SparkPeople Staying Positive Secrets Learn some of the secrets of success for Staying Positive from SparkPeople members. SparkPeople Staying Positive Secrets I Am Who I Am I am me... Myself. There is no one like me.. I am one of a kind and I can do only what I can do.. I am not a rare beauty nor have I won any Pageants... I was not popular in School but a quiet and meek person... No one can be found that has my handwriting. Nobody anywhere has my tastes, for food or music or art. No one sees things just as I do. In all of time there’s been no one who laughs like me, no one who cries like me. And what makes me laugh and cry will never provoke identical laughter ... Sat, 13 Feb 2016 18:53:00 EST NEED TO TRACK I have been dealing with weight issues since I was about five or six years old. I have done lots of diets, exercise, and even a medical fast. I have had many levels of success and failure over the years. However, now I believe that I have a grasp on what I need to do to be successful. I have a compulsive eating disorder. I have to remain very structured in what I do every day. I am not somebody who can just come into work when there are doughnuts, have one and be fine about it. I have to be v... Sat, 13 Feb 2016 14:19:00 EST Smiling when Insulted, Anyway Recently, went to get my orthodics refitted. having god support for my flat feet allows me to walk with less knee and back pain. having less pain allows me to walk more.Walking more helps with moods, weight, muscle tone and more, and so goes it.<br><br>Anyway, another lady in the waiting room was chatting me up. I like people, so I tried to respond pleasantly. it was the end of the day and the end of a week full of challenges.<br><br>My appointment was before hers, so when the orthodics doc c... Sat, 13 Feb 2016 12:03:00 EST Love, Hate, Apathy <em>342</em> <em>342</em> <em>342</em> <em>342</em> <em>342</em> <em>342</em> <br>I have a very strong feeling that the opposite of love is not hate - it's apathy. It's not giving a damn.<br>~Leo Buscaglia<br><br>Leo's thought for today seems contradictory at first glance but not so much so when you analyze it more thoroughly.<br><br>Love and hate are strong emotions and deep seated but they show that the lover or the hater has feelings on the subject matter. And since they ... Sat, 13 Feb 2016 09:32:00 EST Keep a Positive Outlook Need help staying positive through weight loss plateau? I think we’ve all been there, where we work super hard but the scale just won’t budge. It can be frustrating but there is much more to a healthy body than just a number on the scale! While we might get fixed on reaching a certain weight, there are lots of other signs that we are getting fitter and firmer.. Allow me to show you some tips on staying positive through weight loss plateau so you can stay motivated and keep moving forward... S... Fri, 12 Feb 2016 12:52:00 EST Winter Activity I Like I like to visit the ice sculpture event downtown. It is amazing what these talented artists can create. Plus, it gets me outside, walking, burning calories, breathing fresh air.<br><br>Portion Control is key in losing weight the healthy way. I have been so surprised to find what I thought was a portion, compared to what the experts say, and what is noted on the package labels.<br><br>It is so hard to eat right, exercise daily, and maintain a healthy weight. I have found a few tips that have... Thu, 11 Feb 2016 08:58:00 EST Getting a Little Better Still have been restricted from eating high fatty foods and spicy foods. Seen the doctor yesterday and I'm on my way<br><br>Portion Control is key in losing weight the healthy way. I have been so surprised to find what I thought was a portion, compared to what the experts say, and what is noted on the package labels.<br><br>It is so hard to eat right, exercise daily, and maintain a healthy weight. I have found a few tips that have helped me over the years.<br><br>I learned a new little trick... Wed, 10 Feb 2016 09:23:00 EST Be Determined. Be Stubborn No one ever achieved anything without enthusiasm and determination. <br><br>Sounds like a no-brainer, doesn't it? And yet so many people seem to think that simply wanting a thing will be enough to get a thing. I used to be one of those people. <br><br>Folk often seem to not realise that desire on its own is rarely enough to get the job done. Hell, if it was, I'd be as fit as Paula Radcliffe, and Tom Hiddleston would be bringing me breakfast in bed every morning!<br><br>Determination is what k... Wed, 10 Feb 2016 06:02:00 EST 10,000+ steps to success I've never been able to walk 10K steps for more than a day or two at a part due to my multiple sclerosis. However, I've been blessed for the past three weeks to average more than 13K per day. A huge stressor came along the day after I began (brutal murder of our great nephew and body found about a week later, trial to come soon!) and I believe the Lord gave me the stamina, focus, and ability to walk/jog my steps each day. It has really helped my stress level and my resting heart ... Tue, 9 Feb 2016 17:03:00 EST I've Got To Be Me! <em>334</em> <em>334</em> <em>334</em> <em>334</em> <em>334</em> <em>334</em> <br>The easiest thing to be in the world is you. The most difficult thing to be is what other people want you to be. Don't let them put you in that position.<br>~Leo Buscaglia<br><br>Be yourself, no one else can do it for you<br>~The Talmud<br><br>This above all, to thineownself be true and it follows therefore as surely as the night the day that thou cans't not be untrue to any man.<br>~William Sha... Tue, 9 Feb 2016 15:46:00 EST Love & Accept Yourself One of the best things I have found to help me out on my journey is to take time every day to appreciate my body, and tell it how much I love it. Sending these positive thoughts to my body has helped me over come obstacles and keep pushing through. It takes the focus and stress off of losing weight, and places the emphasis on doing healthy, great things for my body BECAUSE I love it and want it to feel GREAT. The things we say to ourselves will manifest. So, by telling yourself over and over ... Tue, 9 Feb 2016 14:22:00 EST Less Waist and More Me Time I read blogs.. and a lot of people fall to the side because of the saying.. "I just can't find time..."<br>Typically, it’s lack of motivation, lack of enjoyment, negative associations, fear or maybe low self-esteem...Busy as we may be, we have less trouble finding time for television, social networking or even dull household tasks.. Just a few things I have noticed... It all comes back to time.. time management... We make all kinds of excuses for each thing we can think of.. but to watch your... Tue, 9 Feb 2016 13:20:00 EST This is not Fun 3 days of ice chips. Followed by 2 days clear liquid. Then nothing by mouth, and finally abdominal surgery and a liver biopsy. After surgery, it all reverses. Ice chips, clear liquid diet, soft food diet. I have to take it easy and be extra careful what I put down the hatch. No fatty, no spicy, no chocolate, no fun. Whaaaaa!<br><br>Take it one pound at a time, one day at a time. This is not a race. Your weight loss progress should not be measured against someone else's progress. Try your best... Tue, 9 Feb 2016 09:13:00 EST Forgive yourself. Move forward. I've seen too many people beating themselves up over chloices they've made. They'd rather spend the rest of their lives miserable, agonizing over their choices, rather than learning from their actions and improving themselves.<br><br>Life is not about misery, self-torture, and playing the victim nor the martyr. Life is a learning journey. Life is to be enjoyed, to be experienced, and to be lived as fully and as aware as possible<br><br>I used to be one of those people who tortured myself f... Tue, 9 Feb 2016 04:08:00 EST When you don't lose Yep, eventually there will come a week where you don't lose anything, don't lose what you expected, or worse, gained weight. When this happens to you, and it will happen to you, it is very easy to become discouraged and give up. On my fourth week of this dieting I hit my week, I actually gained instead of losing. I had expected a not so good week especially since it was Super Bowl weekend and I had indulged in appetizers, snacks, and alcohol but it still was discouraging to see the results on... Mon, 8 Feb 2016 09:55:00 EST Finding a Balance I've been really trying to find the right balance with my eating and exercise.<br><br>This has been extremely difficult between all the surgeries, hospital visits, testings, and other things I have to go through being a cancer patient.<br><br>We've all been there. You know, that dark place where it feels like nothing short of a personal invitation from George Clooney will get you off the couch and into the gym. But whether you're battling workout boredom, weight loss plateaus, or injuries, yo... Mon, 8 Feb 2016 09:12:00 EST Being Inspired By Yourself Inspiration comes in many forms and can strike randomly. Some days we have an abundance of creative energy which comes naturally, other days it’s not so easy. My most effective inspiration comes from how I treat myself. It will flow into how I treat others as well. Sometimes my treatment of others is what helps be more at peace in life.<br><br>Most of us spend our lives searching for that one spark that will ignite and motivate, then propel us to succeed. We buy any number of books, inspi... Sun, 7 Feb 2016 20:37:00 EST Keep moving forward I look straight ahead of me at all times. If I fall, I try to fall forward. Another thing I do is visualize myself having achieved my goal weight. Visualization is one of the keys to not only a successful journey, but to a successful life. Once you realize that you CAN do this, you start to realize that you can and will also be able to continue doing it and thus, remain successful.<br><br>Being on a trip like this can be pretty overwhelming at times. That is when a group like SparkPeople ... Sun, 7 Feb 2016 18:09:00 EST Keep Negativity and Bullies in the Trash When I was young.. I was made fun of all the time and I never knew why... I never knew the true meaning of having someone to love me and me to love back.. Here even on Sparks I have ran into those who care nothing about how you feel or what you do.. I run three teams and I notice that for Points some just put one of those emoticons or a smile.. Now do you think they read it.. I can post my blog and with in moments I see a reply.. and I know it is going to be someone who did not even take the ... Sun, 7 Feb 2016 15:26:00 EST My Daily Mantra Beginning any new task is always difficult. Here are a few things that help me to enjoy life and value each day as a blessing! When charged with a daunting task you should: Understand that the best way is to make small gradual changes that are achievable. Realize that each day is a new day to overcome some obstacle that you were unable to conquer before. When you have failures, (as we all do because after all we're all only human), don't throw in the towel & think that you can't bounce bac... Sun, 7 Feb 2016 14:03:00 EST Spend time with family and friends Often when we begin our weight loss and healthier lifestyle journey, we find that how we spend time with family and friends may need to change. We may begin to recognize patterns such as always going out for dinner and drinks with friends, or gathering around the family dinner table laden with high fat, high calorie foods. These previous habits for socialization become a detriment to our progress towards a healthier new you. <br><br>Next time you are offered opportunity to socialize, don't tu... Sun, 7 Feb 2016 12:31:00 EST Do something special An important part of a healthy lifestyle is taking care of your social and emotional needs. We too often neglect to take care of ourselves because we are too busy taking care of everyone else. When was the last time you did something fun, that you enjoy, just for yourself? I don't mean eating that piece of chocolate cake or grabbing that shower after everyone has rushed out the door for the day. I mean truly something special. <br><br>To decide what is most meaningful for you and what you wou... Sat, 6 Feb 2016 15:54:00 EST Blogs. Why do you write them...? In life, you will meet many people along the way. Each person who touches our life brings a gift. Some will touch you more than others, but each person comes into your life for a reason. Many times we don't exactly know why. This person could be a teacher, a parent, a spouse, a sibling, a friend or a stranger. Maybe this person listens when we need to talk or cry. Maybe they help us financially when we are broke. Maybe they talk to us, when we need a different perspective. Maybe they hold us ... Sat, 6 Feb 2016 15:49:00 EST DON'T TAKE ON MORE THAN YOU CAN DO! When I lost 85# I thought I could take on the world. I found a wonderful house in another state for very little money and I was just about to sign the offer when I realized I could not do this job. A lot of things were not in place that I need for my personal health and well being, most importantly, Weight Watchers meetings. I was terribly disappointed, and coming down off the high, I ate more than I should. The lesson I learned is that, being a compulsive over-eater, I am fragile emotion... Fri, 5 Feb 2016 17:24:00 EST Boost your mood Nearly 14.8 million Americans suffer from depression. This is about 6.7% of the adult population in the country. Of these 14.8 million people, nearly 54% of them state they are on some type of diet. Fad diets are one of the more popular methods utilized to reduce obesity, however are the least effective. <br><br>Americans are faced with food and exercise challenges each day. Terms such as food deserts have become part of our vocabulary. We cannot turn on the TV, radio, or internet without bei... Fri, 5 Feb 2016 12:18:00 EST A positive attitude helps with weight loss Having a positive mental attitude can certainly help you achieve your weight loss goals. Going on a diet is not easy, and it requires patience and commitment. It is easy and fun to create a diet plan, but it takes lots of determination to stick to it faithfully. After you have been dieting for a week or two, you may feel disappointed that you are not seeing any results, and you may start to lose hope.<br><br>If you have a positive mental attitude, you will overcome your disappointments and pr... Thu, 4 Feb 2016 21:43:00 EST The Power of One <em>214</em> <em>214</em> <em>214</em> <em>214</em> <em>214</em> <em>214</em> <br>A single rose can be my garden... a single friend, my world.<br>~Leo Buscaglia<br> <em>220</em> <em>220</em> <em>220</em> <em>220</em> <em>220</em> <em>220</em> <br><br>Leo was an amazing man. His philosophy is summed up in today's quotation. Think about it for a moment. How many people would look at a lone rose and lament its being the only one? Leo on the other hand looks ... Wed, 3 Feb 2016 15:17:00 EST Exercise not only changes your body, it changes your mind, your attitude and your mood. Exercise not only changes your body, it changes your mind, your attitude and your mood.<br><br>I know what you're thinking....exercise...I HAVE to do some every day, don't I? Well, no, you don't, but you should and here's why...<br><br>First of all, if you are on this journey, changing the way you deal with food, you want your body to change with you, or you would not be doing this. If you do NOT exercise, you will lose weight, but at a slower rate, and your body will not be getting in shape ... Wed, 3 Feb 2016 12:59:00 EST Out of It Just had my gallbladder removed and wow...I'm totally out of it. Lots of abdominal pain, and trying to stay away from narcotic remedies.<br><br>I have to really watch what I eat, especially over the next 2 months until my body adjusts to the surgery.<br><br>I have to limit fatty foods. Fried chicken, pizza, stuff I really don't eat anyway.<br><br>It is so hard to eat right, exercise daily, and maintain a healthy weight. I have found a few tips that have helped me over the years.<br><br>I le... Wed, 3 Feb 2016 09:27:00 EST Some Helpful Hints We've all been there. You know, that dark place where it feels like nothing short of a personal invitation from George Clooney will get you off the couch and into the gym. But whether you're battling workout boredom, weight loss plateaus, or injuries, you don't have to let any obstacle sidetrack your fitness. All you need is the right motivation.<br>***************<br>********<BR>******************<br>****************<BR>**********<br>************************<BR>**<br>************************... Tue, 2 Feb 2016 21:06:00 EST Something FABULOUS is out there, taking shape, emerging, peeking, calling your name. Something FABULOUS is out there, taking shape, emerging, peeking, calling your name.<br><br>Oh, so true. Yesterday, I had a great trip to the Dentist. Yes, I know, it isn't often that you have a great trip to the Dentist, but I have had four missing teeth for 4 months. I FINALLY got my new teeth yesterday, and aside from getting used to having a mouth full of teeth again, they are FABULOUS. I also have an awesome Dentist.<br><br>I got implants, and the procedure is a long one.<br><br>The poin... Tue, 2 Feb 2016 20:55:00 EST Positive Approach Today This is a mixture of feelings and approaches that i take or try to take with me throughout the day. <br>Just like everyone else i know no one is perfect, but its the thought that counts. The whole principle of the fact. I use to struggle with the whole idea. My favorite color is black so i have black socks black shoes and a plethora of black tee shirts. i was sitting and i realized the negative connotation that is associated with the color. I was never in a depressed state just more of compla... Tue, 2 Feb 2016 13:05:00 EST A Day Off Everyone deserves a day off. Today is my day! When you work so hard and are diligent about getting healthy, you forget that rest and relaxation is part of that plan. Instead of beating yourself up for being 'lazy', instead give yourself permission to recuperate and heal. <br><br>It takes time, it takes effort, and it takes patience to make the big changes. If you don't allow yourself time to just 'be' you wont be able to stick it out to the end of that long term goal. <br><br>In addition to g... Tue, 2 Feb 2016 11:23:00 EST Your Thought Processes You wake up after having slept a little, grab a breakfast you’re not really excited to eat on your way to a job you’re not really excited about. You spend your afternoon dreading going to the gym to work out after work. And you’re frustrated that you’re not losing weight.<br><br>Stress is real and has a real physiological effect on the body via the endocrine system. But people don’t often think about the effects of stress because, when you’re neck-deep in life, it’s hard to gain perspective.<... Tue, 2 Feb 2016 09:46:00 EST WAS NOT A POSITIVE WEEKEND BUT HOPE TO TURN AROUND I have been working out a minimum of 120 minutes a day. I only do 30 minutes at a time, so I do not get frustrated or burnt out. It has been good so far.<br><br>I have been dealing with weight issues since I was about five or six years old. I have done lots of diets, exercise, and even a medical fast. I have had many levels of success and failure over the years. However, now I believe that I have a grasp on what I need to do to be successful. I have a compulsive eating disorder. I have to rem... Tue, 2 Feb 2016 09:05:00 EST Hope for Me Whatever you did or did not do for yourself today, you must not quit trying. You are important, your goals are important and you are worth it. Whatever we do in life we must never lose faith in God and hope for ourselves! I spent so much time creating bad habits and basking in laziness, it has all become second nature to me. Now my journey is to just move myself forward both physically and mentally. Dwelling in the past is a dark and horrid place of what ifs for me. I will strive to live in t... Tue, 2 Feb 2016 02:40:00 EST Natural Blues Busters (continued) Soothe your soul with music. "Music alone with sudden charms can bind the wand'ring sense, and calme the troubled mind," wrote 17th century dramatist William Congreve. Twentieth century scientists say that's more than a poetic idea. In fact, when researchers asked over 500 adults what worked best to overcome a bad mood, listening to music was high on the list, topped only by exercise.<br><br>A study of 30 depressed elderly adults, between the ages of 61 and 86, concluded that music can lif... Mon, 1 Feb 2016 22:31:00 EST My Spark Secret Alright I confess... I have been dieting my whole life. Like a yoyo my weight has gone up and down many times over my many years of dieting, and believe me it has been very difficult to stay positive. Maintaining weight can be tricky and discouraging. But like it or not we still need to be aware of our bodies weight ups and downs. Most striving for weight loss and the maintaining of weight depend on the scale to guide them. <em>227</em> <em>193</em> Well I say no more old school ... Sun, 31 Jan 2016 16:00:00 EST Natural Blues Busters There are a host of natural ways to boost your spirits if you have a case of the blues. While severe depression may require treatment with antidepressant drugs, you can raise your occasional low spirits by making some lifestyle changes.<br><br>When you feel down, your natural instinct may be to retreat and be alone---but that's a strategy researchers say rarely helps. Instead of becoming a TV-watching, snack-munching couch potato, get moving. A study of over 400 people concluded that the t... Sun, 31 Jan 2016 12:34:00 EST Exercise not only changes your body, it changes your mind, your attitude and your mood. <br>Exercise not only changes your body, it changes your mind, your attitude and your mood.<br><br>I know what you're thinking....exercise...I HAVE to do some every day, don't I? Well, no, you don't, but you should and here's why...<br><br>First of all, if you are on this journey, changing the way you deal with food, you want your body to change with you, or you would not be doing this. If you do NOT exercise, you will lose weight, but at a slower rate, and your body will not be getting in sh... Sun, 31 Jan 2016 11:40:00 EST Deep Breathing Works We're powerless to control all but our own choices. When I remember that my family, friends, and other people in my life are in their own realities, and,hence, none of my business (1), I reach less often for comforting eats. Contrariwise, when I forget my role and try to control even my corner of the universe, I find my head in the fridge.<br><br>I might forget six or seven time EACH day what my role is and what my role is not. Deep breathing, prayer, talking to friends, family, and other lov... Sun, 31 Jan 2016 07:40:00 EST Just Do it.. How to Stop Making Excuses and just Do It<br><br>“I don’t know how.”<br><br>“It probably wouldn’t have worked anyways.”<br><br>“I’m too busy.”<br><br>How often do you catch yourself making excuses. Instead of doing something, you come up with ways to explain your inaction. Excuse-makers are usually seen as weak, lazy or cowardly.I believe this is an unfair generalization.<br>We all make excuses once in a while. Sometimes we make excuses and other times we stop rationalizing and take action. I... Sat, 30 Jan 2016 18:45:00 EST Your mind is a powerful thing. When you fill it with positive thoughts, your life will start to change. Your mind is a powerful thing. When you fill it with positive thoughts, your life will start to change.<br><br>This one is for those of you that have "New Year's Resolutions".<br><br>I am not a big fan of New Year's...the parties, the fear that you need to have someone to be with for that kiss at midnight, the insipid drinking, the overeating...I COULD go on, but I won't.<br><br>I have not celebrated New Year's in any way, since I let my young daughter stay up to watch the TV celebration of t... Sat, 30 Jan 2016 15:59:00 EST be your own #1 fan It seems many of the bad habits that led me into trouble with my weight and/or health stemmed from emotional burdens that I found easier to numb with food rather than dealing with head on.<br><br>Of course it harder to deal with things head on - was that all the stress, conflict I perceived came with the added pressure of me interpreting others actions in a way that honestly made me me feel like less of a person. I really didn't like that.<br><br>Correction: It was really my assumptions tha... Sat, 30 Jan 2016 13:28:00 EST stay Positive even with negative people Everyday I have the option to be negative or to be positive. I am now making a choice to enjoy everything instead of being negative. I think is this thought going to help of hinder me? <em>43</em> <br>So in making this small change in my thinking process not only am i more happy but the weight that i have put on is coming off a lot easier. I feel that if your are positive it makes life great and when you are negative it makes you want to curl up in a ball and ask why me this? why me that? i... Fri, 29 Jan 2016 20:35:00 EST Attitudes and Expectations <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <br>Our environment, the world in which we live and work, is a mirror of our attitudes and expectations.<br>Earl Nightengale<br><br>Henry Ford said "Whether you think you can or you think you can't, you are usually right!"<br><br>Rene' Descartes said "Nothing is but that thinking makes it so"<br><br>All of the ideas put forth my the myriad of self-help authors are similar. They choose different words bu... Fri, 29 Jan 2016 18:01:00 EST If I quit now, I will soon be back to where I started And when I started, I was desperately wishing to be where I am now! <br>If I quit now, I will soon be back to where I started<br>And when I started, I was desperately wishing to be where I am now!<br><br>No, I'm not quitting...are you kidding me! I am at the foothills on the downward slope of a BIG hill!!<br><br>Thank you all so much for all your well wishes yesterday. You OVERWHELMED me! I laughed at some of your comments and some of you made me cry. It was an awesome day, and I couldn't have thought of a better way to celebrate this than with you, my Sparkf... Fri, 29 Jan 2016 07:50:00 EST The Power of a Smile Staying positive is very hard and life doesn't help most times. <br><br>I like to smile even when times are hard. The smile changes everything. In order to really smile you must think of something happy and the thought to force the smile will create a positive feeling. When people see your smile they will also respond in a positive manner, which will help you maintain staying positive. <br><br> A smile is an amazing thing. <br><br>Smiling is something that can even be heard over the phon... Thu, 28 Jan 2016 14:36:00 EST Setting Boundaries with a Smile People see me as a happy person. I was going to write well-adjusted in there as well. but lately I'm not so sure. I'm doing an awful lot for these new meetup groups between attending, finding new events to attend, hosting events, and all the fun stuff that goes on with this behind the scenes to keep my house in order (cleaning/cooking/paying bills shopping/church/etc.) It is getting hectic. I have a list to tell me where my lists are, and I'm not even a leader! I'f I'm feeling a little o... Thu, 28 Jan 2016 09:40:00 EST It is so Hard It is so hard to eat right, exercise daily, and maintain a healthy weight. I have found a few tips that have helped me over the years.<br><br>I learned a new little trick today. Someone suggested that your new way of eating starts with your next bite, and the next, and then the next. Make each bite count!<br><br>Take it one pound at a time, one day at a time. This is not a race. Your weight loss progress should not be measured against someone else's progress. Try your best to keep your focus... Thu, 28 Jan 2016 09:08:00 EST Journey to Happiness is a long and winding road Having lived with depression since early childhood, I know the havoc mental illness can play in one's life. There have been times when I'm pretty sure I could not, willingly, find something positive to think or say. <br><br>When I joined SparkPeople, it wasn't so much for the weight loss (though heaven knows I have lots to lose!) as it was to begin a journey of self-discovery. It's been a tumultuous ride - moments of self-awareness, surges in self-confidence, and moments of plummeting despair... Thu, 28 Jan 2016 08:26:00 EST Positive Thoughts keep me going It takes a lot of effort to lose weight, get healthy, eat healthy, exercise and maintain your weight and health. The key for me is to stay positive in all things. It can be daunting to think of all the things you should, could or would be doing and stick with it. There will be setbacks, pushbacks and distractions on this journey. These things can take a toll on you mentally and physically. You just have to think positively and not get caught up in the ups and downs of this journey. <br><... Thu, 28 Jan 2016 08:13:00 EST Baked Goods and Potatoes. The hardest point, is trying to stay away from tempting treats like cookies, cakes, pies, brownies and especially muffins, they are by far the worst, but once it starts it doesn't stop, but I did how ever had a Subway chicken chopped salad with an apple in it for starters, today I feel like I'm back to being my own worse critic again, but I haven't given up, the only thing to do is move forward, as of Saturday it will be eight years since my father pasted on, every day is a good day in the li... Wed, 27 Jan 2016 23:58:00 EST Quo Vadis? Know Where You Are Going <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <br>All you have to do is know where you're going. The answers will come to you of their own accord.<br>~Earl Nightengale<br><br>This is a continuation of yesterday's secret. In order to achieve success, we first need to define success. What constitutes success for on person might just be a stop along the way for someone else and even represent failure for a third person.<br><br>The first... Wed, 27 Jan 2016 09:58:00 EST I think I can, I think I can Even if I dont want to I tell myself I think I can and I try with no expectations. No matter if I want to or not and that seems to work for me when things are not going good in my head. If I give in to the negative without trying then its easy to fall right back into not doing or trying anything and that will get you nowhere. Whereas if you trly and try even if you fail once or twice your always taking some type of step in the right direction even if it is a small one only! So even when the d... Tue, 26 Jan 2016 13:07:00 EST When you need to move... Even when you get started and then you hit a road block.. no matter what keep a positive outlook ... Find that thing that makes you laugh and go for it.. Keep going all day even when your body wants to stop.. you have to move.. If you let something so small begin to look like the elephant in the room just push it out... Make sure to let yourself know that that elephant was not there to put a stop to you day but throw it out to make room for all the things you need.. You need uplifting and you... Tue, 26 Jan 2016 11:08:00 EST Do it for yourself! There is no greater motivation than you. I learned a long time ago that losing weight and committing to a lifestyle change is only truly successful if you do it for yourself and no other reason. When you do it for someone else it feels like a job, when you do it for yourself it feels like an accomplishment. Always remember that there is nothing more important than you and your happiness. Make this journey to create a better you and the commitment will come easily. Staying positive and remindi... Tue, 26 Jan 2016 10:23:00 EST The Map to Success <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <br>All you need is the plan, the road map, and the courage to press on to your destination.<br>We can let circumstances rule us, or we can take charge and rule our lives from within.<br>~Earl Nightengale<br><br>All you need is a map and three pieces of information: 1.) Where are you?; 2.) Where do you want to go?; and What would you like to do along the way?. Armed with but these three pi... Tue, 26 Jan 2016 10:11:00 EST Exceed your own expectations. The only expectations you should live up to, are the ones you expect for yourself. You are the key to this journey to change the way you look at food.<br><br>I see this here, every day….people who have started on this journey and are unable to take the steps forward to be successful. I look back at my life, and don’t know how I would have done here a year ago, but I am here now, and I am succeeding. I came here because I was determined to change me. There is no magic pill, no special diet, ju... Tue, 26 Jan 2016 09:26:00 EST We do not See.. Their are people in this world who can not see their worth inside themselves.. They feel unloved and maybe a cast away.. On down days feel like they can't do anything right and yet others are looking to them for their needs to be met.. They need uplifting so they keep striving to find words to give them the boost they need... They see no greatness or value in their lives as others do.. When others see a shinning star... They can't see the star for the darkness but it is there giving light to ... Mon, 25 Jan 2016 14:04:00 EST Secret of Happiness Here are my top tips for you, if you long to create a happier, healthier life:<br><br>1) If you move toward something, it will move toward you<br><br>As W.H. Murray famously said: "The moment one definitely commits oneself, then providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred." I've seen it time and again in my own life and in the lives of my coaching clients. Don't worry too much about how you're going to get from A to B, just start walkin... Mon, 25 Jan 2016 11:44:00 EST How to dress well for less! While enjoying weight loss is marvelous, having to come up with nice looking clothes during this journey to better health can get costly. We don't want to walk around looking sloppy in clothes that are too big, they actually make us look bigger, yet going shopping every few months isn't feasible. I have several ways of extending my clothing budget and wardrobe so I look good and feel positive, some may work for you! First, I love really good consignment stores and you can find some excellen... Mon, 25 Jan 2016 10:51:00 EST Use 4% of your day on a one hour workout FOUR PERCENT??<br><br>I used to spend 50% of my day making excuses for why I couldn't exercise, and maybe 20% eating things I should not have eaten. Do I wish I had figured out all of this sooner? Sure. But, I have no regrets. I cannot change one single thing about the past, I can only change my future, and I'm feeling good about that!<br><br>I spend considerably more than 4% of my day exercising. I love how empowered it makes me feel!!! Swimming has, for right now, been deemed too tough on m... Mon, 25 Jan 2016 10:32:00 EST Goals Equal Success <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <br>People with goals succeed because they know where they're going.<br>~ Earl Nightengale<br><br>At the risk of being repetitive, goals are THE key to success. Successful people have goals. Unsuccessful people have wishes and dreams. The difference between a goal and a wish or a dream is the space between where you are and where you want to be.<br><br>Suppose you want to earn an extra $1,000.00 per mo... Mon, 25 Jan 2016 09:34:00 EST Walk this Way A good thirty minute walk is all you need to get the heart pumping and improve your cardio to be on your way to a healthier You! Your goal should be walking 30 minutes a day, every day, or 10000 steps per day.<br><br>******************************<BR>**************************************<BR>**************************************<BR>**************************************<BR>************************<br><br>I have found that eating protein with every single meal will hold me over and satisfy my... Mon, 25 Jan 2016 09:01:00 EST Exercise is better than stress We have all heard how very, very bad stress can be not only emotionally, but physically as well. ...<br>Years ago, I began taking anti-depressants for depression. it really, really helped. There were times at my job that it truly helped me deal with the stress. Now that I am retired, I do not miss the stress one single bit. All through those years, I read quite a bit about how exercise helps reduce stress. I did not take any of that seriously because if you have read any of my other secrets, ... Mon, 25 Jan 2016 08:42:00 EST Intensity and Goals <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <br>The more intensely we feel about an idea or a goal, the more assuredly the idea, buried deep in our subconscious, will direct us along the path to its fulfillment.<br>Earl Nightengale<br><br>I have listened to programs by a plethora of self-help motivational speakers, Earl Nightengale, Lloyd Connant, W. Clement Stone, Napoleon Hill, Leo Buscaglia, Denis Waitley, Ed Foreman, Mike Vance a... Sun, 24 Jan 2016 12:53:00 EST Your happiness is an inside job <br> <br>Happiness is an inside job.<br>View JJMPLSMN's Sparkpage<br>View All Blog Entries from JJMPLSMN<br><br>Friday, January 15, 2016<br><br><br>Happiness is an inside job. Don't assign ANYONE else that much power over your life.<br><br>Happiness. Was I truly happy during all these years of being overweight? In some areas, I really was. In others, I had despair.<br><br>I was unable to control eating, and did it covertly. You could see it on me, so I wasn't fooling anyone, and was so despe... Sun, 24 Jan 2016 11:33:00 EST Didn't Do It But I Did Man, I can go on and on about focus and mindset so instead of harping on the subject, I'll just get right to it. I kept running through all this hoopla , spending so much time telling myself I'll do it, I'll get to it , I'll get up off my butt and do something until I spent so much time thinking about what I need to do and what needs to bone that I actually got up and did it. I got up, what more do you want ? Naw, just kidding ! I had to teach myself to be mindful of the positives aspects and... Sun, 24 Jan 2016 02:41:00 EST You must do the thing you think you cannot do. You must do the thing you think you cannot do.<br><br>Eleanor Roosevelt said this. Maybe, the most magnificent women ever to live in the White House. She went through so much, and came out with a strong, awesome voice. Her husband was handicapped for his whole adult life. She bore him four children. She was a voice for the voiceless for her entire life, and lived 25 years longer than Franklin. She is an inspiration for us all.<br><br>What exactly is the thing you think you cannot do? Get goin... Sat, 23 Jan 2016 12:09:00 EST Secrets of Eating Eat slowly<br><br>Research has shown that people who are overweight tend to bolt their food. Savour and enjoy what you eat and take time to chew your food. Practitioners advise chewing each mouthful 30 times as this allows the enzymes in the saliva to start the digestive process.<br><br><br>Stop eating before you feel full.<br><br>Remember, it takes approximately 20 minutes for the stomach to tell the brain that it is full!<br><br>Never skip meals.<br><br>When losing weight, it is important t... Fri, 22 Jan 2016 11:32:00 EST Step away from your comfort zone. <br><br>Today, step away from that long-term comfort zone, and take the steps necessary to make the changes you really want to make. It isn't anywhere near impossible, you just have to have some self-love, need to stop that voice in your head that tells you that you "can't", and get the junk food out of your house and out of your life. If you do this, and track food every day, you can be successful.<br><br>We do become complacent. We find a weight we can justify, we find reasons for not exe... Fri, 22 Jan 2016 09:15:00 EST Going beyond your limits Inaugural Soldier Marathon -Going Beyond your limits...<br><br>Good News & Bad News <br><br>I always like to cover the bad news first. <br> <br>Bad News <br>1. I made the mistake of taking my blood pressure meds., therefore alone with the exercise of jogging and my blood pressure meds caused my blood pressure to drop to 80/52 which is way too low. <br>2. To make things worst I did not hydrate properly in fear that I would need to stop and use the bathroom. <br>3. My end time from before was o... Thu, 21 Jan 2016 10:58:00 EST Support & Proactive Diversity I cannot stress enough how important this is if you are serious about getting where you want to be. <br><br>It's not enough to have the support of your loved ones (although obviously this is pretty much essential too) - you need the support of peers, people who are on a similar path to you. <br><br>It doesn't matter whether they (or you) have 20lbs or 200lbs to lose, you all have a shared aim; you'll probably experience similar pitfalls and triumphs along the way, and will be able to help, ad... Thu, 21 Jan 2016 10:31:00 EST Exercising for an hour is 4% of your day. FOUR PERCENT??<br><br>I used to spend 50% of my day making excuses for why I couldn't exercise, and maybe 20% eating things I should not have eaten. Do I wish I had figured out all of this sooner? Sure. But, I have no regrets. I cannot change one single thing about the past, I can only change my future, and I'm feeling good about that!<br><br>I spend considerably more than 4% of my day exercising. I love how empowered it makes me feel!!! Swimming has, for right now, been deemed too tough on m... Thu, 21 Jan 2016 09:24:00 EST Finding Success In Life A recent birthday got me reflecting on my journey to this age, and I’m happy to say that, compared with the younger me, I’m much more at peace with myself, content with my life, confident of what I want and sure of how to get there.<br><br>I often think about how to attain career and money success, and while many practical tips can get you ahead, your personal approach to professional and financial matters, as well as your way of dealing with your own demons, will take you to even higher ... Wed, 20 Jan 2016 23:39:00 EST Things Are What They Are In the middle of January and I don't have ANY secrets anymore. My fellow Sparkers know everything that I know, and then some. I suppose I have no choice but to go out and create some new secrets so I will have something to share. LOL!<br><br>There is a fine line between staying positive and self delusion. My wife seems to think that it is her place in life to remind me whenever I venture across the line into what she considers delusional.<br><br>She also has a habit of expressing disbelie... Wed, 20 Jan 2016 13:51:00 EST You've always had the power, Dear. Oh my dear Dorothy, this just might be one of the biggest lessons we must discover for ourselves. Each of us has the power to overcome that part of our brains that keep whispering doubting words.<br><br>If you start down this path to lifetime health and fitness, you must harness your own powers of self-love and commitment. You must realize that you are stronger than any voice in your head. You must quiet those angry words, that insist you will fail, that you cannot do this, that you need to... Wed, 20 Jan 2016 10:23:00 EST Take it to Heart Take this to heart: if you try, and if you avoid the hucksters and the fads and use common sense (move more, eat less), there’s a better than even chance you’ll lose significant weight. It’s a simple secret the diet industry does not want you to know: less in and more out.<br><br>That doesn’t mean, of course, that everyone who tries is on the road to supermodel-dom; that all the body-image issues our consumer culture inculcates will simply disappear; that cravings disappear and impulse-contro... Wed, 20 Jan 2016 08:48:00 EST Keep on Going... Keep going and do not hit stop.. You have to power through each tough time you come across.. You need to make sure you keep a list and get that water down and keep tracking.. Stop listening to that voice that wants you to shrink back and take a seat in the back.. Work forward and keep going straight on the path.. Make sure to not get detoured from what your goal is and keep a journal.. Find your weak spot and then fix it.. you do not have to take that extra helping or the last slice of cake..... Tue, 19 Jan 2016 18:54:00 EST You GOT this. CHILL.<br>Let's be realistic here. You don't drop two jean sizes in one day. You won't lose fifty pounds in one month. You're going to binge every now and then. you will go a day or two without working out. Your weight is going to fluctuate here and there. You're going to try new techniques, and they're not going to work. You're human. You're going to fail. But, nothing great is ever accomplished without a few obstacles.<br>GIRL, YOU GOT THIS!!<br><br>Let's talk about this paragraph. First, I... Tue, 19 Jan 2016 10:00:00 EST Don't Put It Off How often have wait put off doing something because something wasn't quite right? The sun wasn't shining brightly enough, or you weren't in the right mood, or you didn't sleep well last night. We seem to have way too many excuses for not doing something. <br><br>It's easy to avoid doing something if we think it's going to be hard, or painful, or if we aren't going to be successful at it instantaneously.<br><br>What we don't realize is that, sometimes, we have to do that thing in order to make... Tue, 19 Jan 2016 09:09:00 EST Make it a magic Monday Get up*<br>Drink coffee<br>Dress to impress<br>Conquer the world*<br>Smile more often*<br><br>*Mandatory.<br><br>It's another magnificent Monday. New week, new start, new year. It's a holiday here. No mail, lots of people not working, and it's mighty cold outside. Yesterday's HIGH was -7. That's a bit of wicked weather! But, it's a pretty day, and I am going out to conquer the world.<br><br>My world anyway. If you get up with a "conquer the world" feeling every day, keep a smile on your face,... Tue, 19 Jan 2016 00:41:00 EST Not a Race This is not a race. Your weight loss progress should not be measured against someone else's progress. <br><br>Try your best to keep your focus on eating the right foods--things that are healthy. Try to limit sugars, starches, high fat items. It is important to exercise every day. <br><br>It's simple: A good thirty minute walk is all you need to get the heart pumping and improve your cardio.<br><br> I have found that eating protein with every single meal will hold me over and satisfy my hunger... Mon, 18 Jan 2016 11:23:00 EST How to be happy in "down" times It's normal for all of us to go through periods of live when we feel "down." I'm not talking "grief-stricken" but just those "blue" days that happen once in a while. There are a few things we can do to improve our feelings but it's also permissible to allow ourselves to feel down once in a while. Start by stepping back and reflecting. What is the root of our feeling? Are we feeling lonely? Rejected? Like a loser because we didn't meet our goals? If there is a loving, understanding person nea... Mon, 18 Jan 2016 08:23:00 EST Don't compare yourself to others Let's face it. We live in a world were people judge us by our looks, what we drive, the house we live in, the people we hang out with, the clothes that we wear, and much more. Unfortunately, with all of this judgment going on, we also tend to judge ourselves. We tend to compare our looks, shape, size, and value to other people.<br><br>As human beings we need to stop comparing our accomplishments and failures to other people on our lives. We all have struggles that's what makes life what it is... Mon, 18 Jan 2016 02:05:00 EST I must remain upbeat.... I must remain upbeat inorder to beat this healthy lifestyle change. The hardest part of this journey is the motivation and the desire to keep going, minute after minute, day after day, week after week, month after month and year after year. This is my third year on Sparkpeople and I have lost weight, made great friends, cooked great recipes. Gained knowledge on how to continue this journey. The trivia section of Spark people has really taught me a lot. I have learned to control my portion... Sun, 17 Jan 2016 22:57:00 EST Do Onto Others For many years I was at the top of my game, professionally and personally. I was the senior manager who went into the trade shows with customers, wining and dining, running them through our booth and not even bothering to stop and thank the "little people" who manned the booth, taking the time and effort to make it look good. I was the one flying all over the world, eating and drinking my way through Paris, London, Moscow, San Francisco, New York. Back then I could do it all. I'm sure I s... Sun, 17 Jan 2016 14:56:00 EST Make Happiness your priority Happiness is an inside job. Don't assign ANYONE else that much power over your life.<br><br>Happiness. Was I truly happy during all these years of being overweight? In some areas, I really was. In others, I had despair.<br><br>I was unable to control eating, and did it covertly. You could see it on me, so I wasn't fooling anyone, and was so desperately sad that somehow I could not stop myself. Eating was my secret. It was my binge. It was idiotic, frankly. It never brought me one moment's hap... Sun, 17 Jan 2016 13:53:00 EST You Need To Keep on Going... No Matter what you have to keep on going .. I see so many that want to loose weight fast.. You have to keep a constant movement to going.. If you loose it too fast you will nine out of ten will gain that plus.. It takes only a second of weakness and you will see that candy or Sugar and then like a person who needs that drink.. you will go right back to the rut you came from and fall back into the old habits.. Keep on track for awhile before you enjoy just a small piece... You need to know you... Sat, 16 Jan 2016 18:08:00 EST Set tiny goals with deadlines I have established my long-term goals and I am committed to reaching them. However, I have found that setting short-term, tiny goals helps me get the satisfaction of reaching them, keeps me from feeling overwhelmed and keeps me on track to the bigger ones. <br> I live alone so it's easy to get discouraged or bogged down without anyone to share with. So I share with SparkPeople! Just writing down something I feel or think really helps. <br> For next week, I have set a tiny goal of 10 min ... Sat, 16 Jan 2016 13:23:00 EST If you don't want to start over, don't ever give up. If you're tired of starting over, never give up, never give in.<br><br>Oh, boy, do I understand this scenario. Name a diet, and I tried it. Ask me if I lasted longer than two weeks, and I would tell you no. I cheated and I quit. Diets are not sustainable. They are not the right thing to do anymore.<br><br>I see a lot of blogs here with people thinking of going on this diet or that one, or some new gimmick and I really want to sit everyone down and say NO, don't do this.<br><br>To succeed here... Sat, 16 Jan 2016 09:56:00 EST A Salty Tale Got up this morning ready to face the world on my terms, visited the bathroom and jumped on the scale. Up a mere two pounds since yesterday! <br><br> I quickly did the math, 3500 calories times two pounds plus the 2750 calories to maintain my current weight makes a grand total of 9750 calories yesterday! <br><br>I did not eat quite that much. In fact my calorie intake yesterday was 90 calories below the bottom of my calorie range. What happened? I went back and reviewed yesterday's eatin... Sat, 16 Jan 2016 09:29:00 EST Getting Over Obstacles One way , sure fire way I discovered really helps with any obstacle that may come your way is to remain positive. Positivity can reroute your negative thoughts into positive happy thoughts. Staying positive can also help you find a way when there seems to be no way especially when attempting to overcome something tough or generally difficult . Now, it's not always easy to keep positivity in the forefront due to the struggle being way too real. Also, no one ever said it'd be easy but it is eas... Thu, 14 Jan 2016 23:02:00 EST Thankful Thursday recheck The last two weeks have been less than perfect. I have been busier both in my work and my personal life. I started a new job, that has turned out to be nothing it was supposed to be, we have had record floods, and my work with the St. Vincent de Paul has quadrupled. But instead of wallowing in self pity and complaining that life is giving me lemons, I took stock of my life this morning and made my Thankful Thursday routine. On Thursdays, I try to remind myself of the positives in my life.... Thu, 14 Jan 2016 22:22:00 EST Do Something Nice for You I don't lose weight very fast, and I've read the theory that you should reward yourself at a certain value of weight loss (like every 5 pounds lost or 10).<br><br>Well, for me I wouldn't get rewards very often. Actually, don't even bother to look at my log; I haven't lost 5 pounds in 5 years. I might have had to give some rewards back -- to who? what?<br><br>But if that would mean I wouldn't reward myself in the last five years I would be sad. My weight loss and feeling good about myself s... Thu, 14 Jan 2016 14:43:00 EST Keep Looking Up.. If you remember way back when we were younger we didn't have as much.. We used our imagination a lot more.. Now between all the videos and gadgets plus Cell Phones.. We tend not to use anything but gadgets and phones.. I grew up for a few years in a Children's Home in Slema AL and we didn't have TV's and we were chased out of the Cottages we lived in to play outside.. If we were lucky to have time with the House Mother was in her room where we only saw TV and it was Lawrence Welk.. I know tha... Thu, 14 Jan 2016 13:58:00 EST Be a river today...Achieve your goals and roar. A river cuts through a rock, not because of it's power, but because of it's persistence.<br><br>And this is the swath you can carve through your life. You need to be a river, bending, sometimes powerful and strong, sometimes just a trickle, but always moving, always going forward, with an unstoppable life force.<br><br>Every day when you get up with determination, get your river flowing, and make your plan for the day, you start to make your river a rushing cascade.<br><br>If we make goals ev... Thu, 14 Jan 2016 10:45:00 EST HANGING IN THERE I have been dealing with weight issues since I was about five or six years old. I have done lots of diets, exercise, and even a medical fast. I have had many levels of success and failure over the years. However, now I believe that I have a grasp on what I need to do to be successful. I have a compulsive eating disorder. I have to remain very structured in what I do every day. I am not somebody who can just come into work when there are doughnuts, have one and be fine about it. I have to be v... Thu, 14 Jan 2016 10:05:00 EST Where do we go from here..? When I started on Sparks I knew it would come to a end one day.. I would reach my goal and then be on my way but the habit took over and now I want to keep others that come here the same way that some gave me the push to get going and then the courage to restart when I was falling down back into old habits and then I always got a lift when I was down.. a hand up and off on the track again.. Don't give up if you trip or fall into a old habit .. Dust yourself off and start again.. Each day we r... Wed, 13 Jan 2016 13:43:00 EST It only matters what YOU are doing. It doesn't matter what others are doing, it matters what YOU are doing.<br><br>Yes, it does. Did you wake up this morning with a plan? Did you know what you were having for breakfast, lunch and dinner? If not, why not? This makes you accountable to you. To have a food plan, at least in your mind, and the food to complete that plan in your kitchen, really works. It gives you the foundation for the day, and you don't need to think about other food because you know what you are going to eat.<br>... Wed, 13 Jan 2016 13:42:00 EST Enjoy your workouts I have learned to pace myself and truly engage and enjoy my workouts. I am no longer rushing to get my workout in and over with. I have adapted a new nourishing notion to enjoy each moment and that includes my workouts. While walking on the treadmill..I paid less attention to the time and how long I had left and instead just enjoyed the moment by watching the people in the gym, listening to the music playing, speaking to folk passing by with an enthusiastic GOOD MORNING, HOW ARE YOU! I si... Tue, 12 Jan 2016 20:57:00 EST My Secret To Success My secret to success for weight loss is quite simple. And it has been successful since February of 2015. While some people think that I am on some special diet, the truth is, I'm not. I do NOT believe in crash, or 'fad', diets. They don't work. Plain and simple. Instead I portion control, watch what I eat, cook healthier, very rarely drink pop and have eliminated all sugar. <br><br>So, how did I manage to get though both Halloween, Thanksgiving and Christmas? Simple. Granted that,on Halloween... Tue, 12 Jan 2016 17:59:00 EST Are you Hiding ...? The hardest step on Sparks is the first Blog.. but once you have did this then starts all the work you must do to achieve your goal.. Weight loss is a very serious thing to some because it will take away from your health and well being.. You can as you get older have problems with your heart and many different aspects of your body.. Heart problems run in my family so I knew that it wasn't just going to be a battle for me but for others also.. This is why I have became a leader and can speak t... Tue, 12 Jan 2016 13:51:00 EST Once in a while, blow your own damned mind. Once in a while, blow your own damn mind.<br><br>I hit a big weight loss milestone today. I will write more about it tomorrow.<br><br>Last night, I really thought about my journey. What made me decide to get going? What inspired me to keep at it? Why am I succeeding when others do not?<br><br>As trite as this sounds, I think we all have to find our inner spark. We have to have that trigger go off that says, I am DONE feeling lousy. I am DONE being mad at myself all the time. I am DONE having ... Tue, 12 Jan 2016 01:57:00 EST Nothing like a Road Block I have been on Sparks for a good while and have made great strides of keeping up with exercising and tracking my food along with Videos here and planning I have done well.. but with this Heart Cath I have had to slow down and really thought I was not going to get any more done but I am not through.. I came home and a little dazed from medicines and being on my bed for days.. I got to thinking why not go back to doing what I started out with and that was Chair Exercises and now I am back.. Not... Mon, 11 Jan 2016 22:16:00 EST Reasons Why I Need to.... There are so many reason to love someone and most times I do put other needs, loves, wants & desires ahead of my own. Even placing myself in dire situations.<br><br>Today I looked online reasons to love someone......I reviewed them and thought to myself at this time I really don't feel that way about my husband as we have been married for many many many many many years that I ask myself do they even apply.<br><br>I thought of my kids who are now grown and I only really feel mostly responsible... Mon, 11 Jan 2016 19:13:00 EST Who is Happy? The Peacock and The Crow Story <br> <em>526</em> A Crow Lived in the Forest and was absolutely satisfied in life. But one day he saw a swan… This swan is so white and I am so black…crow thought.<br><br>This swan must be the happiest bird in the world.<br><br>He expressed his thoughts to the swan. “Actually,” the swan replied,<br>“I was feeling that I was the happiest bird around until I saw a parrot, which has two colors. I now think the parrot is the happiest bird in creation.”<br><br>The crow then approached the parrot... Mon, 11 Jan 2016 14:52:00 EST If you're tired of starting over, don't give up. Oh, boy, do I understand this scenario. Name a diet, and I tried it. Ask me if I lasted longer than two weeks, and I would tell you no. I cheated and I quit. Diets are not sustainable. They are not the right thing to do anymore.<br><br>I see a lot of blogs here with people thinking of going on this diet or that one, or some new gimmick with Garcina Gambogia, or whatever, and I really want to sit everyone down and say NO.<br><br>To succeed here, you have to change your outlook. You really do. ... Mon, 11 Jan 2016 10:19:00 EST If It's To Be, It's Up To Me! If It's To Be, It's Up To Me! Truer words have never been spoken! The Talmud tells us <br><br>"Be Yourself, No One Else Can Do It For You!"<br><br>Helen Keller said that whatever your fate in life is be the best you can be, if it is your fate to be a charwoman, be the best charwoman in the world.<br><br>The motto of the Boy Scouts of America is simply "Do Your Best" In the narrative following the motto in the Boy Scout Handbook, it goes on "Do your best, no one can do better", despite what... Mon, 11 Jan 2016 09:58:00 EST Don't Ever Quit I've read some inspirational blogs from people who have had tremendous success here on SparkPeople. I've had success too, but not like some of my friends. <br><br>What breaks my heart more than anything, is when a friend on Spark gives up. First, they stop blogging, or their blog posts are full of negative energy (or no energy at all). Next, they stop commenting on my posts or acknowledging my accomplishments (and I assume, those of their other friends as well). Finally, they stop responding ... Mon, 11 Jan 2016 09:00:00 EST Just Eat Less That’s right, eating less and moving more is the best, most popular strategy among those who successfully lose weight.<br><br>In contrast, the cavemen, the Atkins-ish and Ornish-ish, the liquid diets, the fasts, and all the specially designed diet foods—all those “reduced-calorie delivery systems” with appealing pitch people—just don’t work. Liquid diets, nonprescription diet pills, and popular diets had no association with successful weight loss.<br><br><br><br><br><br>Plus, and this is real... Mon, 11 Jan 2016 08:56:00 EST The Secret To Happiness Most people are in the pursuit of happiness. Money can make you happy, but after your base needs are met, it doesn't make you much happier. It was thought that the more money you have the more possessions you have so it will make you happier. But recent research shows this is not so (poor little Richie Rich was head of his time!) Dr. Thomas Gilovich, of Cornell University has been studying the question of money and happiness for over two decades. <br>So how do we use our limited resource of m... Mon, 11 Jan 2016 00:24:00 EST Take Care of Your Body As a lot of the people here that know me I just got out of the Hospital and had to have a heart cath.. Very interesting.. I was awake and watched it as it was done.. Looked a lot like a Black and White Video and a game all in one... I could watch as it made its way with the camera up to the place where they had to inflate the balloon and it was quick.. Saw all four Chambers of my heart.. it was then I was Aware that I had beat Cancer and now this..? Sparks came to mind.. You have one body and... Sun, 10 Jan 2016 18:11:00 EST Be True to Yourself Learn something from me, and my humble, troubled past which I'm sharing with you. This post is shared with love in the hopes that even one person that reads this will not have to go through what I did yesterday.<br><br>I went to a meetup group event (which I enjoy doing by the way) which involved a play followed by a dinner in Orange County California. I don't mind calling it out, it helps people understand. This was attended by about 35 women, most of whom are in their late 40s to 60s and... Sun, 10 Jan 2016 12:16:00 EST CONSISTENCY IS THE SECRET I find the secret to my success is interwoven.<br>I do best when I have some to none of refined carbs and sugar. Unfortunately, when life throws those challenges my way they are the very first things I run to. I am like a junkie who needs her fix.<br><br> Life has been sort of traumatic for me these past few years and I have been responsible to let these traumas sabatage my health to the extent that I am in serious jeopardy at this time in my life.<br><br> Because I am so dismayed a... Sun, 10 Jan 2016 12:00:00 EST Believe you can, and you’re halfway there. Believe you can, and you’re halfway there.<br><br>This morning, I was greeted with the beginning of the month awards for consistency and perfect attendance. I will be getting those for a while, as I am not willing to forgo logging in every day, and entering information in my fitness, food and water diaries. Neither are you! I looked at my friend feed, and it was awash with the same awards. We are doing GREAT!!<br><br>I was wondering, though, when do you decide that you don’t need this anymore... Sun, 10 Jan 2016 11:57:00 EST Straighten up & eat right Weight loss has always been a pain for me. Literally. When I work out more, I hurt more. When I don't work out, I hurt. When I sleep well I hurt because I didn't move much. When I don't sleep well, I hurt because I lacked a good night's sleep. My complaining can be a pain and always has stood in my way of my family's encouragement for me to keep up the goal of me losing weight. But not losing extra pounds has proven to become even more painful to my joints with the continued progression... Sat, 9 Jan 2016 23:10:00 EST Don't make any changes too complicated, just begin. Don't make any changes too complicated, just begin.<br><br>I have been asked, and have thought many times, about how and why I was able, after so many years, to finally make this a successful and lifetime journey to good health and fitness.<br><br>It obviously started with me, and me deciding after all this time, that I was not going to be out of shape anymore. A knee fracture was the catalyst for this. Being in a wheelchair changes your perspective, and it is easy to decide that is not the l... Sat, 9 Jan 2016 03:19:00 EST THANK GOODNESS IT IS FRIDAY As I sit on my sixteenth floor balcony overlooking the ocean in Puerto Rico, I am feeling very blessed this holiday season. I know that I am very lucky. I have my health, loving family, fantastic friends, a rewarding job that I love, financial security that most people do not have at this time, and the personality that enables me to go on a trip like this. My wish for the season, is that everyone is happy, healthy, and has everything they need. <br><br>I am watching these surfers in the water... Fri, 8 Jan 2016 12:14:00 EST FOOTHILLS TO MOUNTAIN When you set your weight loss goals, set your ultimate goal and store it in your mind. Think of it as the mountain. Remember that it is there. Make small goals and think of them as the foothills and climb one foothill at a time and with each one of the "foothills" you cross you are one foothill closer to the top of that mountain which is your ultimate weight accomplished. Take one small goal at a time don't look back. Keep climbing! You can do this. <br><br>Using imaging like this helped me ... Thu, 7 Jan 2016 23:03:00 EST When I'm thinking of going off plan..... Sometimes I get a craving or I'm bored or I just get tired of dieting. One of my distractions is to surf Sparkpeople or the internet and read articles about health or diet. It keeps me busy and reinforces my resolve to get this weight off and stay healthy. I came across this today and thought I would share.<br><br>True Hunger vs. Emotional Hunger<br><br>When you experience true physical hunger, it will come on gradually, any food will satisfy you and you will stop eating once you are full. Yo... Thu, 7 Jan 2016 17:13:00 EST Support, support, and more support I found out this week how important it is to have people who support me in my journey to better health. My husband has always been supportive. He helps to pick me up when I am down and is the voice in my ear telling me to love my current self while working toward a better self. We cannot neglect our current selves. After all, that is us.<br><br>Last week I wrote a blog post that got an amazingly positive response. I have been a blogger off and on for years and have never had such a response. ... Thu, 7 Jan 2016 13:27:00 EST Consistency - Key to Sucess We all have up days and down days. The scale will be kind and then not so kind. Our moods will go up and down. To be successful in the long run I think the most important thing is to be consistent. If you slip up, so what, get up dust yourself off and just keep going. Everyone slips, it is not the end of the world. One slip will not add 10 lbs. Giving up when you slip, that adds the 10 lbs. So stay positive, forgive yourself your small slip ups, and just be consistent. In the end you... Thu, 7 Jan 2016 10:04:00 EST TRYING TO STICK TO IT As I sit on my sixteenth floor balcony overlooking the ocean in Puerto Rico, I am feeling very blessed this holiday season. I know that I am very lucky. I have my health, loving family, fantastic friends, a rewarding job that I love, financial security that most people do not have at this time, and the personality that enables me to go on a trip like this. My wish for the season, is that everyone is happy, healthy, and has everything they need. <br><br>I am watching these surfers in the water... Thu, 7 Jan 2016 09:42:00 EST In good company Being Round talking to reading about listening to lots of people is infectious it's easy for me to sit with those type of people and it just rubs off and causes me to be positive to that helps me to excel easier I find myself more productive I feel more driven it's easier for me to continue on the right path and reach my goals easier when I'm around individuals who are successful. I question I sit back and watch I try to learn from them they are more than happy to share their failures... Thu, 7 Jan 2016 02:12:00 EST You are good enough, smart enough, beautiful enough You are good enough, smart enough, beautiful enough and strong enough. Believe it and never let insecurity run your life.<br><br>Every day, understand that you are in charge of your emotional outlook. You determine how you will feel every day. You can feel beautiful, you can understand that we all have our own beauty, or you can find flaws. It is time to stop looking for flaws and find your beauty. It isn't easy, but you need to look, and you will find it.<br><br>This was one of my big is... Wed, 6 Jan 2016 13:22:00 EST My secrets to success My secret to eating healthier and staying positive is to think that if I mess up one day, don't let it be the end of the world, or my progress. Just start fresh the next day. And then look back and see what made me slip, and therefore try not to engage in the activity that provoked it. For example, I've been really good the last 6 months, losing 50 lbs, and then one day I was depressed because my boyfriend couldn't come and see me. So I ordered a pizza, and not just a pizza, but one of of tho... Wed, 6 Jan 2016 07:11:00 EST So, you've just started with Spark...a few pointers to help with your success I have seen an awful lot of you join Spark in this new year. I thought that since you are all getting going, it might be time to write down a few pointers to be a success here.<br><br>I am now in maintenance. I still do the exact same things I have always been doing since I started, tracking food every day, getting in more than 2 hours of fitness every day..I DID NOT START OUT THIS WAY...Now, I always do chair yoga, and do stretching in the morning with weights, then swim and do some more thi... Tue, 5 Jan 2016 11:40:00 EST Admire others' beauty without questioning your own. Admire others' beauty without questioning your own.<br><br>How many times in the course of your overweight life have you looked at a thin person and thought, if only. If only I was thin, I would be beautiful. If only I was thin, I would be happy...<br><br>The truth is, all beauty emanates from within. Beauty is manifested on your face and on your body, showing just exactly how you feel.<br><br>I know some life-long thin people that are not at all beautiful. They are not happy, and it shows on... Mon, 4 Jan 2016 16:45:00 EST Daily Walk a Must for me I thought I wasn't going to lose weight walking. But I got a fitbit to help me reach my daily goal of 10,000 steps per day and I have almost reached my first goal of losing 15 lbs. I am taking if off slowly, but I hope to maintain and set another goal of 10 lbs. soon and then I will only have one more goal to set and maintain from there on. Never give up!! When we start to put on weight it seems like it should be easy to take it back off, but that gets harder as you age. When I went thro... Mon, 4 Jan 2016 11:24:00 EST Here are 8 Signs You’re Doing Well In Life Even Though You Don’t Think So: <br><br><br>1) You’re alive!<br>After all of your trials and tribulations you have faced in life, it hasn’t knocked you out. When I think of life, I am reminded of Viktor Frankl. Dr. Frankl was a prisoner at Auschwitz concentration camp during the Holocaust. Despite this horrible situation he was able to find the silver lining.<br>2) You’re working to improve yourself. <br>If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else. It will spread into your work and into your lif... Sun, 3 Jan 2016 18:10:00 EST ABSOLUTELY, POSITIVELY, BEING POSITIVE!!!! Tracking food{EVERY BITE} is HARD! Tracking water {for me } is HARD! Tracking Fitness {or actually DOING IT } is HARD for me right now { getting over injured tailbone from rollerskating fall 4 weeks ago and getting back into the groove of working out regularly}. So, when I get on SP ,I need to stay focused AND POSITIVE!<br> How do I do that?<br>TALK with others on my SP TEAMS AND CHALLENGES;Find out WHAT WORKS by TALKING TO SP FRIENDS;TRY SP RECIPES{they DO work and can be flavorful!}; HAVE a... Sun, 3 Jan 2016 09:34:00 EST Fight holiday depression Tips to prevent holiday stress and depression<br><br>When stress is at its peak, it's hard to stop and regroup. Try to prevent stress and depression in the first place, especially if the holidays have taken an emotional toll on you in the past.<br><br>Acknowledge your feelings. If someone close to you has recently died or you can't be with loved ones, realize that it's normal to feel sadness and grief. It's OK to take time to cry or express your feelings. You can't force yourself to be happy ... Sat, 2 Jan 2016 20:43:00 EST Dream big, and start now. Every pro was once an amateur, every expert was once a beginner. So, dream big, and start now. <br><br>I watched about a half of the Iowa Hawkeyes Rose Bowl debacle yesterday. Their opponent, the Stanford Cardinals came in with a gritty determination, and from the first play, dominated the game. Stanford won big. Christian McCaffrey, the Cardinals back, a Sophmore, had more yards than anyone who has ever played in the Rose Bowl. He was on fire, and it was really fun to watch for everyone but ... Sat, 2 Jan 2016 12:22:00 EST Giving Up Is Easy, But Should You? It's so easy to give up. Life has a way of throwing stuff at you that makes things difficult. Sometimes this is your fault, but mostly it's not. This isn't important. What is important is how you respond to life and what response you permit yourself to have.<br><br>Yes, giving up IS easy. It's the easiest response and, if you are reading this, it's likely your go to choice. Lord knows it's been mine. When things aren't going your way, it's easy to ask yourself the classic question, "Why bo... Fri, 1 Jan 2016 23:55:00 EST How I can Well my journey has been full of ups and downs and this week has been one of the most trying weeks every.. I know if I can keep a positive I can make it happen for myself so can you... I had a slight Heart Attack and I have had so many test in just a few days.. I fell like I can glow in the dark with all the dye and Adrenalin... It cause my heart to pump so fast and I didn't have to walk on the Treadmill.. I will be going in next week for a shot stay and they will have to put into place a Sti... Fri, 1 Jan 2016 19:25:00 EST POSITIVITY IS THE KEY My secret to staying motivated is to always be positive. If I do not lose the pounds I expected, I did workout my 4 days this week, and I am proud of the the progress I made toward becoming a meat free clean eater. <br>Do not let a small set back discourage you. It's only one small glitch of the big picture. When you fall off the wagon always pick yourself up, dust yourself off and get back on. <br>You should never let others determine, how you feel about yourself, or what you can or can not ... Fri, 1 Jan 2016 18:00:00 EST In The Woods I don't mind jogging in the neighborhood, it is an older neighborhood with lots of trees and there is a lake at one end. Advantage is there are no trip hazards and I can maintain a steady pace. <br> What I really enjoy though is going to the woods, off trail, watching for roots and fallen branches, jogging now, walking some and dashing sometimes as the spirit moves me. <br> Once walking in Chesapeake Va, I came to a stream and as I jumped across I startled a deer and it brushed past ... Fri, 1 Jan 2016 14:54:00 EST In The Woods I don't mind jogging in the neighborhood, it is an older neighborhood with lots of trees and there is a lake at one end. Advantage is there are no trip hazards and I can maintain a steady pace. <br> What I really enjoy though is going to the woods, off trail, watching for roots and fallen branches, jogging now, walking some and dashing sometimes as the spirit moves me. <br> Once walking in Chesapeake Va, I came to a stream and as I jumped across I startled a deer and it brushed past ... Fri, 1 Jan 2016 14:54:00 EST You are not alone Today is New Years Eve even though I am in a house with plenty of family extended family and friends I feel as though I am alone. I place myself in a bedroom contemplating what the new year new day will bring I close myself off from everyone. I question myself if you do not desire being alone why did you make yourself even more vulnerable to lonileness? I sit all questioning myself trying to find a resolution..... I start to do deep breathing exercises to help my mind be clear my vitals to be... Thu, 31 Dec 2015 19:26:00 EST Eat or Not to Eat..? As the New Year is here we look back to see how far we have came.. So look back with all kinds of regret's while others seem to look only back to the Holiday's Day back to back.. We Celebrate Christmas with a tone of Goodies as we make everything in the world that we have had from Childhood to now.. The one thing that we do is to eat till we are overflowing and then regret what we did and it will be the Parties we have or go to now to ring in the New Year and make all the Resolutions not to ... Thu, 31 Dec 2015 15:51:00 EST Shed the Naysayers Do you have a gang of naysayers around you that are weighing you down? Causing you to feel bad about yourself? <br><br>I know there are articles out there that say if our friends are overweight we are much more likely to be overweight. I get that. But where are the articles that say if our friends or family hound us all the time about our weight we are more likely to be depressed and eat more when we aren't with those people?<br><br>A story (because I always do this). I had lap band surg... Thu, 31 Dec 2015 08:50:00 EST Talk about it Especially if we are in the "yo-yo Gang" - that is those who have come up to the Land of Fitness only to go back down to Out of Shapes-Ville more than once - we tend to avoid talking with friends and family about our plans to become more fit. <br><br>We fear the rolling eyes that say, "here he goes again!" We don't want to appear as a person who starts a project and fails to complete it.<br><br>Why not turn that understandable concern into a powerful tool? I can see that working in at least t... Thu, 31 Dec 2015 07:10:00 EST Say everything negative with a smile I had an employer post by the phone a note that said " Always answer the phone with a smile, because you can't sound negative when you are smiling" And you know what you tend to smile through the whole conversation, you are less on edge and are more reasonable<br><br>The same can go with motivation... I know I am guilty of this, but when I start seeing exercise as a chore I am done, but when I find that new fun activity or I am going to do something fun my time exercising seems to fly by and ... Wed, 30 Dec 2015 22:57:00 EST Keep upbeat and Postive When you decided to join Sparks why and how did you find out about it...? Do you remember was it due to a New Year Resolution or because you wanted to loose weight.. Sparks is about more than loosing weight and more than just a club.. It is away to a new and Healthy way of living.. There is so much more than just eating right because some eat right but overeat at the same time.. So you ask what can I do to get the most out of Sparks..? This is a good question... They have so many different w... Wed, 30 Dec 2015 11:36:00 EST Self Confidence is the best outfit...ROCK IT and own it. YES!! This one has taken me a while...almost 60 years in fact. <br><br>It is an awesome feeling to have everything in your closet be too big. To put on workout clothes and feel good about going to the gym. To even put on a swimsuit and not feel bad about that either. <br><br>This has not been an easy thing to do. I had to gain self-confidence even to get to the point where I would put on a swimsuit and go to the pool. Now, I have finally realized that nobody really cares one whit what you loo... Tue, 29 Dec 2015 12:17:00 EST GOING HOME TODAY As I sit on my sixteenth floor balcony overlooking the ocean in Puerto Rico, I am feeling very blessed this holiday season. I know that I am very lucky. I have my health, loving family, fantastic friends, a rewarding job that I love, financial security that most people do not have at this time, and the personality that enables me to go on a trip like this. My wish for the season, is that everyone is happy, healthy, and has everything they need. <br><br>I am watching these surfers in the water... Tue, 29 Dec 2015 07:29:00 EST Glass Half Full or Half Empty Today while I was reading some blogs I noticed that a lot of the blogs posted were in need of a uplifting message so I wrote to each of them and this is about the note I wrote .. If you take the story of a cracked pot... Many have never heard of it but it starts with a man who each day had to carry water in jugs across his shoulder one on each side.. one had a small crack in it so he would fill them up and on the way back it watered the flowers along one side.. He was feeling bad about the po... Mon, 28 Dec 2015 14:46:00 EST Resolute in 2016 It’s December 31st and you are popping the bubbly while reflecting on 2015. This past year was a rewarding one; however, you’re left with a nagging feeling that you could have done better. You’re determined to improve things in the New Year.<br><br>You are not alone. Most Americans will be joining you in trying to push the “Reset Button” on this special night. In fact, according to, about one third of Americans make resolutions. “While 75% of people stick to their goals for at leas... Mon, 28 Dec 2015 13:45:00 EST VACATION ENDING TODAY As I sit on my sixteenth floor balcony overlooking the ocean in Puerto Rico, I am feeling very blessed this holiday season. I know that I am very lucky. I have my health, loving family, fantastic friends, a rewarding job that I love, financial security that most people do not have at this time, and the personality that enables me to go on a trip like this. My wish for the season, is that everyone is happy, healthy, and has everything they need. <br><br>I am watching these surfers in the water... Mon, 28 Dec 2015 08:25:00 EST My family is everything to me, We are a tribe, we are a community, we are a legacy. I am very aware of how fortunate I am to have such a close and loving family. They give me strength when I am weak, they give me a solid footing when I feel myself sliding.(family) People always say that they are "there for you" but sometimes you really do have to test that idea.(family) Surround yourself with your own "cheering squad" and don't be afraid to cheer others along the way. (family) Have faith that your people want the very best for you and you must believe it them too.(family) Al... Mon, 28 Dec 2015 00:47:00 EST A positive attitude keeps me going despite life's curveballs. Since I started down this road, I have been dealt quite a few blows. I have been laid off twice in the last 2 years, and in the past these have been times that have really set me back on my weight loss journey. I have since learned that no matter how bad things seem for you, there is always someone in a worse situation. My first layoff I got involved with the Society of St. Vincent de Paul who helps less fortunate people. I found many folks who were in worse situations, and helping others... Sun, 27 Dec 2015 21:21:00 EST 5 Things Successful Women Never Say <br><br><br>If you want to unlock the secret of successful women, you need to have the same positive mindset. It’s all about your attitude and it will come out in what you say, or more fittingly, what you don’t say. Pay close attention to the five things successful women never say.<br><br><br><br>“It isn’t my problem.”<br>A woman who is at the top of her game is not going to tell you that it isn’t her problem. When she is faced with a challenge, she rises to the occasion. The successful woman... Sun, 27 Dec 2015 17:14:00 EST Keep It Simple So I've been seeing Oprah's commercials on Weight Watchers and as I'm prone to do, I jumped in and with very little research, signed up for a three-month program this morning that included Personal Coaching. Why? Because it sounded cool.<br><br>Shaking head. Now who reading this has been there, done that? Honestly? I hardly read anything about this nor did I do much of any research, just dumped my credit card info down and after $135 started going through the site. Ughhhhhhh.<br><br>Tha... Sun, 27 Dec 2015 13:14:00 EST How to get out of debt When we were first married we ran up a lot of debt. My parents had drilled into my head to always pay cash, never get into debt except for home, education, and an affordable car, but beloved and I were 21 and having fun. We were both working but had moved from California to Virginia for his military service and I was stunned to learn nursing salaries were half what they were in California. We bought a motorcycle on credit, went out to eat on credit cards, and by our second year of marriage... Sun, 27 Dec 2015 08:48:00 EST Post Christmas Blues This is a difficult season, the week after Christmas. It’s a mini-season of limbo, an awkward in-between time, and people have different ways of dealing with it.<br><br>Post Christmas Blues<br>Photo credit: Anthony Kelly (Creative Commons)<br>Some are still running on fumes from the emotional high that opening presents and seeing family brought. They may even try to extend the holiday an extra week, with varying degrees of success.<br><br>Others feel guilty for over-indulging in holiday sweet... Fri, 25 Dec 2015 14:16:00 EST Self-Care What a busy season! I've never seen so much crammed into a 24 hour period only to come back the next day and do it all over again! But, we don't have to be overwhelmed .... even in this busy season of parties, gifting, food, food, and more food! <br><br>What's the answer? Self-care!<br><br> <em>311</em> Take a walk<br> <em>102</em> Take a nap<br> <em>246</em> Laugh ... a little or a lot!<br> <em>248</em> Set a goal and meet it<br> <em>274</em> Drink some extra water<br> <em>301</em... Fri, 25 Dec 2015 06:48:00 EST Shopping Made Easier Battling through throngs of Christmas shoppers has become as much a part of the festive season as trees and mince pies. But psychologist Dr David Lewis claims crowds are so big now they are stirring up deep primal fears.<br>Rushing from store to store among thousands of strangers is likely to stir up deep primal fears, psychologists claim Christmas shopping feels so stressful because huge crowds spark a primal ‘fight or flight’ mechanism, a psychologist has claimed.<br>Dr David Lewis says the... Thu, 24 Dec 2015 16:13:00 EST BLESSED As I sit on my sixteenth floor balcony overlooking the ocean in Puerto Rico, I am feeling very blessed this holiday season. I know that I am very lucky. I have my health, loving family, fantastic friends, a rewarding job that I love, financial security that most people do not have at this time, and the personality that enables me to go on a trip like this. My wish for the season, is that everyone is happy, healthy, and has everything they need. <br><br>I am watching these surfers in th... Thu, 24 Dec 2015 09:38:00 EST Secret of Aging -- Get a Tribe I watched Christiane Northrup on Public TV talk about Goddesses never aging and some of the things she said resonated with me enough for me to actually write them down and put them into action.<br><br>I was (last year) kind of a loner. I had broken my right hand and took a long time to rehab it and blamed a lot of people unnecessarily. I hunkered down, angry at the world, and spent the majority of the summer just becoming that angry old lady you avoid at all costs. Then I watched Dr. North... Thu, 24 Dec 2015 08:00:00 EST Working through stress One thing I discovered while losing weight here at Spark People, is what to do when I am stressed, unhappy, angry or depressed.<br><br>In the "old days" I would opt to chow down on everything and anything that was sweet, salty, rich, creamy or crunchy and then pay for it later with feelings of guilt, anger, depression, sadness, and unworthiness.<br><br>After discovering that I must always be one step ahead by making new goals when I have reached present ones, I also discovered when having "b... Thu, 24 Dec 2015 01:51:00 EST FUN VACATION So much fun today. I picked my cousin and friend Tiffany up. We went to a yummy new Asian restaurant, I dropped him off at metro station so he could get back to see his parents, Tiffany and I went to my friend Ronald and Claire's house, then music party at Molly's house, Blood and Sand restaurant to see my friend Rob and Lee who just got home after traveling around the world for two years, and finally Jim and Kelsey's Festivus party. Now, I am home relaxing and preparing for trip to Puerto ... Wed, 23 Dec 2015 20:21:00 EST Know I was there right where you are.. I get up each day and know that I am the same as you.. The fight of Temptations come and go.. I drink a lot of water and I had to break that sugar from my diet.. Most of the Holiday Season is full of snacks and treats and I have cut back all this and Praying that the kids to not notice.. I have replace a lot of the candies with fruit and things crackers and I know my limit.. As it gets closer to the time for family to arrive and one just pulled in.. But you have to know that your are in a bat... Wed, 23 Dec 2015 16:56:00 EST Tips for Dealing With Holiday Depression The holidays are supposed to be a time of unbridled joy, comforting family time and sentimental sweetness. At least that's what the holiday commercials and after-school specials would have you believe. But what if your holidays just aren't that merry?<br><br>Sadness and depression can be hard anytime of the year, but they can feel overwhelming during the holidays. Whether you deal with depression all year long or are hit by a temporary bout due to a loss of a loved one, money troubles, a brea... Wed, 23 Dec 2015 10:35:00 EST Track Everything When I first started SP in November 2014, I honestly didn't realize how much I was eating. I had read about keeping food journals, and thought that was a silly concept. Why should I write down everything I eat? <br><br>After reading some blogs from other Sparkers and some of the articles suggesting how to be successful, I decided it was time to get serious. I started weighing my food. Breakfast cereal was the biggest surprise. I had a food scale, so I started using it. What do you mean that l... Wed, 23 Dec 2015 08:56:00 EST It's the Little Things.. I wanted to talk a little about the little things we miss out on... Most of us get into such a rush and if you rush too much you pass the little things in life that can be missed... Some start strong and then fizzle out like a flame.. others have a flame and like a candle will flicker and then go out eventually but you need to start slow as a baby step and build each day as you go.. We tend not to do this but I am old and had to start somewhere.. Yes .. It is hard with no one to keep motivate... Tue, 22 Dec 2015 12:45:00 EST Be Your Own Hero Be your own hero. <br><br>A hero, someone who does something beyond the norm, in a courageous way. <br><br>Getting up every morning, with determination, with humor, with love for self, with confidence for where you are going and where you have been, is heroic. <br><br>Making good choices every single day, every single meal, every single bite, is heroic. People that have not ever struggled with food will not understand this, but WE do. We know that every single time you are passed a plate of C... Mon, 21 Dec 2015 21:06:00 EST Positive Thinking Now that I am taking charge of things I have become a little more in control.. When you first start you are in such a hurry to get back your weight that you want to be at... You jump on the scale every day and It was not in my favor half of the time.. Then I read a article on Sparks and it made sense Do Not Weigh In Every Day .. So now I usually tell them a ton of times.. Put it away in the closet or garage and post a note and weigh in once a month.. Your weight will go up down and if it coul... Mon, 21 Dec 2015 15:55:00 EST VACATION So much fun today. I picked my cousin and friend Tiffany up. We went to a yummy new Asian restaurant, I dropped him off at metro station so he could get back to see his parents, Tiffany and I went to my friend Ronald and Claire's house, then music party at Molly's house, Blood and Sand restaurant to see my friend Rob and Lee who just got home after traveling around the world for two years, and finally Jim and Kelsey's Festivus party. Now, I am home relaxing and preparing for trip to Puerto ... Mon, 21 Dec 2015 14:19:00 EST Detoxing negativitvity Sometimes our paths cross with folks that think so highly of themselves they can excuse any bad behavior they have. Nobody needs these types of personalities in their life. And the irony of removing people that behave in this fashion from your day isn't missed when they believe you don't want to interact with them because something is wrong with you, not them. <br><br>I used to think you couldn't choose your friends. To some extent they pretty much chose you. It was a naive concept that kept ... Mon, 21 Dec 2015 12:28:00 EST Keep your positive attitude and it will help with anything!! Staying positive always helps in all aspects of your life. It really helps with your weight loss and or your maintenance, your well being and happiness. Keep positive people in your life and happiness will surround you. I like to walk a lot, drink lots of water and keep busy to stay healthy. I also see my doctor regularly and take care of myself. I have learned to let the small things and things I can't control to not get me down, and to change things I can. life is too short too focus on ... Mon, 21 Dec 2015 12:20:00 EST Holiday Stress The holidays offer plenty of reasons to be stressed out and anxious -- the gifts you haven’t wrapped, the pile of cookie exchange invites, the office parties. But for many, the biggest source of holiday stress is family -- the family dinner, the obligations, and the burden of family tradition. And if you’re fighting clinical depression, or have had depression in the past, the holiday stress can be a trigger for more serious problems.<br><br>“There’s this idea that holiday gatherings with fami... Mon, 21 Dec 2015 11:01:00 EST The Daily Choice Success come to those who try and keep trying with PMA, a positive mental attitude" ~ W. Clement Stone<br><br>Every morning the first thing when you wake up, you are faced with a choice; will today be terrible or will it be terrific? Simple choice, both words have eight letters, the first five letters of both words are identical. You only really have to make 37.5% of the choice! Whatever you choose, that choice will stay with you ALL DAY LONG!<br><br>Given these facts, why would you make a... Mon, 21 Dec 2015 09:37:00 EST Enjoy Today When I was little I remember my mom had this black plastic jewelry box with an index card on it and she had written something on it like "If you live to 60 you will have 10,000 days left". <br><br>Knowing my mom she was counting the days she'd HAVE to do stuff before she died. But as I thought about this yesterday, I realized, we only have one Sunday, December 20th, 2015 on this earth to enjoy.<br><br>No matter what God if any you worship, you are blessed with many gifts. Mine are the five... Mon, 21 Dec 2015 08:27:00 EST Goals are the spice of life! I made a collage several years ago of goals I wanted to achieve. One was my desire to travel. I had lived in the same general area most of my life, but I had dreamed of traveling ever since I was in high school. <br><br>Four years ago my husband was a long-haul trucker and I put on my collage that I wanted to be able to travel with him. We discovered Workamping, where we could live in our RV and travel around the country from job to job together. <br><br>At first, we were just traveling ... Sun, 20 Dec 2015 23:52:00 EST Dress for success! Don't hide behind baggy, shapeless clothing, dress like you are all ready the person you intend to be. Dress for success! Every time you go out, you reflect an image that tells others how to treat you. They are sizing you up and making an assumption of what you do for a living, your income level and your current level of success in life based solely on your appearance.We have to look like we are all ready in control of our lives, and the more we project that image, the more we will believe ... Sun, 20 Dec 2015 19:02:00 EST Love my self I am dutch so i donet know the exact words to describe. And difficult to say it in so much words<br>1700 is a lot <br>If i speak the word i do i complete with specification what i want to do. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx<br>If i do something i write down before i want to do and afterward if have done it. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx <br>I specify what i do with the emotiions i have had by doing it . xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx<br>aft<BR>erwards i read over what ik have received from i... Sun, 20 Dec 2015 14:04:00 EST No Secret Has Been Found <br>My time on sparkpeople has been adventurous. I have went through many changes,many life challenges. So many moves from one place to another I lost count. (Homes). Deaths of family and friends, this is hard on a body! Happy times, trips and great grandchildren being born. <br><br>I have made and meant so many great spark friends. A true gift in my books.<br><br>Let's not forget all the pounds I lost and found again, over and over!!! <br> <em>9</em> <em>30</em> <em>15</em> <em>9<... Sun, 20 Dec 2015 13:11:00 EST Be mindful of what your eating... be mindful of every thing you eat, every BLT (bite, lick and taste) matters. You, or atleast me, dont realize how quickly these little bites here, tastes there can add up. When you start journaling or tracking its easy to see where we waste calories on junk. The hardest part for me is preparing meals for others, I know what I want and what I need to do but it being in the kitchen and preparing for others that dont have to be so mindful. For example, my husband eats anything, anytime and in 20... Sun, 20 Dec 2015 12:30:00 EST Doing it for YOU Do this for YOU! How do YOU want to feel, how do you want to look? Push yourself to your level of comfort and push harder when it feels too easy. Start slow and work your way up. <br> Set daily goals of 10 minutes of exercise and work up from there. 10 minutes can be done with kids, walk your pet, 10 minutes of house cleaning at a faster pace, walk when making phone calls, walk around while folding laundry. <br><br>Don't be afraid to ask for support from people who are in your life on a ... Sun, 20 Dec 2015 05:24:00 EST Turn A Minus Into A Plus: Positive Thinking Its a tough journey we are on in this game of life. When things get tough all too often its easy to turn to your addiction of choice to drown your sorrows. For most of us its food. Make it easier on yourself by looking at things with a new perspective. If what happened is out of your control, why give it power over you? Acknowledge it, analyze it and if there is nothing you can do to fix it move on. So many of us look at the negatives in our lives. But its far more worthwhile and ful... Sun, 20 Dec 2015 00:14:00 EST Just remember from whence you came from. Life at 62 should be coasting along and peaceful. Why isn't mine? Sure unemployment has struck, and my wife has had 3 surgeries, and life sometimes seems like a hamster on a wheel, but when I remember where I came from and all the blessings that I have gotten, how can I not stay positive? Two years ago, I was barely able to move without being completely winded. Through hard work and the grace of God, I am much more physically fit than I was, and healthier than I was back then. I have two... Sat, 19 Dec 2015 23:41:00 EST Keeping Weight Loss from family & friends I have had a hard time being around some family and friends when I am working on weight loss. Some of them are real negative and it was hard keeping motivated. When we have family gatherings some of them cook huge meals with lots of desserts. There are so many obese people in my family and they eat a lot. When some of them are around me & they offer me desserts I tell them I am really full and I can't eat another bite. I sometimes say that and if they still insist because they don't get it, I... Sat, 19 Dec 2015 23:04:00 EST Let go of the thoughts that don't make you strong. Let go of the thoughts that don't make you strong!!! <br><br>I have just about finished the "Beck" book, and I feel empowered even more on my life journey to better health. <br><br>One of the themes that runs throughout the Beck book, is most overweight people's lack of self-confidence. A feeling you keep reinforcing, that you cannot achieve your goals, and that you need somehow to be convinced. <br><br>If you had asked me a year ago if I could accomplish what I have this year, I would have t... Sat, 19 Dec 2015 10:51:00 EST FAMILY MEMORIES It was an easy day at work. I came home and did a lot of nothing. Then, I met some friends for dinner. After dinner there were some bands I wanted to see. The second one was Celia's Yuletide Express. My friend Celia has a band and they play interactive Christmas songs. There is about forty yo fifty people that stand on and around the stage and sing along. It is such a nice way to get myself into the Christmas spirit and a great sense of camaraderie. ... Sat, 19 Dec 2015 02:08:00 EST Positive Focus The best way I have found to effect healthy change in my life is to focus on the positives, and completely nullify the negatives as much as possible.<br><br>There are going to be many things that will pop up each day that try to interfere with that.... It could be a negative comment from someone I work with. A moment where I feel like I failed at making a change. A glance in a mirror that reminds me I haven't reached my goal weight yet. My pants don't feel the same when I put them on, they fe... Fri, 18 Dec 2015 16:39:00 EST Tell the negative committee that meets in your head to sit down and shut up. Tell the negative committee that meets in your head to sit down and shut up.<br><br>Isn't this SO true? <br><br>Aren't we all members of the biggest negative committee we have ever met, only about ourselves? <br><br>Would we ever dare to say to anyone else the things we say to ourselves? Would we be so presumptuous to think that it was OK to speak to anyone that way? <br><br>This just might be the biggest thing we all have to overcome in the battle to think like a thin person, and to conquer ... Fri, 18 Dec 2015 10:27:00 EST Keeping strong while dealing with an injury! I am dealing with a lower leg injury right now which makes it harder for me to walk as I am used to! I have found doing Strength Training, specifically Upper Body and Core exercises is helping to keep my spirits up while I am healing. I am also doing the Cardio I can like sitting exercises, Swimming, Yoga and Biking to help keep me active and not starting from the beginning when I can resume my regular activity level!<br><br>Of course, one should always have a Doctor's or Trainers advice so y... Thu, 17 Dec 2015 09:24:00 EST The Serenity Prayer This simple little prayer has helped me more times than I could possibly count. <br><br>God - Grant me the Serenity to Accept the Things I Cannot Change<br>Courage to Change the Things I Can<br>And Wisdom to Know the Difference<br><br>I promise that when things get tough - cravings hit - anger strikes - depression knocks on the door - or whatever else causes you concern, saying these 3 short lines once or twice will help you see the solution! My husband and I will often hold hands while we sa... Wed, 16 Dec 2015 21:52:00 EST The Magic of 24 At the ripe old age of 59, I found that losing 80 pounds could actually be easier - let alone feasible! - if I made one shift in attitude: Live, eat and exercise in 24-hour compartments. All I had to do was promise myself I could get through a handful of hours and call it a day. Once I started along that path, I found any challenges that cropped up to be quite surmountable and more easily developed coping strategies to get over the road bumps.<br><br>You can, too. It never hurts to spend ... Wed, 16 Dec 2015 21:00:00 EST Give yourself achievable goals. Don't set yourself targets which are too big. Aim to lose 1 to 2lbs per week. If you try for more, and you don't manage to lose enough one week, you might get demotivated. Aim for your first half stone (7lbs) in the first month then go for the next 7lbs the following month and so on and so forth, until you get to your first goal. Arrange to celebrate each goal achieved by buying a new item of clothing, a day trip or a visit to a friend.<br>If you stray from your new way of healthy eating, don... Wed, 16 Dec 2015 18:18:00 EST My secrey Sometimes you just have to do what you can to force yourself to stay positive when you are depressed to get yourself to a place where you can achieve a goal no matter how small it is.. <em>247</em> <em>247</em> You have to love yourself to make yourself the person you deserve to me with <br> <em>247</em> <em>380</em> <em>43</em> <em>247</em> <br>And if you are lucky enough to find someone who believes in you, supports you and is there for the highs and lows that is truly t... Wed, 16 Dec 2015 17:24:00 EST Negating Negative Self Talk When I say something negative about myself to myself, it helps me to turn what I said around to the positive. Something I commonly say is "I'm depressed." When I catch myself saying it, I'll say "I feel good." You can use this most things if what you're saying is just habit or not really true. Sun, 27 Sep 2015 16:27:00 EST day by day Try and spend one day not complaining about anything and looking for only positives..when in traffic ...time to do butt crunches.When really hungry think of the new healthy will smile and it will become habit..then lifestyle Sun, 27 Sep 2015 06:29:00 EST gemini6599 I walk 7 floors at least twice 5-6 nights a week at my job as a room service waitress, I get about 7.5 hours of sleep a day and 2-3 meals a day . Sun, 26 Jul 2015 11:04:00 EST Create a Wish Box Decorate a box and put all of your wishes and prayers in it. Be as specific as possible. For example instead of "I want to lose weight." Change it to: "I am at my desired weight goal." Put all of your health goals and wishes in it. "I love the taste of fruits and veggies." You can be as creative as you want to, and use affirmation statements as if they have already came true. Review your wish box daily and have faith, you may be surprised how you're inspired to make your wishes a reality. Sat, 30 May 2015 21:38:00 EST Exercise I think it's important to take small steps! Fri, 15 May 2015 22:56:00 EST Permission to Relax I find that a cup of tea rejuvenates me and gives me permission to relax. It is during my "tea time" that I think of all the things I am grateful for. Tue, 30 Sep 2014 21:47:00 EST Be kind to yourself. I learned to stop criticizing myself. I wouldn't say such cruel things to anyone else. So, why say it to myself?<br>You are doing something to improve yourself. Give yourself due credit and pat yourself on the back. This type of self talk reminds you that what you're doing is something positive and keeps you moving forward. Sun, 24 Aug 2014 09:35:00 EST MAKE A PLAN AND STICK WITH IT, Don't focus on the Big Picture! It is hard to stay motivated when life itself can throw negative trials your way. Such as the scale tipping upwards, job related issues, family problems, and such...... when you are trying your best to loose weight and stay focused on a healthy life-style it doesn't take much to throw you off kilter! Don't allow this steal from what you have already accomplished! Fri, 8 Aug 2014 15:02:00 EST Make a change... Don't focus on making giant life changes.... Focus on making a small change. Small changes will lead up to changing a life. Wed, 6 Aug 2014 10:54:00 EST Melt away I envision the fat just melting off my body. . . My face is getting slimmer, etc. I tell myself very day how much stronger I am getting. Because I speak positive to myself through out the day when I am faced with a temptation I can walk away. . . Smiling. Fri, 1 Aug 2014 15:01:00 EST Positive Self Talk I look Great today!<br>I feel good<br>I am happy Sun, 20 Jul 2014 20:54:00 EST Failure is a four letter word Failures do not exist. What we call a failure is but a lesson learned and a step taken to a better us. Without these failures we would never be able to learn from these mistakes and make ourselves better in the long run. Mon, 16 Jun 2014 07:01:00 EST Doing what is good to stay healthy Eating three balanced small meals a day with 2 snacks helps to control hunger. Wed, 11 Jun 2014 21:16:00 EST YOU do all this for you and you alone. stop saying you are not worth it or do it because someone else thinks you should or makes fun of you. you matter and need to want to better yourself because thats where your heart is at, at this point in your life. you will be so much happier and lighter feeling along the journey and just happier with yourself. Wed, 28 May 2014 11:25:00 EST Write a Note Write a Thank You note to anyone that is helpful, inspirational, or kind. Write a note to yourself, the check-out clerk, the mail deliverer. Perk = the time spent writing is time not mindless munching. It's learning to be in the moment. Bless another and you bless yourself. Be well. <em>304</em> Wed, 28 May 2014 07:11:00 EST Smile I find that when I smile at people, it makes them feel better. Even the grumpiest of people will start to smile if you smile at them and make an effort to listen to what they have to say. Tue, 20 May 2014 16:34:00 EST Reduce Stress & Be Happy! I realized one day that I wasn't very happy and I had heard in Al-anon a quote by Abraham Lincoln "Most people are as happy as they decide to be". So I decided to be happy and knew I needed to reduce stress in my life. Then I saw a quote on FaceBook " Saying yes to happiness means learning to say no to things and people that stress you out." by Thelma Davis. That day I stopped taking on other people's issues and responsibilities. Since that day I try each day to decide to be HAPPY! Tue, 20 May 2014 12:37:00 EST picture this...and....think When I could SEE the vision of what certain foods did to my, I knew I needed to change my eating habits.<br>Every time I want to go back to the "old ways"...I picture the truth and think what the outcome will be and that stops me from going back to the unhealthy lifestyle and continue my day by day...meal by meal..step by step that I have committed to..I am IN IT TO WIN IT!! Sat, 17 May 2014 10:55:00 EST Weigh on Friday morning I stay in my calorie range more often during the week than on the weekends. I find it helps me stay motivated to weigh myself only on Friday morning. I feel upbeat knowing I've had a good streak of days being on track, and it helps keep from being too overindulgent over the weekend. Sat, 17 May 2014 07:16:00 EST Supporters stand by each other Friends will celebrate your successes. I try to be a supportive friend. I believe askingfor help is one thing, getting it crammed down my throat is another. One person's way does not work for everyone on here.<br>Walk side by side with your friends on here. Hold them up when they feel down. Be happy they are figuring it out. Succeed together. Don't drag people behind you trying to get them to do what you do. It may work for you, maynot work for them. <em>381</em> Fri, 16 May 2014 12:10:00 EST Speak to yourself like you would your daughter. It's much more motivating to hear something positive and kind than negative and mean. I would never let my child feel bad about herself no matter what she looks like. I would do whatever it takes to make her happy and healthy both physically and mentally. Tue, 6 May 2014 20:32:00 EST Antidepressant Advice The most over-used antidepressant is food. <br>The most under used antidepressant is exercise. Sat, 3 May 2014 07:09:00 EST controlled and feeling proud Remember you have to live. No two days will be the same. So if, one day you fall by the wayside. Fair enough. Allow yourself that lapse and move on. <br> <em>285</em> Wed, 23 Apr 2014 14:18:00 EST Track & Plan Food in Advance When I track my food daily and stay in the budget; I also take a few minutes end of day to track out the 'next day'. This keeps me positive w/ my food, my choices, and I plan a weekly menu as well ..........It all helps to be organized and stay on track day to day! <em>341</em> It is worth the time! Mon, 17 Mar 2014 10:14:00 EST Protect My Heart Today make the choice that will protect my heart from struggle with regret, doubt and feelings of failure. When I remember that and do it, I make choices through the day that lead me to a successful outcome. <br><br> <em>521</em> <em>306</em> <em>381</em> Sun, 16 Mar 2014 12:33:00 EST Chatty Cathy When I bike on my indoor cycle I listen to super upbeat music. When my momentum really gets going and I am in the zone I yell out positive affirmations, such as: "I am good enough." "I deserve great health." "I love myself." "I can do this." "I love to sweat." It really pumps me up and I feel great. My dogs must think I am crazy. LOL, LOL Thu, 27 Feb 2014 22:38:00 EST Encourage others Every day log on to Spark People, and write something encouraging. Tell your stories of success, no matter how small. Soon, you will have more success in your healthy journey!<br> Wed, 26 Feb 2014 08:45:00 EST Secret The best thing to do is stay positive. Your goal will be a possibility if you stay positive. <em>252</em> Tue, 25 Feb 2014 23:27:00 EST Worry List When people around me start to emphasize the negative, especially about things they can do nothing about, I'll stop the cycle by saying "I'll put that on my list of things to worry about." It helps put whatever it is into perspective, and lets me focus on whatever is more important to me.<br><br> Sun, 23 Feb 2014 13:50:00 EST Pat Yourself on the Back Baby Steps WILL Get You There! <em>148</em> Tue, 18 Feb 2014 08:39:00 EST Think beyond weight loss. If your not happy it is not all about the weight, get to know yourself while losing weight. Think about how you got here and what you want to change. You will realise that when you think about it weight is not the only thing that you want to change. Try to concur your fears and you will feel like you can do anything, which includes losing weight! Sat, 15 Feb 2014 05:35:00 EST Need a Valentine? No need to be sad because you don't have a Valentine...use 25 Spark Goody Points and send yourself one..any day of the year! Then, to experience greater happiness....send a valentine to someone you don't know...just because! <br><br>Random Act of Kindness=Happiness...try it! <em>148</em> <br> Thu, 13 Feb 2014 10:11:00 EST Be kind to self Once upon a time, I would speak harshly to myself. When looking in the mirror or when making a not so wise food choice. Now, I don't judge my looks, and if I happen to goof by say, eating a donut treat someone brought to the office, I simply do better by working out or eating a few extra fresh veggies at the next meal. It has helped me become a more relaxed individual, and I can enjoy and live more in the moment. <em>521</em> Mon, 10 Feb 2014 21:39:00 EST Love the skin you're in! Stop comparing yourself with others!<br>You are beautiful and wonderful just the way that you are! Mon, 10 Feb 2014 11:34:00 EST I got this! I remind myself everyday...I GOT THIS! This helps me stay positive when I feel like giving up or having a mad day!<br> <em>20</em> Tue, 21 Jan 2014 16:13:00 EST Read Blogs. Write Blogs. I have found that by reading others' blogs, I not only learn about myself, but learn from them. <em>435</em> Fri, 17 Jan 2014 06:42:00 EST Count my blessings. I may not be rich or famous but blessed everyday in some way or other. Even though my days do not always go well I can list at least one blessing. Wed, 15 Jan 2014 14:45:00 EST Smile and be kind No matter who you have to face, and what your job is today, smile and be kind to those around you. Respect and a kind attitude will make a difference in the lives of those around you, and in your own life as well. Wed, 15 Jan 2014 11:29:00 EST Healthy Snacking Plan Ahead <em>210</em> . When at work of out and about, when hunger strikes so does temptation. I pack my take along bag with healthy eats and plenty of bottled water that are easy to grab when on the go. This helps me to steer clear of drive-thru. Mon, 13 Jan 2014 00:55:00 EST Lower Stress as a Goal Motivator When I set up my Goal Board, one of the little banners that pops up is "I want to reduce the stress in my life." It is a daily reminder that in addition to taking care of my fitness and eating habits, I also need to have plans that help me deal with emotional and mental stress. It makes me feel more in control and empowered to change negative situations that arise. I am a much more calm and happy person with that simple reminder every day. Sat, 11 Jan 2014 09:59:00 EST Changing the channel of my mood and thinking By either a brief activity, like washing my hands, or a more serious time commitment, like taking a shower or taking a break outside I am learning that I can end a mood or at least give me a fresh start a rooting out the difficulty that started it. <em>381</em> Sat, 11 Jan 2014 06:45:00 EST Blessing Others I get up every morning at 4 am and bring my husband a cup of coffee while he is getting ready to start his day. then I feed and love on my cat and dog. I feel like this is blessing them all which starts my day off in a positive way. <em>247</em> Sat, 11 Jan 2014 00:04:00 EST A Bit of Encouragement "Do the BEST you can, with WHAT you have, WHERE you are!"<br> <br>Theodore Roosevelt...who was so sickly in his younger years, that he was forced to homeschool, later took up weightlifting and boxing, and became the youngest USA President to assume office.<br> <em>148</em> Fri, 10 Jan 2014 10:20:00 EST Every Single Moment Every single moment is another chance to start fresh. <br>You don't have to wait until the morning, or Monday, or the first of the month. If you've strayed, right this moment is the perfect time to get back on track. It keeps me optimistic that even if I mess up, I can ALWAYS start over. Always. Tue, 7 Jan 2014 21:44:00 EST Write down what you are grateful for Write down a list of things you're grateful for and keep it someplace where you'll see it often. When you focus on the things you're thankful for, you'll have less time to focus on the negatives. Sun, 5 Jan 2014 12:14:00 EST Completely relax in the bath with deep breathing and a book Simple breathing exercises in the bath helps me to unwind after a long day. I draw a nice warm bath, light some candles, add some epsom salts for my exercised muscles, and just close my eyes and focus on my breath. You could call it meditation if that doesn't stress you out as to whether you are doing it right. My main goal is just to let go of all my thoughts and just "be in the bath." After I feel completely relaxed, I dry my hands off on a washcloth and read a book until I'm ready to get o... Sat, 4 Jan 2014 10:27:00 EST Go for a walk in sun light and fresh air. Whenever I feel that I have problems out of control and find myself filled with negative thoughts I go for a walk in sun light and fresh air. Imagine that you are throwing the negative energy you have inside. Raise you head high to feel the sun light in your face and get fresh air in. Then run to break the stress. After that try to think and find solutions for your problems. Even if you didn't find a solution you will find yourself have the power to face it. Fri, 27 Dec 2013 03:27:00 EST Writing emotions Instead of eating whenever I feel an emotion, I now write about it. It keeps my hands busy of course but I'm now able to handle emotions, good or bad, in a harmless way. It takes some time but not much room as I write on my laptop. Sun, 22 Dec 2013 06:49:00 EST Take Your Time Be patient with yourself. Changing the way you live your life takes time and energy. It won't happen overnight. Give your self some time to make tiny adjustments first and celebrate each success while keeping your eyes on the goals you have set for yourself. Thu, 5 Dec 2013 12:33:00 EST Smile (it improves your face value) I have never been accused of being grumpy or in a bad mood.<br>One of my favorite sayings growing up was "Smile! It improves your face value" So anytime I'm not feeling very positive I think of that saying and it helps me move through the stage of the day! Mon, 2 Dec 2013 10:14:00 EST focus on Jesus When. I'm. Stressed I tend to feel overwhelmed and helpless. However when I. Take time to think how I'm not alone. I am love. I'm here for a reason. To complete a purpose. I know that eventually my feelings will pass. Somehow the truth helps me stay grounded in temporary situations. Thu, 21 Nov 2013 12:01:00 EST Every day is a new opportunity Every day is a NEW day! The best proverb is "Fall down 7 times, stand up 8." Remember that no matter what each day brings, success, or failure, the next day is a new opportunity to begin again! Don't beat yourself, but celebrate new beginnings!<br> <em>306</em> Mon, 4 Nov 2013 12:59:00 EST The Love of a Puppy I waited 42 years to get my Aussie Labradoodle. He, in my humble opinion, is the perfect dog. Loving, clever, non-shedding...I could go on, and on, and on. Mainly, he is my therapy dog. He is healing me from 35 years of a very stressful, high tech /analytical existence. I thank God, I found him/he found me. Fri, 25 Oct 2013 21:23:00 EST Forgive! To me, this may be the most key thing in life and in weight loss. You have a bump in the road: Forgive yourself and move on! Someone has called you a hurtful weight related name in the past: Forgive and move on! You will be stuck in a rut if you don't forgive yourself and others. Remember what Jesus has done for us. Ephesians 4:32 - And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you. Thu, 24 Oct 2013 23:11:00 EST Dealing with stress When I am in a stressful situation, I stop what I am doing. Then I take several deep breaths. After that I Think of positive ways to deal with the problem. Then I choose one of those ways and change the problem to an action of success. Thu, 24 Oct 2013 08:07:00 EST Remember Progress When feeling discouraged, I always look at how far I've come. For example, "No, I can't run a 5k yet, but I ran 1/4 of a mile without stop the other day!" No matter how small the accomplishment is, it still makes you better than you were yesterday. Wed, 23 Oct 2013 10:56:00 EST Stress release I a walk & go for a hour swim after breakfast in the morning. This is a positive start for me in the morning. Wed, 23 Oct 2013 08:44:00 EST 10 Secrets to Success What is it that makes people successful and I mean really successful compared to you or me? Are they smarter or do they work harder? Are they risk takers or have powerful and influential friends?-<br><br> Fri, 18 Oct 2013 04:10:00 EST Stress Busters When you are at work, stay organized by having small goals in mind and a priority list written down. Learn to say "no" or "later" to tasks that get added to your list for the day that are not a priority to your boss or business or yourself. <br>Try to take a few minutes every hour or two to regroup your thoughts, step away from your desk, and stretch a bit. If you can, use your lunch time to get some physical exercise like going for a walk. Fri, 11 Oct 2013 07:07:00 EST Be grateful! I use the daily planner to keep a list of things that I"m grateful for each day. Even though things may not have gone the way I'd planned, focusing on what I'm grateful for helps keep the negativity at bay. Thu, 10 Oct 2013 02:22:00 EST Losing patience while losing weight When I get discouraged about trying to lose weight, I always try to remember that.. I didn't put my weight on in 30 or 45 isn't going to magically come off in 30 or 45 days!! <em>198</em> Tue, 8 Oct 2013 10:11:00 EST Change negative thoughts to a positive as soon as you catch yourself having one Many if not all of us have a a set of beliefs or thoughts about ourselves or a situation. You may even be consciously aware of a few of them but the truly scary thing is that many of us tell ourselves these thoughts over and over so often they become unconscious. So, pay attention to those "tapes" you are replaying to yourself and when you catch a negative one, actively and consciously replace it with a more positive statement. You may even have to say it out loud to yourself in the beginnin... Sat, 5 Oct 2013 20:30:00 EST Stay Focused on your Goal Never lose sight of the big picture. Rome wasn't built in a day, they say, a journey starts with a single step and weight was not put on overnight. Stay focused. Results will come and you will be amazed! Wed, 2 Oct 2013 19:23:00 EST What's Missing You had a binge. You made a food choice you're not happy with. You've identified how you felt before eating. Now ask yourself, "What's missing?" Fri, 27 Sep 2013 12:08:00 EST Drink more water Drink 2 full glasses of water when you first wake up and then sip on water throughout the day. The first glasses will help flush out anything in your system from the night before and the rest will keep you feeling full throughout the day. If you really hate plain water, try powder packets you can add to water (eg. Crystal Light) that have no or few calories. Also, try not to go 30 minutes without taking a drink. You'll get in your necessary 64 ounces and it won't feel like you changed your ro... Tue, 24 Sep 2013 12:44:00 EST Blues Got You Down? Good news! The blues are temporary and you can use stress busters - exercise, positive affirmations, connecting on Spark, enough sleep - to combat them. Thu, 19 Sep 2013 10:52:00 EST Find what works for you! Finding what works you with healthy eating and diet. Plan each week with a shopping list and stick to it. Do it for yourself and my trigger, eat to live not live to eat!! Sat, 14 Sep 2013 22:51:00 EST Positive Thinking Works! Whether you think you can or think you can't, you're right! Mon, 2 Sep 2013 17:22:00 EST Think positive before you leave the bed! Before I get up I make a plan, consider which exercises I will be doing to keep on track, have some lemon tea, then my protein drink, then either walk outside or hit the treadmill and I make sure either one or the other is done by noon since I rise late in the morning. Sun, 1 Sep 2013 21:16:00 EST Make Sleep a Major Part of Your Plan We all know how important it is to keep moving--and how easy it is to cut back on sleep when there are many demands on our time. But I've learned that when I don't get at least 7.5 hours of sleep, life starts to unravel. I'm more easily tempted to skip exercise and eat mindlessly, and it's harder to focus on the very things I thought I was making time for by cutting back on sleep. The result: slip-ups, stress, self-criticism, and negativity. Get your daily ZZZZZZZZ! <em>102</em> Fri, 30 Aug 2013 22:09:00 EST Believe Your Plan IS Working You may not be able to tell, but everyday that you eat healthy and exercise cause you to gradually shrink all over--whether its a fraction of inch or a loss of 1 ounce--it all builds up to that 1 pound loss and/or 1 inch loss. Believe that your plan is working and consistency will get you to your goal. Sun, 25 Aug 2013 10:56:00 EST Tapping breaks up the tension Other cultures have some unique health tips. I have learned a Chinese tip that I will call tapping. When you are feeling tired and down you tap your body and take deep breaths. I am amazed how good this feels to relieve my body and mind tension. It only takes a moment. Sat, 17 Aug 2013 07:11:00 EST A Lesson from Cookie Monster <br><br>Find delight, seek charm in the world around you. It's often in the places that don't come to mind first thing.<br>(No option for a link in Secrets. Do copy the url for a sweet surprise.) Wed, 14 Aug 2013 00:06:00 EST Stress Buster - "Hypnosis" (Meditation) I have been listening to free hypnosis/meditation apps on my iPhone every night when I go to sleep. It helps me focus on my breathing and relaxation for several minutes every night. I am amazed at how much better my sleep is! It has definitely helped to reduce stress. It took about 2 weeks to get used to it, but it's definitely worth it. Test the apps to find the message/voice/music (or not) that works for you. Tue, 13 Aug 2013 11:55:00 EST When I'm super stressed I hit the gym. Whenever I have really stressful day, I be sure to hit the gym! I can be really tempted to just go home and crash on the couch, but I know that the stress and frustration will just build. Not only will I be more likely to eat more, but I'll probably stay up way too late. The key is to go to the gym immediately after work. Even if I don't feel like running or using a machine, I'll find a class. Mon, 12 Aug 2013 15:13:00 EST Your goal should move you toward HAPPINESS Sometimes we allow our goals to be so fixated on outwardly appearance that it becomes nothing more than a fleeting hope, a goal without teeth. I try to remember that who I am, what I can do, and how I feel are so much more important than my dress size. This quote is uplifting... "If you want to be happy, set a goal that commands your thoughts, liberates your energy and inspires your hopes." --Andrew Carnegie Tue, 6 Aug 2013 15:57:00 EST Help Someone Else Feeling discouraged? Helping somebody else with their problems will put your own in perspective. Fri, 26 Jul 2013 10:53:00 EST Kill stress with a nap Nothing gets rid of stress faster than a 20 minute power nap. A short nap and I'm ready to take on the world. Mon, 22 Jul 2013 12:06:00 EST Gratitude Journal Every night before I go to bed I write down 5 things I am grateful for. It can be something simple like a beautiful sunny day or hearing a child's laughter. I also write more serious things like thanking God for His Son Jesus Christ who died for my sins. I have found that by doing this each night it changes my perspective, especially if I have had a bad day. Fri, 19 Jul 2013 08:17:00 EST Stress Relief Prevention is key, but if stress has gotten in the way, walk away from the situation, take a few deep breaths, and visualize being in a calming place, like the beach, in the mountains, etc. Mon, 15 Jul 2013 18:51:00 EST Write out stress to let it go When I am stressed, tired or cranky, I write it down. Getting it down on the page gets it out of my system. If its just a mood, writing helps me get it out and change it up. If it's a problem, writing helps me think it through more logically (rather than emotionally). And writing about negative thoughts or energy keeps me from griping and avoids spreading negativity to others. That is a self-feeding cycle that I want no part of! Sat, 13 Jul 2013 11:16:00 EST Walk in the park for stress release When I get stressed, if the weather is ok, the best thing I have found to overcome it is to walk in the park. There is a park near me with trails that go along the shore of a smal river. There are foot bridges every mile or so, so your walk can be as long or as short as you want it to be. It is so beautiful and peaceful there. I feel better every time I walk there. Sat, 6 Jul 2013 14:51:00 EST Exercise first thing in the morning As soon as the alarm goes off, I head straight for the treadmill or exercise mat and get my daily exercise done - before I'm awake enough to argue with myself. Then all day long I feel positive about myself because I have already done my minimum exercise quota for the day. Mon, 1 Jul 2013 02:21:00 EST Yoga and breathing. Taking even ten minutes each day to fit in some yoga stretches and being mindful of my breathing throughout the day has really helped me. I have more energy and sleep really well every night. Wed, 26 Jun 2013 06:03:00 EST You Can Have Your Ultimate Desire NOW Stop trying to find happiness and just be happy. Simple! <br><br>If you think about it, all your desires in life (e.g. new car, more money, healthy body) all aspire to one thing - to make you happy. All too often we let our circumstances control how we feel. Instead, try letting how you feel control your circumstances, and you CAN control how you feel. Just smile or visualize yourself achieving your hearts desires and you do not need material things in order to gain your ultimate desire - HAP... Tue, 25 Jun 2013 23:50:00 EST Nature's Beauty A walk outside to embrace nature's beauty, even in my own yard, brings peace to my mind and relaxes me. Thu, 20 Jun 2013 14:32:00 EST Mindful walking I take off my shoes and socks. I plant my feet securely on the ground, take three deep breaths then start walking as slowly as I possibly can noticing every moves my body is having to make. <br>I try to concentrate only on my body and on my connection to the ground. Wed, 19 Jun 2013 08:15:00 EST Get Out the Tape Measure If the scale doesn't seem to be moving despite your best efforts, get out the tape measure and check out your measurements. Several times this worked for me. I was surprised to find I had lost an inch on my waist and on my hips. This gave me encouragement to keep going with my plan. Thu, 13 Jun 2013 11:33:00 EST Look at the Bright Side of Giving Up Alcohol When I first decided to quit drinking because it was thwarting my weight-loss efforts I felt deprived. "Everyone else was drinking - - Why can't I drink too? I want to join the party" But now I'm reminding myself of the benefits of staying alcohol-free. The main one is that I'm more alert and less tired now. No hangover for me now ! Thu, 13 Jun 2013 11:02:00 EST Smile. Smile smile That is the secret to staying positive. Just smile. Sat, 8 Jun 2013 07:56:00 EST Just Breathe When I start to feel stressed out, I close my eyes and take 5 very long deep breaths. I breathe in through the nose as long as I can and then out through my mouth exhaling all the breath in my lungs. This is not only cleansing to the body, it's also cleansing to the mind. Fri, 7 Jun 2013 11:57:00 EST I SAW THE SUN!!! I saw the sun this has been rarely spotted here in central Illinois lately. Wed, 29 May 2013 08:45:00 EST Love Your Body Today! Even if you're far away from your goal, love your body today. Love it for doing it's best to take care of you. Love it because you've had some good times in it. Love it because it's yours. <em>30</em> Thu, 23 May 2013 11:44:00 EST Love Don't go to bed mad! Stay up and talk it out. You won't sleep well if your mad. Wed, 22 May 2013 14:06:00 EST What comes in Must go out! Being in the health care field I decided to treat negativity with a "mind field enema" ! Literally to remove the bad build up of (forgive me here) "crap". I would immediately counteract the negativity with a sudden influx of nothing but positive images of where I wanted to be, positive self-talk reinforcement from supportive friends at Spark People. Believe me - it worked and continues to do so. <em>244</em> <em>334</em> <br> Wed, 15 May 2013 20:27:00 EST Dance Like No One Is Watching (& Laugh like you're watching someone dance!) Who ever felt bad when they were dancing? Put on your favorite jam and just get jiggy with it!! It will make you feel better, and it might make you laugh as well. We all need a good laugh sometimes too!! Wed, 15 May 2013 16:12:00 EST Take Up Your Space No one ever hated themselves skinny. Love and appreciate the body you have, dimples and rolls and cellulite and jiggle and all. You have a good body. It is worthwhile. Own your space. Love it before you get healthy. Love it while you're getting healthy. And accept it in all stages. Everything else gets so much easier if you can. Wed, 15 May 2013 08:42:00 EST Write down 3 three every day that made you happy about today Focusing on the positive, rather than the negative, makes everything in life easier to bear, no matter how difficult the time is. Fri, 3 May 2013 15:26:00 EST Forgive yourself up when you slip, just get back on track at the next meal. Everyone will go over their limits from time to time. Dont beat yourself up over it. This will just cause you to throw in the towel entirely. Talk nicely to yourself, like you would a friend or child. You dont deserve self punishment. Thu, 2 May 2013 11:09:00 EST Less News is Good News If you're a news junkie reduce stress by cutting back on your news consumption. Unless your day job is activism or politics, chances are you already have enough on your plate to worry about. Avoid news commentary shows and opinion articles--those are just designed to get you riled up--and stick to the facts. You'll still be informed and then you can spend the rest of your spare time relaxing instead of mentally leading a march on city hall. Mon, 22 Apr 2013 07:27:00 EST Positive Affirmations and Quotes I have put together a list of positive affirmations and quotes that I found online and I knew would keep me positive. I used a fun font, printed then out on cute paper and cut them into individual strips of paper. I put them in a jar and pull one out, read it multiple times, and add it to my bulletin board dedicated just for this! Wed, 17 Apr 2013 22:15:00 EST Helping myself to help others I recently went through a tough time so during that time I stood in front of the mirror each day and shouted I can do it out loud. It really helped boost my positive attitude, and it gave me a serious boost of energy too. <br>it may be mad but it works for me! <em>30</em> Tue, 16 Apr 2013 01:57:00 EST Spark Notebook I keep a 'Spark' notebook. This notebook has three sections; food and exercise, inspiring words and ideas and the last section has pictures I've cut out of magazines that inspire me. Tue, 9 Apr 2013 20:27:00 EST Getting in a lunchtime workout to beat stress Getting to the gym or taking a brisk walk at lunchtime takes you away from the office routine and can even adjust your perspective when looking at a problem. It's great to get in a little time for yourself in the course of your day working for others. Mon, 25 Mar 2013 06:19:00 EST SPARKS PEOPLE ARE MY FRIENDS. Eating Breakfast every day helps me to look forward. I know I have started right. <em>194</em> Sat, 16 Mar 2013 20:14:00 EST Write something on SparkPeople every day Write everyday : a blog, a personal journal, on your SparkTeam message board, or elsewhere. Writing down your feelings and goals and successes really helps to motivate yourself. Thu, 14 Mar 2013 21:35:00 EST Nature connection/meditation Find a natural place to sit for 30 minutes everyday. It could be a park, your yard or any place you can visit every day undisturbed. Sat, 9 Mar 2013 12:05:00 EST