This is a great article. No one wants to start a healthy lifestyle if they are going to be deprived of certain foods and strictly dictated to go out there and exercise for 30 minutes 3 times a week! Making it fit into your lifestyle makes the journey enjoyable and fun!
This is something I definitly can relate to. I love the changes that I've made and how they reflect upon my life. Every day I feel like I have more energy from eatting right, I think more clearly, and I finally can get a decent nights sleep! I feel better and I'm more confident...
So when I talk about how happy being healthy has made me, it feels like a double edge sword. On one hand, I feel like everyone should give this a try because it's such a great way to improove quality of life... but on the other hand, I never want to sound preachy or like I am boasting / bragging, so more often then not I won't say much of anything at all unless it's to another friend of mine who already see's eye to eye on being fit and active
I agree with your entire article. I have several friends that wish they could lose weight but when I tell them what I do, the typical response is "oh I can't do that''. Maybe they can't do exactly what I do but they can do something to move toward the healthier choice in food or exercise. This article confirms my thoughts that the immediate reward is outweighing the future results. Thanks for your article.
8/18/2012 2:38:43 PM
A very good article, thanks. What is confusing to me is that some people keep SAYING they want to live healthier, quit smoking, stop using weed etcetera. They ask for help, even. Then when I say yes to their request for help and offer suggestions of what they could do, they don't do it, and some even start argueing with ME for 'wanting to change them'... telling me 'I don't know what it's like to be addicted' (umm yes I do). I'm slowly beginning to learn to turn away at that point. Because they apparently prefer to spend their energy argueing with me over DOING something about their problem... I'd love an article / elaboration about what to do when people insist they want to change and then... don't do it.
8/18/2012 2:13:03 PM
Trying to get someone else to stick to a diet is like trying to get someone to quit smoking. If that person does not have the desire and self-discipline to do what needs to be done, all the prompting, encouraging, example-setting you do, won't make a bit of difference.
Each of us had to have that AHA! moment when we choose to take control of our health. We might need some guidance or assistance to make better choices - but the final choice remains ours. Just like I can't make my husband use less salt (high blood pressure), he can't make me give up my favorite dessert - only I can do that.
Sometimes our motivation is high, other times we make the wrong choices - but it is up to the individual to make the right decisions.
So, the next time someone asks you to motivate them, tell them the only one who can truly motivate a person is him or herself.
8/18/2012 9:36:16 AM
*Sigh* With Coach Dean's articles I always have to slow down and read more carefully. And then put a little soothing ointment on the sore spots. Why is the real stuff always harder than cotton candy cliches? Thanks Coach.
Yes, there is nothing more annoying than someone who is basically asking "Why can't you be more like me?" "Look how good I am."
I remember when we had exercise classes at work. One of the women asked the instructor why a woman would want to do strength training. Her response? "So you can look like me!" Oh, yeah, that really inspired. We all just shook our heads and moved on.
Once again, Dean, you´ve hit the nail on the head! I´ve been worried about my husband´s lack of real interest in bettering his health. This article gives me the tools that I need to be a real helpmate to him.
9/4/2011 10:53:33 AM
This is an excellent article. . . a good reminder that sometimes the best gift we can give someone is our undivided attention and listening skills. Also, though it is difficult not to "nag", the usual results of that kind of comment it resistance! I need those reminders about patience and waiting for that "lightbulb" moment. Thank you for this great article.
There was such a vigorous discussion on the Daily Spark about doctors trying (or not) to get people to lose weight, and this excellent article made me reflect again how as a health care provider, that "light bulb" has to go off before I could realistically help someone make the changes necessary to be healthier. Thanks for such a good article, and food for thought.
1/12/2011 12:21:37 PM
Be a leadr, be an example to help others as yourself.
Badgering someone about their health and choices is certainly worthless at best, and this article gives some good advice and reasoning to avoid that. I've found that a simple invitation to include someone in a good activity is also (sometimes) effective- "hey I'm going for a walk, do you want to come?" is sometimes an awfully powerful first step with someone. Lead by example and invite people along (no lectures attached!) works for me!
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