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Helping Others Make Healthy Lifestyle Choices

The Do's and Don'ts of Motivating Others


  • I try to include my children, grandchildren, nieces and nephews when cooking. They are always willing to taste something they have made personally. - 8/11/2015 8:38:32 AM
  • Dear Coach Dean, You are a very wise man. Thank you. - 8/8/2015 1:39:59 PM

    if you follow the cleanse you can see great results especially if you do clean eating. also if you get the spark you will feel amazing! if you have any questions just ask! if you become a new retail customer make sure you put my ID number in the sponsor part 150565952! if you don't want to try the cleanse there are so many other options! so let me help you shed some pounds for this summer! this isn't some kind of spam I just want to help others feel healthy like people have done to me!

    don't forget that when you sign up to be a retail customer to put my ID in the sponsor part 150565952 - 6/3/2015 12:25:21 PM
  • MDEAMRAN2015 - 5/15/2015 12:29:14 PM
  • A supporting spouse makes my life easier. He supports me in my food choices, exercises and my alternative health business. Because of my love for people and alternative health, I am able to have victory in my lifestyle.
    - 3/8/2015 5:50:51 PM
  • Great article. I have only been doing SparkPeople for 60 days this time, but people are starting to notice. I have talked to 7 people in my life about SparkPeople and I don't believe that any of them have or probably try it. One admitted that she doesn't want to give up eating what she wants - I invite her over when I making a great healthy dish that looks sumptious (whole wheat pizza last week). She is always posting delicious recipes on Facebook - so I post SparkPeople recipes on Facebook. Another person is my baby sister her was very upset with my health issues, so she wants updates that I am taking care of myself. In the last 60 days I have learned alot about me and the role that our Mom had on us. Mom had definate eating disorders and was always on a diet - I still hate the word. I have turned the conversation to those years. I will use all of the suggested steps. Next week we are going to a relaxation yoga class and massages! - 6/14/2014 8:25:18 AM
  • This is a great article. No one wants to start a healthy lifestyle if they are going to be deprived of certain foods and strictly dictated to go out there and exercise for 30 minutes 3 times a week! Making it fit into your lifestyle makes the journey enjoyable and fun! - 9/13/2013 8:18:16 AM
  • This is something I definitly can relate to. I love the changes that I've made and how they reflect upon my life. Every day I feel like I have more energy from eatting right, I think more clearly, and I finally can get a decent nights sleep! I feel better and I'm more confident...

    So when I talk about how happy being healthy has made me, it feels like a double edge sword. On one hand, I feel like everyone should give this a try because it's such a great way to improove quality of life... but on the other hand, I never want to sound preachy or like I am boasting / bragging, so more often then not I won't say much of anything at all unless it's to another friend of mine who already see's eye to eye on being fit and active - 8/20/2012 10:59:30 AM
  • I agree with your entire article. I have several friends that wish they could lose weight but when I tell them what I do, the typical response is "oh I can't do that''. Maybe they can't do exactly what I do but they can do something to move toward the healthier choice in food or exercise. This article confirms my thoughts that the immediate reward is outweighing the future results. Thanks for your article. - 8/18/2012 7:27:34 PM
    A very good article, thanks.
    What is confusing to me is that some people keep SAYING they want to live healthier, quit smoking, stop using weed etcetera. They ask for help, even. Then when I say yes to their request for help and offer suggestions of what they could do, they don't do it, and some even start argueing with ME for 'wanting to change them'... telling me 'I don't know what it's like to be addicted' (umm yes I do).
    I'm slowly beginning to learn to turn away at that point. Because they apparently prefer to spend their energy argueing with me over DOING something about their problem...
    I'd love an article / elaboration about what to do when people insist they want to change and then... don't do it. - 8/18/2012 2:38:43 PM
  • Trying to get someone else to stick to a diet is like trying to get someone to quit smoking. If that person does not have the desire and self-discipline to do what needs to be done, all the prompting, encouraging, example-setting you do, won't make a bit of difference.

    Each of us had to have that AHA! moment when we choose to take control of our health. We might need some guidance or assistance to make better choices - but the final choice remains ours. Just like I can't make my husband use less salt (high blood pressure), he can't make me give up my favorite dessert - only I can do that.

    Sometimes our motivation is high, other times we make the wrong choices - but it is up to the individual to make the right decisions.

    So, the next time someone asks you to motivate them, tell them the only one who can truly motivate a person is him or herself. - 8/18/2012 2:13:03 PM
    *Sigh* With Coach Dean's articles I always have to slow down and read more carefully. And then put a little soothing ointment on the sore spots. Why is the real stuff always harder than cotton candy cliches? Thanks Coach. - 8/18/2012 9:36:16 AM
  • Enjoyed this article and the excellent advice really resonated. Thank you! - 7/31/2012 9:26:28 PM
  • Everyone needs a sounding board a good listener. Coupled with a good example and lots of understanding we can all share a spark that can ignite someone into action. Thanks for a wonderful article - 7/25/2012 5:51:22 PM
  • Yes, there is nothing more annoying than someone who is basically asking "Why can't you be more like me?" "Look how good I am."

    I remember when we had exercise classes at work. One of the women asked the instructor why a woman would want to do strength training. Her response? "So you can look like me!" Oh, yeah, that really inspired. We all just shook our heads and moved on. - 4/25/2012 7:48:31 AM

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