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6 Ways to Maintain Your Mental Flexibility

Learn to Roll with the Punches and Dodge Life's Wrenches


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  • This article addresses a very complex process in a very juvenile way - sorry to be so blunt. Bottom line is that falling out of favor with a person is usually a 2-sided coin. And both people need to want to move towards a new relationship before any of the "how tos can work." All relationships require a degree of flexibility - it's when someone doesn't deliver again, and again and again. On the one hand, it's an established behavior pattern and you the one who is hurt enabled it to develop. The other person may be truly obvious to how you feel on this and think it's OK. You love them just the way they are. But then comes the final blow - when they cavalierly blow you off for a special occasion because they knew you would understand but in this case you are really hurt and you let them know - calmly rationally. And instead of saying I am so sorry I didn't realize it (it can be that simple) and I'll try a little harder to be a better friend, they simply shut down all communication. Because, gasp, it couldn't be their fault now, could it. I never close a door but there are a lot of people who slam them shut. When that happens you have to be ready to forgive yourself and let go.
  • I learned that in fitness I have to balance strength and flexibility to avoid injury. I was actually too flexible for my strength. I think I may need to stick more rigidly to my program and not let myself be so flexible!
  • I very nearly had a panic attack at the thought of leaving dishes in the sink... apparently I need this article :)
    i liked this article very much it had alot of information
    i liked this article very much it had alot of information
  • Good one. Thank you for sharing.
    I choose to not cross out the 'im' and to make it 'I'm possible'. That works for me. :)
  • A "weekly date night"? The chance would be a fine thing!!!
  • All things are possible through him who strength me daily. Great article.
    My take on this is that one should be sufficiently self-aware to recognize what causes stress, and to try to structure your life to reduce that. If you can't stand dishes piled in the sink, build the habit of putting them in the dishwasher. Or, if you can't stand washing dishes and would rather deal with them later, do that. The stress comes from feeling like you have to do things that are contrary to what you're inclined to prefer. Sure, there are plenty of times when you can't control those sorts of things, but when you can control what you can control - do.
  • crap why cant you edit your posts I saw typos that the spell checker missed. Rats.
  • I suppose everyone bring their own perspective to this article judging by dome of the comments !! All I know from personal experience is that my Dad was a very stubborn and at times negative man and I am sure it contributed (or at the very least exacerbated) to his Alzheimer's .
  • This is a fabulous post! Thanks for sharing your ideas. You may also want to add this info from a new study was posted in the Mayo Clinic Journal last month which found that moderate exercise combined with, of all things - computer use - reduced the risk for memory impairment in those over 70. Since so many of us use a computer these days and we don't always think it's a good thing, it's nice to know that we are stimulating our brain cells - as long as we do some Yoga, brisk walking or another form of moderate exercise along with our Facebook, twitter and other computer uses!
    I like to change "Impossible" to "I'm Possible". :)
  • Learning to let go and let other people do things their way sometimes is a very important life skill to develop. Often the inflexible person does not realize how much they alienate others, including family members, by making them feel incompetent and worthless. For example, when a wife redoes the dishes her husband just washed, because she notices tiny soap bubbles on them as they were drying. Can you imagine how small the husband feels when that happens? You can't treat people like children all the time and expect there to be no consequences.

    I know someone who has unfortunately made it to his 60s without realizing the impact his perfectionism has on others. His need to have everything done his way, which he believes is the only right way, makes it difficult to be around him sometimes. In my opinion, this is a sign of a sort of immaturity as a person. It's a mark of maturity and growth to let go and realize the world keeps spinning regardless of your actions.

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