When you do something like this you must really be into this. Some peoples already don't have self confidence in themselves. So they have these peoples to help push them to their goal. They know if you are really working out. That's why I ask them things that I want to know and I do my own thing.
lol, all these people complaining about being called on their complaining! Are you fit or fat? If it is the latter, it is no wonder with all the whining. If you want to be the former, suck it up. A work out should be hard work or you are not getting what you paid for! Sure the client is paying the trainer and they have a "right" to complain, but the article writer is merely pointing out that too much complaining is one of the things hindering your progress. If that offends you, you are the one who needs to register the message the most! Accept it.
Silly article. IMPO its the trainer's job to help the person. As the commenter before said people go to a trainer to be pushed. That is what they are getting paid to do. To help the person change for the better. You also have to keep in mind that most people who see a trainer haven't exercised in quite a long time or maybe don't exactly know the ropes. So you have to expect some "complaints" and some negatives. When I choose a trainer, I usually go with someone I can work and connect with and I make whatever I have to say very clear. If I want to "complain" I will. As far as big clothing goes...some people want to dress in spandex. Its more comfortable dressing in baggy clothes. If anyone who reads this article and is now having 2nd thoughts......please don't listen to this mumbo jumbo. There are quality trainers.
As a personal trainer myself, all I can say to this article is, well, something that would be censored.
Honestly, soooo much of what this "trainer" wishes you wouldn't do are the EXACT reasons why you need a trainer....so that you can learn to like exercise, so that you don't "cheat" and then lie about it. ugh.
Too many trainers expect their clients to come to them already "trained". The VAST majority of people who hire a trainer are doing so because they need the "push". They come to you as a complainer, excuse maker, and nutrition plan faller off of er. They know this about themselves. THIS is why they hired you....to help them NOT do that anymore. What this trainer seems to be saying is she just wants you to come to her already doing all the things you hired her to help you do. Kinda silly, no?
I've had more than a few chatty clients. You find ways to deal with it...like work them so hard they would rather not talk! ;)
Complainers? If they aren't complaining, I'm not doing my job!
The diet cheaters. Well uhm, yeah, it happens. I don't expect perfection. Perfection is NOT healthy. Just don't lie about it! People lie if they think there will be negative consequences, or when they feel shame, or fear they will be made to feel shame, or maybe the feel like they've let the trainer down. There is no shame in being an imperfect human being...unless you lie about it! ;)
The over achievers who do more than they should or eat less than they should - well, for the over exercisers, I adjust their calories, for the under eaters? Work them less. You have to look at the reasons WHY people aren't following the plan and them help them find ways to follow it...or change it up so that they WILL follow it.
Baggy clothes - I have the same "issue" with it...however, I have a bigger issue with people feeling uncomfortable during workouts. Most women want to hide their extra weight. Having been there, I understand this. If I can't get a good sense of how the body is moving...I change the exercise. Simple.
Not withholding health info is common sense, one would think, though I've had people fail to mention things so I've learned what questions I need to ask to avoid this.
I seriously hope this article doesn't discourage someone who might otherwise seek out a personal trainer to sit at home on the couch or perhaps engage in a fitness program that is unsafe or less than effective.
While I can understand that some may feel defensive here, the point is not to put you down if you do a bit of complaining. We all do that sometimes. The point is made in conjunction with the original article (about how to choose a good trainer) that WE are actually hindering OUR OWN progress when we spend too much time chatting, complaining etc.
We are with a trainer to optimize our time and efforts to get the best results as quickly as possible. This article is presented as a help for us to do just that. And let us all remember, the trainers are people too, they have feelings as well. If you don't have a good fit with your trainer, I did see another article on how to break up with your trainer.
There might simply have personality differences that are hindering you both. Hope this helps, I know how hard it is to be frustrated with something so important.
I would click "dislike" on this article if there was a button for this. As a paid employee, the trainer shouldn't complain about the actions of the people paying his/her salary. Whenever you work with the public, you have to put up with a lot.......People will never change.
2/20/2012 12:59:05 PM
I would like to weigh in on the issue of complaining as well. I hired a personal trainer based recommendations from gym staff. Unfortunately, I discovered that although she was probably highly qualified to train someone in excellent shape, she was not capable of designing a program to accommodate my fitness level and goals. I repeatedly had to tell her that I had a rotators cuff injury and certain movements were contra-recommended by my doctor. There is no doubt in my mind that if I continued with her I would have sustained an injury. Furthermore, at no point did she ever think to discuss the importance of diet and nutrition. I am not sure how she came about her credentials, but people (myself included) stopped training with her and she eventually left the gym.
I have had a few personal trainers over the years. You definitely need compatible personalities, or it won't work. I push myself as hard as I can, but I make it clear from day 1, that I will not tolerate a personal trainer yelling at me to do things I know I am not capable of. I have a personal trainer to make sure I have good form and to show me exercises that will assist me in my goals. If I hurt doing something, I stop. And, so should you. I do not consider that "complaining".
I think there is a very real distinction to be made here - there is complaining or lame bellyaching, and there is constructive feedback. The latter is hugely important, the first - not so much. Lots will depend on variable like the personalities involved, the level of effort required/wanted, the length of time and level of relationship going on, etc. One *should* provide information/data/feedback that the trainer needs to help one achieve their goals. They don't need someone who whines about every little thing. It's a common sense thing....
9/19/2011 3:23:42 PM
WOW! I don't have a personal trainer... but these are so NOT the things I expected to read in this article! I'm sitting here trying to figure out WHY anyone would LIE to their trainer!?! How could that possibly benefit them? I'm amazed.
About 60 lbs ago, I had a trainer, she did complain she couldn't see my legs in the baggie work out pants I wore then. But I wasn't ready for "tight" then. I'll keep this in mind in the future. Thanks for the info.
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