not let her at this age because I don't want her hurting herself. But I did see that shaun t has a childrens dvd, and was wondering if anyone has tried it or any other good DVD's for children? Sun, 8 Sep 2013 03:39:07 EST Loving our husbands and children too Sorry this was an error! Thu, 5 Sep 2013 14:29:59 EST 8 days post op Ia am 8 days post op and have lost 13 pounds . Thank God !!! I'm wondering when can you start in the gym? Wed, 4 Sep 2013 22:27:20 EST Losing before/while pregnant question Hi I'm new here and my husband an I are going to try an start a family any time now and currently I'm 285 but I need to do something so my question is I guess have any of you lost weight while pregnant? I'm sure it's not exactly recommended but I'm starting to lose but can get pregnant at any time..any suggestions or has anyone been in this position? Thanks! Sun, 1 Sep 2013 17:40:16 EST Menu Planning I want to start menu planning and was needing some advice on the simplest way. <BR> Is there websites? Or is there a part of SparkPeople that has this? <BR> Any advise would be great... Thank you! Sun, 1 Sep 2013 02:20:23 EST New Mom here Hi all! I wanted to introduce myself on here. I am a brand new Mommy, my son was born on July 17. Now it's time for me to lose the baby weight - plus some! I look forward to getting support and ideas here. Tue, 27 Aug 2013 22:35:07 EST I am about to go for surgery in the next 30 days Hello my name is Kim and I am about to have surgery in the next 30 days. Just wondering about anything I can do to prepare while waiting. I have cut out pop (it has been only 4 days) but it is gone. Sugar is next on my list going to shoot to get rid of as much as I can, because I am told that those two things will really make me sick. Never a big pop drinker and only diet, but sugar I crave every day. Anxious for the surgery, having all the testing done now and looking at September 30, 2013 ... Tue, 27 Aug 2013 12:55:44 EST Calling all Cesarean Moms! Hi! My name is Barbara Smith. I am known as Chasing Bubbles here at Sparks! I am the mother of 14 children. I had 10 c-sections myself. Yes TEN. :) Anyway, I am an RN in a Labor and Delivery unit in NC. I am also an author. I have published two books so far. <BR> <BR> <BR> I know I have had some weird things said to me over the years. Have you? I once was told I couldn't be part of a food coop because I had "fake" births. I'm not kidding. <BR> <BR> How did you feel about your births? I ... Sun, 25 Aug 2013 16:22:08 EST Family, Food, Thought! I am having such a hard time making 3 meals for each sitting, and of course I would drather eat what my husband is having than what I am having. It is hard cause my son won't eat mine or my husbands meal. My husband don't like healthy. I'm struggling day to day, who am I kidding minute to minute. I leave home to work and when I get to work deal with all kinds of fooods from doughnuts to ice cream and candy it's a constant at work. On top of the stress that makes you want to eat everythin... Thu, 22 Aug 2013 06:35:03 EST Mirena fell out! Anyone experience this? <BR> Had mirena fitted in january this year due to heavy periods caused by firboids! <BR> Calmed by periods down but it was one permanent light period so went back to gynae and they have got me down for removal of coil and an ablation on 24th sept. <BR> <BR> Anyway just last week started to bleed quite heavy and could feel my coil strings hanging out of me. Went to the toilet and it was like a blood bath with half my insides. Loads of huge clots plus the coil was als... Sun, 18 Aug 2013 03:28:43 EST Derailed by life... It seems that the "fat" I've been noticing that made me uncomfortable was for a reason. My IUD failed. I'm 4 weeks pregnant. My baby is only 6 months old. I am in total shock right now. We definitely are not ready for a second baby. We were still adjusting to life with one! We go on Wednesday for an ultrasound to make sure we're not ectopic. I seriously don't know whether to laugh at the irony or cry. Sat, 17 Aug 2013 02:50:28 EST Know it all 8 yo stepdaughter My stepdaughter is only 8 years old, but she is driving me crazy! She's lived with her dad and I for two years now and it's getting so I want to send her back to her mom. Which is not a good environment, which is why we got custody of her. She constantly corrects people. If I say it's 3:00, she will say No, it's 2:58. We were talking about her open house at school and I said it was on the 29th and she said, "no, you mean it's on Thursday." I said, "Thursday is the 29th" And she said "No... Thu, 15 Aug 2013 22:51:07 EST How to handle child sneaking food Okay, I'm sorry this might be long. My son is almost 10. He is 4'8" and weighs about 110lbs. His doctor found his BMI to be around 25 and expressed concern about his weight at his last visit and I've noticed that he's been gaining quite a bit lately, especially around his middle. We don't keep junk food in the house, I try to serve real, whole foods, not much out of boxes or cans. <BR> A little background - his weight issues started when his father and I separated when he was 3. We tempo... Tue, 13 Aug 2013 14:07:04 EST Finding the spark in my relationship Hi, I am new, but wanted to reach out and get advice. I am 47.I have been married for 15 yrs. and have 2 girls(14 + 12). I am finding that my relationship with my husband is dull and lifeless.I have been emotionally down over my weight and aging, could be the beginning of menopause to top it off. I feel like I am falling out of love with my husband and it scares me. I do love him and don't want to ruin our family in any way. <BR> We have been through lots of anger issues on his side, which we... Tue, 13 Aug 2013 11:42:07 EST New mom My daughter will be three weeks tomorrow:) <BR> <BR> <BR> I gained 60 lbs during my pregnancy. I was 160 prior to and was 220 before I gave birth. I stayed pretty active during my pregnancy until the 6th month. I admit I didn't eat the best. I was mainly stress eating. I was also dealing with my father's battle with cancer and the loss of that battle two months prior to her birth. <BR> <BR> After 23 hours of labor, including 3 hours of pushing, i ended up with a c-section so any hopes of g... Mon, 12 Aug 2013 19:02:07 EST Stopping emotional eating I'm a busy mom of 5, but regardless of how crazy life gets, I still reach for food when I'm happy, sad, bored, angry, or stressed (especially sugary foods). I need to find other things to do, especially when I'm stressed. I can't always drop everything and go for a walk so I need some other practical ideas on what to do instead of eating junk. Sun, 11 Aug 2013 15:10:19 EST im very concerned for my child. my daughter is 3 years old. a coupel days ago i found some red spots on her face that looked like mosquito bites. and then she got little red dots on her face and some mosquito looking bites on her legs and arms. then today i seen her sratch her arm and came some more spots. i cant get her to see her doctor. id really like to know whats going on, im scared for her idk what to do): <BR> <BR> its not chicken pox cause its not all over her body and she has no symptoms. <BR> could it be bed bug... Fri, 9 Aug 2013 11:30:56 EST kids,elderly and pets left in cars PLEASE!!!!BE AWARE THAT ITS THAT TIME OF YEAR WHEN TEMPS INSIDE CARS REACH STAGGERING NUMBERS.PUT YOUR PURSE,BRIEFCASE OR ANYTHING THAT CAUSES YOU TO REACH BACK AND SEE THE ONES YOU LOVE.WE HAVE ALOT GOING ON IN OUR LIVES AND FORGET.IT TAKES ONLY MINUTES TO DIE IN A CAR.LITTLE ONES ARE SOMETIMES SLEEPING AND ITS EASY TO END IN A NIGHTMARE!DONT BE A STATISTIC <em>223</em> Thu, 8 Aug 2013 17:10:39 EST Bingeing, family & resentment.... Hi everyone, <BR> <BR> This is a bit of a messy post, I'll try my best to keep it simple but please bear with me. I definitely need some help... <BR> <BR> So, over the last month or so I've been trying to figure out and work through my binge eating disorder and get started on the road to recovery. This has inevitably led to some soul searching and looking at my past to try and figure out why I might have started bingeing. <BR> Long story short would be that I used food to please people, eat... Thu, 8 Aug 2013 03:40:11 EST help required...please : ) Hi, I am new here, and am currently just trying to get my head into weight loss. However I have just started working full time again after being a stay at home mum for the past 6 years, and to top that off I start studying for my degree aswell from october on a part time basis, and to top that off I have my 2 gorgeous girls (5 and 8yr old) and partner. How do you all squeeze in time for yourselves (exercise and cooking healthy meals) and not neglect your children? Sat, 3 Aug 2013 16:23:18 EST How to talk to your daughters (and sons) I thought this was a nice article <BR> <BR> <link><BR>am/body-image_b_3678534.html?ncid=edli<BR>nkusaolp00000009 </link> Thu, 1 Aug 2013 15:35:39 EST Ideas on how to provide stability times for kids Hello, <BR> I'm looking to get some ideas on how to provide a little stability for children who have parents in either ministry, the military or any other profession where lots of movement is the norm. <BR> I think it is important for children to have something that they know will be there even when their surroundings have changed,for instance - a movie or indoor game night once a week or outdoor game and cooking show and tell once a month or reading a book with them at bedtime on Tuesdays -... Wed, 31 Jul 2013 11:53:28 EST Any homeschoolers? I am homeschooling my middle school daughter and wondered if there were any other homeschool moms and dads who would like to have a place to chat. This is our second year homeschooling after having DD in a private school through 5th grade. Wed, 31 Jul 2013 10:57:27 EST Need to make some huge changes! I am a single mother of twins. They are now 23 years old BUT my son is severely disabled and my daughter just graduated college this year so, they both live with me. I have a boyfriend who moved into my house about 3 years ago. Things are not going well between us. We are like 2 single people living In the same house. We work different shifts so we don't even sleep in the same bed together and sex is nonexistent for at least a year now! I have told him several times that I am unhappy But he j... Tue, 30 Jul 2013 19:56:15 EST Any Moms in their 20s? Hello moms! <BR> If you're in your 20s check out this team: 20 Something Moms <BR> <BR> <link><BR>hingMoms </link> Tue, 30 Jul 2013 09:55:08 EST My Daughter My daughter will be 12 in September <em>247</em> Sat, 27 Jul 2013 19:37:02 EST Gastric Sleeve Surgery I have been reading the posts in the sleeve surgery forum. Thanks for your responses. I am going to a seminar on July 30 for info on it with the surgeon. I have a few concerns as 1, I have never had surgery before or gone under anesthesia, 2,the prep prior, if you are losing all the weight before the surgery with the diet they give you , why can you not continue that and lose the weight? What kind of exercise is everyone doing? How are spouses handling the change? I am the one that prepares ... Sat, 27 Jul 2013 08:33:49 EST When You're Judged By Those You Least Expect I'm curious to know if this has ever happened to anyone else...or if maybe I am getting way too into my feelings (as my fiance said - I should just brush it off, does it REALLY matter?) <BR> <BR> I met my best friend over ten years ago and we've been inseparable ever since. We grew up together, went through every life changing girl moment together, etc. Her family is like my family and vice versa. I mean, we might as well be sisters. <BR> <BR> And because we always did things together...the... Wed, 24 Jul 2013 08:21:48 EST Pre-Team Gymnastics Woes - Any Advice? My 5 yo made the pre-team gymnastics class in March. The bottom line is, I don't think she's doing well as she doesn't seem to be mastering skills as quickly as the other girls and doesn't seem like she's paying attention, but she wants to be there and the coach apparently thinks she's doing okay. Truth is, I wouldn't mind the lack of progress if she were paying attention, but not paying attention/listening bothers me whether she's doing it to me or her teachers. It's okay with me if she lack... Mon, 22 Jul 2013 13:33:02 EST Inheriting a child! Help! Hello, <BR> I am 26 yrs old, I been married for six years and still don't have any children.. <BR> My husbands mother have been living with cancer for the past four years and things are not going so well for her. Her doctor recently found a mass in her brain and they do not know if its a tumor. She is going to have surgery soon but mentioned several times that she is afraid of dying. She says that she has accepted Gods will but doesn't want to die just yet, she still has a 10 year old son ... Mon, 22 Jul 2013 01:42:26 EST Sister pushing me out of her life..... So there is a LOT of sister is on disability, lives with her "fiancé" (and not claiming themselves as common law so ripping off the government), is in an open relationship and seems to be sleeping with more people right now than I have my entire life (and I was no angel), etc etc etc <BR> <BR> I work with people with disabilities to help them learn job skills, so seeing my sister (who's reasons for being on disability are constantly changing, and a lot of things are either se... Mon, 22 Jul 2013 01:29:30 EST need ideas on how to fall back in love My husband and I have been married for 4+ years. We have a 15 month old son. Last night we sat down and told each other we want more love in our marriage. We love each other but feel like we need to work on bonding with each other. Life is busy and different after having a baby. I am looking for ideas of what other couples do to keep their marriage a life. We both work and spend our free time with our son. Once he goes to bed, we either clean or watch TV. I suggested getting rid of the tv and... Fri, 19 Jul 2013 12:05:30 EST Kicking off my wt.loss journey Over a year ago I heard about SparksPeople site and it has been on the back of my mind to join. So I have made a decision to leverage the tools on this site to go forward on this journey to lose weight and stay healthy. There are so many days that I find myself feeling like not trying on losing weight. I think my biggest frustration is the lack of support from my husband. It is actually the opposite of what anyone would wish for. On a regular basis I am put down for my weight and that I ... Wed, 17 Jul 2013 08:09:59 EST Trouble feeling happy... I am the stay at home mother of three children under the age of five. I've been working very hard since the birth of my youngest child to reach a healthy body fat percentage. This morning, for the first time in my life, I weighed in at 199.8. Just barely under 200, but still a success. <BR> Instead of happiness and pride in myself, I feel numb. This is something I've wished and hoped and tried for, for a very very long time. But it's like someone flipped a switch in my brain, and I just can't... Tue, 16 Jul 2013 09:32:14 EST Developmental Delays Hello all..i'm doing a project on the florida diagnostics and learning resources system. I am the mother of a child who was diagnosed with a speech delay shortly after his second birthday, he is now four (5 in november) and just graduated out of speech earlier this year. <BR> <BR> even if you reside in another state, just wondering what your experience has been with getting services for your developmentally delayed children? <BR> <BR> for example, how did you go about enrolling them? was t... Mon, 15 Jul 2013 14:59:13 EST My pride is hurt... Help! This week two different family members approached me and suggested that I seriously look into weight-loss surgery. Not only do I not believe I am a good candidate for surgery, but it feels to me like giving up, and somehow seems my family has given up hope on me. Anyone else been though this? How did you cope? Would love to hear from you... Thu, 11 Jul 2013 21:43:49 EST Son's "girlfriend" update Thanks to everyone who lent me their support and prayers regarding my 18yr. old son's relationship with his 26yr. old boss. They have been living together, he has a full-time job and YES, she is now pregnant with baby #4 with Daddy son. They told me last night. To their credit, they are happy about it. In fact, Blake wants to marry her. <BR> We had a REAL honest discussion. It took everything I had to remain calm but I did. <BR> Selfishly, I am upset that "MY" son won't be going to co... Thu, 11 Jul 2013 18:39:04 EST Overwhelmed!! Hi Everyone, I am back on Sparkpeople after leaving for the last year or so. I have had great success in the past using it. I just needed to vent I guess. I have a 3 year old son and a 2 1/2 month old son. I love them both, but man, the 3 year old never stops, and we have 2 hour bedtime battles every night. The 2 1/2 month old is breastfed, so I am up at night with him a lot. I do have a great husband who is so helpful, but it still seems like a never ending rat race. I work full time,... Wed, 10 Jul 2013 10:57:57 EST Help! mothers of driving me crazy I have 3 kids: a 4 yr old and twins 2 1/2. The 4 yo is definitely the instigator. He doesn't listen, cries when he doesn't get his way, hits his sisters. I am a single mom now and I need help on how to deal the stress. I get so frustrated and angry I start to yell at them. I don't want to be an angry mom. How do you handle it when 3 kids are crying or running around crazy. This is just the tip of the iceberg. There are so many other things going on at the same time. One twin is so underweight... Mon, 8 Jul 2013 06:10:37 EST Boyfriend lying I know it doesn't seem like a big deal, but he let his friend borrow my xbox. Then lied about leaving at his mother's house. This lie has lasted for three months. I asked about it constantly and he lied to without hesitation. Then I found out the truth through the friends slip up, when I asked the friend he replies with "he told me it was ok to borrow". So I called my boyfriend, asked him if he was sure it was at his mom's. He said yes, (one lie). Then I said swear on your life (slight hesita... Thu, 4 Jul 2013 09:00:32 EST Mommy to 4 Kiddos Hi, I'm Tricia and I'm looking to make more Fitness Friends. I'm 28, married, from southern California. Thu, 4 Jul 2013 00:08:50 EST C25K with my 9 y/o I have 7 children and out of all 7 only one is chubby. He's my little carb lover (I had to pass something to him, otherwise he's a carbon copy of his dad). I've beenw orking with him on nutrition but he never has any desire to be active and when he is he sort of half does it. <BR> <BR> I decided that I was going to train for a 5K and started the C25K program (couch to 5K) last Thursday. We've been doing it every other day (you're only supposed to work it 3 days a week) and it's been aw... Tue, 2 Jul 2013 16:11:37 EST PLEASE VISIT THIS SITE IT'S ABOUT HELPING KIDS OUT VISIT 1-800-765-1634 TO ADOPT CHILDREN & HELP THEM OUT THIS CAME ON MY TV IF I HAD $ I WOULD Mon, 1 Jul 2013 14:02:18 EST unsupportive family members I have had a few of my family members be unsupportable of my journey and make comments such as well you ran 3 miles why not 4? Another thing too I have bad acid reflux I had it when I was smaller too so my weight isn't an issue but when my sister makes comments such as well your dramatic it isn't painful or if you weren't so fat. I work out up to 3 times a week and eat much better now due to that. I have found support through my gym and a local class. All of these people are in the same boat... Sun, 30 Jun 2013 11:58:46 EST How to meal plan for a family I'm the one on the diet. My husband isn't. He's trim and fit naturally. I don't think he understands how HARD this is. Over the course of my life, I've lost and gained back 200lbs. My goal is to drop 50 between now and next June. And I just can't do it. I used to be able to! I was by myself, my fridge and my kitchen were my own. I cooked for just me. <BR> <BR> But now I have a husband to feed. And he does sweet things like brings me a "treat" from work. Yesterday he brought home a big bottl... Fri, 28 Jun 2013 11:02:28 EST Picky family, tiny budget I'm wondering if anyone has helpful advice concerning meal planning for a non-supportive family. My husband kind of wants to & needs to eat healthy, but it has to "taste good". I also have two young boys 3 & 5, who are pretty picky eaters. I exercise hard & often, but have not lost one pound because of the way my family eats. We also have a very small grocery budget & I can't afford to buy what they want to eat AND what I want to eat... Fri, 28 Jun 2013 10:51:43 EST Breastfeeding I am just wondering if there are any other breastfeeding moms on SP or maybe is there a way to change the program to be more accurate for bfing moms. Just curious to see who is out there. I work full time and bf when I'm not here my adorable 11 month old son. Thu, 27 Jun 2013 16:09:53 EST Approaching family members about obesity I'm very sure I'm not the only person in this situation. <BR> <BR> I'm the oldest of 4 children, who come from a perfectly split gene pool. We have 2 slim grandparents and 2 large-framed grandparents. My mother is a little overweight, but has taken MAJOR strides in getting healthy and focusing on weight loss. My father, who is incredibly hard working, lacks the motivation to turn the corner. Additionally, my younger brother has always had an issue with his weight-- and I don't believe it to ... Thu, 27 Jun 2013 01:23:29 EST I just need a supporting.. Hello everyone, im 18 and i want to lose weight (im 63 and i want to be 55 kg- (for 165 m) i eat perfectly healthy but sometimes my family members and friends are trying to sabotage my diet and i can't handle it anymore. &#304; don't know why they're acting like that, i don't want to see anyone, i become a desperate person. When they're offering me food, i say 'no' kindly and they're starting insisting and it freaks me out. &#304; just want to be understand by someone. My mom thinks what im d... Sun, 23 Jun 2013 08:27:32 EST how to feed 2 very different calorie needs Hello, <BR> I have this simple problem.. I met a very nice fellow and we have been living together for about a year now. The problem is he burns a lot more energy then me. We used to eat about the same thing in almost the same portion.... while I gain 40 pounds, he managed to lose 20 since we began dating.(we did not eat all that unhealthy either,i made him eat lots of veggie, lean cuts of meat, whole wheat pasta... and whine, cheese and bread). <BR> Now that I am back on spark people, he is... Wed, 19 Jun 2013 16:35:22 EST Dog help needed An unusual topic for Sparkspeople, but I need some help so hopefully someone will be able to. <BR> <BR> I have a lovable furry, white dog, age 2.5 years, that has been keeping me awake at night. He is attached ot me when I am home so anywhere I am, he is too. He sleeps in the crook of my legs. Lately, about 2 months, he is waking me up at 3:30 A.M. He sits near my chest and stares at me then lighlty moans/whines. He is communicating. I am taking it as his way of saying he needs to go out bec... Tue, 18 Jun 2013 12:42:57 EST Tubes tied advice! I recently spoke with my gyn about getting a tubal. He went through all of the risks with me which were pretty scary. Can ya'll offer your input and experience to help me make a decision? I can't stand the hormonal birth control any longer. Mon, 17 Jun 2013 00:11:40 EST HAPPY FATHER'S DAY !! HEY DAD'S & GRANDPA'S ENJOY "YOUR DAY" TREASURE THESE MOMENT'S IN YOUR LIFE. GOD BLESS YOU IN YOUR EFFORT'S. <BR> <BR> <BR> FROM A GRANDMA Sun, 16 Jun 2013 14:38:23 EST Mum giving the silent treatment - please help me! Hey guys, <BR> <BR> Basically I need some advice from a third party. Currently my mum is going through a divorce with my father which has created a lot of stress. I have literally JUST finished my final exams of my entire degree. I have an older brother that is helping out financially and I've been helping with the bills as well with what money I have. <BR> <BR> On Tuesday, my mum came through the door and I was on my laptop (which I'm usually on). She started throwing comments at me like "... Sat, 15 Jun 2013 16:23:01 EST What were the early indications of asp/autism? We have yet to get my daughter diagnosed but there's something wrong with her. She's 3 1/2 and she can't communicate like a normal 3 year old. She's kind of hard to explain. Sometimes I think she may be on the spectrum and sometimes not. For instance, she has a routine of sorts and doesn't like to vary from it. If you DO vary from it, she has a meltdown. For instance, she asks for a drink of water every night as soon as we put her to bed. After she takes a drink and you take the cup she poi... Sat, 15 Jun 2013 01:17:20 EST Advice needed for family matter weight loss <link><BR>urnal_individual.asp?blog_id=5387677 </link> <BR> <BR> I have blogged in detail about what is going on so I don't have to take up space here.. <BR> <BR> For those that your kids, teens are joining you in your weight loss journey or adventure and its a family matter, just not a me matter...what things are you doing or how did you start with them? <BR> <BR> My daughter has requested and she WANTS to do this with me.. I have not pressured her... Thu, 13 Jun 2013 07:18:25 EST New Mom Im a new mom. MY baby is 9 months old. Im working now. I wake up at 4.30 in the morning to pack food for the day, feed my baby and start to work by 6.15 in the morning. I reach home by 6-6.30 in the evening. I finish dinner before 7.30. After that I do all the remaining work at home and set things ready for the next day. My daughter sleeps by 11 in the night. Im not getting time for doing any exercise. My diet is having a full glass of orange juice before leaving home. Two brown breads at 9,... Thu, 13 Jun 2013 02:41:18 EST Picky Eaters My schedule tends to quite chaotic. I'm a true lover of the crockpot; however, it's difficult to make some of these healthier recipe suggestions for my family. I'm not going to make one meal for them and one for myself. I am an intervention specialist for an autism program, so I'm way too busy to do that. I need some picky eater friendly recipes. Wed, 12 Jun 2013 16:32:32 EST loneliness and mom I am having a hard time finding time to talk to my mom when we are both not busy, and she isn't tired or stressed at the end of the day. She lost my dad to cancer last year and taking care of the house, my 2 autistic brothers, and trying to get everything done for bills and running a house keeps her busy. I call and she cant talk because she's busy or seems to be tired mentally or physically from everything. I know she's not trying to be mean, or ignore me. Its just hard for me when she cant ... Sun, 9 Jun 2013 20:50:12 EST Seeking fellow mother diet/lifestyle buddy Good morning. I have a lot of weight to lose, about 100lbs. I am also extremely busy. I work full time (would rather work part-time), am married, have three amazing, busy children, and own a home which requires all the maintenance that goes along with owning a home. It is super difficult to plan healthy meals - in fact, it's hard to find time to do grocery shopping. In my life, my family and marriage (been married 18 yrs) comes first and always will, followed by other responsibilities, ... Sun, 9 Jun 2013 09:21:37 EST SparkCoach Hi, I am currently doing the free trial of SparkCoach. Has anyone here subscribed? I am curious if it's effective long term. I have 3 children and all the daily challenges of maintaining work, home, etc. I need accountability. Thanks for your feedback! Have a great day! <BR> Sun, 9 Jun 2013 08:59:40 EST Stressed & can't turn your mind off at bedtime I am a parent who's experienced a lot of stress/anxiety for about 6-7 years now. The last two I'd say I've experienced chronic stress. I joined the Official Stress Busting Challenge Team. <BR> <BR> I wanted to share with stressed parents something that has helped me. I think most of us feel overwhelmed in our life & have a lot of worries,in whatever form they may appear. <BR> One difficulty I know I've had is at bedtime stopping the repeating of negative thoughts, things I can't control, ... Fri, 7 Jun 2013 17:34:34 EST Too old? Is there an age that (in YOUR opinion) we are too old to have kids? Fri, 7 Jun 2013 09:32:22 EST Anyone with a toddler that's behind n undiagnosed? My daughter is 3 and is pretty behind for a 3 year old. She took speech therapy until she aged out of it at 3. We are supposed to go to Cincinnati to have her evaluated because nobody can really say what's wrong with her. <BR> They've pretty much ruled out autism because she's very social, she loves people and other children. She makes eye contact, she is very loving, gives hugs and kisses, but she is far behind for a 3 year old. <BR> Here's an example of what I mean: I can show her a new ... Thu, 6 Jun 2013 20:26:49 EST Newly pregnant. I just need SUPPORT This is a vent. <BR> <BR> I am 27 years old. In a stable relationship for 3.5 years. I own a house, I have a good job.. granted I JUST switched and have only been here for 3weeks now haha, but still. A good job. I own a car. My student loans are paid off. I'm a smart person. And I helped raise my sister when I was 16, because my mother had suddenly become a single mother with a newborn. <BR> <BR> NO ONE is supportive. They tell me that I'm not prepared, not ready, can't handle this. And th... Wed, 5 Jun 2013 15:46:24 EST Pregnancy-> M/C = Emotional eating, weight gain So, in very early May we found out we were pregnant. We were super excited as we've been trying for a long time. Prior to this I managed to lose almost 30 lbs. Well, my husband graduated from college about a week later and his mother flew in for a week to celebrate. Between my husband's graduation, having out-of-town company, and the pregnancy, there was a lot of 'celebratory' eating out. Add to this the hormonal "I'm always hungry" pregnancy eating and the "it's ok, I'm pregnant" over e... Wed, 5 Jun 2013 15:23:48 EST working out with young children? I was wondering if anyone has any creative suggestions for getting a work out in with a 2 yo in tow? <BR> <BR> I dont mind working out, but my problem is I am a stay at home mom to a 2.5 yo boy who is super high energy, but in his terrible twos for sure. My husband works out of town 5 days a week, so going to the gym is almost all but out of the question. I tried dvds before he wakes up or after he goes to bed, but Im just not a fan of dvds. We have been going for long walks, but I think ... Wed, 5 Jun 2013 15:10:36 EST returning to Spark I'm back for more. <BR> <BR> I'm a 30 something mom of 2 kids, 14 and 10. My husband passed away last year after a heart transplant, so my weight was the farthest thing from my mind. Its been a year, and things are finally a bit easier, so its time to focus on me. I have A LOT to lose, and an uphill battle between having lupus and meds I am on, but I am determined they won't get the best of me. Wed, 5 Jun 2013 14:35:07 EST A returning member My name is Rachel. I have 3 kids, two who are 5&6 and very active. Both starting school (Kinder and First) in August. I would like to try and work up to being able to help in their classes. Walking is very hard. I could stand to lose a little, but I am more wanting endurance. <BR> I am very limited (due to arthritis from birth defects {I can not take anti inflammatories or arthritis medications due to my birth defect}) on exercising. I do have the Wii Sports game that comes with the Wii. I w... Wed, 5 Jun 2013 13:16:47 EST Unwanted advice This is more of a vent than anything. I have been on my journey for almost two years now and have lost 30+ lbs. I lost that weight within the first 9 months and have kept it off and now concentrate on strength training to maintain along with some cardio here and there. <BR> My husband is about 100 lbs overweight. He has never shown any interest in eating healthy or exercising with me BUT always has "advice" for me on how I should eating or working out. He ALWAYS has an excuse for not exerc... Tue, 4 Jun 2013 10:16:13 EST Dealing with a co-parent I think I need a second to vent here. <BR> <BR> I have an AMAZING step-daughter. She is 13. She is smart, funny, and a really really good kid. Sure, she gets into trouble and has teenage attitude, but she is a great kid at heart. She lives with us, and sees her mom every other weekend and every Wednesday. <BR> <BR> The last year or so, at least one day out of her mom's weekend, she spends the night at a friend's house rather that spending the night at her mom's. The last 2 months, sh... Thu, 30 May 2013 09:05:21 EST My son On March 20th my son text me from school and said that he "accidentally took" my husband's medicine that morning....being an ER nurse I asked him his symptoms and when he said he was dizzy I told him to go to the nurse...about a half hour passed and I finally called the nurse who had not heard from my son at all...I asked her to please go find him...she found him wandering around outside....she called me and said that he was sleeping in her office....I had my mom go pick him up and bring him ... Wed, 29 May 2013 18:45:20 EST Hate my son's "girlfriend" update While I thought my son, Blake, was staying with friends after work, he was in fact staying with "boss lady." Now he claims they are "living together." In my opinion, he has just ruined his life and simply gone from one mother to another. It makes me sick. I am trying to take everyone's advice and stay quiet and supportive so if you have an extra second in your day, would you consider praying for my son and me? Thanks. Tue, 28 May 2013 13:13:24 EST Loosing weight at a Healthy Rate Hello all. <BR> I'm a dad of a 4.5 year old girl. She was born when I was 40. That puts me on the older dad track as she grows up. This concerns me but not as much as being a fat dad. You know, the guy who "sits this one out" the guy who's too tired or too embarrassed to participate. I'm not obese but I'm not comfortable in my clothes and often searching my closet for a jacket or vest to cover my belly. As if no one can see it. haha. <BR> So this Spring I'm on the right track. I'm committed t... Sun, 26 May 2013 20:55:21 EST Reduce sex drive Does anyone have any tips/ideas how to reduce male sex drive? Been married almost a year and wife isn't in the mood but maybe once a week or every other week, while I'm pretty much in the mood all the time. When sleeping with with her I tend to get "handsy" when cuddling and am worried if I dont find some way to stop this I may end up annoying her to the point she wants to leave me. Sat, 25 May 2013 23:02:32 EST AHHHH RIP my rose bush Having a new family gaining two step kids (adults) has been interesting to say the least.. <BR> <BR> We moved into a new yard, new landscaping, which means a lot of the planted flowers are NOT landscaped.. I made sure in our old yard.. things were surrounded by mulch, rocks or something that way everyone knew which were flowers, which ones were weeds..if nothing was around the plant it was free to mow and free game to damage to despair. <BR> <BR> Well we moved on mother's day weekend and so... Fri, 24 May 2013 15:57:14 EST My 8 yr old stepson doesn't like my cooking... My stepson is 8 and he hates my cooking. I can never make him happy. I try to make healthier versions of his favorite foods, and he always tells us he doesn't like it. The only veggies he will even touch are canned green beans and raw carrots. I refuse to let him fill up on the pizza and McDonald's that he eats regularly at his house. He does love fresh fruit, I'll give him that one, but I can't get him to eat any vegetables and it's a rule at our house that we eat a veggie with every meal. E... Tue, 21 May 2013 03:12:46 EST Looking for friends in weight loss Hi My name is Brittany, <BR> <BR> My family and I just moved to AZ from Colorado for my husbands job. My husband and I have been married for almost a year and I have a 5 year old son from another relationship. This is the first time in 5 years I have had the chance to be a stay at home mom. With being new to the area and no idea how to make new friends I thought I would give this a try. My family always supports me in my weight loss but, I am the only one in the house doing it. I am j... Mon, 20 May 2013 13:38:59 EST single mother of 2, and a little overweight hi, im a single mother of 2, a student and part time waitress. im going through a lot emotionally and im an emotional eater. I'm a little overweight. i keep trying to lose weight and cant seem to stick to anything. i start working out and watching what i eat, but things always start to get to me.i break down and start eating. i can stay on a diet for a week or 2 but then it all crashes down on me. someone please give me some ideas. <BR> <BR> i've been doing squats everyday and the abs chall... Sun, 19 May 2013 21:43:37 EST Irresponsible middle aged parents. I wrote about mine in my most recent blog. I could use a lot of advice about how to procceed. I don't know how much longer I can cope with them. Sun, 19 May 2013 13:15:44 EST POTTY TRAINING SUPPORT I didn't see anything on here about potty training and as a sort of new mom thought I'd share my story, thus far. Today is day 1 of training my almost 3 year old Angie. She will be 3 end of June. Well we tried to train her before and it was unsuccessful, I was working shift manager at McDonalds, pregnant, and stressed so I was angry and it didn't work. Now, my husband got a job so i got to quit that wonderful place and now staying at home with our two girls. Allie is almost 7 weeks old. She w... Sun, 19 May 2013 13:01:11 EST Hate my son's "girlfriend" UPDATE Last night was my son, Blake's, graduation. I 'm sitting with his "Nana and Papaw" when "Boss Lady" shows up with her three year old and eighteen month old sons and gets a few people to move so they all can sit right next to me! Three people in one seat. The youngest was so cramped and uncomfortable that he started crying about ten minutes into the ceremony so she finally got up, took both boys into the hallway and must have watched the from there because she ambushed us when it was over. She... Sat, 18 May 2013 14:40:30 EST How to get the kid's to eat move veggies I have 3 beautiful girls and I would like them to eat more veggies. They basically like corn and green beans. I have gotten them to eat things like butter beans. baby limas and black eyed peas ( we are a southern family) I would like to to eat leafy greens like collards or mustard's they just wont try. I am tried of the constant struggle at the dinner table I want a peacefully family dinner. Yes we eat dinner as a family every night. Any advise is welcome. <BR> <em>40</em> Fri, 17 May 2013 11:20:47 EST Just need to vent! While I love my children with all my heart and would not trade them for the world, I am way overwhelmed. All three of my children (8 yr old girl, 12 yo boy, and 15 yo boy) have mental health diagnosis's. They include: Aspergers, ADHD, possible Bi-Polar (being ruled out..I hope), psychosis, depression, and anxiety . Two are also diagnosed with PTSD and defiance issues. My younger boy also has severe migraines and has a history of a stroke. <BR> In the past few months things have got so crazy t... Thu, 16 May 2013 13:23:13 EST I hate my boyfriend's kid My boyfriend of 8 months has a 5 year old from Hell. He has an explosive temper and will hit my 12 year old and anyone else in his way while he's on this rampage. My boyfriend practically kills this poor child just to get him to behave. It doesn't work because this is a daily thing, sometimes 2 or 3 times a day. The boy lives with his dad 90% of the time and his mom the other time. She has 4 other children, all from different dads, and doesn't pay any attention to them. I'm wondering if... Wed, 15 May 2013 17:37:15 EST Would like a buddy :) I would like a buddy that can talk every day to maybe stay more motivated. would love some1 is trying to lose 50-100lbs. also a person that is trying to declutter their home. <BR> i have pcos and depression issue so that would be a plus for a buddy to talk about :) <BR> if interested please contact me :) hope to hear from sopme1 soon Wed, 15 May 2013 09:40:13 EST New, Hungry, Bored and Lonely I'm new/returning to SparkPeople after several years of being away. I rejoined when I had to take my mom to ER for chest pains (after she'd already had two heart attacks), and I realized I was headed down the same path. So I began tracking my food and being careful of what I ate while at the hospital with her. It's 4 days later, and we're still at the hospital. She sleeps most of the time which leaves me to websurf or do sudoku. I'm bored out of my mind! And I miss my husband and kids. They'v... Mon, 13 May 2013 20:28:00 EST Mother Day Gift???? How would you feel if your husband got you personal training sessions as a gift for mothers day? Mon, 13 May 2013 11:22:12 EST Warning...just a venting Mom here Why is it that I'm the only one in this house who seems to notice the dirty dishes in the sink?? <BR> Am I the only one who knows how to load & start the dishwasher?? <BR> Are they blind to the full dirty laundry hampers?? <BR> They must not know how to use the washer & dryer...and they must be running around naked because all their clothes are in there...and on the floors of the bedrooms & bathroom. <BR> <BR> Is it too difficult to dust & vacuum?? <BR> <BR> Why must I have to ask for some... Sun, 12 May 2013 14:29:34 EST How do I figure out calorie needs for my kids? My kids are overweight and I want to prevent them from becoming obese! How do I figure out how many calories they should be eating so that they don't gain any more weight other than what is necessary? My son is being unschooled and I will be unschooling his older sister (my daughter) starting this summer as well, which means they'll be home, of course. I want to focus on teaching them how to eat healthily. Since they're too young to be mindful of what and how much they eat, it is totally up t... Fri, 10 May 2013 14:16:19 EST two year old is obese I took my two year old to the doctor and they said she is obese:( We serisouly dont eat allot of fast food and she eats her veggies very well. They said I give her to much sugary drinks but really her grandparents watch her while I'm at school and they wont listen to me. They let her eat anything she wants and however much she wants of it. She also refuses to drink water. Can I get some help please??? Wed, 8 May 2013 15:37:39 EST Trying to get back to pre-baby weight! Am 8 weeks post-partum and have been trying to lose the rest of my baby weight. I gained a total of 30 pounds during my pregnancy - lost 15 right after giving birth and still have 15 to go. Although the scale hasn't moved in over a month my body has adjusted. My pre-baby jeans didn't fit at all two weeks after I gave birth and now I can just about squeeze into them. My goal is to get back into my pre-pregnancy clothes before I go back to work in 3 weeks. <BR> <BR> Due to low milk supply issu... Wed, 8 May 2013 10:52:50 EST My Oldest is starting Middle School in the fall I have anxity about her going to middle school, although not as much as when we bought her a cell phone. I tired to talk to my mom about how I was feeling but she says I am crazy and then changes the subject. I don't think I am crazy I am just not ready for my little girl to grow up. The things is I don't really know what I am worried about and that worried me. Mon, 6 May 2013 13:06:38 EST I hate my son's "girlfriend" My 18yr old son's 26yr old single mother of three (by 2 different fathers) boss at his part-time job after high school has been spending far too much time calling, texting and spending time after work with him lately. When he comes home, he claims they were 'just hanging out.' She claims they are just friends. I think they are both lying. Meanwhile, I see disaster on the way and yep, am hitting the comfort food. Just here looking for some support/advice etc. Tue, 30 Apr 2013 12:19:26 EST 15 year old son off the rails. My son is getting into trouble at school most days and its doing my head in, he just can't control his anger. I'm sorry to say but he has become a bully, can't believe a son of mine is, he has a good home live, wants for nothing but isn't spoilt and does chores round the house for his pocket money. I just don't know what I have done wrong :0( <BR> <BR> This last week he was excluded from school for punching a younger boy as he pushed him, the week before he was being teased and left the room... Mon, 29 Apr 2013 07:59:08 EST excess baby weight to go Yep I've got weight to go after all my bub has just turned one, I've been losing slowly but I need to keep on track Fri, 26 Apr 2013 05:22:38 EST My 12 yr old son has fat issues HE ISN'T FAT OR OVER WEIGHT AT ALL... <BR> <BR> hi everyone I'm not sure to do anymore my son is in grade 8 n he thinks he is fat n won't hardly eat and at school only has drinks and he is today feeling sick n had to make him eat.. I'm going to take him to see the dr as this is getting a bit much now Fri, 26 Apr 2013 05:15:38 EST Do you know anyone with Asperger's Syndrome? I have a 19 year old son with Asperger's Syndrome and life has been very difficult lately. Does anyone else have experience with Asperger's Syndrome? Are you willing to share some thoughts and ideas? Wed, 24 Apr 2013 16:45:17 EST Infertility I am not a parent nor do I have a family...yet! My husband and I are dealing with infertility issues. We knew about them but it's totally different when you actually start the infertility process. I think it made it all real for me. We will NEVER be able to have biological children and that absolutely kills me! I honestly think a lot of my new weight gain is due to this journey. There's been a lot of testing and a lot of expenses with only more to come. It's stressful! I'm just wondering if t... Wed, 24 Apr 2013 08:07:31 EST Pregnancy Pilates DVD? I was wondering if anyone can recommend a good pilates DVD for pregnancy. I'd ideally like something I can use through all 3 trimesters, and something that isn't for complete beginners (and thus super easy) so I can get a good workout. <BR> <BR> I tried asking on Babyfit, but there are so few people there I haven't gotten any responses, so I thought I'd try over here. <BR> <BR> Thanks! <BR> <em>41</em> Tue, 23 Apr 2013 12:54:41 EST Caring for sister leaves me exhausted I have guardianship of my severely multiply impaired adult sister. She lives with me and our mom. I've had more difficulty finding a reliable caregiver for her than I have ever had with anything. I don't know where else to look. I've tried local colleges and universities, local for profit training centers,, basically everything except Craigslist which I'm loathe to do. Does anyone have any suggestions? I've posted on Facebook, asked everyone I know. Agencies are out of the que... Sun, 21 Apr 2013 11:33:02 EST looking for a support buddy I'm looking for someone who's willing to email or Facebook everyday on their eating / exercising habits.. I'm a great listener and will be there to support you too. I'm 11 pounds down and 31 more with to go. Please send me a message if your interested in doing this with me. But I need someone who will email daily or at least every other day I'm not demanding but feel I need to tell my days to someone. It keeps me strongly motivated. Thank you. Thu, 18 Apr 2013 11:26:58 EST Anyone else live with an enabler...the bad kind? Here's the husband doesn't believe in limiting yourself. I mean that literally. He DOES NOT BELIEVE IN IT. When I count calories he scoffs. When I drink water even though I want pop he tells me I'm being stupid. If I refuse to have a late-night snack while we're watching a movie because I've already maxed my calories for the day he gets all huffy because he thinks he can't have something if I'm not having it. And don't even get me started on when I try to cook healthier foods for t... Tue, 16 Apr 2013 16:25:39 EST NEW and trying to make weight loss a priority I am not much for putting myself out there but I am having a hard time making weight management (loss) a priority and I thought some accountability would help. I am 48 (almost) and a mother of 4 with a great husband who travels a ton. I work part time every day (summers off) and am in charge of most of the childcare although my husband is awesome with the kids when he is home. I am an emotional eater I guess- I wouldn't think so but obviously I am eating too much. I am very happy in gener... Tue, 16 Apr 2013 14:36:50 EST New here and looking for support... Hi Everyone! <BR> I'm new here and looking for support on my journey to lose weight! <BR> I guess I"ll tell you about myself, first. <BR> I'm "Morgana," 33 years old, been married to the love of my life for 10 years, and we have 3 beautiful children. A DD, age 8, a DS, age 7, and baby DD is 5 (I know, not a baby, but MY baby!) <BR> I'm a nurse, so you would think that I would be on my feet a lot, but no. A few mos. ago I scored myself a cushy desk job w/fabulous hours, no weekends/nights/holi... Sun, 14 Apr 2013 09:23:51 EST Toddler Friendly Exercises? What do you like? I have probably 2 hours between Dinner and bed time to kill. My Kids are 2 and 4 and I have a puppy. All love to climb all over me but it's just something I have to deal with. I am looking for mostly body resistance exercises to do while I wait for bed time instead of browsing computer or watching kid shows. I try to do the standard ones like sit ups and push ups. I am adding wall sits and a few others along with stretching. I don't plan on a two hour workout every day just something extra I ... Mon, 8 Apr 2013 19:49:08 EST GOAL: healthy and fit kids! Please help! Does anyone have a favorite book or resource they use to educate their grade school age kids (mine specifically 4th-6th grade level of understanding) about nutrition? I'm looking for a kid friendly way to teach them about portion size, caloric needs for their own body weight, importance of good choices (i.e. vessel disease with too much fat/cholesterol, diabetes), amount of activity that will actually burn off the calories ingested from that chocolate Easter bunny, etc.!! I don't want to mi... Sat, 6 Apr 2013 22:11:23 EST Parenting a teenager I am in heated conflict with my daughter, and I know that I have set this up and am reaping the benefits of my parenting choices. Here's the situation. While we had two incomes, and both of us worked a 8 hour day, I was pretty free with money for my teenager, and didn't harp to much about chores, but would do them for her. Recently we changed to one paycheck, and my now self employed husband is working 15 hour days, leaving all the parenting and chores to me. It wont be forever, and I know... Thu, 4 Apr 2013 21:18:38 EST filing for divorce....happy and sad I may not be in the right forum, and it's only slightly weight loss related, but I'm filing for divorce tomorrow. My ex and I have been dating since 2002 and married since 2006. We split up in 2008 and didn't see or speak to each other for 2 years, but stayed married. Then, of course, he pops up out of no where, gets me pregnant, turns my entire world upside down only to walk away from me again, and this time, our baby girl. We briefly discussed getting back together, but he wont stop drinkin... Thu, 4 Apr 2013 16:53:38 EST what i do to get in shape while staying at home Hi everyone, a little new to Spark. I am a stay at home mom of 3..i live way out of town in the middle of nowhere and have been making excuses as to why is so hard. I tried the gym but between dropping kids off at school, nap time for the baby and now i started babysitting it nearly impossible. Plus the closest gym to me is almost a 30 min drive. the cost of a gym plus the cost of gas each month but i gave up....well i ordered a bathing very first "mom-suit" and when i tr... Tue, 2 Apr 2013 11:41:00 EST Working on working out here is my story. I started weight watchers over a year ago, lost 55lbs and lost my motivation. This is my attempt to lose the last 24lbs in a way that is positive, and a way I don't have to go weigh in for meetings with my children attached to my hip. I am a full time employee, wife, mother, student, and any other hat I may have to wear at the time being. I find it difficult to maintain motivation, and want to lose weight. I was doing kick boxing, which seems to have bored me a bit, ... Mon, 1 Apr 2013 12:58:19 EST how do you deal with grieve/stress? In the last month, my brother died, my father was diagnosed with COPD and was hospitalized for a short time, my niece has left to play ball in the Netherlands for two months and my three kids and myself had head lice. Needless to say I reverted back to my old ways, and although I'd like to use the saying "food was my friend" its not true. I feel crappy (physically and emotionally) and my body was not impressed with some of my choices. I took a week off after my dad was hospitalized so that ... Mon, 25 Mar 2013 00:43:17 EST Getting the Family on track to eating healther We are trying to eat healthier as a family, and trying to lose weight as a family. We have been making small changes at a time, like cooking at home more instead of eating out as much, cooking smaller meals so we arent as likely to over eat, using ground turkey instead of ground beef, taking walks to get some exercise.......but the problem I am findng is finding recipes for healthier meals that I can fit into our grocery budget of $100 every two weeks. I plan a menu for two weeks at a tim... Thu, 21 Mar 2013 06:56:26 EST Question for moms that work outside of the home. Happy Friday my fellow sparkers!! I'm sure this topic has been brought up before, so excuse me if its old or worn out, but I really need some advise/tips on how to fit fitness in my schedule. I'm a single mom to a 19 month old firecracker, I work full time, I have sever working mommy guilt and I feel awful just thinking about taking another hour away from my daughter for workouts, but I can't continue down this unhealthy path. So, how do you do it?` <BR> Fri, 15 Mar 2013 14:44:09 EST Packing lunches What kinds of lunches do you pack for you family? Wed, 13 Mar 2013 14:38:55 EST Fostering Children I have been a foster parent for three years. I have found this to be rewarding and tiring. I have young adult that are out on their own. I feel I have room in my home and in my heart to help. <em>148</em> Sat, 16 Feb 2013 08:46:58 EST Starving teenager Ok...the starving bit is a little melodramatic, but those were her words this morning..."I'm STARVING! I forgot my lunch. What are YOU going to do about it?" <BR> <BR> My answer to her..."Absolutely nothing." <BR> <BR> Yes, I'm the evil mother from hell. I'm letting my 15 year old daughter starve at school. She refuses to eat breakfast in the morning and often forgets to take a lunch or any snacks, expecting one of us to bring her money to buy a lunch or bring her lunch from home. Well toda... Thu, 14 Feb 2013 11:40:21 EST Recommendations for supplements for kids - ADHD My 7 year old son began taking Concerta 4 months ago. The afternoon rebound is difficult due to his irritability and frustration in completing homework. I've been researching supplements and am more confused than ever. There seems to be no good source for a comprehensive supplement that is child friendly. I'm interested in magnesium, zinc and have tried flaxseed with limited success due to his discerning palate. I would love to hear from other parents that have tried supplements. Sun, 3 Feb 2013 10:35:28 EST Had to take iPod away Well, sorta. I'm single Dad with 2 teenaged daughters (14 & 16) and my youngest asked me if I could put her on my iTunes account. I agreed (this was three months ago), at first she'd ask to buy a single here and there and kept up with paying for it (or at least the few times she offered). After Christmas her mother told her that I was rich and that she her mother's permission to buy anything she wanted on iTunes. <BR> <BR> I looked at my bank statement and would see $10 purchase that I didn'... Thu, 31 Jan 2013 13:01:10 EST pls pray for my husband tomorow morning my husband is having and ultrasound done on his liver. we found out that his liver enzymes are very high. we are praying its just because for fatty tissue in hes midsection. i firmly belive in the power of prayer so all of the prayers we can get are great appreciated. thanks so much. melanie Sun, 13 Jan 2013 19:18:15 EST how to eat after gastric sleeve I am post surgary 3 and a 1/2 weeks, I still can not eat with out getting sick. how long does this last? I'm still doing liquids. Mon, 7 Jan 2013 17:23:18 EST PCOS--Metformin vs Birth Control Pills Hi, <BR> I've been on birth control pills for 14 yrs since being dianosed with PCOS at the age of 16. I was thankfully able to successfully get pregnant and have a healthy little boy thanks to being on the pill for all those years to control my cysts. Well now I'd like to get off of them and I'm taking Metformin to hopefully reduce/reverse the symptoms of my pcos. I feel so much better after only one month off of the pill. Mentally I feel much more clear headed less emotional. My blood ... Fri, 28 Dec 2012 21:05:22 EST Healthy pregnancy weight gain buddies? Hi Friends, <BR> <BR> I'm 11 weeks preggo with my second and am finding it a bit harder to keep my weight in check this pregnancy. With my last I was going to the gym 5-6 days a week (lighter than normal of course) and eating SO healthy. I gained a perfect 28 pounds and lost it all by 4 months post partum with almost no effort. It's been much harder this time and with a 16 month old at home, I'm only getting to the gym 3-4 days a week. I've already gained 5 pounds! Looking for some frie... Thu, 20 Dec 2012 10:37:37 EST Are you a returning Sparker? Do you have 50 or more pounds to lose? <BR> <BR> Please help get this team up and running again. Recharged Returning SparkMembers with 50+ to lose. <BR> <link><BR>sageboard.asp?board=0x42503 </link> Wed, 5 Dec 2012 18:22:41 EST How old are your children? My dd is 12 years old. Wed, 5 Dec 2012 15:15:06 EST Gastric Sleeve I had my VSG on 10/5 and initially lost 32lbs. However, in the past 4 weeks, I haven't lost 1 single lb. I am still doing everything they tell me. Eating is going well. I still manage to get in about 4 oz. per meal. Sometimes 5 oz. I am struggling with getting in all my protein and water. Some days better than others. I keep hearing about 'stalls' that people have where they aren't losing anything. The Dr. says weightloss doesn't really take off until about 90 days out. Is anybody else having... Wed, 5 Dec 2012 11:03:03 EST Completely Wiped Out...MOM WHAT'S FOR DINNER?!?! Maybe this should be in the emergency thread... Sat, 1 Dec 2012 17:26:21 EST Mirena and weight gain I got my mirena February of 2007 and was also on topamax for migraines at the same time. Don't remember my weight at that time, but December of 2008 I weighed 105lbs. I went off topamax summer of 2009. I now weigh 131lbs, a gain of 25lbs in less than 4 years. During the last 4 years I have started running 5ks with my daughter, but had to stop because of leg injury. I watch what I eat, meaning eat only when I am hungry and try not to eat too much. I work out for 1 hour at least every oth... Tue, 20 Nov 2012 13:35:16 EST If you don't eat what do u do.? I feel like not eating any more , so that I loss weight and I get my boyfriend to love me more, andi feel if I do that it would work Mon, 21 May 2012 14:44:28 EST Weight loss and Polyscystic Ovary Syndrome or PCOS Hey! Has anyone else suffered with Polcystic Ovary Syndrome or PCOS? I have recently been diagnosed. I have changed my diet and am quite proud of how well I am doing. I try to exercise, but this thing has kicked my butt! My hormones are a mess and my energy level is 0. I am trying to find some other women who have had this problem and try to figure out what I can do to ge things moving. Starting to feel discouraged and need some help. :) Tue, 3 Apr 2012 21:13:48 EST Gastric Sleeve Surgery Anyone on this sight have the Gastric Sleeve Surgery? <BR> <BR> I was sleeved on 1/3/12 and looking to create a support group through SparkPeople. Wed, 25 Jan 2012 17:01:08 EST my husband throws me off track I have been trying really hard to start eating right and tracking my foods, I do great on the days that my husband is at work, but yesterday he had a day off and he brought Chinese food, and ice cream and a movie. I have told him i was trying to lose weight and he said that it was good and he will help as much as he can, but then he does this. I know he was trying to be sweet, but how can i tell him no without hurting his feelings. Thu, 5 Jan 2012 16:46:38 EST Has anyone here had a baby after age 40? If so please tell how it went? Tue, 3 May 2011 22:01:25 EST Does anyone else have the c-section pouch? Help! I'll be the first to admit, I never had a tight and sexy stomach- however- after having an emergency c-section.. I now have this pouch like stomach! Well, it's almost like a flap where the scar is.. anyone else?.. and how do you deal with this.. and tone it??. Thanks! Sun, 1 May 2011 23:36:30 EST pregnancy calories/weight did anyone keep track of their calories and nutrition during pregnancy to try and keep their weight gain within the "normal range" (20-25 pounds according to my doc)? Tue, 1 Feb 2011 15:58:28 EST weight loss after baby - anyone else struggling? Hey everyone, <BR> <BR> I am so frustrated right now! I am 8 weeks post baby and working my butt off - especially for being a new Mom, but still having zero results. I would be happy if I was even losing a pound here or there - but I have been working hard for the past 4 weeks (I had a VERY easy pregnancy and delivery thats why I rebounded so quickly), and the scale hasn't even budged a pound. The only thing I can be happy about is I've gone down 2 inches in the waist and 1.5 in the hips ... Tue, 25 May 2010 10:14:27 EST Mirena IUD and weight gain I got a Mirana IUD last may and since then my weight has been gradually creeping up which I attributed to the stress of my PhD program. Now that I have been eating clean and working out hard for 30 days, I am shrinking inches but the miserable number on the scale is staying the same. I have been doing some reading and some women have claimed to have gained on it while the package insert says no. My doc says weight gain is not a side effect to her knowledge and will not take it out just for... Sat, 30 Jan 2010 10:28:56 EST What size do you wish you were? Ok, ladies lets get just a little vain for a minuite. What size do you wish you were? I myself would love to be a size 6 again. Even though that was over fifteen years ago. I think I looked healthier when I was a size 12 though because I am half Mexican and I have those child bearing hips! LOL. <BR> <BR> Tue, 30 Sep 2008 10:04:16 EST Use an emoticon to show your feelings today. <em>41</em> <em>30</em> Tue, 20 May 2008 14:42:29 EST Loving Our Husbands ( and children too)!! Good morning ladies! I thought we might like to share the things we do with our husbands to keep the bonds of love strong. We touched on that in another thread, but somehow it seemed to have turned negative. So here is a fresh start.Everyone is welcome to join in on the conversation and we all make a pinky promise not to have any harsh judgements on anyone else!!! Each of us have ways we show our love to our husbands and children. Lets have fun sharing them!! We might just add a spark to each... Fri, 3 Mar 2006 10:30:18 EST