I figure this is for life. I don't expect to be 100% all the time perfect. The other day we ate out for my son's birthday and I spend time before hand reading the nutritional info and deciding what I was getting before hand (and ate my regular healthy meals for breakfast and lunch and my special meal was some what healthy and about as many calories and fat as my normal meal would have had). Next week is my birthday. I'll do the same because Mom is taking me out and we had plans to eat out anyway (not on the same day, thankfully!).
I grew up thinking "well, I'm going to cheat I might as well make the most of it." So what may be a higher than usual meal turns out to be a week long binge-fest. Mom still does it. I am doing my best to stop and so far so good. I am trying hard to break a lifetime of doing things a certain way which is why I was never successful before. I now have the attitude that I am doing this for life. I will fail if I think I will never have cake or chocolate again because for me it's unrealistic. Those are just treats to be enjoyed a lot less frequently now!
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I like what 2TIGRE said.....I have found that "dieting" doesn't do it for me. I feel like I set myself up for failure every time I think about denying myself the foods I love and starving myself into submission. My problem is portion control because I know how to, and do eat healthy. I have a while to go on my journey, but I believe that I'll get there.
I don't "diet" or "cheat" - PERIOD!!! Are there some days (like holidays) that I may take a day off from my "weight loss program"? #%!! YES!!! Furthermore, it's not making me fat either. I may not be losing weight as fast or as much as some people and that's ok. That's their program and this one is my program.
I don't do "diet" foods either; I eat the same things I've always eaten - just much smaller portions than I used to. Furthermore, I don't consider taking a day off from my program "cheating". I learned very early in my weight loss journey that being obsessive and/or fanatical about every single thing I put in my mouth every single minute of my life would do nothing but drive me bonkers.
From time to time (like holidays), I need a break from my weight loss routine if I ever hope to make this a life long effort. I'm only seven pounds from reaching my goal weight and it's only taken me 11 months so far to get to this point. Considering that it took me 10yrs to put this much weight on, I'm doing really great in taking it off so quickly.
I think the issue with an article like this is an all or nothing approach, you definitely need the odd indulgence. I've never done weight Watchers but I gather with the points system you can subtract a few points a day to save up for the one day that you know there will be cake or a few wines. So I'm sure you can do a similar thing with Spark people? I used to track my food religiously but it became a real contest with myself, I'm a bit of an overachiever. We are all on a journey here, some of us are getting there faster than others. I myself joined the Slowest Loser team because this is for the rest of my life. If I lose a kilogram a year its still better than gaining a kilogram ;) Good luck everyone and try to have fun and not beat yourself up on the way!!!
I agree with what several others have said. I think if I read this article early on, I would have been very discourage. I approached weight-loss as a "life-style" adjustment -- not a diet. I still enjoy good, decantant food on a regular basis along with wine and an occassional liqueuer. I do not consider this to be "cheating". I do log my food and exercise religiously and that seems to keep me in weight-loss range.
I'm not on a "diet" either, although everyone thinks I am because I usually eat healthy foods. That's backward -- it's not a diet, it's a lifestyle, and the sooner one comes to terms wirh that, the sooner he or she will be successful.
One of the tips commented that it does matter where your calories come from, but I think SparkPeople is set up in such a way that how many calories you eat versus how many you burn is the primary focus. Thus, cardio weighs more heavily than strength training, and the recipes site is filled with user recipes made from stuff I would hardly call good food. Unfortunately, I can't think of a solution to that.
I think if you never allow yourself a small indulgence you are setting yourself up for a big fall eventually. Take a small piece of the birthday cake or pizza and practice leaving some of it on the plate. It will feel like a real triumph when you can stop before it is all gone. A 400 calorie candy bar is a not a good idea. A single Hershey kiss after that dreadful sounding salad (I'm sorry but 400 calories worth of green beans and cucumbers?) or any other nutritious meal is fine. The key is to stop at one. Not easy to learn but when you consider you can have another tomorrow *if you still want it* its not a crime to have a few empty calories once in a while.
Why do we have to call it cheating? When I eat something I like, ask 10 friends and one is bound to call it "fattening" or "cheating." I call it a balancing act. I eat it in moderation...or I do an extra 10 min cardio...or I drink extra water that day....It seems to work for me...:O)
I am still struggling to find the balance between eating healthy and cheating. For a while, I was too strict, and then I'd have a weekend where I would go hog wild and feel sick and bloated for days afterward. Now, I've loosened up a bit and found that, surprisingly enough, I don't want to go hog wild. Sometimes, I don't even want the cheat meal. It's about finding the balance that allows you to eat healthfully without feeling deprived, and that's very personal.
I agree with this article MOSTLY, however, I think everyone dieting deserves 'cheat days' and an occasional over indulgence or you'll never stay on your diet. I have lost 25+ pounds in the last 3 months. Every Sunday I cheat, and by cheating, I mean I each about 500-700 more calories then I do the rest of the week by eating a nice healthy, huge Sunday dinner and have dessert with it. I also have an occasional over indulgence day as well, although that is maybe possibly once a month. I do agree that we need to watch those days but we all need them too.
Even on special occasions, being mindful of portions and amounts can make unhealthy food fit better. After all, going over a little bit on calories is far better than going over a lot! I went to my cousin's wedding last weekend, ate unhealthy foods, and was out of sorts for my exercise routine, but I still lost 1 pound. I suspect the 2 1/2 hours of dancing had something to do with it, but I enjoyed myself, ate indulgent foods, and still stayed on track. All it takes is only having two cookies instead of four, splitting fries instead of eating a whole side yourself, or starting a meal with a large salad in order to both enjoy food and lose weight.
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