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Optimism and the Power of Positive Thinking

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  • Optimism is something I always work to exude; “Work” because for as long as I can remember, it didn't come easy for me. I call it “putting on my game face” to deal with the world. I’m not a complainer or a gossip and I do not indulge in others’ complaints. Instead, I try to suggest a possible alternate solution hoping it helps.

    My family, friends, and acquaintances, always thought I am a high spirited person. I finally shared the truth to my family and friends. Besides surprise, they didn’t know how to respond. Fortunately, they continue to stand by me even though they don’t understand.

    I’ve been doing lots of work to handle and fight to heal such as:
    • Seeing a therapist and a psychiatrist that consult which each other. Fortunately, they work well together to provide the best treatment possible for me
    • Medication
    • Learning how to take care of myself: grooming, balanced meals, keep the apartment clean, care for my dog and plants.
    • Working up to regular exercise program (which doesn’t come easily for me).
    • Light therapy for Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)
    • Workshops
    • And so on…Yet, I still feel deep sadness

    Positive thinking seems a bit simplistic to me. In fact, it annoys me when anyone shares that concept as if it helps relieve the pain. Even my family and friends know better to not suggest such inane advice.

    For me, it’s not about positive thinking. It’s about AUTHENTICALLY knowing that:
    • I wake up in the morning feeling calm, grateful, and ready to face the day.
    • I wake up knowing that whatever I decide to achieve, I do so effortlessly.
    • I make an income that allows me to create true financial freedom.
    • I’m in love with a guy that truly loves and accepts who I am...as I feel for him. Also, he appreciates I’m in his life…as I feel for him.

    Sorry “Sparkpeople”, you are off the mark and a bit naive. I suggest you consider deeply researching the “Types of Depression”. Perhaps, this insight may generate information that truly helps me and others.

    Thank you.
    Maritza - 8/12/2016 10:59:55 PM
  • My parents were exact opposites , one pessimist, one optimist, I find the middle road a much better place, what I call realist, the world is not always a sunny perfect place and it is not always a cold dark horrid place, there is good and bad with everything. To pretend all is happy and perfect is just as irritating as always spouting the negative, I prefer the truth. - 4/7/2016 5:16:42 AM
  • I became an optimist by observing my parents. My mother was extremely negative, while my father was a realist/optimist. It was clear to me that being so negative was an awful way to live. I also observed that people did not care for my mothers negative attitude, she only had few friends & constantly talked bad about them, behind their backs. While my father was the life of the party & everyone truly enjoyed his company.

    I'm not saying I don't have negative moments or feel upset about things. But I do not let that negativity affect my life. I do vent, mostly alone in my car. Occassionally to my boyfriend. For me, I find that it releases the negativity from my brain and then I'm over & done with it. - 3/31/2016 12:50:09 PM
  • I think the goal should be BALANCE. Optimism can go too far - optimists are more likely to stay in an abusive relationship because they are always trying to find the good and looking for a "bright side." This is true romantically, platonically, and also in terms of employment - one should not have to wait to be fired to start one's own business, perhaps the job was undervaluing you anyway and the company was not a healthy one to work for. Good business is not only about the "bottom line" of making a profit off the backs of employees. Also, optimistic people are way more likely to overwork their bodies instead of resting when needed, which can lead to cancer, injuries, and lots of other health problems. Pessimism can thus have health benefits at times. One extreme is not actually better than the other - they are still both extremes with a lack of perspective in thinking. The goal is to BALANCE the two! - 2/13/2016 7:23:56 PM
  • You know how we all have phrases that we say over and over and we get known for those ("It's all good", "Think outside of the box", etc.)? Most of don't even know we over use these phrases. I was shocked a couple of years ago when a person came to me and told me my phrase was "The good thing about that is...". Apparently every time someone made a comment about a situation, I'd shoot back this "silver lining" phrase with a positive aspect of the negative comment. In retrospect, I am just fine over-using this phrase and hope that my positive outlook continues. - 2/8/2016 11:57:02 AM
  • Hard to be optimistic with so many "down" people around me. - 1/29/2016 2:02:02 PM
  • I don't see that it is pessimistic to realize when we have made mistakes that are our own fault. The optimist though, would learn something from that and not see it as inevitable. - 12/9/2015 5:33:09 PM
  • HARVCOWAN
    let us remember,,,...,,every day may not be a good day, but there is good in every day. Along that line......there is good [ optimistic spirit ]in every person. It has to be nurtured/developed more in some people. Cheers for years. - 9/10/2015 9:27:48 PM
  • ARISMORENO
    Optimism is actually a good thing because through this attitude, we can improve the quality of our lives. Thanks for sharing.

    www.theoptimistblog.com - 8/15/2015 2:41:58 PM
  • ARISMORENO
    Optimism is actually a good things because through this attitude, we can improve the quality of our lives. Thanks for sharing.

    www.theoptimistblog.com - 8/15/2015 2:21:08 PM
  • I am an optimist by nature, however, when you have others around you constantly telling you the bad stuff (at work) is your fault there are no steps that you can take to always feel 'up'. I recently had to give up a leadership role I was very good at because the boss I reported to wouldn't back me up with unruly team members. He told me I was negative and needed to let it go, that I should find the positive and just let them do whatever. This was after being yelled at my one of them. - 7/26/2015 6:40:44 PM
  • KIM31555
    I find when I am 'blue,' I find a song to hum or sing. Mostly I choose from Disney songs to religious hymns. When I have a negative thought come into my mind, I start to sing, and sometimes out loud. After a small while, I start to feel better about myself. Also, being a 'guy' it's easy to see a pretty woman walking outside. I have trained myself to look the opposite direction and by not seeing helps my thinking (i.e. hide the baby's rattle and the baby forgets about it). - 7/5/2015 5:33:11 PM
  • This article is fine, but certainly not for those with depression. - 7/1/2015 2:02:35 PM
  • JOSEMARINPTC
    In my opinion optimism is associated with a lot of positive feelings and thoughts and comes from all different directions. Optimism could make you healthier because when happy or excited your body is relaxed and feels good. I found good information about the benefits it brings optimism health in this article http://inspower.co/positive-effects-of-opt
    imism-on-life/ - 6/17/2015 1:11:50 AM
  • Being an optimist is not something that you can turn on and off like a switch. I am a "Cockeyed Optimist" but I also understand depression. I am normally a very "up" person but I went through a period of illness where I just couldn't cope and needed help! Yes, sometimes you can improve your mood but actual depression is something else! - 4/2/2015 9:44:04 AM

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