This idea was an AHA!! moment for me several years ago, when I realized that I brooded for days about negative feedback, but when someone praised something I'd done, I negated it and thought to myself they were just being nice... they caught me on a good day.... etc. I still tend to brood about imagined slights, but when I realize what I'm doing, I stop and refocus on the good things in my life.
Thanks for writing about this. I've trained myself to find the good in others and have a positive outlook; my husband's first reaction to almost anything is negative. We now joke about that. His pessimism is inborn, I believe (for one thing, he's an engineer and trained to look for flaws), but he's easily taken out of that mood.
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