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Is Dating Making You Fat?

Fall in Love Without Falling Off the Wagon


  • I gained 20 pounds between courtship and marriage, then another 40 pounds between years 1-10 of marriage. Now we are reversing it. My husband has lost about 50 pounds in the past year and I've lost 30. Love is not blind, though we chose to close our eyes to the truth because we want to. Don't do it. Stay healthy, Stay alive, Stay in love!!! - 8/28/2015 9:53:03 PM
    I lost 30 lbs(without trying that hard) when I separated from my husband of 23 years. I managed to keep it off while dating for 4 years until I met my 6'4" partner (I am 5'2") who loves sweets and obviously is a much bigger eater than I am. Over the last 2 years I have gained back the 30 lbs :(( by eating more with him, exercising less and eating desserts and sweets especially when we go out for dinner. We moved in together a few months ago and we aim to cook more at home, healthy meals and I would like to exercise more though he has to be encouraged. I used to walk an hr a few times a week. We joined a gym a few months ago but neither of us like to go. - 1/28/2015 11:29:13 AM
  • My hubby and I refer to our added pounds as our "happily ever weight." - 2/10/2014 9:51:28 PM
  • Falling in Love that is a great concept until you find out how difficult it is.I have been married for 32 yrs.and finally have come to the decision I need to take care of myself as he doesn't know how and I have to take care him as he just doesn't know how.He has managed to lose a lot of weight but now he has gotten old and has a lot of health issues.I am still a little younger but I too have health issues but we respect one another and manage to get by.Love is really just a four letter word! - 2/10/2014 11:16:22 AM
    but I prefer to remember the good times the first time I fell in love - 2/10/2014 3:44:32 AM
  • other than getting 'be my valentine's' in grade school - no one has ever treated me to anything - it is a non existent day as far as celebrations of any kind. so i guess i don't have to worry about anything. - 2/9/2014 1:10:50 PM
    As long as I don't wrap the dates in bacon, I won't gain weight... - 12/5/2013 7:49:31 PM
  • It seems like the more secure you are in a relationship the more likely you are to gain weight, because often we keep ourselves in good shape to make ourselves more attractive, and if we have already attracted someone that becomes less necessary.

    The more food you shovel in at dinner the more likely it is that there will be a notable side effect as the food is digested, which can have a bad effect on the rest of the evening. Too much alcohol can have a dampening effect too. This is all in addition to making yourself fatter. Also, you're showing a prospective lover what kind of self control you have. I have friends who talk about having had too much to drink on a first date and because of that there wasn't a second date. - 12/5/2013 9:30:19 AM
  • I have definitely gained weight since getting married in 2010. Retiring this week from work and will be getting my weight problem straightened out now. More time to get up and work out. I like working out in the morning and I have the rest of the day to do what I need. My husband retired in May or this year so we can both work on a healthier life style. Excited about retirement. WE are going to South Carolina for the winter where we can golf and enjoy warmer weather. - 10/29/2012 6:10:49 AM
  • Well, since I haven't had a date in almost 3 years, guess I'm gonna have to find something else to blame it on. LOL - 10/28/2012 7:34:20 PM
  • I feel all of your pain becaause I am in the same boat 2. - 10/28/2012 10:28:48 AM
  • I don't think it's picking up the others bad habits rather I feel it's more about settling. When single you take care of yourself to increase your chances of landing a date (and ultimately a partner), however, after this is achieved there's less incentive to stay trim and over time you let yourself go ... - 10/28/2012 3:45:15 AM
  • I've gained at least 20 pounds since i started dating my current boyfriend 2 years ago, although I didn't really think about it till now. But I had a lot of lifestyle changes around the same time I started dating my boyfriend, so I don't really blame it on him or our relationship. - 7/10/2012 8:39:29 PM
  • COWGIRL888
    Relationship fat...... we've all been there! :) - 11/3/2011 8:50:45 AM
  • A few years ago I had a boyfriend who was in federal law enforcement and was in fantastic shape: healthy and muscular. Although many of our dates involved food (either at restaurants or cooking at home), many of our dates were at the gym too. He was a great motivator. Just when I thought I couldn't do one more rep he would say "one more, you can do it". And he was right. He also showed me how to eat healthy and yet still enjoy some of my favorite foods. I will always be thankful to him for what I learned from him. I know I can do it if I put my mind to it and have someone to encourage me. - 2/11/2011 4:10:21 PM

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