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  • I agree that light-hearted comedies and laughing at some point can get you through it and allow you not to spiral down. However, it seems like there are a lot of people out there that think you SHOULD suffer in these situations. For example:

    When my mother was dying in a coma my siblings and I were often together and we tried to think of the happy times we had with my mother. Occasionally we would laugh at some funny incident. Once, when we were laughing, an older nurse walked in and obviously was visibly upset that we were laughing in a room where my mother was dying (mind you, my mother had a terrific sense of humor and would not have minded at all). After my mother died, this nurse actually went to the police and said that my mother's death looked "suspicious". Well, of course, the police had to do something since she complained, but after reading the paramedics and doctor's reports, they simply called us on the phone and had us explain what happened the night she collapsed, said that it matched what the doctors/paramedics said and closed the case. On the positive side, the hospital was so embarrassed that the nurse did this, they didn't charge us a penny.

    And, I also remember when I went through a divorce and felt my whole world was falling apart, but tried to keep a happy face at work and continued with my normal joking around with my fellow employees. Again, an older woman started admonishing me in front of the other workers and said she didn't know how I could be laughing since I was going through a divorce. I just said to her that I could either laugh or I could cry--and that I chose to laugh.

    Really--it's bad enough you feel life collapsing in on you without others trying to stomp on you and make it collapse faster and harder!!
  • This is a great article, right up until the last paragraph. As someone whose depression is part of ptsd, comments such as that people 'often' experience 'enormous positive growth' from very traumatic events is a little too much pressure when coping can be pretty tough.
    Thankfully, the tips in the numbered points are a lot more helpful...
    Many thanks for such a wise, resourceful, and insightful article! It's odd how guys head for beer 'n' pizza while women, for wine and Ben & Jerry's (I can see the latter, but alcohol - for me - is a 100%-guaranteed depressant). Countering rumination is pivotal, isn't it?
    This is another article I am going to have to keep and refer to often! Thank you!
    I agree with SarafromJersey. It's not worth it to eat junk food when depressed. I had to learn just this week to start eating healthy veggies. I find when I eat healthy, even though I feel sad, my body reacts better to the healthy food. When I eat junk food when I'm sad, I end up feeling worse.

    Thank you for writing this article. Very helpful.
  • This is very true. Just last night, I wasn't feeling all that well, and have been stressed all week because of work. I got into the mindset that I didn't have the "energy" to eat well or work out, and the whole day spiraled out of control (I'm talking about a slice of cake AND a milkshake). While, at the time it felt like a well-deserved break, by the end of the night I felt sick, and then regretful. Anytime emotional eating occurs, I never feel good about it, and the 'euphoria' of indulging in junk food is so temporary, it's not worth it.

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