Sometimes it is so easy to tell someone else that they can make time until you walk in their shoes. I don't get enough sleep as it is, on workdays, sometimes it is only 3-4 hours with a 12 hour night work schedule, so getting up 45 minutes early is not real an option. I live alone since the death of my husband so there is no one else to assign chores to and the barn chores still need to be done. My parents are in their late 80's and frequently need things done for them, pretty hard to say no to that. Time for me sounds good but it is going to have to wait for a few years now.
I have time for myself my problem is my health I am in much pain for the most port of the day which causes me to be depressed and some what overwhelmed . I have gone to many Drs. but no one can decide including me what do I need to do. The worst thing bills are beginning to pile up As I try to deal with the pain I can see that as the time goes by the pain is increasing , meaning I notice is getting more difficult for me to do exercise. I have to wait sometimes up to 3 days before I feel good enough for me to attempt to do any kind of exercise. After dealing with this for a long time I feel I am at the point of calling it quits I don't know what else to do.. I seat down a lot and I don't like it , I really need some other kind of help, I don't know what to do . I hope somebody can read this and give me some ideas .
10/25/2013 9:27:04 AM
This is a great read...just what I need to be reminded of on a regular basis. No 'me' time tends to equate to not feeling like I deserve...is linked to being depressed...is linked to further not taking care of myself...How can I bookmark this article so I can come back to it on some kind of regular basis?
A great article, but I agree with a previous comment that it is odd to sacrifice 45 minutes of your own sleep for your me time. I'm a single parent with a toddler and I love routine, but it's only sometimes possible. You gotta roll with the punches, and accept you can't always get everything done. You definitely have to prioritise 'essential' and 'desirable' tasks, and make 20 minutes of 'me time' an essential task. For me, it's not the same time every day, but it's when my toddler has a nap. I do the 'me time' first so I can be extra recharged to do the rest. You also have to relax your standards or you will never enjoy your me time. For example, being a single parent you may not have had a chance to shower that day or your hair may need washing etc. You may need to let these go in order to have your me time, otherwise your toddler's nap time may be used up with these tasks by the time they wake up. I've had to learn to accept myself, unwashed hair and all, and still love my me time and be able to enjoy it.
Great thoughts on self-care. Setting aside "me time" has been vital in preventing burnout and eliminating stress and has really brought me back to life! Thank you for the encouragement and the great ideas. We all need regular rest time and self-care to recharge. It's as necessary as sleeping and breathing. I've also struggled with feelings of guilt about downtime (comes from years of working and living in a culture that pounded 24/7 work into my brain). But I've realized that anyone who genuinely cares about me would not deprive me of my self-care time; in fact, they would encourage it. And while I'm not denying there can be naysayers (who need self-care time too!), most of the guilty thoughts come from our own minds anyway. I'm blessed now to have a boss that requires me to take a certain amount of time off for rest and self-care, and if she finds me in the office during that time ... I'm in "trouble"!! :) What a blessing and I am thankful!!
9/2/2012 9:29:46 AM
lol typing ot fast love ourself
9/2/2012 8:41:12 AM
thank you yes we must love ourslef enough to love ourslef
the article is nice, in just telling you that you need that me time, each and everyone. It s much harder when you become a mum, suddenly everything is spinning around :)
Towards the end I was astonished to read the writer decided to wake 45 m earlier in the day to have that me time... I m sorry but sacrificing 45 m from my sleep doesn't seem to make sense to me, especially when the sleep patterns are irregular with a toddler in the house.
Right now I have just landed so much 'me' time that I feel like I am living in luxury! Living alone in a cute place that I love has got to be one of the most liberating things in life ... I am savouring every minute and am fully focused on my personal goals ... thank goodness for SP to keep me on track!
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