I agree with most of this article, except for the "team" aspect. I have no competitive spirit, I don't like comparing myself (successes or failures) with other people. I prefer to exercise alone rather than with friends. Yet, I am consistent in my eating choices, I swim 6 days a week, and also do other exercises. I consider myself a success.
Successful weight loss does NOT have to be a team activity. If you're a private person, or just don't like to share, you are NOT a failure if you don't buy into the team aspect of weight loss. Some of us just like to march to a different drummer.
This is such a good article. I actually "knew" all this, but sometimes it helps to have it put out there in front of you. Unlike the gal before me who doesn't see any point to it all, I totally disagree. Somehow she must not be making any real friends here to think of them as "strangers who don't care" about her success. I have made several dear friends here and the support and prayers here give me something I can't get anywhere else. Yes, those around you who aren't fighting the battle DO get tired of hearing about it. But here we all know the difficulties and are a "shoulder" to go to, but also someone to cheer us on. Just complaining about what you can't eat won't help, you have to take on a positive attitude which somehow I'm missing in her statements. She's defeated and not seeing a way out. I wish I could reach out to her to try and help but this is something she must do on her own. She must find the strength and the acceptance to come here for some of what she needs but also the battle can only be fought on our own. BUT we are NOT alone. SP is here for us in so many ways. I love SP.
I don't understand why I have to discuss my diet with the people around me in order to be successful. Others don't give a bleep about how often I go to the gym, or whether I've dropped a pound this week -- any more than they want to be "psyched up" to eat or act differently if they haven't actively decided to do so. Sharing with others on SparkPeople is fine -- though again I can't imagine why someone I've never met saying "great job" would spur me on (or someone saying "you can do better" would make me try harder). I find dieting and exercise to be pretty lonely work... and weightloss to be something that is only meaningful to me and not to anyone around me. Even my husband gets very sick of hearing about what I can't eat, or about the half pound I finally shed.
5/3/2013 7:22:18 PM
I can't tell you how AWESOME it is to read all your comments! In writing this article, I was hoping it would ring true for the winner in each of you. It seems like many of you have tried the 'all or nothing' route or got really attached to those numbers on the scale. Believe me, I've been there too. There is no perfect formula for weight loss. But at least these evidence-based tips can help you navigate the game and perhaps stop being so hard on yourself.
Staying the course and analyzing your own habits until you find out what works for YOU is what really makes you a weight loss winner!
Thanks for all the great feedback. You guys are fantastic!
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