I try to seek joy in the moments of each day, changing the introductory sentence to "I feel my (blank) WHEN:"
Then I finish the phrase with things that make me feel positive emotions. For example:
I feel my strongest when I finish a really tough workout. I feel most loved when I cuddle with my husband before bed. I feel most energized when I eat healthy food. I feel most at peace when I get to enjoy nature.
I loved this article. My long time favorite quote - that comes to my rescue in challening time is "Most people are as happy as they decide to be." by Abe Lincoln. It says it all and reminds you that no matter what is happening around you - you can choose to e happy.
I like this a lot!!! I find that focusing on what I'm doing right does help me as far as weight loss and fitness go.
11/17/2013 7:04:35 AM
This article has its merits in that it preaches positive thinking, but for likes of me when everything always seems to be a negative its hard to try and be positive about anything in life, life is just like that. If everyone was able to think positive/be positive about their lives i guess we would all be happy and the world itself would be good, sadly this is not the case and if it was the world itself would be out of balance... Happiness is a thing that comes and goes, no one can really control it, those who have it can just so easily see it slip out of their lives in a split second, not because they had negative thoughts or such, but because of external events not of their making/choice. Thats not to say people should not try to be positive in order to find happiness.
11/11/2013 10:28:27 AM
Wow this article is fantastic and insightfully helpful! To finish the Sentence "“I could be happy if…” I almost instantly thought "if I let myself!" which with some thought adjustment I turned into "“I can be happy if I continue to exercise my skills” and "I will continue to be happy as I learn to empower myself!' I agree with the article that your attitude can define your perspective. Basing happiness on what ifs is a bit far fetched but employing a positive attitude and goals to work toward a stronger lifestyle perhaps is closer. I am already working to change my attitude and outlook by changing the way I think with DBT practice!
My immediate answer to the filling in the blank was "if i let myself". This article reminded me that i should take my own advice. I'm always telling my fiance to look at the bright side, the blessings, and stop focusing on the perceived problems. I should listen to myself more often.
Invalid premise, as completing the sentence automatically defines the happiness as a future event depending on a set of circumstances. Of course people who usually follow rules will pick some future, conditional event they believe will make them happier. That's what you asked them to do. That doesn't mean they aren't happy with their lives, or don't appreciate what they have and who they are. It just means they're trying to answer the question as it was asked.
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