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Common Myths about Happiness
11/17/2013 7:04:35 AM
This article has its merits in that it preaches positive thinking, but for likes of me when everything always seems to be a negative its hard to try and be positive about anything in life, life is just like that. If everyone was able to think positive/be positive about their lives i guess we would all be happy and the world itself would be good, sadly this is not the case and if it was the world itself would be out of balance... Happiness is a thing that comes and goes, no one can really control it, those who have it can just so easily see it slip out of their lives in a split second, not because they had negative thoughts or such, but because of external events not of their making/choice. Thats not to say people should not try to be positive in order to find happiness.
Wow this article is fantastic and insightfully helpful! To finish the Sentence "“I could be happy if…” I almost instantly thought "if I let myself!" which with some thought adjustment I turned into "“I can be happy if I continue to exercise my skills” and "I will continue to be happy as I learn to empower myself!' I agree with the article that your attitude can define your perspective. Basing happiness on what ifs is a bit far fetched but employing a positive attitude and goals to work toward a stronger lifestyle perhaps is closer. I am already working to change my attitude and outlook by changing the way I think with DBT practice!
My immediate answer to the filling in the blank was "if i let myself". This article reminded me that i should take my own advice. I'm always telling my fiance to look at the bright side, the blessings, and stop focusing on the perceived problems. I should listen to myself more often.
Invalid premise, as completing the sentence automatically defines the happiness as a future event depending on a set of circumstances. Of course people who usually follow rules will pick some future, conditional event they believe will make them happier. That's what you asked them to do. That doesn't mean they aren't happy with their lives, or don't appreciate what they have and who they are. It just means they're trying to answer the question as it was asked.
I don't think that way about weight or trivial things. I know I can be happy if it was just that. But feeling insecure about my future or security in life is what makes me unhappy. Never know if I will be okay financially or for sure there will be a roof over my head or what will happen if this situation happens. Financial insecurity is what makes me not happy!
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5/30/2013 10:06:33 AM
I really liked this article! It's so hard to remain positive when you are in a vast sea of negative. And gratitude for what is right in front of you is so important. Can we hear from this author again?
What a great article. While it references Buddhism, there is also a verse in the Bible that reads - "I have learned to be content in whatever situation I am." I must often remind myself of this verse when I start to want what my neighbors have, or start feeling like I will be happy in the future when....malcontent seems to be innate to human nature; being in a state of contentment is a learned behavior.
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