I have been doing this for years, since saying no to taking home leftovers is about health reasons for my husband and I - and he has no control to leftovers. So I get to blame him by saying "I just can't have that in the refrigerator - he'll eat before I get a chance to enjoy it". If it someone I really enjoy spending time with, I just honestly say that it's not in my food plan today. Why don't you call when you are going to make this again, I will plan on it and come over so we can spend time together. The emphasis is on the time together then and not the treat. You really have to plan on it then.
I have a nice little old 70+ woman who makes food for me -- "It's healthy" she says. She thinks because she doesn't add sugar to cookies or uses vegetables in the pancakes and uses good ingredients it is "healthy". I say no as often as possible but then, if she sees me eating a cookie or something "not healthy" she comments on it -- I thought you weren't having bread or sweets. She is little and doesn't understand.
These are nice, but most are lies! The "lies are harmless if no one gets hurt" philosophy sure does sound fishy. Just say, "Thanks, it looks delicious! But I just can't, I'm sorry." It is nice and it is truthful.
If the same person badgers more than a few times, kindly let them know they are being impolite. "Thanks for thinking of me, but I can't give into insistence--I just can't give in this time! :D"
I had that problem at work someone was always pushing a recipe they wanted you to try or a birthday treat. Most of the time I took the food then I either gave it away to someone in the factory or I just through it away and no one ever knew and I made several people happy in the factory.
If people already know I have diabetes, I make some jokes: - Sure, if you want to drive me to the hospital afterwards. - You´ll put me in a coma! Are you trying to kill me? - It doesn´t look appealing anymore once you realize that´s what´s been getting you sick. - If I eat that now, I will have to run around the building for 30 minutes to get my sugar back to normal, and I´ll miss the rest of the event! It really annoys me when people think they know what I should do, whether it´s food or something else. Make a dumb comment, get a dumb answer. They asked for it. Most of the time, they´re just trying to make themselves feel better about eating unhealthy foods, and I don´t appreciate being used for that purpose. Eat what you want, but leave me out of it! If they really do mean well, I give them a 5-minute speech about carb counts and insulin resistance. After all, people are supposed to learn something. After that, they leave me alone.
The worst food pushers are the ones who want you to eat junk while they're eating junk so they don't have to feel guilty about their poor choices in front of you. I'm trying more and more to just avoid as many of these situations as I can.
That one about 'I'll have to force you to eat it' just brought my hackles up. My response would be, 'You can try, but my dad tried to all through my childhood, and he didn't manage it, so you certainly won't'. I loathe roast dinners because of him. Gah!
I like the stall tactic. I have been a food pusher myself but I don't get hurt when people don't want to eat. Most of the time when I make something it gets eaten up and if not I know that I either made to much or it was a new recipe that did not quite work out.
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