bulling has become epidemic of our everyday lives and it is time to stop it. I am glad this lady stood her ground. We don't show kindness to people anymore it is I am it and you are the dirt I walk on ever day.
Certainly there is a difference between bullying and constructive criticism, and it depends on the degree on the relationship and the motivation behind the comment. In this case, a stranger who has only seen her on TV a few times in several years is not in any position to give constructive criticism and usurping the role reserved for intimates is an unwarranted violation of her personal boundaries. If the concern came from her doctor with kindness and professionalism, when discussing blood sugar levels or high blood pressure, that would be constructive criticism. If she were talking with her husband or best friend and asked for their opinion and they kindly expressed concern for her health out of personal knowledge and love, that would be constructive criticism. Some stranger passing judgment and acting holier-than-thou while making the dubious excuse that he is only doing it for some mythical children whom he doesn't know either, that is not constructive criticism, that is bullying. As Ann Lander used to say, he needs to MYOB.
Exerlent talk, lecture or whatever. Your words are so very wise and needed. I wonder who appointed him judge. I thought that was Gods job or your HIGHER POWER job. I'm almost sure your HIGHER POWER has more important things to do right now like world peace, bullying, helping the poor child that has little self confidence and is being bullied. keep up your good words that help others.
8/24/2014 7:39:21 AM
I was touched by this response and commit to thinking twice before making comments about others, thank you Jennifer.
8/20/2014 1:36:27 PM
I agree with LadyDG. Do not confuse bullying with constructive criticism. Bullying is totally wrong. It seeks to puff up the self while putting someone else down and making them feel worthless. Bullying because of a persons nationality or race is stupid. God made all races. Bullying because of a disability is cruel. The person would change their situation if they could. You should be compassionate and help if you can. Same with social, educational or financial status. Bullying a sinner is wrong too. But appropriate corrective action may be called for (jail time for a bank robber - I am NOT saying that fat people should go to jail). Being overweight is NOT a sin, but being obese may or may not be, depending on your attitude, hormones, and ability to change your health. I think her critic was trying to help her, not hinder. That's what SparkPeople is supposed to be about. Better the wounds of a friend than the kisses of an enemy.
Wow! I hope that some day I am that strong that I can stand up to people who do stuff like that. The thing is that sometimes people can make it sound like concern but it's more hurtful than it is anything else.
I saw the video and I read the comments. Jennifer is a role model in that she has succeeded to be what she wanted to be in her life. An Anchor, wife and mother of 3. Good for her and bravo for taking a stand, That said I was amazed at what some of the comments said. I was physically and emotionally bullied as I was growing up. Imagine being stoned with hard apples and rocks as you walk down the street simply because they thought it was fun. Or being told if anyone was your friend they would be hated too so it was best not to be your friend. I lived with that all through school along with the name calling and shunning. It was hard to swallow and I can't even tell you how many nights I cried wishing for just one friend. So I swallowed my hurt and ate my "comfort food" and became obese so I could hide further from the world. The few times I ventured out lead me to marriage and raising 2 children but the scars are there and I still find myself hiding behind the fear of rejection. It didn't help my family is on the heavier side and no one can be called thin. I just worked it to a new level. I became the largest of my family at an early age. To those of you who think the letter wasn't bulling you are wrong because bulling can be done with a velvet glove of well intention. He cover it up poorly but he tried. He wanted her to feel bad about herself because she didn't fit into his image of what someone in the public eye should look like. If I learned anything in my life *and it took me a lifetime to learn) Is we are all imperfect beings. How I view you should be based on how you impact my personal life not on how you look. Looks change and can be changed by our willingness to change them or by the person behind the photo shop buttons
Way to go Jennifer!!!! I stumbled on this and was so glad I did. You addressed this issue so well and thank you for that. So many of us struggle with issues of weight or body image. I am so grateful to have people like you in this world and sadly I have to accept that the world also contains idiots like the one who sent you that email. What's really sad is that in a world so screwed up where kids now can't even go to school without the fear of being shot, this is the topic he chooses to focus on??? I think he should be pitied if anything at all. Jennifer, you are an amazing woman and thank you so much for saying what so many of us never get the chance to. God Bless You.
Broadcast people get blasted all the time. Most of the tripe they received daily is ignored. This may have been the straw that broke the camel's back. And frankly, I don't blame her.
You do have to be careful, in this day and age about making hasty assumptions about people. We had a news lady in our area that suddenly gained. She continued to broadcast and did a job well done. Her problem: Cancer. The chemo-therapy added the weight.
Some hefty people I know are the most creative, gifted and energetic people who are an inspiration to me.
4/12/2014 7:28:40 PM
What a inspirational message! I applaud her for taking something so negative and turning it into a positive. Only God can judge us. You go girl!
I too am fat or overweight. I have fought my weight issues all my life. I am a nurse and am well aware of the health problem and social issues of overweight. I have been on an off and on diet, pills, Dr 's, exercise programs etc for 64 of my 68 years of life. I have good self esteem and like my body and it doesn't cause me to avoid anything I want to do. That being said, I would really like to weigh less. Mostly for health reasons. It is hard work and something in me doesn't tell me I am full, or I can't reward myself with food, It is a hourly and daily battle that never quits. Yes, we do not need people telling us something that we are well aware of, or think we are lazy and unworthy. Most of the time we eat less than others and move less because of it because our bodies have been up and down the weigh scale. Thank you for your reply to this rude and unkind self righteous person. He should get his own mind in turn to the needs and problems others face instead of preaching. you are great, no one comments of how skinny some people are and their health problems so why try to bully us
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