SparkPeople Staying Positive Secrets http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets-category.asp?category=staying-positive Learn some of the secrets of success for Staying Positive from SparkPeople members. SparkPeople Staying Positive Secrets http://www.sparkpeople.com/assets/nav/nav_logo_v3.gif http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets-category.asp?category=staying-positive Capture Your Ideas http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=49630_capture_your_ideas <em>189</em> <em>189</em> <em>189</em> <em>189</em> <em>189</em> <em>189</em> <em>189</em> <br>Ideas are elusive, slippery things. Best to keep a pad of paper and a pencil at your bedside, so you can stab them during the night before they get away. <br>~Earl Nightingale <br> <em>189</em> <em>189</em> <em>189</em> <em>189</em> <em>189</em> <em>189</em> <em>189</em> <br><br>How often do we wake up in the morning, just knowing that the solution to that rea... Sat, 3 Dec 2016 22:14:00 EST A Positive Attitude is Everything! http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=49612_a_positive_attitude_is_everything Keep a positive attitude. Ok, so this seems like a no brainer right? But, I am shocked at how many people that I come in contact with have just pure terrible attitudes about everything! It's awful! <br><br>If you have a horrible attitude about yourself or your weight loss, you aren't going to get very far. Your awful attitude will self sabotage any progress you might be making. It will also make your overall life harder. Think of all the negative energy that you'd be holding and think of how... Fri, 2 Dec 2016 11:17:00 EST Bridging the Gap http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=49610_bridging_the_gap <em>58</em> <em>58</em> <em>58</em> <em>58</em> <em>58</em> <em>58</em> <br>Your problem is to bridge the gap which exists between where you are now and the goal you intend to reach. <br>~ Earl Nightingale <br> <em>58</em> <em>58</em> <em>58</em> <em>58</em> <em>58</em> <em>58</em> <br><br>As I share my ideas, I cannot help but notice that there is a cadre of ideas that keeps repeating itself. I have heard these ideas from a multitude of sources and all of t... Fri, 2 Dec 2016 09:41:00 EST Oatmeal and Soup http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=49609_oatmeal_and_soup <br>I eat instant oatmeal every morning at work. Maple brown sugar with a cup of hot water. I look forward to it. No dishes to clean, I eat it in a little cup. About 1 hour later I eat my banana and drink my coffee. It is so simple but I miss it on the weekends. I love the warm feeling in my belly and I know it is silly but I think I am eating good food. <em>224</em> So every morning if you look forward to breakfast you may have a positive start to your day. I know I do. I sometimes think ... Fri, 2 Dec 2016 08:35:00 EST The Secret is there is no secret http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=49608_the_secret_is_there_is_no_secret For me personally, there is no one particular category that will encompass this journey. All aspects of our lives impact our ability or inability to lose weight. <br>However, the most important thing that I would say everyone who has been successful at anything will tell you is you must first find a way to like and respect yourself if you want to succeed. If you do not, no matter how well you do temporarily, at some point you will stop your efforts.<br>I have embraced my new lifestyle. I do... Fri, 2 Dec 2016 07:54:00 EST The Be Happy Attitude http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=49592_the_be_happy_attitude <em>334</em> <em>334</em> <em>334</em> <em>334</em> <em>334</em> <em>334</em> <em>334</em> <br>Always keep that happy attitude. Pretend that you are holding a beautiful fragrant bouquet. <br>~ Earl Nightingale <br> <em>334</em> <em>334</em> <em>334</em> <em>334</em> <em>334</em> <em>334</em> <em>334</em> <br><br>A woman who wore a perpetual scowl on her face was once described as looking as though she walked into the White House and smelled cabbage cook... Thu, 1 Dec 2016 09:13:00 EST You Have What You Earn http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=49579_you_have_what_you_earn <em>104</em> <em>104</em> <em>104</em> <em>104</em> <em>104</em> <em>104</em> <em>104</em> <br>We will receive not what we idly wish for but what we justly earn. Our rewards will always be in exact proportion to our service. <br>~ Earl Nightingale <br> <em>104</em> <em>104</em> <em>104</em> <em>104</em> <em>104</em> <em>104</em> <em>104</em> <br><br>We have become an entitlement society. Far too many people are looking to the government to provide them... Wed, 30 Nov 2016 09:30:00 EST Always use words and thoughts that are posative. http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=49578_always_use_words_and_thoughts_that_are_posative Internal dialog (self talk) is paramount to success in any endeavor. Weight loss is no exception. How one speaks to ones self will determine success or failure. Period. Whether you are trying to lose weight, garner a promotion at work or build a house, the specific words and phrases that you think and speak can go further towards your ultimate end than any other variable. <br> Take time throughout your day to stop and take account of what you have been saying and thinking. Keep a note book... Wed, 30 Nov 2016 09:30:00 EST How to Get Happy or Turning that Frown Upside Down http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=49576_how_to_get_happy_or_turning_that_frown_upside_down William James said, "Things are not as they are, but as we are." We really do see through the eyes of our own experience and each of our experiences is different, so in every moment, we see everything from the perspective of the mood we're in. It’s almost like we put on different glasses from moment to moment. We do not have to get sucked into the black hole of negativity.<br><br>Bad moods can become a habit. That is one habit that is a good one to break for our health. So, what can we do ... Wed, 30 Nov 2016 07:28:00 EST Turning the Big 6-0 http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=49563_turning_the_big_60 I went to a nutritionist about 5 weeks ago & spent $175.00. That included an evaluation, emails, and one more session, scheduled Thursday, December 1st. My nutritionist , Autumn, has been amazing by not shaming me and by being very supportive. Since I saw Autumn, I have binged two times on chips and dip...(not eating a BIG BAG, but the next size down). Each time I was able to stop myself...SOME, but not MUCH. When I confessed this to her, she was great. I was very ashamed of myself; however, ... Tue, 29 Nov 2016 13:11:00 EST Spirituality and prayer http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=49560_spirituality_and_prayer This is the day the Lord has made. Let us rejoice and be glad in it. <em>389</em> ..........................................<BR>......................................<BR>......................................<BR>......................................<BR>......................................<BR>......................................<BR>......................................<BR>......................................<BR>......................................<BR>................................. Tue, 29 Nov 2016 10:10:00 EST If You Can See It You Can Be It! http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=49540_if_you_can_see_it_you_can_be_it <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <br>Whatever we plant in our subconscious mind and nourish with repetition and emotion will one day become a reality. <br>~Earl Nightingale <br> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <br><br>How often doe we hear people say "I'll believe it when I see it."? Mike Vance, former Dean of Disney University said this is backwards ... Mon, 28 Nov 2016 11:35:00 EST Stay Focus with Positive Thoughts http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=49539_stay_focus_with_positive_thoughts I thought after my gastric bypass, life would be different. It is different as far as the food goes, but the mind is the same.Staying positive is one way I choose to stay in..negative only makes me eat. Even during exercise, I have to stay in a positive mood in order to get the best out of my workout that I can master. Another small trick for me is to look into the mirror every day and say something positive! Like for instants..Love yourself, be kind to yourself each day as though you were ta... Mon, 28 Nov 2016 11:30:00 EST Quo Vadis ? http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=49525_quo_vadis_ <em>536</em> <em>536</em> <em>536</em> <em>536</em> <em>536</em> <em>536</em> <em>536</em> <br>All you have to do is know where you're going. The answers will come to you of their own accord. <br>Earl Nightingale <br> <em>536</em> <em>536</em> <em>536</em> <em>536</em> <em>536</em> <em>536</em> <em>536</em> <br><br>"As Alice approached the fork in the road, the Cheshire Cat appeared in the crock of a tree. Alice asked the cat "Which road should I take?... Sun, 27 Nov 2016 10:59:00 EST Developing an Attitude of Gratitude Can Help You Live a Longer, Happier Life http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=49523_developing_an_attitude_of_gratitude_can_help_you_live_a_longer_happier_life Developing an Attitude of Gratitude Can Help You Live a Longer, Happier Life<br><br>Besides sharing time with family and friends over food, the primary ingredient of the American Thanksgiving holiday is gratitude. While it’s certainly good to have an annual holiday to remind us to express gratitude, there’s much to be said for the benefits of cultivating the spirit of thankfulness year-round.<br><br>People who are thankful for what they have are better able to cope with stress, have more posi... Sun, 27 Nov 2016 10:38:00 EST Remembering to be positive! http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=49515_remembering_to_be_positive Stay positive! I know I didn't put my weight on in one day! I recently had my ankle replaced due to a bad car accident in my 20's. At the age of 40 I was in need for a new ankle & 7 months later here I am. I had gained weight due to very limited mobility. I started back in August to lose 54 pounds. I have lost 22 lbs and 32 more to go! I have to stay upbeat & continue on with my plan! I am very motivated to get this weight off. I want to be the best me I can be. Sometimes I can find myself ... Sat, 26 Nov 2016 14:08:00 EST The amazing benefits of laughter! http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=49514_the_amazing_benefits_of_laughter Laughter really is the "best medicine!" A good laugh can actually improve your health. Laughter can reduce stress, anxiety, and depression, strengthen your immune system, and diminish pain. <br><br>Laughter relaxes the whole body. A good, hearty laugh relieves physical tension and stress, leaving your muscles relaxed for up to 45 minutes after.<br><br>Laughter boosts the immune system. Laughter decreases stress hormones and increases immune cells and infection-fighting antibodies, thus impr... Sat, 26 Nov 2016 13:59:00 EST A Vocation Not a Job http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=49512_a_vocation_not_a_job <em>334</em> <em>334</em> <em>334</em> <em>334</em> <em>334</em> <em>334</em> <br>Get into a line that you will find to be a deep personal interest, something you really enjoy spending twelve to fifteen hours a day working at, and the rest of the time thinking about. <br>~ Earl Nightingale <br> <em>334</em> <em>334</em> <em>334</em> <em>334</em> <em>334</em> <em>334</em> <br><br>"Find something you love to do for a living and you will never have to work a da... Sat, 26 Nov 2016 10:36:00 EST Gold Stars All Around...it really is the little steps that count http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=49506_gold_stars_all_aroundit_really_is_the_little_steps_that_count "One pound lost"...it taunts me every time I log in. That little numerical 'one' symbol that makes my heart descend with a sickening thud into my churning stomach. It's the acrid lump that forms in the back of your throat, that cacophony of shame, defeat, and above all...defensiveness.<br><br>In the court of hunger pangs, it elicits futile pleas of self-defense...<br><br>"...but I worked out EVERY day this week..."<br>"Yes, I had the BIG chocolate bar, but I ate over three days!!!" <br>"...bu... Sat, 26 Nov 2016 02:51:00 EST Attitude Determines Altitude http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=49494_attitude_determines_altitude <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <br> A great attitude does much more than turn on the lights in our worlds; it seems to magically connect us to all sorts of serendipitous opportunities that were somehow absent before the change. Earl Nightingale <br> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <br><br>It is your attitude and not your aptitude that determines your ... Fri, 25 Nov 2016 10:24:00 EST On Being Grateful http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=49478_on_being_grateful <em>426</em> <em>430</em> <em>426</em> <em>430</em> <em>426</em> <em>430</em> <em>426</em> <em>430</em> <em>426</em> <em>430</em> <em>426</em> <em>430</em> <br> If you begin each day being grateful for what you have, then each day you will have more for which to be grateful" ~Zig Ziglar <br> <em>426</em> <em>430</em> <em>426</em> <em>430</em> <em>426</em> <em>430</em> <em>426</em> <em>430</em> <em>426</em> <em>430</em> <em>426</... Thu, 24 Nov 2016 09:23:00 EST It Is Never Goo Late http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=49458_it_is_never_goo_late <em>56</em> <em>56</em> <em>56</em> <em>56</em> <em>56</em> <em>56</em> <em>56</em> <br>There is an immeasurable distance between late and too late. <br>~ Og Mandino<br> <em>56</em> <em>56</em> <em>56</em> <em>56</em> <em>56</em> <em>56</em> <em>56</em> <br><br>Zig Ziglar tells the story of a woman who approached him and said she wanted to go back to college but in four years when she graduated she would be 56 years old. Zig looked at her and thought for a... Wed, 23 Nov 2016 09:14:00 EST Seeking Motivation for the Long Haul http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=49432_seeking_motivation_for_the_long_haul Everywhere I look there are ads that try to motivate us all to workout, lose weight and look great! Well me and my friends at Sparkpeople know that it takes more than just the "feel" of being motivated we MUST move! It is imperitive that we all move. If we don't, we don't just gain weight but a boat load of diseases await us in the next few years. Our friends, our co-workers, our relatives say to keep going, don’t quit. Sometimes, though, you ask, "Why? Why try my hardest when it ends in disa... Mon, 21 Nov 2016 12:43:00 EST Never Give Up http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=49413_never_give_up <em>100</em> <em>100</em> <em>100</em> <em>100</em> <em>100</em> <em>100</em> <em>100</em> <br>Each apparent failure will increase your chances for success at your next attempt. <br>Og Mandino<br> <em>100</em> <em>100</em> <em>100</em> <em>100</em> <em>100</em> <em>100</em> <em>100</em> <br><br>"Never, never, never, never, never, never give up"<br>~ Sir Winston Churchill - commencement address during World War II<br><br>I keep coming back to the same id... Sun, 20 Nov 2016 10:07:00 EST Not a Puppet http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=49396_not_a_puppet <em>100</em> <em>100</em> <em>100</em> <em>100</em> <em>100</em> <em>100</em> <em>100</em> <br>We are no longer puppets being manipulated by outside powerful forces: we become the powerful force ourselves.<br>Leo Buscaglia<br> <em>100</em> <em>100</em> <em>100</em> <em>100</em> <em>100</em> <em>100</em> <em>100</em> <br><br>Lots of external stuff happening today. I need to keep repeating this mantra for this too shall pass.<br><br> <em>100</em> <em... Sat, 19 Nov 2016 08:49:00 EST Staying Positive and Motivated http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=49385_staying_positive_and_motivated I have noticed that when I am eating healthy and regularly exercise (at least every other day - but 5 times per week is better) that I say positive and am much more motivated. It seems to all work together to maintain a positive attitude and a healthy lifestyle. Also, if I am tired -- like after a long day at work -- I have to really watch myself that I don't start the mindless eating. You know what I mean! The bag of chips in front of the television and then -- wham! -- the entire bag is... Fri, 18 Nov 2016 11:58:00 EST Definiteness of Purpose http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=49374_definiteness_of_purpose <em>58</em> <em>58</em> <em>58</em> <em>58</em> <em>58</em> <em>58</em> <em>58</em> <br> "We cannot do everything at once, but we can do something at once. <br>- Calvin Coolidge, American president<br> <em>58</em> <em>58</em> <em>58</em> <em>58</em> <em>58</em> <em>58</em> <em>58</em> <br><br>Yesterday I quoted W. Clement Stone is "The Success System That Never Fails" wherein he stated that Definiteness of Purpose if the second stepping stone to succes... Thu, 17 Nov 2016 14:39:00 EST Can You Over Do Thanksgiving...? http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=49369_can_you_over_do_thanksgiving For some Thanksgiving is a Tradition when family gets together and stress starts to rise in some people cause the chit chat is a million and one questions.. What and where are you going this year.. Does it stress you out...? Well now that all the kids are out of the house and we have been through the empty nest and now rescuing dogs.. I think we will have it covered.. When all the kids would come over with their friends and then his family and then adding kids.. Our Traditions have changed a... Thu, 17 Nov 2016 11:00:00 EST Staying calm in stressful times http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=49365_staying_calm_in_stressful_times We are each dealing with major stress in our lives, be it family, work, finances, health, or anything else. Sleepless nights, churning stomachs, and tension headaches don't make things any better. Accept that tough times come to ALL of us. Here are a few strategies to help you feel stronger, more empowered, and ready to deal with future challenges.<br><br>1, BREATH DEEPLY. <br>Try breathing exercises. The first step in staying calm during tough times is relaxing your mind and body so you... Thu, 17 Nov 2016 07:30:00 EST Sunlight and Darkness http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=49347_sunlight_and_darkness <em>67</em> <em>8</em> <em>67</em> <em>8</em> <em>67</em> <em>8</em> <em>67</em> <em>8</em> <em>67</em> <em>8</em> <em>67</em> <em>8</em> <em>67</em> <em>8</em> <br>I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness for it shows me the stars. <br>Og Mandino<br> <em>67</em> <em>8</em> <em>67</em> <em>8</em> <em>67</em> <em>8</em> <em>67</em> <em>8</em> <em>67</em> <em>8</em> <em>67</em> <em>8<... Wed, 16 Nov 2016 09:16:00 EST How can I stay positive in order to achieve my weight loss goals? http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=49341_how_can_i_stay_positive_in_order_to_achieve_my_weight_loss_goals I think we can all agree that the hard part with exercising is staying motivated. I totally understand and I go through this every so often. I try to remind myself by following a few simple rules that allow me to keep on track of my goals so I can continue to be encouraged with my exercising. Some of them start with short term goals or taking baby steps. <br><br>Staying positive during your weight loss journey is one of the most important parts of achieving your goals. There is, after all, a ... Tue, 15 Nov 2016 22:21:00 EST Stay positive, no failures, just lessons to learn http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=49338_stay_positive_no_failures_just_lessons_to_learn I share this as one of the unrelenting comeback kids, who is a juicy older crone. I have been around the sun many more times than a lot of the young 'uns out there and know that setbacks can be a downer. I have had so many I know the feeling oh so well. However, hitting the mat is not a time for to get beat up and lie on the mat, licking our wounds while we bleed out. <br><br>For me, the secret to transforming scars into stars is to lie on the mat for a few moments, use Yoga deep breathing... Tue, 15 Nov 2016 20:33:00 EST Pay Attention To What You Think Best http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=49336_pay_attention_to_what_you_think_best When asked about my "secret" I immediately thought of how I have always carried on my life and the major decisions I've had to make. I can tell you of the many times I've been told by those "smarter" more "in the know" of what they said I should do. In fact many times it was more they seemed to insist. But I was smart enough, even in my 20's to think to myself (an inner voice, if you will) that I knew by what I considered to be common sense what was really best for me and I always did just... Tue, 15 Nov 2016 19:45:00 EST Feeling Better Today http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=49328_feeling_better_today I have been counting calories for some time now, preparing meals ahead of time and getting more exercise then before. But my Secret that keeps me going is attitude. While in the Marines long ago I read a quote by Charles R. Swindoll - “The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failure, than successes, than what other people thin... Tue, 15 Nov 2016 02:18:00 EST I'm Beating Depression One "Moment" at a Time. http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=49321_im_beating_depression_one_moment_at_a_time I read the featured article about making the most of every moment today. I am constantly amazed at how often these articles give me major “Aha!” moments. This one really hit home.<br><br>I have struggled with depression most of my life. The older I get, the more I have learned and applied coping skills. Of course, many of those skills revolve around making the most of happy moments.<br><br>I have friends on social media who also struggle with depression. I realize depression is an illnes... Mon, 14 Nov 2016 14:49:00 EST Happiness Is ! http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=49316_happiness_is_ <em>30</em> <em>30</em> <em>30</em> <em>30</em> <em>30</em> <em>30</em> <em>30</em> <br>Realize that true happiness lies within you. Waste no time and effort searching for peace and contentment and joy in the world outside. Remember that there is no happiness in having or in getting, but only in giving. Reach out. Share. Smile. Hug. Happiness is a perfume you cannot pour on others without getting a few drops on yourself. <br>~Og Mandino<br> <em>30</em> <em>30</em> <... Mon, 14 Nov 2016 09:30:00 EST Stick to the plan http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=49308_stick_to_the_plan It's as simple as that, stick to the plan. For me, it's the paleo plan. It all started with my dog crossing the rainbow bridge. Paddy, my beloved Old English Sheepdog, passed on January 9, 2016 after 14 years together. I knew it was coming and as much as I hated to do it, I knew it was time. Much like her mom and in Paddy style, she ate treats until the very end. After 14 years we had grown old and fat together. I said when she crossed the bridge that I was going to apply for graduate school ... Sun, 13 Nov 2016 17:47:00 EST Honey and Vinegar http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=49304_honey_and_vinegar <em>104</em> <em>104</em> <em>104</em> <em>104</em> <em>104</em> <em>104</em> <em>104</em> <br>I seek constantly to improve my manners and graces, for they are the sugar to which all are attracted. <br>Og Mandino<br> <em>104</em> <em>104</em> <em>104</em> <em>104</em> <em>104</em> <em>104</em> <em>104</em> <br><br>I was never really up on catching flies but everyone has always told me you can catch more flies withy honey than with vinegar. I guess some... Sun, 13 Nov 2016 12:03:00 EST Don't be hard/negative on yourself http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=49291_dont_be_hardnegative_on_yourself When we send ourselves messages such as:<br><br>1) I CAN'T DO THIS !!<br><br>2) I CAN'T EXERCISE I am NOT in good enough shape<br><br>3) I ATE TO MUCH !<br><br>4) I HATE MYSELF<br><br>5) I am NOT good/worthwhile <br><br>Etc<br><br>We get the picture with the above. All of these types of messages to ourselves are things of which we'd NEVER say to someone else, why do it to ourselves? <br><br>In life often way to many times we are told "You shouldn't of,, you are (Fat, ugly , stupid etc) etc.... Sat, 12 Nov 2016 16:55:00 EST Endings and Beginnings http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=49284_endings_and_beginnings <em>32</em> <em>32</em> <em>32</em> <em>32</em> <em>32</em> <em>32</em> <br> I will not allow yesterday's success to lull me into today's complacency, for this is the great foundation of failure. <br>~ Og Mandino<br> <em>32</em> <em>32</em> <em>32</em> <em>32</em> <em>32</em> <em>32</em> <br><br>Remember as I pointed out yesterday, when pursuing a goal, the finish line is but the starting line for your next goal for success is defined as the continuing accomplis... Sat, 12 Nov 2016 10:04:00 EST Goal Setting ! http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=49271_goal_setting_ <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <br>The victory of success is half won when one gains the habit of setting goals and achieving them. Even the most tedious chore will become endurable as you parade through each day convinced that every task, no matter how menial or boring, brings you closer to fulfilling your dreams.<br>Og Mandino<br> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> ... Fri, 11 Nov 2016 10:16:00 EST Don't Worry Be Happy... http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=49261_dont_worry_be_happy When you go on a Journey to loose with you need positive attitude and go with it.. It is all kinds commercials that are bombarding you with the latest ways to loose weight and miracle drinks to pills.. you will lose weight in a short period of time.. but chances are that you will gain back more weight than you had originally lost... So what good is that..? You go on these Soups and things to loose fifteen pounds in a couple of weeks.. diets are designed such that a you can sustain this type ... Thu, 10 Nov 2016 15:29:00 EST Accentuate the Positive http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=49256_accentuate_the_positive <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <br>Do not listen to those who weep and complain, for their disease is contagious. <br>Og Mandino<br> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <br><br>In his Successful Life Seminars, Ed Foreman enumerates twelve habits that separate successful people from the also-rans. Number One is "Don't complain, condemn or criticize". Thi... Thu, 10 Nov 2016 09:43:00 EST Be All That You Can Be http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=49249_be_all_that_you_can_be <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <br>The person who knows one thing and does it better than anyone else, even if it only be the art of raising lentils, receives the crown he merits. If he raises all his energy to that end, he is a benefactor of mankind and its rewarded as such. <br>Og Mandino<br> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <br><br>Annie Sullivan, ... Wed, 9 Nov 2016 16:48:00 EST When Others Want You to Change You http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=49245_when_others_want_you_to_change_you Are people wanting you to be someone you aren't?<br><br>Just keep on being you.<br><br>Not everyone has to LIKE us or LOVE us as people. We have a right to our opinion and thoughts. We have the right to expression. We have the right to believe in all things we believe in no matter who 'agrees' or 'disagrees' with us. <br><br>Acquaintances and friends come and go and only under scrutiny or disagreed opinions do we sometimes find out who will stand beside us in the end. If a supposed 'friend' c... Wed, 9 Nov 2016 10:45:00 EST Today is the Day! http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=49228_today_is_the_day <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <br>Learn from the past, set vivid, detailed goals for the future, and live in the only moment of time over which you have any control: now. <br>~Denis Waitley <br> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <br><br>"Yesterday is but a memory and tomorrow a mere vision but today, well lived will make every yesterday a memory of joy and every tomorrow a vision... Tue, 8 Nov 2016 08:47:00 EST My Success So Far http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=49221_my_success_so_far First I pray. That is a big part of my life so that is what I do first. I do find strength and peace and encouragement from God when I take, even my desire to lose weight to prayer.<br><br>And I stick to it (it being the diet, actually a life style modification, not a diet) even when I am board silly with the food I am eating, out for the evening, or faced with those who want to force me to eat goodies. <br><br>I have a splurge day but the rest of the time I stick to the diet I have mapped o... Mon, 7 Nov 2016 18:14:00 EST I'm Good at Being Me Always How Bout You http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=49219_im_good_at_being_me_always_how_bout_you It's that time of the year where I take inventory of myself. I keep listening to upbeat music and more positive thoughts from my favorite ministers/preachers. I even look at quotes that help me focus on becoming a better "me."<br><br>My thoughts are swirling and whirling about being the best I can be on a daily basis. I'm great at motivating others but what do I do when I need more motivation. <br><br>So I'm taking this time and using it as a fun way to pat myself on the back for the little c... Mon, 7 Nov 2016 15:33:00 EST Never Give Up!! http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=49208_never_give_up I had a rough week. My monitor gave up the ghost but fortunately an extended warranty covered it. But the replacement monitor, cheaper and giving me a credit is proving to be a lemon. Add to that I did not have the right plug in and had to buy an $80 one because the cheaper one was out of stock negating the credit and then some. So many frustrating trips back and forth getting it settled. Not the least of which was waiting in the phone line up for a warranty activation number only to be ... Mon, 7 Nov 2016 00:29:00 EST Dare to Say "NO" http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=49185_dare_to_say_no You may suffer from any one of a collage of ailments. It could be OCD, ADD, ADHD, Anxiety, PTSD or you name it, there is a name 'for' it... but one of the secrets of success is to stay grounded during any weight transformation.<br><br>There is a balance within your own life to others lives that you have to find and that may include telling friends and loved ones the word, "No."<br><br>It doesn't make you a bad person it means you are taking care of yourself and trust me you have a right to d... Sat, 5 Nov 2016 16:54:00 EST Rally Your Friends http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=49141_rally_your_friends During hard times that fall upon you and especially under circumstances that you cannot control while attempting to follow good guidelines of eating and you feel stressed, "Rally Your Friends!"<br><br>There is nothing like the joy of inspiration and happiness among friends and family that can come together in harder times when you feel like you may be falling towards defeat.<br><br>It doesn't matter what the reason is or even if you feel like it's a silly reason. <br><br>Staying on your guar... Wed, 2 Nov 2016 23:54:00 EST Simplifying your lifestyle: http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=49131_simplifying_your_lifestyle Fill your life with people you love, and go do something together<br><br>Eliminate stress in your day. ...<br>Complain less. ...<br>Say 'yes' less. ...<br>Want less. ...<br><br> <img src="http://photosaws.sparkpeople.com/guid/c6f130da-ed2f-4501-851f-c9c4f275b715.JPG"><br><br>OWNING A PET CAN HAVE THERAPEUTIC VALUE<br><br>GIVEN the opportunity, most pet owners will rave about the joys of sharing their homes with an animal, be it a collie or a chameleon. But they may not realize that, beyond pl... Wed, 2 Nov 2016 01:31:00 EST I can and I will http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=49107_i_can_and_i_will The best things happen when you realize you are in control. It is not about being so rigid that there is no flexibility in your plan (unless that is what REALLY works for you!) - but instead to me, it is about staying the course, realizing you've got this, and remaining focused on the good things. <br><br>Staying positive changes everything. You can face a setback and turn it into an opportunity. You can look it as being progress, and a step in the right direction, even if you are not quite w... Mon, 31 Oct 2016 21:20:00 EST My Biggest Stress Reducer http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=49079_my_biggest_stress_reducer When stress has a hold on me, "I go" to my "Secret Hiding Place" I first stop, close my eyes, and get quiet, in either my recliner or, even better, my soft, 3 inch thick memory foam mattress covered bed with between soft and cool, 600-count (600 threads per inch), silk-like, sky blue Egyptian sheets, in my "cold, dark, "Woman Cave"!! <br><br>I begin to meditate, to fix my mind on that place I visited so many years ago, thirty years ago to be exact, when stationed in Europe while in the Un... Sun, 30 Oct 2016 04:14:00 EST Now What are you going to do...? http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=49072_now_what_are_you_going_to_do Now that you have got to a place and you hit the dreaded plateau.. If your reading this you need one to stay positive and not to look at the scale.. There are a lot of reasons this happens and I hit about three or four.. Yes I have been there and had to step back and wonder I am really doing something wrong or is it just me... Me me me You always think the one thing between you and the weigh loss is all about something your doing wrong.. Not the answer...Weight loss shakes...protein bars and ... Sat, 29 Oct 2016 13:43:00 EST Let the Past Be the Past http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=49059_let_the_past_be_the_past How many New Years Eve resolutions have we made in our lives and not followed through?<br><br>How many times have we made suggestive promises to our children, spouse or other friends and loved ones that, "This time I will do it," and not followed through with our goals and plans?<br><br>How many times have we beat ourselves up over simply ONE day of not following our plans and goals and then let that one mistake ruin a week or a month or a years worth of work and then jumped back into old hab... Fri, 28 Oct 2016 13:46:00 EST Tempus Fugit ! http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=49054_tempus_fugit_ <em>12</em> <em>12</em> <em>12</em> <em>12</em> <em>12</em> <em>12</em> <em>12</em> <br>Cherish each hour of this day for it can never return. <br>Og Mandino<br> <em>12</em> <em>12</em> <em>12</em> <em>12</em> <em>12</em> <em>12</em> <em>12</em> <br><br>One of the self-help gurus uses a similar parable: If you were given $1440 every morning and told you were free to spend that money in any way you wanted and the only catch was that you had to spend it t... Fri, 28 Oct 2016 08:39:00 EST Breaking Your Bonds http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=49042_breaking_your_bonds <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <br>Bondage is - subjection to external influences and internal negative thoughts and attitudes.<br>~ W. Clement Stone<br> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <br><br>When we think of "bondage" our thoughts immediately conjure up a picture of a person tied to a chair or locked in a cell but that sort of bondage is relatively easy to deal with. The bon... Thu, 27 Oct 2016 09:12:00 EST Finishing Stronger than Ever http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=49036_finishing_stronger_than_ever So I am sitting here just wondering what am I doing here right now? I am supposed to be working but I just don't have the energy or strength to deal right now. This is supposed to be my extra and it seems like I have to put up with people with small minds some times just in order to finish stronger than ever before? Why is that? That right when you find something you like doing there is a person or thing that just blocks completion.<br><br>I often wonder about this all the time. What ifs? If ... Wed, 26 Oct 2016 19:08:00 EST The Pathway to Success http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=49031_the_pathway_to_success <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <br>All personal achievement starts in the mind of the individual. Your personal achievement starts in your mind. The first step is to know exactly what your problem, goal or desire is.<br>~ W. Clement Stone<br> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <br><br>Again, we find that there is a limited number of good ideas but an in... Wed, 26 Oct 2016 09:59:00 EST Forgiveness Inside Yourself http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=49027_forgiveness_inside_yourself <img src="http://photosaws.sparkpeople.com/guid/9ac8027d-3b15-4398-9623-35c31463700a.JPG"><br>Forgiveness is a really hard thing to consider in life sometimes especially when we battle with all kinds of outside forces that compound reasons why we don't 'feel' like forgiving but to truly be at peace we know we should.<br><br> <img src="http://photosaws.sparkpeople.com/guid/45747423-a442-4ce2-8c9e-ffa01cc3765f.JPG"><br>Many people will let this feeling of "I won't do it because..." fester insi... Tue, 25 Oct 2016 23:19:00 EST En Thu Si Asm http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=49020_en_thu_si_asm <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <br>When you discover your mission, you will feel its demand. It will fill you with enthusiasm and a burning desire to get to work on it. <br>~ W. Clement Stone <br> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <br><br>The key word in Mr. Stone's quotation is "enthusiasm". Going back to the Green, the word enthusiasm comes from "en... Tue, 25 Oct 2016 11:44:00 EST God Bless America! http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=49002_god_bless_america <em>232</em> <em>232</em> <em>232</em> <em>232</em> <em>232</em> <em>232</em> <em>232</em> <br>Going to vote this morning. God bless America! <br> <em>232</em> <em>232</em> <em>232</em> <em>232</em> <em>232</em> <em>232</em> <em>232</em> <br><br>This is probably the strangest and most divisive election that this country has had in a long, long time but remember the following which was posted on someone's FaceBook wall several weeks ago and bears repeating.... Mon, 24 Oct 2016 08:22:00 EST Remove the Clutter! http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48988_remove_the_clutter <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <br>Never again clutter your days or nights with so many menial and unimportant things that you have no time to accept a real challenge when it comes along. This applies to play as well as work. A day merely survived is no cause for celebration. You are not here to fritter away your precious hours when you have the ability to accomplish so much by making a slight change in your routine. No ... Sun, 23 Oct 2016 11:02:00 EST Neutralize Your Urges http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48972_neutralize_your_urges <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <br>When you do the wrong thing, knowing it is wrong, you do so because you haven't developed the habit of effectively controlling or neutralizing strong inner urges that tempt you<br> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <br><br>Habits are powerful things. Habits fall into two basic categories, good habits and bad habits... Sat, 22 Oct 2016 11:09:00 EST Depression and Weight Loss http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48970_depression_and_weight_loss This is something I'm dealing with in a major way right now. It happens every year about this time. I begin to feel myself sliding into the depression and by Christmas time, it will be at its worse. It lessens a bit as we move toward March. <br><br>In part, yes, it's SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder) but the biggest part of my depression is really from severe PTSD which is a result of severe Child Sexual Abuse that started when I was an infant.<br><br>Much of the abuse, the worst of it, happe... Sat, 22 Oct 2016 01:31:00 EST Keep Looking up.. http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48964_keep_looking_up Right now is what you need to look at.. Don't look at the whole picture today but take the time to look at just right now.. Your Imagination will tell you all kinds of things and you will look at it as your are defeated but you have to just thoughts and even some comments to the side and know you can do this.. If you give in to defeat you will always give into it.. Take a break and take time to make a notebook and put starting weight and how you fell cause when you look back you can do this..... Fri, 21 Oct 2016 15:29:00 EST Count Your Blessings http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48959_count_your_blessings <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <br>Count your blessings. Once you realize how valuable you are and how much you have going for you, the smiles will return, the sun will break out, the music will play, and you will finally be able to move forward the life that God intended for you with grace, strength, courage, and confidence. <br>Og Mandino<br> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <... Fri, 21 Oct 2016 10:15:00 EST Asking Questions ! http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48943_asking_questions_ <em>58</em> <em>58</em> <em>58</em> <em>58</em> <em>58</em> <em>58</em> <em>58</em> <br>Take the attitude of a student, never be too big to ask questions, never know too much to learn something new. <br>~ Og Mandino<br> <em>58</em> <em>58</em> <em>58</em> <em>58</em> <em>58</em> <em>58</em> <em>58</em> <br><br>Leo Buscaglia said that his father required that he and his siblings learn something new each day and they would have to tell him what they learne... Thu, 20 Oct 2016 09:45:00 EST don't give in.. http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48942_dont_give_in Don't dwell on the negative. If you made a mistake then learn from it. I always say " If you slip...do the flip...and get back on track..just don't let it spiral out of control.<br><br>Life is full of bumps on this road of weight loss journey. We sometimes forget that we are the ones who make or break it. You have to travel this road...there are not short cuts. Even though I had a gastric sleeve operation...I still had to do the work. I had to keep moving and walking. I have to watch w... Thu, 20 Oct 2016 09:09:00 EST Believe In YourSelf http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48938_believe_in_yourself For the Women I Know: <br>(Something I wrote to a friend 15 Years Ago...)<br><br>Healing comes from within, ...not from outside yourself or from others around you. Step back and look inside and BELIEVE that you have the strength. Frivolous conversations, time spent doing meaningless things; empty promises and false banter from those that don't truly appreciate you are just that: Empty. You are a beautiful, smart & a strong woman. You already have the building blocks to MAKE your own happiness... Wed, 19 Oct 2016 23:40:00 EST It's All About Forgiving Yourself http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48927_its_all_about_forgiving_yourself Everyone has a weakness when it comes to food. We all cheat here and there. Sometimes it is due to stress or the environment you are in. Sometimes it is at a meal or for the day or weekend or vacation. When it happens it is important to forgive yourself and move on. Don't wallow in it. Take a walk, plan your next move (or meal). Just Breathe.<br><br>We all have the power to forgive and move on.<br>Try to make the choices that move you forward not back. They are not always the easiest ones... Wed, 19 Oct 2016 11:47:00 EST Fail Your Way to Success http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48923_fail_your_way_to_success <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <br>Sound character provides the power with which a person may ride the emergencies of life instead of being overwhelmed by them. Failure is... the highway to success. <br>Og Mandino<br> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <br><br>"A person who has never failed is a person who has never tried" ~ Unknown<br><br>It is often sa... Wed, 19 Oct 2016 10:06:00 EST On Being a Mountain http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48900_on_being_a_mountain <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <br>I am here for a purpose and that purpose is to grow into a mountain, not to shrink to a grain of sand. Henceforth will I apply ALL my efforts to become the highest mountain of all and I will strain my potential until it cries for mercy. <br>Og Mandino<br> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <br><br>"Je pense ergo je jui... Tue, 18 Oct 2016 08:42:00 EST Stop and think plateau http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48889_stop_and_think_plateau How did you get to this point and have not hit the brick wall of a Plateau.. You want to give up but if your determined then read this and know it is not you .. Don't give up and run and finish the race.. If you need a support person and can't find someone well I am here.. You need someone to lift you up when you are down.. You need to know someone cares.. You need to have a go to when your not feeling like I can't do one more step.. I understand that you are not loving it and feeling it all ... Mon, 17 Oct 2016 15:13:00 EST Do More ! http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48885_do_more_ <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <br>Always render more and better service than is expected of you, no matter what your task may be. <br>~ Og Mandino<br> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <br><br>"Just for today, do more than is expected of you."<br>~ James Barrie<br><br>Again we have an example of people appropriating each others idea and repeating them. Imitation's being the sinc... Mon, 17 Oct 2016 10:11:00 EST When Feeling Alone http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48878_when_feeling_alone When feeling alone….<br><br><br>I would suppose I can start by saying that almost every person at one time or another has felt ‘alone’ in their lives in one form or another. Sometimes it leads to some pretty severe depression and unfortunately some take it to the next level thinking even about suicide.<br><br>In the words of, “Secret of Success…” I would suppose I have to think back to a lot of my failures and what it took to get out of those ruts. If I were to try to give advice in a ‘succ... Sun, 16 Oct 2016 20:25:00 EST Boomerangs ! ! ! http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48872_boomerangs_ <em>41</em> <em>41</em> <em>41</em> <em>41</em> <em>41</em> <em>41</em> <em>41</em> <br>The game of life is the game of boomerangs. Our thoughts, deeds and words return to us sooner or later, with astounding accuracy. <br>~Florence Shinn<br> <em>41</em> <em>41</em> <em>41</em> <em>41</em> <em>41</em> <em>41</em> <em>41</em> <br><br>Not really a secret of success or maybe it is. When my daughter-in-law had breast cancer, the local youth sports association... Sun, 16 Oct 2016 11:22:00 EST One Step at a Time... http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48866_one_step_at_a_time I still have a long way to go, but my "secret" is that you must take things One Day at a Time.<br><br> Just because you ate more calories today than you should, doesn't mean you failed. It means you are human. So, tomorrow, simply work on eating a little better, moving a little more. Don't worry about yesterday, it's already past. Don't worry about tomorrow, today has enough problems of its own. <br><br>I have 200 pounds left to lose. If I concentrate on that, I get discouraged, so instead, I... Sat, 15 Oct 2016 22:41:00 EST One thing at a time.... http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48862_one_thing_at_a_time It takes one thing at a time.. You think that by the time you find us here at Spark People that you will bounce back into shape real fast.. You want to be at the weight in a month.. Well hold onto your bloomers cause it is going to take a while.. Yes your at the right place One stop shopping.. Spark People is here and ready to help but watching the videos or skipping the blogs or then eating a whole bag of chips while siting on the couch.. well maybe you think you may have to realize the fact... Sat, 15 Oct 2016 20:55:00 EST You Are Where You Are http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48852_you_are_where_you_are <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <br>Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great ones make you feel that you, too, can become great. - <br>Mark Twain, writer and satirist<br> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <br><br>When you lay down with dogs, you wake up with fleas!<br><br>These adages sho... Sat, 15 Oct 2016 08:21:00 EST Accentuate the Positive http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48840_accentuate_the_positive <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <br>Accentuate the positive. <em>41</em> <br>Eliminate the negative. <em>234</em> <br>Don't mess with Mr. In-Between. <em>24</em> <br> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <br><br>The words from a 1940's song, still appropriate today. Positivity is one of the strongest forces for good i... Fri, 14 Oct 2016 09:59:00 EST Learning to Love MY Body No Matter What http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48831_learning_to_love_my_body_no_matter_what I am someone who is very fascinated by how women’s perceived images of themselves ultimately affects their success, I was especially interested to hear from my family, friends and co-workers about products directly correlate to body image. Each woman had compelling advice for us women, but it was actually one of comment,that my friend found out about a particular product that really stuck with me. She said that one of the biggest sellers at Spanx were their products in XS.<br><br>Are skinny w... Thu, 13 Oct 2016 16:05:00 EST Going Up? Going Down! http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48826_going_up_going_down <em>211</em> <em>211</em> <em>211</em> <em>211</em> <em>211</em> <em>211</em> <em>211</em> <br>How far you go in life depends on your being tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving, tolerant of the weak and the strong, someday you will be all of these<br> <em>211</em> <em>211</em> <em>211</em> <em>211</em> <em>211</em> <em>211</em> <em>211</em> <br><br>"Be mindful of how you treat people on your way up ... Thu, 13 Oct 2016 10:27:00 EST Break It Down http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48823_break_it_down When I first worked out how much I had to lose to get from my start weight to the very top of the healthy BMI range, my heart sank. 178lbs. More than my goal weight! It seemed huge. Insurmountable. Unachievable. I wanted to give up before I'd even started.<br><br>So I broke it down. Instead of aiming to lose 178lbs, I aimed to get from 324 to 300, a nice round number. Then 25 more, 25 more, 25 more; 7 stages, each one about 25lb, slowly taking me from start to finish. I'd set my SparkPeople t... Thu, 13 Oct 2016 02:07:00 EST Feeling is Believing..... http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48813_feeling_is_believing I don't always believe that I'm an attractive woman. I know boo hoo hoo & cry you a freakin river.... HA!! Even though I've been told that and have had been men pursue me, I still don't think I am. When people tell me that I'm attractive, I think what does THIS person want from me now? It's just my mind works and others just like it. Most of the time, when I hear compliments I gracious thank them and then feel like I'm in the high beams of on coming traffic. I mean seriously what will it take... Wed, 12 Oct 2016 12:24:00 EST Change - Reinventing Yourself! http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48807_change_reinventing_yourself We all have phases in our lives which require change, a reinvention of ourselves. . . (you know . . . major life changes that happen . . . diagnosis w/a chronic illness, marriage, divorce, loss of a loved one, job loss or change . . . the list goes on). <br><br>So, there’s that word again . . . change. It is a part of life. Life is not static, it’s always changing. We can’t avoid it, so how do we deal with it to embrace change and get on with the process of reinventing ourselves?<br><br... Wed, 12 Oct 2016 07:25:00 EST Think! Think! Think! http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48795_think_think_think <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <br>Remember, happiness doesn't depend on who you are or what you have; it depends solely on what you think. ~Dale Carnegie<br> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <br><br>"Nothing is bad or good but that thinking makes it so"<br>William Shakespeare, Hamlet<br><br>The same idea just keep recurring but it is necessary to ke... Tue, 11 Oct 2016 09:01:00 EST Stress, Cortisol and How to Handle It! http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48775_stress_cortisol_and_how_to_handle_it Cortisol – that hormone that the adrenal glands produce in response to situations that allow us to flee the situation or stay and “do battle” – dubbed the “flight or fight” syndrome. This can happen in response to either perceived physical or emotional challenges. So, it does serve us well, EXCEPT when the stress perceived doesn’t end! This leads to sleep problems, depression, weight gain, blood sugar abnormalities and other problems like hypertension and diabetes. Bottom line is that pr... Mon, 10 Oct 2016 09:33:00 EST Coming To It, Getting Through It http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48761_coming_to_it_getting_through_it <em>101</em> <em>101</em> <em>101</em> <em>101</em> <em>101</em> <em>101</em> <em>101</em> <br>"Success is not measured by what you accomplish, but by the opposition you have encountered, and the courage with which you have maintained the struggle against overwhelming odds." <br>-Orison Swett Marde <br> <em>101</em> <em>101</em> <em>101</em> <em>101</em> <em>101</em> <em>101</em> <em>101</em> <br><br>If the Lord will lead you to it, He will lead you thro... Sun, 9 Oct 2016 11:34:00 EST Stress Hurts a Healthy Diet http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48716_stress_hurts_a_healthy_diet Stress Hurts a Healthy Diet<br><br><br>Your mental state, including negative emotions like stress as well as depression, and your diet can alter levels of inflammation in your body.<br><br>Health problems such as obesity, insulin resistance, type 2 diabetes, periodontal disease, stroke and heart disease are all rooted in inflammation, particularly chronic inflammation that may fester out of control in your body.<br><br>Ordinarily, eating a healthy diet is one of the best ways to keep inflamma... Thu, 6 Oct 2016 11:33:00 EST Never Give Up http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48711_never_give_up Even on your worst day where you maybe cheat on your diet or don't exercise, there will always be tomorrow where you can start over again with a brand new day. <br>When you catch yourself in these moments you have to ask yourself if it is worth it. Sometimes it is worth it because you need a break from what you have been doing. Denying yourself over and over can lead to a breakdown of will power that can explode in your face, so it is best to reward yourself every once in a while. <br>Don't g... Thu, 6 Oct 2016 07:51:00 EST Always Have Faith http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48696_always_have_faith I was overweight for most of my life, but didn't really realize how much till my daddy passed away and my fiancée at the time left me for another woman. Both of those things in the short amount of time really took a toll on my emotions and my self esteem. I moved back to Virginia and started my life over here. I got a new job as a waitress and the weight just started coming off quickly. So quickly in fact that I still have excess skin on my stomach and thighs. Its gross to me, but my boyfrien... Wed, 5 Oct 2016 10:52:00 EST I there a secret? http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48692_i_there_a_secret I post to this site and I have some tips that I use for my journey but as I read the member blogs and see the ups and downs I wonder is there really a secret? I think that the key is a healthy lifestyle journey. We are on a journey and like any journey the days will be different, the roads will never be the same and our emotional responses to our journey will vary. If there is a secret it may be love yourself and don't be harsh with your self when you don't maintain a healthy lifestyle. ... Wed, 5 Oct 2016 07:42:00 EST Fall time is great http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48685_fall_time_is_great I love fall time each year. This will be the first year without Mom since she passed away last December. We always took a nice couple hour drive with her to enjoy the colors. My wife and I enjoy listening to her ooh and ahh about the beautiful colors as we went along. Then she got real excited about a batch we would pull over and pick her a sample. I enjoy the following poem.<br><br> Especially when the October wind<br>With frosty fingers punishes my hair,<br>Caught by the crabbing sun I... Tue, 4 Oct 2016 23:28:00 EST How to Lose Weight When You Have No Time http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48684_how_to_lose_weight_when_you_have_no_time The scale doesn’t care how many hours you have in your day—only how wisely you spend them.<br><br>Slim-down strategies for busy people<br>If packing your lunch, cooking dinner every night, and getting to the gym regularly sound like things you’ll be able to do half past never, you may think that real weight loss just isn’t in the cards for you right now. It’s true: healthy weight loss can be a time commitment, especially if you’re overweight thanks to a job that keeps you sedentary for much o... Tue, 4 Oct 2016 21:17:00 EST Just When You Think All is Well... Boom Cancer http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48682_just_when_you_think_all_is_well_boom_cancer Yes when you are getting set and all is going well Boom it hits you.. I can say this cause I thought things were going so well and I got hit in the face with a dose of reality.. I thought I can do this and all is well.. Spark People was kicking in and all was well in the world... but not so said the third little pig.. The big Bad Word hit me with full force.. Cancer.. I thought I was home free and then a test came back with Cancer again for the third time... Now I have had this before and it... Tue, 4 Oct 2016 19:19:00 EST i walk more and eat better foods http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48677_i_walk_more_and_eat_better_foods i enjoy the out doors. i walk Bella she loves people and wants to walk past being tired. in less moms home. then she only walks to get things done then home again. <br>i clean apartments and ground i have a basics of maintenance but are not used yet. so i get messed up in my head about the funds being spent when i can do the job. so i walk listen to Audible books .it works. of coarse planning a friday night fire pit helps <br>My old life was a mess. i was an abused child. i hated every living... Tue, 4 Oct 2016 14:02:00 EST Get On With It! http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48663_get_on_with_it <em>41</em> <em>41</em> <em>41</em> <em>41</em> <em>41</em> <em>41</em> <br> "Don't brood. Get on with living and loving. You don't have forever. "<br> ~ Leo Buscaglia<br> <em>41</em> <em>41</em> <em>41</em> <em>41</em> <em>41</em> <em>41</em> <br><br>"Life was not made for working and worrying, life was made for laughing and loving and living!" <br> ~ Ed Foreman<br><br>Two simple statements but perhaps the most universally ignored of all of the truisms t... Mon, 3 Oct 2016 12:57:00 EST Laughter Really IS the Best Medicine! http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48657_laughter_really_is_the_best_medicine Ever heard that advice that laughter is the best medicine? Well, here’s proof that it is. Here’s a list of what laughter can do for you!<br><br>Laughter improves mental health, aerobic endurance. Muscles are strengthened and relaxed with laughter. The contraction of muscles used in laughter increases oxygenation and blood flow. Endorphins (feel good hormones) are released so you feel more emotionally and physically relaxed).<br><br>What are some of the health benefits of laughter? It l... Mon, 3 Oct 2016 08:31:00 EST Making Memories ! http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48646_making_memories_ <em>30</em> <em>30</em> <em>30</em> <em>30</em> <em>30</em> <em>30</em> <em>30</em> <br>Take vacations. Go as many places as you can. You can always make money. You can't always make memories.<br> <em>30</em> <em>30</em> <em>30</em> <em>30</em> <em>30</em> <em>30</em> <em>30</em> <br><br>A story told by one of the self-help gurus tells of a man who was playing baseball with his sons in the front yard. The wife / mother called from the porch that th... Sun, 2 Oct 2016 12:46:00 EST Secret of Success 1 http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48634_secret_of_success_1 *~..~*..*~..~*..*~..~*..*~..~*..*~..~*..*~<BR>..~*..*~..~*..*~..~*..*~..~*..*~..~*..<BR>*~..~*..*~..~*..*~..~*..*~..~*..<br><b<BR>r>Believe in yourself each and every day! Speak about yourself in positive ways, even when it feels as if it is the most difficult thing to do! Believe in yourself and keeping positive is a key to the success you want to achieve!<br><br>BElieve in YOUrself and most importantly BE YOU!<br><br>*~..~*..*~..~*..*~..~*..*~..~*<BR>..*~..~*..*~..~*..*~..~*..*~..~*..*~..<B... Sat, 1 Oct 2016 17:21:00 EST This Election Mess http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48626_this_election_mess <em>33</em> <em>33</em> <em>33</em> <em>33</em> <em>33</em> <em>33</em> <em>33</em> <br>No matter who wins, this election will boost alcohol sales.<br> <em>33</em> <em>33</em> <em>33</em> <em>33</em> <em>33</em> <em>33</em> <em>33</em> <br><br>I came across this on FaceBook:<br><br>Long after this election is over Trump and Hillary will still be rich. Half of us will be able to proclaim “we won”. The other half will have four years to say “that’s why ... Sat, 1 Oct 2016 11:02:00 EST Day by Day http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48622_day_by_day When you have a large amount of weight to lose and you think of the overall goal it can seem very daunting and almost impossible. If you break it down and think that by the end of October you want to lose 3 pounds and then you focus day by day on losing those 3 pounds it seems to work much better for me than to think I have 50 pounds to lose. When I think of the 50 pounds everything seems so overwhelming. Its impossible, it will take to long, Im not making progress, its too hard. See the ... Sat, 1 Oct 2016 08:00:00 EST My Motivating Sources http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48615_my_motivating_sources There are three people in my life who motivate me. My Lord, my husband and my daughter-in-law. My husband has lost 42 lbs. so far. My daughter-in-law has lost about 140! She's been working on it a long time. For me, it's not enough to just count calories, at least after a few weeks. I must move my body! I'm so very thankful that I can walk. <br>Recently, I fell and sprained my left ankle pretty bad which put the kabosh on walking. <br>DETERMINATION: Is another key :) I did chair ex... Fri, 30 Sep 2016 20:15:00 EST Living for Me WITHOUT Feeling Guilt http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48613_living_for_me_without_feeling_guilt Guilt. It is the ultimate assault weapon in relationships around the world especially when it comes to the aspects of lives with the ones we love and claim to love us.<br><br>Ghandi quote:<br><br>It is the destructive verbal and emotional tool that kills the spirit of the person who has had the ‘audacity’ to have a good time or do well in life but hasn’t brought absolutely everyone else to the party.<br><br>Well welcome to my life. I have always felt some sort of guilt for living for myself w... Fri, 30 Sep 2016 18:24:00 EST Healthy Lifestyle, NOT DIET http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48572_healthy_lifestyle_not_diet My favorite new motivational quote for this healthy lifestyle, NOT Diet mantra:<br>Every time you eat or drink you are either....<br>feeding disease or fighting it. Heather Morgan, M.S., N.L.C.<br><br>A healthy lifestyle means making new choices to fill in the vacuum from the habits you no longer want to succumb to in your life.<br><br>What will I do if I'm full?<br>What will my food plan include?<br>If I'm bored, sad, happy or tired what will I do?<br><br>Sometimes 1 day or 1 unhealthy choic... Wed, 28 Sep 2016 15:40:00 EST PMA - Positive Mental Attitude http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48566_pma_positive_mental_attitude Being positive about not just losing weight, but changing your eating habits. Carbs are the main reason so many people can't lose weight, not to mention the side effects of eating too many carbs (remember most carbs are from sugar): gut bloat, affects blood sugar (contributes to diabetes), causes brain fog, tiredness, cravings, irritability and many other negative symptoms. When I started limiting my carbs and increasing my protein intake, my energy level has improved - I don't feel tired ... Wed, 28 Sep 2016 09:07:00 EST Fear and Faith cannot live in the same house! http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48562_fear_and_faith_cannot_live_in_the_same_house Speak it, Believe It, Work for it. Let God take care of the rest. Speak it, Believe It, Work for it. Let God take care of the rest. Speak it, Believe It, Work for it. Let God take care of the rest. Speak it, Believe It, Work for it. Let God take care of the rest. Speak it, Believe It, Work for it. Let God take care of the rest. Speak it, Believe It, Work for it. Let God take care of the rest. Speak it, Believe It, Work for it. Let God take care of the rest. Speak it, Believe It, Work for it. ... Tue, 27 Sep 2016 22:28:00 EST Deflect Negative People from your Progress http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48555_deflect_negative_people_from_your_progress It is hard as heck to decide that you want to become healthy. There is a lot involved in it. When you decide you want to become healthy you want to feel that you can count on your friends, family and Spark Family to help and give you a high five when you need it or pick you up when you are slipping but that is not always the way it works.<br> I have a friend that posted a post regarding Dunkin Donuts. She loves going to dunkins for a quick sandwich or coffee and is finding that it is diff... Tue, 27 Sep 2016 16:04:00 EST The Hardest Thing for Me http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48536_the_hardest_thing_for_me I struggle with Positivity , every single day it is a fight. What helps me most is an affirmation. I have used the same affirmation for several year to help remind me who I am & what I am:<br><br>I am a positive person,<br>I have self confidence, <br>I have strength,<br>I am happy<br>I am healthy<br>I will succeed. <br><br>I try to say it several times a day, in my head.. out loud in my car and sometimes looking at myself in a mirror. This affirmation has helped me so much. <br><br>I went thr... Mon, 26 Sep 2016 14:41:00 EST Needless Worry . http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48530_needless_worry_ <em>33</em> <em>33</em> <em>33</em> <em>33</em> <em>33</em> <em>33</em> <em>33</em> <br>It makes no sense to worry about things you have no control over for there's nothing you can do about them, and why worry about things you do control? The activity of worrying keeps you immobilized.<br> <em>33</em> <em>33</em> <em>33</em> <em>33</em> <em>33</em> <em>33</em> <em>33</em> <br><br>Things just keep getting paraphrased.<br><br>"Lord, grant me the courage t... Mon, 26 Sep 2016 09:07:00 EST Love Yourself through the Journey http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48519_love_yourself_through_the_journey Okay, you have some weight to loose. Those jeans fit a little tighter, you might have gone up a few sizes. You have let life get in the way a little being a mom, working etc. You are ready to get back on track and get healthier. First and fore most, look in the mirror. Look at where you are at. Look at all the flaws, faults, rolls, bags etc. LOVE THEM and YOURSELF. If you want to get anywhere you have to love where you are at. Love yourself at the beginning, middle and end. Give yourse... Sun, 25 Sep 2016 20:47:00 EST 1440 Minutes . . . http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48517_1440_minutes_ <em>128</em> <em>128</em> <em>128</em> <em>128</em> <em>128</em> <em>128</em> <em>128</em> <br>Time is an equal opportunity employer. Each human being has exactly the same number of hours and minutes every day. Rich people can't buy more hours. Scientists can't invent new minutes.<br> <em>128</em> <em>128</em> <em>128</em> <em>128</em> <em>128</em> <em>128</em> <em>128</em> <br><br>My minutes have been well spent so far today, at the grand daughter's so... Sun, 25 Sep 2016 18:44:00 EST Secret to Success http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48514_secret_to_success ... for me, it's just enjoying what I have. And using the computer, to find solutions ... it's a world of amazing <em>334</em> "stuff" on here!<br><br>Some of my favorite sites: <br><br>for shopping (lol here): Kohl's, Penney's, Walmart, Amazon. They're my favorites because I can just browse online, make the purchase thru the 'net, pay, and that's done. So many little things are hard to find in stores no-a-days. There aren't too many general stores to just hop in and get trivial item... Sun, 25 Sep 2016 12:12:00 EST GRRRrr! I Am So Angry! http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48474_grrrrr_i_am_so_angry I thought the title might capture your attention! No, I am not angry, but for sure, like everyone else, I have been in situations which do make me angry. You know . . . the person who cuts us off when we’re driving, an unkind comment made, being on HOLD for an eternity when you just want to get a problem solved! All of these situations can cause anger. What can we do about it? Well, we cannot change the situations, but we can change our attitude and reactions. Keep in mind that anger d... Fri, 23 Sep 2016 07:13:00 EST Anger and Laughter http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48464_anger_and_laughter <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <br>It is impossible for you to be angry and laugh at the same time. Anger and laughter are mutually exclusive and you have the power to choose either. <br>~Wayne Dyer<br> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <br><br>Every month, The Readers Digest has a feature called "Laughter, The Best Medicine" which relates a group of sho... Thu, 22 Sep 2016 08:46:00 EST You are a Diamond! http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48434_you_are_a_diamond So many woman (and some men) forget how truly remarkable they are; how fortunate they are compared to many; how great they are that they forget and allow men (people) to control and treat them badly. Remember you are a truly unique person that is beautiful on the inside as well as out. Don't forget you are a diamond and have power over how people treat you! Believe in yourself and your inner strength, beauty and intelligence and never give away your power to how to have fun and enjoy You! ... Tue, 20 Sep 2016 17:00:00 EST To Every Thing a Turn http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48425_to_every_thing_a_turn <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <br>Everything in the universe has a purpose. Indeed, the invisible intelligence that flows through everything in a purposeful fashion is also flowing through you. <br>~ Wayne Dyer<br> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <br><br>To every thing a turn and a purpose under Heaven. <br><br>There is absolutely nothing random in ... Tue, 20 Sep 2016 09:22:00 EST The Power of Positive Thinking http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48412_the_power_of_positive_thinking Positive thinking is indeed a powerful thing. When you focus on the good things in life your entire outlook changes to a more positive one. When you look for the good, you will find it and the opposite is also true which is why it is so important to count our blessings and focus on the positive. This is especially true in difficult and trying times. We are all tested and challenged, but dwelling on the negative emotions or roadblocks in our lives really only magnify them. By staying posi... Mon, 19 Sep 2016 16:42:00 EST What is Strength? http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48400_what_is_strength <em>84</em> <em>84</em> <em>84</em> <em>84</em> <em>84</em> <em>84</em> <br>Strength does not come from winning. Your struggles develop your strengths. When you go through hardships and decide not to surrender, that is strength. <br>~Arnold Schwarzenegger <br> <em>84</em> <em>84</em> <em>84</em> <em>84</em> <em>84</em> <em>84</em> <br><br>If God will lead you to it, He will lead you through it.<br><br>God never gives you more than you can handle. Sometime I ... Mon, 19 Sep 2016 09:33:00 EST POSITIVITY IS THE KEY.. http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48389_positivity_is_the_key STAYING POSITIVE~ I shall no longer allow negative thoughts or feelings to drain my energy. Instead I shall focus on all the good that is in my life. I will think it, feel it & speak it. By doing so I will send out vibes of positive energy into the world & I shall be grateful for all the wonderful things it will attract into my life. When some things go wrong, be thankful for the many things that are going right. Never let a bad situation bring out the worst in you, be strong and choose to ... Sun, 18 Sep 2016 12:33:00 EST Stay Active and Interested http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48383_stay_active_and_interested Staying active and Interested has been my key to a healthy life. I hiked all of the New England 4,000 foot peaks and am now working on the 52 With a view. Along the way, I've met many interesting people, and have found ways to help groups like the APpalachian Mountain Club and the NH Forest Society. <br>Giving back is a great way to keep a person active and interested in life and health. and Interested has been my key to a healthy life. I hiked all of the New England 4,000 foot peaks and am ... Sun, 18 Sep 2016 06:42:00 EST Enthusiastically Celebrate EVERY Healthy Choice! http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48374_enthusiastically_celebrate_every_healthy_choice My one and only "secret of success" is celebrate every healthy choice. Celebrate that glass of water. Celebrate every healthy meal you plan. Celebrate shopping for healthy foods. Celebrate drinking water before meals. Celebrate counting and measuring. Celebrate staying in your calorie range. Celebrate not weighing more than once a week. Celebrate ALL weight losses. When your loss seems small, find something like a stick of butter and marvel that 1/4 pound really make a noticeable difference. ... Sat, 17 Sep 2016 17:22:00 EST Staying Motivated & Setting Goals http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48373_staying_motivated_setting_goals The 6 Characteristics of Effective Goals<br>Challenging: Your goals should be realistic and suited to your present capabilities. You can’t go from habitual couch potato to world-class athlete overnight, or recover the “look” you had in your 20's if you’re pushing 60 right now. Small, progressive steps toward reasonable, long-term goals are crucial to success. But your goals should also push you to extend yourself beyond where you already are. Otherwise you will get bored and quit the ... Sat, 17 Sep 2016 15:39:00 EST Going Through but Still Here.... http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48357_going_through_but_still_here I am so stressed out I feel like I’m going to break and I feel like I’m not allowed to talk about half of what is burdening me so much. It feels as though I might just lose my mind with no one around to hear it do I still exist? Sometimes staying to oneself it the best you can do but I found I can be me here on Sparkpeople so here goes.....<br><br>What feels like the icing on the cake is not an actual good thing. I have found financial freedom but at what cost? I feel as though I can walk aro... Fri, 16 Sep 2016 16:57:00 EST Journey to a Sunny Outlook http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48353_journey_to_a_sunny_outlook I try to see the silver lining, look for the good in every situation and say that everything happens for a reason. No I wasn't always like that. I used to be the world's biggest pessimist. I would tell myself that if I expected the worst then I would never be disappointed. And I rarely was. I got angry because I couldn't understand why bad things kept happening to me. Why couldn't something good happen for once? <br><br>I got a wake up call in 1998. I won't go into details. However, suffice i... Fri, 16 Sep 2016 14:52:00 EST Positive in a Un-positive World http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48350_positive_in_a_unpositive_world Seems as if we live in a world that just don't give you the positive answers you need to complete your journey your on to loose weight.. Keep a positive way of thinking as you go.. Spark People can give you a lot but choose your teams wisely and keep going no matter what.. if you join a team and you need more keep looking cause there are a lot of good teams.. and not all Motivators I have found out sometimes don't answer you.. My mistake for saying this before.. But Spark People is a great wa... Fri, 16 Sep 2016 12:00:00 EST Perseverance, positivity, and smiles... http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48343_perseverance_positivity_and_smiles I post my daily exercise and nutrition each day, no matter what I do or what I eat. I have to be honest with myself, first and foremost. Each day is a new beginning. Some days are great and some days I blow it. The important thing is that each day I try. I understand now that one of the most important things I can do each day is to remember that I must be my own best friend. I must be patient and tolerant with myself, but I also must call myself on obsessive negative self-talk, or thinking. ... Fri, 16 Sep 2016 07:43:00 EST Venting & Lamenting http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48342_venting_lamenting I sometimes have a lot of trouble when things in my weight loss journey are not going as I feel they should or times when I have not made the best choices. During these times it is so hard for me to remember my successes.<br><br>When I get frustrated with a plateau or less than stellar decisions, I begin a complaint session. I find some alone time and say out loud all of my complaints and grievances I have with myself and losing weight. I shout some and whine some and maybe even shed tears.... Fri, 16 Sep 2016 03:02:00 EST encouraging our loved ones http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48339_encouraging_our_loved_ones Timeless thoughts written down and spread throughout the decades, centuries and, yes, even millenias.<br><br>Thoughts not only about happy, romantic love but of love in other forms and stages too.<br><br>This is 51 of the most inspiring, touching and helpful quotes on love.<br><br><br>“Love takes off masks that we fear we cannot live without and know we cannot live within.”<br>— James Baldwin<br>“Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get ... Fri, 16 Sep 2016 00:09:00 EST It's all in your mindset! http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48338_its_all_in_your_mindset When you are wanting to achieve a goal, your mindset is the key to whether or not you're successful. My reason for making this statement is that when I have a goal to do something, before I actually set it, I will have a long "talk" with myself to make sure that it's achievable and that I'm willing to put in the effort necessary to make it a success. By having these "talks" with myself and analyzing the steps necessary to reach my proposed goal, I sometimes find that the goal isn't a true p... Thu, 15 Sep 2016 23:39:00 EST clothes left behind http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48327_clothes_left_behind I read in someone else's blog ( sorry I didn't get the name) that they were looking forward to getting back into the clothes they left behind. <br><br>Personally I am currently at my lowest weight in over 10 years, thanks in part to Spark People. The last thing I want is to get back into the clothes I was wearing 1 or 2 years ago. Keeping them around was like expecting to fail so I packed up everything and took them to Goodwill - now I don't have anything to grow back into which gives me a... Thu, 15 Sep 2016 11:25:00 EST Keep Moving Forward http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48326_keep_moving_forward I have tried this whole losing weight things at least a million times. I do terrible on diets and I find myself not wanting to do anything when I feel like I have to work out. So this time around, I decided to go about it a bit differently. Instead of forcing myself to be on an actual diet (as in a particular food regime, banishing certain foods forever, etc.) I have instead set a calorie limit and I try to stay within those perimeters and still enjoy the foods I love. Actually, while trackin... Thu, 15 Sep 2016 10:47:00 EST I will make it!!! http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48323_i_will_make_it For the past few months since recovered from the sprained a muscle in my upper thigh, I've had a hard time getting back on track. Each week is the same ole' thing; I'll start tomorrow, and tomorrow comes and goes with no action.<br><br>But you know I realized, the more stress I put on myself to be 'Ms Perfect', the more I seem to beat myself up.<br><br>I decided that is time to change my mindset.<br>I don't have to be perfect all the time.<br>Just start one day at a time, put one foot in fron... Thu, 15 Sep 2016 09:41:00 EST Wow Does that look good on you... http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48312_wow_does_that_look_good_on_you Now that you got to where your going... You need to stay positive on this Journey.. Whoooo Your not done yet.. It takes the thought and everything you worked for all these year or months depends on how much you have lost.. As for me it took a couple of years plus .. Yes I had to pause because of a couple of surgeries that put me on hold.. Yes but if you work hard and get to going and not have to stop it will take less.. but for me I am another story.. We all have one and each one is different... Wed, 14 Sep 2016 19:19:00 EST Doing Your Best and It IS Good Enough!!! http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48311_doing_your_best_and_it_is_good_enough Learn to let go of perfectionism and enjoy each of my accomplishments.<br>“Excellence is not a skill. It is an attitude. Excellence comes not from education, money, ability or connections alone. It comes from a commitment to do the very best with whatever you have available.”<br><br>These wise words from businessman and motivational writer Ralph S. Marston Jr. offer a healthy and positive philosophy for living. Are you content both personally and professionally? Or do you frequently struggle ... Wed, 14 Sep 2016 18:07:00 EST On Staying Young http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48305_on_staying_young <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <br>When I grow up, I want to be a little boy!<br> - Joseph Heller<br> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <br><br>Take what Mr. Heller says in conjunction with Abram Lincoln's observation that people are just about as happy as they make up their minds to be and then couple that with Wayne Dyer's assertion regarding age. W... Wed, 14 Sep 2016 08:56:00 EST How to Cope When You’re at the End of Your Rope http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48304_how_to_cope_when_youre_at_the_end_of_your_rope How to Cope When You’re at the End of Your Rope <br><br>Finding it hard to pull yourself up by the bootstraps from a difficult situation? It isn’t easy!<br><br>It is hard to change our minds from worry/negative thoughts to happy/positive thoughts. <br><br>Once our brain gets into the negativity cycle, it gets stuck. We have to consciously remove that stick from the brain to get it “un-stuck”. How to do that?<br><br>I keep a gratitude journal. I write in it daily. That way, I have thing... Wed, 14 Sep 2016 08:46:00 EST Empath / Sensitivity to others.. & Weight http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48277_empathsensitivity_to_others_weight I've been a sensitive / intuitive / empath for most of my life. I've also for a great deal of my life found this to be a hindering ability as much as it is helpful. <br><br>Why you ask? And, what does this have to do with weight loss and better health? <br><br>I'm glad you asked.<br><br>For most of my life I've always tried to help others and make them feel better. It consumed me to the core as well as time, energy and my sanity at times.<br><br>I love jumping in when a helping hand is n... Mon, 12 Sep 2016 19:47:00 EST This Is Winning...... http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48274_this_is_winning As someone who has struggled with yo-yo dieting and weight fluctuations, I know that being a being of consistency is key to maintaining my new physique as well as my future one. <br><br>People see me and tell me that I look great and that is all and good. BUT my tips to people who want to lose weight is that it is a life long process. We have to eat exactly how we want to live and preserve ourselves. By that I mean, if I want to take plenty of prescriptions and keep the doctor man in business... Mon, 12 Sep 2016 18:40:00 EST Becoming A Better Version of Myself http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48255_becoming_a_better_version_of_myself The nature of our thoughts determines the quality of our life-whether it is sad, happy and contented. Happy, optimistic, positive thoughts, emotions and feelings generate a zing in our system which makes the blood flow freely and heart beat joyously. They create a spring in our feet and spur us to action. Let us remember the age-old saying that the mind- thoughts- can move the mountains. Pessimistic, sad and gloomy thoughts, on the other hand, create inertia and force us to stay bed-bound.<br... Sun, 11 Sep 2016 17:25:00 EST Liven Up Your Fitness http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48240_liven_up_your_fitness For our fitnesd we definitely need to fine tune our workouts or adjust our worjoiyts. We do this to keep up refresh our routines and enkiven our thirst to get fit be healthy and keep our focus. <br><br>Stretching for just a few minutes of day can work wonders: It improves circulation, boosts energy, promotes better range of motion, soothes sore muscles and reduces risk of injury. For anyone who has strained or hurt themselves this a sure fire way to help prevent then.<br><br>Take a walking br... Sat, 10 Sep 2016 21:55:00 EST The Voice in Your Head http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48218_the_voice_in_your_head You didn’t hit your goal today. It’s OK. It's nice to set goals, but don't fall trap to becoming 'victim' to them... you know.. the person that talks to the voice in your head telling you that you are a quitter and bad because you didn't do something... The point of getting healthy is re-training to your brain to 'appreciate yourself', try THANKING yourself and saying GOOD JOB for doing 'something' today to improve YOU... a weight challenge for a future better you isn't about time frame or f... Fri, 9 Sep 2016 23:19:00 EST Positive Self Talk! http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48213_positive_self_talk If someone talked to you, your child, your mother, your significant-other the way that voice in your head sometimes talks to you, how would you respond? <br><br>Sometimes telling that negative voice to zip it is so tough, but it is a must! Try turning those negative thoughts into a positive mantra like...."I hate my flabby arms" turns it into, "My arms are a work-in-progress and I'm building them every day!" <br><br>If you do slip and berate yourself with the gloomy, for every though that is ... Fri, 9 Sep 2016 20:28:00 EST a new house http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48206_a_new_house John 14King James Version (KJV)<br><br>14 Let not your heart be troubled: ye believe in God, believe also in me.<br><br>2 In my Father's house are many mansions: if it were not so, I would have told you. I go to prepare a place for you.<br><br>3 And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again, and receive you unto myself; that where I am, there ye may be also.<br><br>4 And whither I go ye know, and the way ye know.<br><br>5 Thomas saith unto him, Lord, we know not whither thou goes... Fri, 9 Sep 2016 09:56:00 EST On Being Thankful http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48186_on_being_thankful <em>41</em> <em>41</em> <em>41</em> <em>41</em> <em>41</em> <em>41</em> <em>41</em> <br>"When you rise in the morning, give thanks for the light, for your life, for your strength. Give thanks for your food and for the joy of living. "<br> <em>41</em> <em>41</em> <em>41</em> <em>41</em> <em>41</em> <em>41</em> <em>41</em> <br><br>"I felt sorry for myself for I had no shoes, then I met a man with no feet"<br>~ Unknown<br><br>It has been said that the poor... Thu, 8 Sep 2016 09:02:00 EST Make Goals Attainable http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48173_make_goals_attainable My goal is to make my goals attainable, not so high that I'll never be able to reach them. That has been my downfall in the past. I'll do what I can each day and then try a little more.<br>That way, I'll never get discouraged and give up entirely.<br><br>Small goals, little by little, inch by inch, that's the way I'll be able to reach it. ... Wed, 7 Sep 2016 19:16:00 EST Medical Help for Fatties http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48172_medical_help_for_fatties 30 years ago at a religious retreat, a guy in the audience said that he had been able to lose a lot of weight taking mood elevators. I had never heard of that. The only stories I heard about medicine for overeating was the use of speed, like dexadrine and benzadrine. <br><br>So I went to a doctor and asked him if he would prescribe a powerful mood elevator just to see if it would work. Well, surprise, surprise. I did work! I lost several pounds the first week but the doctor was not inte... Wed, 7 Sep 2016 19:02:00 EST Positive Self Talk! http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48171_positive_self_talk For me, staying successful in weight loss and maintenance was thinking positively about myself. I know it can be challenging. But when I build a positive mindset, spirit and attitude, everything falls into perspective. Plus, I show gratitude for my life right now and the results will show on the scale. <br><br>One example is "I gained 3 pounds! I am upset and plan to quit". A positive outlook can be "I am Up 3 pounds. I know what happened and I did my best to work my way around it. Thi... Wed, 7 Sep 2016 18:54:00 EST Ditch the scale http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48170_ditch_the_scale You can achieve better body transforming results and be much happier during the process if you stay off the scale. So, first things first – if you’re going to participate in the following challenge (staying off the scale), you need to get rid of it. Now. Yes, I haven’t told you why yet, but that doesn’t matter.<br><br>Go grab your scale, and then get rid of it.<br><br>Put it in a very inconvenient place so you’re not tempted to step on it; in the attic, somewhere in the garage, like a creepy ... Wed, 7 Sep 2016 18:36:00 EST On Being You http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48127_on_being_you <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <br>The easiest thing to be in the world is you. The most difficult thing to be is what other people want you to be. Don't let them put you in that position. <br>~ Leo Buscaglia<br> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <br><br>Be yourself, no one else can do it for you.<br>~The Talmud<br><br>This above all, to thine ownsel... Tue, 6 Sep 2016 10:11:00 EST The Law of Attraction http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48106_the_law_of_attraction Focus on what is worth focusing on, so that you attract only good things in your life. <br><br><br>Ignore all the distractions that keeps you away from your Purpose.<br><br><br><br>Open your wings and fly, like never before. Don't look back because is the future coming not the past. <br><br><br>Good Luck!<br><br><br>Laura<br><br><br> http://www.2knowsuccess.myforever.biz//<br<BR>> <br> ... Mon, 5 Sep 2016 05:32:00 EST Never ever give up http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48105_never_ever_give_up If I fall down I get back up. I am not perfect and I need to forgive myself and keep moving forward. This has been one of the key secrets for my journey this time around. <br><br>Previously if I could do it all perfectly I was fine. ie control my food, exercise correctly - stay on plan. But the moment life got in the way, it would all go out the window. If one thing didn't work then the whole plan would be discarded. And I would quickly slip back in to my old eating habits and lack of exercis... Mon, 5 Sep 2016 05:32:00 EST Ways To Stay Positive & Confident While Trying To Lose Weight http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48099_ways_to_stay_positive_confident_while_trying_to_lose_weight Visualize your future self, set behavior goals, reward positive behavior, and change your definition of success<br><br>Use the 10 tips below to help you stay motivated on your journey to permanent weight loss, especially when you’re not losing weight. But don’t just read them…do them.<br><br>1. Visualize and write about your future self<br><br>Create a clear vision of you at your goal weight:<br><br>What do you look like?<br>Where are you?<br>What are you doing?<br>Who are you with?<br>How do... Sun, 4 Sep 2016 21:21:00 EST Have you ever... http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48064_have_you_ever Have you ever thought of loosing weight could be fun...? You sure can.. You need a few things like a good sense of humor and be able to laugh at yourself when you do something goofy.. I am taking from experience here.. Well I grew up as a Southerner and they Square Dance .. Ho Downs and just love to eat and have fun.. I got invited to a exercise class and I gave it a try.. I have two left feet and born with a wooden spoon in my mouth.. but I had a heart attack when they put on the video and i... Fri, 2 Sep 2016 15:53:00 EST Be Confident, Even When You Don't Feel Confident http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48037_be_confident_even_when_you_dont_feel_confident Life is hard and stressful. One of the hardest things I have found to do is to stay positive. How do you stay confident in your abilities with the people closest to you saying you can't do it?<br><br>There are many people out there like me, who have spent years in an emotionally abusive relationship. Every day is a battle...to say the right thing, do the right thing, feel like you are worth something more than that other person seems to think you are. You feel like you are walking on egg ... Thu, 1 Sep 2016 08:36:00 EST Feeding the Champion Within http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48022_feeding_the_champion_within In the event you desire like myself to become a champion we will need to know how to feed the little beast within ourselves. No not with food but more like food to feel / fuel / fill our thought processes.<br><br>Just as the Olympics begun and ended I mysek can not wrap my thoughts around the time commitment plans workouts and the stamina to fuel the little beast within.... My mind literally explodes thinking how hard they must work to maintain near perfection. I say near cause to me none is ... Wed, 31 Aug 2016 13:40:00 EST Sticking to it http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48002_sticking_to_it I'm not sure this is a secret but this is certainly helpful to build a healthier lifestyle. I am making dates with friends which makes it a lot harder to talk myself out of exercising. Today i walked for 2 hours and loved every minute of it. I am so proud of myself and it feels great. Taking a moment to acknowledge that while it isn't an olympic event it is an event for me. I set a goal and stuck to it. The whole thing kind of builds on itself. First its a day, then three days, then a w... Tue, 30 Aug 2016 14:16:00 EST Treating your self right http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=48001_treating_your_self_right Don't forget to treat your self to the things that make you happy. I have found if I don't do thing that make me happy I will try to eat more to fill the void. <br>I love to walk, alone without kids or dogs. I do this because I find I don't enjoy all the questions and the pulling for the kids and dogs. <br><br>I go to the grocery store by my self or with just 1 kid. I get a chance to read labels and look for better options. I also get to try food that I wouldn't have time to look at if I ha... Tue, 30 Aug 2016 13:26:00 EST What we put in http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47991_what_we_put_in At times we just eat because we see the food in front of us , and we think we need to eat to live.<br>I want to live a full and long life so i am trying to take control and look at what i eat to live.I am eating more vegetables and fruit, raw in smoothies with out adding milk or yogurt.Taking more to liking water. I add garlic and ginger to my smoothies you might think that garlic is not nice and will leave a taste, but after a while you get use to it and its so good for your immune system.<... Tue, 30 Aug 2016 04:47:00 EST " Making Small Changes " http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47984_fruit_or_vegetables I started back just a week ago, and already, I am starting to make some good changes, with my bad habits. I use to eat all sorts of salty snacks late at night. The past week, I decided not to mess up a good days worth of making the right food choices by blowing it at night, so I started to eat a piece of fruit or a vegetable that I like, in place of the junk foods or I had a weight loss shake and stopped eating after after, 8 pm. So far, so good. I lost 2 lbs. already in my 1st. week and hope... Mon, 29 Aug 2016 20:27:00 EST Battle Plan. Check Positive and then hit go http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47947_battle_plan_check_positive_and_then_hit_go If you are serious about making changes to your life and getting in shape..First thing you get the clearance from your Doctor fist... I cannot stress enough the importance of tracking your progress.. and I do not mean just stepping on the scale every morning and freaking out every time it goes up .5 of a pound. .. I am talking about a plan that allows you to find and stay on the right path... Sparks People is a good way to start... You just take time and log in and post.. They will track you... Sat, 27 Aug 2016 15:44:00 EST Never give up http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47926_never_give_up I find stress and life gets in the way of my goals.I have always given up when I failed the first try.But now I have learned you only truly fail if you give up.There is always tomorrow and one failure doesn't finish your journey.It is just a bump in the road and you have to pick yourself up and move forward.Never give up on your goals based on one failure or set back.Look how far you have come and what you have overcame.It takes pushing throw all of the negative and think about all the positi... Fri, 26 Aug 2016 23:15:00 EST Step By Step http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47923_step_by_step Well.. I think that while loosing weight turned out to be not too bad.. Step by step but it is a fact that once you get to the point where you want to be... It could come back with a vengeance and your looking at it as OMG What ... and start over.. You need to start to make a Maintenance plan.. Yes you have to take time to keep a idea of how your going to keep it off when you get to that point... Make you a list of things to plan and keep track of everything.. Just keep a on going journal as ... Fri, 26 Aug 2016 14:00:00 EST Do You Remember the Times.... http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47907_do_you_remember_the_times I’m coming home…or at least that’s what I keep telling myself. I haven't been there for about 4-5 years but going back will do be some good but also unearth old wounds. It’s a funny thing, though, because I’m not sure I know what home means. I feel like this should've been where I hailed from but I was born and raised on the west side of Chicago. It's becoming increasingly crime ridden but the murders are starting. Not as frequently out west than multiple shootings on the south side of the ci... Thu, 25 Aug 2016 18:44:00 EST Fighting depression successfully http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47877_fighting_depression_successfully I have many things to be sad about in my life right now but I am not letting it get me down. I am fighting through it patiently waiting for better days.<br><br>My secret is multi-fold. The first thing I do is reach out to my support team, mainly my adult daughter. Sometimes my depression is so deep that I can't think what to do that will help me. The blinders are on and I can't see anything but darkness. She always reminds me all the things I do that have helped in the past and still hel... Wed, 24 Aug 2016 01:39:00 EST It's your choice http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47871_its_your_choice When you fall pick yourself up, dust yourself off and take that step forward. Everyone one falls everyone. You just need to have the willpower to not let the fall defeat you. That fall could be anything from food to a relationship. I have learned if you fall back a step on anything that making yourself go forward can be one of the hardest things to do mentally. You have to break down that mental block with sheer willpower. How do I get my willpower? From my God above, ask and you shall receiv... Tue, 23 Aug 2016 19:57:00 EST Small Changes Equal Long Term Success http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47865_small_changes_equal_long_term_success In the past, I've tried to do everything at once - quit drinking soda, lose weight, get more active, workout twice a day. I always failed because it's just too much at once and trying to make that many big changes all at the same time is a recipe for disappointment. <br><br>Instead, I did things a little at a time. First, after reading what artificial sweetener does to your system, I gave up my favorite thing, my one true vice (besides too much food!): Diet Coke. I let myself have regular s... Tue, 23 Aug 2016 15:11:00 EST Positive Thinking Everyday http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47864_positive_thinking_everyday I always remember that things could always be worse, and that I am never alone in my struggles. I pray for strength.<br>I hold my boys and know they are why I'm doing this.<br>I never let one failure discourage me, I can do better next time.<br>I pray for peace.<br>I remember I man loved no matter what my body looks like.<br>I tell myself everyday that I'm healthier than I was yesterday.<br>I soak up the sun.<br>I try not to compare myself to others, we are all made different but I do use oth... Tue, 23 Aug 2016 14:32:00 EST Weight is secondary http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47852_weight_is_secondary As much as I am enjoying losing this weight I have been putting on for the past 30 years, I'm happier about other changes as well.<br><br>For years, I have struggled with sleep apnea and have been reminded of my snoring by my spouse. I have fought with the CPAP for years and had just come to accept that this is a condition I will have to live with. Also, I stopped running long distance 10 years ago because of Exercise Induced Asthma, something I picked-up during Desert Storm.<br><br>Well, t... Mon, 22 Aug 2016 23:53:00 EST It's a Secret http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47849_its_a_secret I have for quite some time now been trying to lose the baby weight (of 4 kids) and maintain a healthy lifestyle. It's not an easy thing to do and I constantly lose my way but I found that the best way to overcome obstacles is to pick yourself up and keep going. And acting the way you want to feel. So because I want to be healthy and fit I act it. I go to meetings with a bottle of water and have healthy snacks at my work space and I give myself pep talks. I have been reading a book by Gretche... Mon, 22 Aug 2016 21:12:00 EST Feel Amazing from Reading these Beauties quotes http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47841_feel_amazing_from_reading_these_beauties_quotes YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL AND SO AM I!!!<br><br>These are not made up by me but are from a article I was reading online. To read the completed list clink on the link below:<br><br>1. 'To all the girls that think you’re fat because you’re not a size zero, you’re the beautiful one, it's society who’s ugly.' Marilyn Monroe<br><br>2. 'The next time you look into the mirror, try to let go of the storyline that says you're too fat or too sallow, too ashy or too old, your eyes are too small or your nose too... Mon, 22 Aug 2016 14:49:00 EST Help in Finding Your Purpose http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47789_help_in_finding_your_purpose JUNE 18, 2015<br>There are no billboards or flashing neon that light the way toward finding your calling or purpose.<br><br>Very few people instinctively know what they want to do with their life.<br><br>For many years I knew I wanted to be an entrepreneur, but I didn't know exactly what I wanted that to be or look like. I know that's the case for many individuals who don't want to work for someone else.<br><br>In his latest book, The Art of Work, bestselling author and blogger, Jeff Goins of... Sat, 20 Aug 2016 00:37:00 EST My dirty little secret... http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47779_my_dirty_little_secret I'm working on staying positive most of the day, most days of the week. I've lost a modest amount of weight thus far and find tracking food, moving my body more every day and making healthier choices all day long is easier when I stay positive. I find myself posting positive things her at Sparkpeople.com because I don't want others to think poorly of me or think I like to complain a lot. It's not what I want anyone to think of me. Every time I type something positive, even if it's a comment o... Fri, 19 Aug 2016 13:43:00 EST How I Stay Positive http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47772_how_i_stay_positive There are no big secrets to staying positive. I believe it’s a mind over matter thing. To stay positive one just have to think positive things. If you begin to think negative, just think about something that you saw or did or someone said about you that brought a smile to your face. I guarantee you that negative thought will go away. <br><br>I know that there are a lot of negative things that are going on in this world and around us and these negative influences have, at some point in ou... Fri, 19 Aug 2016 10:27:00 EST Go Ahead Have Your Cake & Eat it Too.... http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47742_go_ahead_have_your_cake_eat_it_too Before we change what we do, it helps to change the way we think first.<br><br>When it comes to eating, many of us have an emotional relationship with food.<br> <br>Without thinking, and often out of guilt, we use phrases like, "I’m being good," "I didn't cheat today," or something I hear a lot, "I was so BAD this weekend," to describe how we feel about our food choices.<br><br>We hop from one diet or food fad to the next, all the while feeling at least somewhat deprived and like we’re being ... Thu, 18 Aug 2016 17:40:00 EST Life is ... http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47732_life_is_ <em>334</em> <em>334</em> <em>334</em> <em>334</em> <em>334</em> <em>334</em> <br>"Life is a song - sing it. Life is a game - play it. Life is a challenge - meet it. Life is a dream - realize it. Life is a sacrifice - offer it. Life is love - enjoy it." -Sai Baba <br> <em>334</em> <em>334</em> <em>334</em> <em>334</em> <em>334</em> <em>334</em> <br><br>Great life advice. This continues on my theme that there is good in all things seemingly bad. This aphoris... Thu, 18 Aug 2016 09:28:00 EST Practicing Self Acceptance http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47695_practicing_self_acceptance After realizing how my negative self-talk was damaging everything about my life, I began speaking to myself as though I were a cherished loved one. It has really made a difference. Instead of, "omg, I'm SO fat!" I will say things like, "Wow, this outfit looks great" or "my eyes look incredibly pretty today" or any other thing that I could say that is complementary to myself. The thing is that it has to be sincere - not just empty platitudes.If you have a lovely smile, then tell yourself you h... Tue, 16 Aug 2016 15:26:00 EST Plan ahead and Honesty! http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47694_plan_ahead_and_honesty The school year starts next week for me and that means BIG changes to my schedule. I have such a successful summer routine that I hate to see the school year start. <br> <br> Changes in the seasons and changes in schedules need my attention if they are going to work! School days are a race against the clock for me, and h are are some of my thoughts as I prepare for school: <br> 1. Organize my closet so that my teacher outfits are ready each morning. If all I have to do is grab the clothes wit... Tue, 16 Aug 2016 14:45:00 EST Giving yourself affirmations http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47688_giving_yourself_affirmations I love to give myself positive affirmations a day. Like, I am a good wife, I am a good mother. I care about other people. I love myself for who I am. They really help with self esteem.<br><br>Part of giving yourself positive affirmations helps with your self care. You can't take care of someone else, if you can't take care of yourself. Loving yourself is so important so you can continue your journey with love, honor, and respect. More affirmations:<br><br>I deserve to be happy.<br>I honor mys... Tue, 16 Aug 2016 10:47:00 EST Control? No Control? http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47663_control_no_control <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <br>You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude toward what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you. Brian Tracy<br> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <br><br>Lord, grant me the courage to change the things I can, the serenity to accept... Mon, 15 Aug 2016 10:29:00 EST Secret's To My Succuss http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47658_secrets_to_my_succuss My biggest Secret is no secret at all, Never give up, push through, fight like hell, if you get down get back up and keep on moving. I have battled until I thought I was surely going to die, some how found more inside and kept on fighting.. God is my anchor and has seen me through Everything I have ever faced in this life, He is my Rock and the two of us will get me to my goal weight and I will FIGHT FIGHT FIGHT every step to reach it.. I will never give up or be defeated. <br><br>I have star... Mon, 15 Aug 2016 03:11:00 EST Awareness over 40 http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47609_awareness_over_40 Only focus on how you feel about yourself. Inside and outside.<br><br>Others are not judging you. They are busy being hard on themselves just like you are.<br><br>Let it go, breathe, try your best and if today you do not feel your best is good enough ...try again tomorrow.<br><br>It was really hard for me to type those three entries! For years I thought that everyone I walked past or spoke to was judging me on some level. By the time I reached 40 I realized that there are a lot of people ... Fri, 12 Aug 2016 09:34:00 EST Never give up! http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47602_never_give_up I know that I am strong but there are days when it does always feel like it. But I have a very powerful Father on my side. He gives me the strength to go on and if I am too weak he carries me. The Lord my God reminds me daily to never give up and to always trust in Him.<br><br>Philippians 4:13 I cam do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.<br><br>Luke 1:37 For with God nothing shall be impssible.<br><br>Isaiah 41:10 Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; ... Thu, 11 Aug 2016 22:58:00 EST See for Yourself...... http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47598_see_for_yourself Stop putting off seeing the aurora lights, warming up in the hot springs of Greenland or learning a new instrument — just do it. If you often do one thing that makes you happy, then try another. Psychologist Rich Walker of Winston-Salem State University looked at 30,000 event memories and over 500 diaries, ranging from durations of 3 months to 4 years, and says that people who engage in a variety of experiences are more likely to retain positive emotions and minimize negative ones than people... Thu, 11 Aug 2016 17:31:00 EST Mindfulness and letting go http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47591_mindfulness_and_letting_go A lack of losing weight is just a symptom of the inner struggles that can derail even the best of intentions. And regressing to comfort food behaviors instead of focusing on the healthy lifestyle each of us is entitled to aspire to a reflection on the inner chaos that distracts. Either or both can be accompanied by regret and/or guilt, which only compound the other stresses and adds discouragement and self-recrimination. <br><br>"Letting go" of extra emotional baggage and holding onto worr... Thu, 11 Aug 2016 11:50:00 EST It's Okay To Take Baby Steps http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47587_its_okay_to_take_baby_steps My secret to success is realizing it is okay to take baby steps in reaching your weight loss goal. No matter your motivation on wanting to lose your weight, and with many attempts these last several years, I believe I will have better success in taking baby steps. I previously wanted to jump in and do things as if I were an Olympian. The healhiest of all meals, exercising at the gym and for a certain period of time for most of the week, and quitting 'cold turkey' those pesky things we love su... Thu, 11 Aug 2016 10:18:00 EST Feeling Good Everyday http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47559_feeling_good_everyday So took the day off today to make an appointment. I was thinking about heading in to work but decided ditch that effort. Um here at home with my kids well my grands. The weather is humid here so I wanna do something indoors.<br><br>My youngest grandson is bouncing off the wall! He's the lively one while his brother is the one who is a bump on a log. But before I go out there in these rising temps I did a little browsing:<br><br>1. Hunt for Dinosaurs<br>While Sue, the largest, best-preserved T... Tue, 9 Aug 2016 16:16:00 EST 12 laws of karma that will change your llfe http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47537_12_laws_of_karma_that_will_change_your_llfe <br><br>What is Karma? Karma is the Sanskrit word for action. It is equivalent to Newton’s law of ‘every action must have a reaction’. When we think, speak or act we initiate a force that will react accordingly. This returning force maybe modified, changed or suspended, but most people will not be able eradicate it. This law of cause and effect is not punishment, but is wholly for the sake of education or learning.<br><br>A person may not escape the consequences of his actions, but he will su... Mon, 8 Aug 2016 18:55:00 EST Positivity in a World of Negativity http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47526_positivity_in_a_world_of_negativity Here are 12 of the techniques I use to maintain a positive outlook when the world seems so incredibly negative: <br><br>1. Control the amount of negative news in my life. <br><br>While I want to stay up on the events occurring in the world, sometimes a headline is sufficient to grasp new developments. I limit the time I spend with TV, radio and Internet, selecting only a few stories to read in full. <br><br>2. Control the number of negative people in your life. <br><br>I spend most of my da... Mon, 8 Aug 2016 06:36:00 EST Just keep going http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47520_just_keep_going If you slip up, keep going and don't beat yourself up. Don't deny yourself any food just keep it in moderation. The healthier I become the less I find myself wanting unhealthy foods which is wonderful. I have days when I'm tired and don't really want to go for my walk, I tell myself that plopping it on the couch will not help me feel any better. I give myself pep talks and if that doesn't work I look at pictures of the old me---that gets the job done. I've also had to let go of my perfectioni... Sun, 7 Aug 2016 21:13:00 EST The LIFESTYLE Train, are you getting on it? http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47478_the_lifestyle_train_are_you_getting_on_it Whenever someone asks me about my "Diet Program," I simply state..."What Diet? It is a LIFESTYLE!" <br><br>I have learned more than once, that diets do not work. We get a mind sense of "what we can NOT have, how HARD we have to exercise, and STARVING." Well, that is not my way of thinking.<br><br>Be consistent, eat "healthy meals" three times a day, no skipping, and find something YOU LIKE TO DO! Yes, an exercise, but something you are willing to try, "enjoy doing," and willing to KEEP A... Thu, 4 Aug 2016 16:28:00 EST Feeling and looking your Best http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47441_feeling_and_looking_your_best I don't know about you but when I wear an outfit I like to feel like I achieve the best look that I was going for. How my clothes feel, look and lay onto my body may affect other people's impressions of me but not really. It's how I feel that my outfit clothes, shoes apparel whatever fits me is how I feel my impression has been made onto others.<br><br>Even as a little girl, I always wanted my mother's approval of my outfit. So even today, I have to get like 3 nods before the outfit is comple... Tue, 2 Aug 2016 19:39:00 EST You Can Do It http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47420_you_can_do_it Confidence and self-esteem are a lot like muscles. Just as you need to work out to show that definition in your arms or legs, so it goes with building and maintaining self confidence. <br><br>If you are starting out like I was - with low self-esteem, and limiting thoughts about how I couldn't do it, how I was incapable of changing for the better, than I know it can feel like an uphill climb. However, once you start to feel better, and give into the thoughts that you CAN actually do it, that m... Mon, 1 Aug 2016 21:27:00 EST It's Just Who I Am!!! http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47411_its_just_who_i_am I originally lost 40 pounds but gained over 50% of it back and became very frustrated. I couldn't seem to stop eating and stopped exercising. I told myself I didn't have "time" to track food or to exercise as I had been. I began feeling totally disgusted with myself. I realized that I needed to get back on track but hadn't a clue how to do it. When I finally decided to make a conscience effort to be positive my journey to health became more of an adventure than a trial that was just to be... Mon, 1 Aug 2016 14:02:00 EST Make a List http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47379_make_a_list Its hard to stay positive, for me right now. I left beautiful weather, a bug-free home. I sold all my furniture and most of my "stuff" and moved across the country. To heat, humidity, bugs and basically, the Deep South.<br><br>Haven't really enjoyed myself much in the last 90 days and it shows in my health. I tried joining a gym and I hate how nasty it is inside compared to LA Fitness. Not that I went all that often, but still.<br><br>I hate my new rental. It leaks when it rains, has bu... Sun, 31 Jul 2016 09:47:00 EST SMILE LIKE YOU HAVE LOVE TO GIVE http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47370_smile_like_you_have_love_to_give I pray for love every day. The more love I have from Jesus, the more love I can give away. I keep my head in the clouds and know this world is not the reward. The final reward is peace in Heaven. <br>I pray for peace and safety on Earth for everyone. <br> I am moving to Peachtree City GA, just south of Atlanta, where my daughter and her family lives. It is exciting but stressful. I keep a smile on my face and yesterday I discovered that I am more emotional than I thought when I burst out cryi... Sat, 30 Jul 2016 16:39:00 EST How to find peace in a busy world http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47364_how_to_find_peace_in_a_busy_world Life is busy. Days are hectic. Sometimes we feel stressed, overwhelmed, and lost. How do we find peace in such a world like we have today?<br><br>Set limits. If your life is overfilled with stuff you may need to set some limits. You may need to stop doing some of the least important things, the things that if you are honest really don’t matter that much. Don’t hold yourself to “perfect” standards. And set a limit for how many times you will check social media. Checking on stuff all the ti... Sat, 30 Jul 2016 07:27:00 EST How Your Attitude Affects Weight Loss http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47356_how_your_attitude_affects_weight_loss Positive thinking plays a significant role in your weight loss efforts. Perpetual negative thoughts can lead to self-defeating behaviors such as going off your diet, overeating and skipping your exercise routine. Positive thoughts, on the other hand, can increase your motivation and energy level.<br><br>Positive Thinking and Weight Loss<br><br>Positive thoughts are empowering. A negative attitude can set processes in motion that makes losing weight difficult, if not impossible. Berating yours... Fri, 29 Jul 2016 20:02:00 EST Count Your Blessings http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47348_count_your_blessings <em>208</em> <em>208</em> <em>208</em> <em>208</em> <em>208</em> <em>208</em> <em>208</em> <br>"Count your blessings. Once you realize how valuable you are and how much you have going for you, the smiles will return, the sun will break out, the music will play, and you will finally be able to move forward to the life that God intended for you with grace, strength, courage, and confidence."<br>~ Og Mandino<br> <em>208</em> <em>208</em> <em>208</em> <em>208</em> ... Fri, 29 Jul 2016 10:38:00 EST Learning to say "NO" http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47344_learning_to_say_no We are overworked, stretched too thinly, burdened with cares of children, elderly parents, needy friends, and spouses who DO need our time and energy because they are our life partners. We are constantly being pulled in every direction and feel "obligated" to help. How do we kindly say "NO" without harming relationships?\<br><br>Just say no!<br><br>Don't beat around the bush or offer weak excuses. This only provides an opening for the other person. Don't delay or stall either. Provide a bri... Fri, 29 Jul 2016 08:29:00 EST I just keep plugging along http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47318_i_just_keep_plugging_along I have taken to weighing in less so I don't have big disappointments as the scale is slow to move. I focus on how I feel, how I am stronger and can do more exercise and that the scale is just a number. It does get discouraging at times but you have to refocus and keep your eyes on the goal at the end of the road. Checking in on Sparkpeople helps as you can get support and also read about others journeys. Sometimes it helps to see how real it is and that not everyone drops 10 pounds in a w... Wed, 27 Jul 2016 10:53:00 EST What has helped me! http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47313_what_has_helped_me When watching TV, mindless munching was always a problem for me. So, I placed a bowl of apples on the coffee table and grab an apple rather than chips, etc. Also, place a knife and a few napkins in the bowl -- just so I don't have any excuses!! This worked very well for me - and for my husband as well! It's a quick easy thing to do!<br><br>Also, I chop up vegetables on Sunday night for snacks at work during the week. I use baby carrots and snow peas, but chop up celery, Japanese radishes,... Wed, 27 Jul 2016 07:57:00 EST To Be the Best I Can Be http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47311_to_be_the_best_i_can_be I am competitive by nature. I have obsessed over how long I can hold a plank and why it isn't long enough. I have obsessed over how many miles I can ride on my mountain bike, wondering why it is fewer than the miles my friend can ride. I have obsessed with the amount of weight that is reflected on the resistance machines, questioning whether I can push it to a higher number. I have obsessed with the number of steps on my fitness tracker, aware that always at the forefront of my thoughts, ... Wed, 27 Jul 2016 01:58:00 EST Attitude really is everything http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47301_attitude_really_is_everything We often here how important attitude is in life. Attitude in business, attitude at home, attitude at school, etc. I think attitude matters on the weight loss journey as well. <br><br>Whether you are trying to lose weight to look good or trying to lose weight to get healthy (or both), attitude is imperative on the journey. It is so easy to get discouraged when we do not see the results we want in the time frame we want. It is easy to feel discouraged when we slip up on our healthy eating ... Tue, 26 Jul 2016 19:14:00 EST Live For Today http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47295_live_for_today <em>30</em> <em>30</em> <em>30</em> <em>30</em> <em>30</em> <em>30</em> <em>30</em> <br>"Beginning today, treat everyone you meet as if they were going to be dead by midnight. Extend to them all the care, kindness and understanding you can muster, and do so with no thought of any reward. Your life will never be the same again."<br>~ Og Mandino<br> <em>30</em> <em>30</em> <em>30</em> <em>30</em> <em>30</em> <em>30</em> <em>30</em> <br><br>It is absolutely amazing the difference... Tue, 26 Jul 2016 10:49:00 EST The benefits of pet ownership http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47249_the_benefits_of_pet_ownership Who can resist a frolicking little kitten? Who can possibly resist an adorable little puppy? There is a wise saying about a puppy licking your face being more beneficial than therapy and part of that statement may well be true. There are many benefits to owning a pet providing you are willing to put in the love, time, and care every pet deserves. <br><br>Living with pets provides certain health benefits. Pets help lower blood pressure and lessen anxiety. They boost our immunity and lower ou... Sun, 24 Jul 2016 07:08:00 EST Making those Scraps Work http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47242_making_those_scraps_work I am a quilter. I have a fabric stash that only a quilt store or another quilter can appreciate.<br><br>We had our annual quilt show this past week. We also have a "Country Store" at the show, with handmade stuff from our club.<br><br>I got in to my scraps (we quilters collect a LOT of scraps) before the show, and decided to either throw everything out or make something useful of them.<br><br>Of course, throwing out fabric is JUST NOT DONE among my crowd, so the alternative to make some goo... Sat, 23 Jul 2016 19:08:00 EST Things that Show You Are A Loser http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47227_things_that_show_you_are_a_loser In losing weight some times we can not rely heavily on the scare (scale)/tape measure. Some times we have to have go ole signs that we are "losers" in this healthier lifestyle alternative. <br><br>I was reading a Sparkpeople article earlier and here are the take away <br>so got read on below:<br><br>I can come home, so what I need to do and get a decent nights sleep. Grant I normally don't do 8 hours all night but my fitbit days I do 5-7 hours and I some times go back for another hour or two.... Fri, 22 Jul 2016 22:02:00 EST Share your goals with your support system http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47221_share_your_goals_with_your_support_system Share your goals with people who support you. They don't have to be people you see every day, they can even be people here on Spark. I find that sharing my goals out loud makes them more real and give me accountability. <br><br>I also like to write them on my mirror in the bathroom, along with positive messages to myself. <br><br>It is all about "building yourself up," be positive you can reach your goals! I have always embraced the SMART goal acronym as a way to create goals that I can f... Fri, 22 Jul 2016 15:10:00 EST Tips keeping Motivated http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47217_tips_keeping_motivated In the past I dwell on the mistakes I've made in this journey to a healthier life style. Each time I ended up with a huge set back. This time I had to change my mental thoughts, let go of all the mistakes, the ridicule received from loved ones about my body and the damage created from all the ridicule. I am in this journey for myself. I have learned to love my body no matter what others say to me. <em>385</em> <br><br>This is what I do each day to keep myself motivate:<br><br>1.) Every ... Fri, 22 Jul 2016 12:38:00 EST Louise Hays - Loving Yourself http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47188_louise_hays_loving_yourself Louise Hays is my guru for feeling good every day regardless of my weight, weight loss, or if my pants are too tight! Her inspirational meditations and books have helped me through some very dark places. I do not work for Hay House or am affiliated, I just know that it has helped me tremendously. With any weight loss program, a focus on the scale tends to lead to failure. By focusing inside and working on the outside, you get a better appreciation for who you are and what you want. I pre... Thu, 21 Jul 2016 07:31:00 EST Staying Hopeful With Anxiety http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47168_staying_hopeful_with_anxiety 1. In order to have good things, there must be bad things. <br><br>Without one, the other couldn’t exist. So instead of lamenting the bad and celebrating the good, celebrate both. Celebrate the bad because it will eventually be good. And celebrate the good before it goes bad.<br><br>2. You’ll never be perfect—just like everyone else.<br><br>3. People are mean or angry or sad because they need to be at that time.<br><br>Just like a lightning bolt, it seems very intense and like it’ll last fore... Wed, 20 Jul 2016 06:18:00 EST Darkness and Light http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47159_darkness_and_light <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <br>"I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness for it shows me the stars." • Og Mandino <br> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <br><br>In the movie "Oh God!", God, marvelously portrayed by George Burns, stated "I created the rain so you would appreciate the sunshine".<br><br>For every ... Tue, 19 Jul 2016 15:41:00 EST Start each day FRESH http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47145_start_each_day_fresh Secret is never give up! If you go over your goal for a day, let the day pass without being hard on yourself. Remember tomorrow is always a NEW DAY. Don't just throw it all away, keep trying, keep logging your progress. Don't weigh yourself everyday, once a week is good enough.<br><br>Prayers help, without faith, hope has no meaning. <br><br>Keep a positive outlook, things won't be perfect, but you don't have to let them get you down. Slow progress is still progress. So keep the faith, keep ... Mon, 18 Jul 2016 19:50:00 EST Start each day FRESH http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47144_start_each_day_fresh Secret is never give up! If you go over your goal for a day, let the day pass without being hard on yourself. Remember tomorrow is always a NEW DAY. Don't just throw it all away, keep trying, keep logging your progress. Don't weigh yourself everyday, once a week is good enough.<br><br>Prayers help, without faith, hope has no meaning. <br><br>Keep a positive outlook, things won't be perfect, but you don't have to let them get you down. Slow progress is still progress. So keep the faith, keep ... Mon, 18 Jul 2016 19:42:00 EST A Successful Combination http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47134_a_successful_combination <em>104</em> <em>104</em> <em>104</em> <em>104</em> <em>104</em> <em>104</em> <em>104</em> <br>"Patience, persistence and perspiration make an unbeatable combination for success" ~Napoleon Hill<br> <em>104</em> <em>104</em> <em>104</em> <em>104</em> <em>104</em> <em>104</em> <em>104</em> <br><br>"Success comes to those who try and keep trying with PMA, a Positive Mental Attitude"<br>~ W. Clement Stone<br><br>"If there is nothing to lose and everything ... Mon, 18 Jul 2016 11:32:00 EST How to cope with anxiety http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47125_how_to_cope_with_anxiety Divorce, layoffs, caring for aging parents, being the sandwich generation, threat of terrorism -- there's plenty of anxiety around for everyone these days. And very often, the source is something we can't change. How do you know when it's time to get help dealing with your anxieties? Anxiety can make us sick. That churning feeling in the stomach and guts that points to anxiety is very real and can have a devastating impact on our health and our very lives. <br>When anxiety is taking a toll, y... Mon, 18 Jul 2016 06:06:00 EST Have your own Therapy Cat! http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47102_smile_every_day <img src="http://photosaws.sparkpeople.com/guid/058c1908-44f2-43ee-a8ec-e0887b369fb9.jpg"><br>I have a cat who I have been training to be a Therapy Animal. We visit the nursing home every week and she is a huge hit! She also sometimes comes to the school where I work as a School Nurse. She's great with the Special Education students. She will be officially certified in September of 2016 and we will hopefully be visiting even more places.<br><br>Every time I see her or even think of her it ma... Sat, 16 Jul 2016 19:07:00 EST The "d" word http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47057_the_d_word I have mentioned this a little bit in previous posts and blogs, but I have come to cringe when others ask, "how is your DIET going?","are you still on your DIET?", and "what kind of DIET are you on to lose the weight?" I wish we could teach outsiders to be a little more sensitive to us trying to make LIFESTYLE CHANGES. I wish they understood that DIET, to me, is something temporary. I am in this for the long haul. It's also not just about losing weight (even though 50 lbs in 5 months has been... Thu, 14 Jul 2016 11:17:00 EST Transform Impossible to I'm Possible http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47035_transform_impossible_to_im_possible I just read the thought of changing "Impossible to I'm Possible" on another person's blog who made it to one-derland and I love it! Making it to having a one in the hundreds place of my weight is one of my goals. <br><br>But what inspired me more was the thought of achieving great things when we continue to strive for them with just little steps at a time. Eating healthier foods, taking smaller portions, getting in some extra steps - they all add up. I like the simple joys in life like we... Wed, 13 Jul 2016 09:08:00 EST Value of Office Friends Support http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47028_value_of_office_friends_support The past couple of weeks have been really difficult with the boss hospitalized for bee stings and then the office manager with inner ear infection causing a myriad of symptoms and making us short staffed. Today she was back and feeling better and she wanted to hear about my new diet program with a physician. I got her to read through the information and asked her to join me on the path to better nutrition and health. My BP was better today and it's because of addressing what I do for mys... Wed, 13 Jul 2016 00:03:00 EST How to review your favorite businesses http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47025_how_to_review_your_favorite_businesses <img src="http://photosaws.sparkpeople.com/guid/37c23b19-1fd6-4450-bfad-49370438525f.JPG"><br>What's easy and fun? Talking to a friend about a business that you love!<br><br>What's even more so? Writing it into an online review!<br><br>Writing an online review for your favorite business is really easy and fun - just like recommending a favorite restaurant to a friend. Anyone who has interacted with a business is qualified to review it online! Not only that, it's a real mood booster to write ... Tue, 12 Jul 2016 19:27:00 EST One Minute to A Healthier You.... http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47024_one_minute_to_a_healthier_you When it comes to losing weight or making healthy choices, we all pretty much think that it takes hours at a gym plus long nights preparing and planning nutritious meals. What we often don't realize is that quick and easy changes can really improve our immediate health and wellness.<br><br>So you think you can't give a minute to your health? One minute—that’s it! Try any one of these 60-second activities to easily reap the healthy benefits.<br><br>1. Drink a tall glass of water. We all know th... Tue, 12 Jul 2016 17:16:00 EST Don't get discouraged!! http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47007_dont_get_discouraged I was always so worried about messing u that I never could get started. One day I just took the first step toward a walk around the neighborhood. Since then I have found out I am insulin resistant and been put on medication to help. Knowing that information and researching PCOS and really learning about my condition has empowered me to keep taking steps each day to become healthier and happier. Just remember each day that u can mess up , you can eat something that is not 100% healthy and not... Tue, 12 Jul 2016 02:41:00 EST Do Not Stop!!! Believe In Yourself! http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47003_do_not_stop_believe_in_yourself Do not stop! Believe in yourself!<br><br>This made my motivation to stay positive and be active in all activities. What made me to stay positive is to become active in all possible activities like running, walking and soon, swimming. Thanks to my MisFine Shine activity tracker.<br><br>Now, with the MisFit Shine activity tracker, I am staying positive whatever happens to me and whatever will be the developing activities that I'll be doing in the next coming days, I'll try to stay positive as m... Mon, 11 Jul 2016 23:04:00 EST I CAN DO THIS!! GOD SAID SO!! AND GOD CAN'T LIE!! http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=47000_i_can_do_this_god_said_so_and_god_cant_lie I feel as though I've been on a diet all my life and wanting to be a certain size, but NOW I just want to lose weight to be HEALTHY - and that's eating right and excising. <em>492</em> <em>551</em> <em>311</em> <em>216</em> I want to enjoy my grandchildren and keep up with them <em>246</em> and I find the Secret is Staying Close to God and taking it ONE DAY AT A TIME!! Yes I fail - but failing is not problem the problem is when I fail to not get back up again!! I've also Bookm... Mon, 11 Jul 2016 21:44:00 EST Planning Ahead of Time http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46989_planning_ahead_of_time I've been a " roller coaster" since a kid. Now, I look back at patterns of when I've fallen off and realize it mostly, of course happens as the holidays come around. This has prompted me to look at the new calendar month and circle dates where I am prone to falling, and not stress but rather come up with a plan. I read a lot of comments on 4th of July and how people were stressing. I think it doesn't have to be a stress. So for example. June 30, I looked at July. I circled the 4th, the 9th... Mon, 11 Jul 2016 12:20:00 EST keep on trucking, never say die http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46949_keep_on_trucking_never_say_die This is a marathon, not a race. If you fall, get back up, dust off, and start again, Don't take set backs as failure, find away around roadblocks and move out towards the goal. Set real attainable goals, small at first to have success and when you have success set harder challenges. When you fall back a bit, just get back on track and try again maybe with smaller goals. Always remember; the longest journey starts with the smallest step and even the smallest step forward is better than going b... Sat, 9 Jul 2016 16:40:00 EST Take a Positive Outlook http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46935_take_a_positive_outlook It's the negative self talk we all indulge in...We tend to think the worst... but rest assure we all mess up sometimes... We are not perfect... You may have noticed little kids speaking their inner thoughts out loud.. They are brutally honest if you don't want to know don't ask ... and as we grow older we stop... Things are either good or bad there's no middle ground.... If you're not perfect you're a total failure... Sparks gives us all we need to be positive and loose weight and all we ha... Sat, 9 Jul 2016 02:12:00 EST LOSING YOUR WEIGHT MEANS WAKING UP TO REALITY http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46916_my_sense_of_humor_got_me_through_a_difficut_social_situation My 90 pound weight loss opened doors for me. Last night I found myself interviewing friends of Princess Di in Buckingham Palace! I was dressed appropriately for the situation in a Chanel suit and my professional notebook. For the occasion I wore a tasteful hat with a feather on the side.<br><br>A very well dressed man with an impeccable English accent charmed me with his warm memories of the Princess. He described how intelligent, charming and energetic she was when she fulfilled her dutie... Fri, 8 Jul 2016 07:27:00 EST How to Stay Positive While Trying to Lose Weight http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46905_how_to_stay_positive_while_trying_to_lose_weight Anyone who has ever tried to lose weight knows there is no easy way to make it happen.<br><br>There is no magic pill or miracle product. You just need to put in the time and do the work.<br><br>However, there is a secret weapon many people are ignorant of. This secret can work miracles and produce amazing results.<br><br>Want to know what the secret is? I’ll tell you; it’s a positive attitude.<br><br>Change how you think about food, the progress of your weight loss journey, and your outwar... Thu, 7 Jul 2016 18:59:00 EST Success is measured in moments not in ounces. http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46902_success_is_measured_in_moments_not_in_ounces Over my lifetime, I am certain I have lost between 500 and 1000 pounds--seriously. <br><br>I have been very consistent at checking in with Spark People almost every day since late February of this year, yet I'm not thin. The pounds are not melting away this time.<br><br>So how do I happen to feel successful? I feel it for a number of reasons. I have made and kept <br>many commitments to myself since the end of February. For one thing, I now track my food and water. Even though I don't alwa... Thu, 7 Jul 2016 18:05:00 EST Remember to Reward Yourself http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46891_remember_to_reward_yourself Remember to Reward Yourself<br>How to Pat Yourself on the Back<br><br> By Mike Kramer, SparkPeople Contributor<br> <img src="http://photosaws.sparkpeople.com/guid/f4e56bc5-ca9a-4009-8f17-21c99eadbb87.jpg"><br>Everyone likes a pat on the back every once in a while. And there’s no better time to get one than when you’re out of your comfort zone, challenging yourself to improve, nervous about whether you can succeed.<br><br>Most people approach changing their health habits from a position of "p... Thu, 7 Jul 2016 08:25:00 EST Mind Refresh Blip http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46869_mind_refres_blip Where the mind goes the man follows - Joyce Meyer. <br><br>Well I started there and said how can I keep my focus on what God wants me to do to honor this body (mind, body, and spirit). <br><br>I am doing this exercise thing, and food thing, and church thing, how do I put it all together so it doesn't feel like I am going in many directions but flows because it's meant to go together. Well this Cognitive thing was the component that was missing. When I started putting my thoughts in submiss... Wed, 6 Jul 2016 07:39:00 EST How did you sleep? http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46866_how_did_you_sleep Our Attitude begins when we start to think ..our attitude often determines how our days will progress... You have heard the Old saying... He or She woke up on the wrong side of the bed... Well really it has nothing to do with our attitude or getting out of bed... Yes if we get enough rest we wake up in a much better mood than if we get little sleep and then it seems like we are tired and slow going...How we approach our day is about so much more…happiness can drive our ability to be successfu... Wed, 6 Jul 2016 01:33:00 EST Aim To Sustain http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46827_aim_to_sustain I've tried to lose weight a lot of times before. Even with SparkPeople. But this is the first time that I've stuck at it for a year, made serious progress (85lbs lost so far!), and not felt like I wanted to eat my own arm off every five minutes.<br><br>People have asked me, what's different this time? And it really boils down to one thing: I took it slow.<br><br>I tried to keep the same general idea phrased a few different ways in my mind every day:<br><br>- One thing at a time<br>- Everythin... Mon, 4 Jul 2016 06:44:00 EST Sometimes It Is All About Me! http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46818_sometimes_it_is_all_about_me Set aside a certain amount of time each day just to do what you want to do. How about 1 hour each day? If that’s not “possible,” start with smaller increments of time, say 15 minutes, and work your way up.<br>Doing part of something is better than doing nothing. Even if you can’t complete a task or a project, it is better to take a small “chunk” out of it rather than letting the whole thing slide until later. If you absolutely “hate” working in that manner, then just make sure... Sun, 3 Jul 2016 16:54:00 EST Remember, you are always PHAT! http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46802_remeber_you_are_always_phat <img src="http://photosaws.sparkpeople.com/guid/867bef14-35e2-4c50-ad90-f3a2568d7df6.jpg"><br><br><br><br>(Some of you are familiar with my 'BEFORE Pictures & Continuing PROGRESS' pictures blog... if you aren't you might want to take a peek before you read further...) <br><br>http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_<BR>public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=<BR>2108514<br><br><br>I'm 5'3" tall and I weigh over 250 pounds. Before I got to SparkPeople I really didn't know just how fat I was. Really. ... Sat, 2 Jul 2016 16:16:00 EST Feeling Great and Good How Bout You? http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46778_feeling_great_and_good_how_bout_you <img src="http://photosaws.sparkpeople.com/guid/3dda0ac8-d7d8-4193-9f13-2a66b3276fda.jpg"><br><br>Some days are better than others. On those days that go less well, I usually end up being hard on myself. So when I am hard on myself I normally tend to compensate by eating unhealthy. <br><br>BUT when I am feeling good, in the zone and making it do what it do! A sistah girl is on fire!!! Here are a few ways I tend to do this:<br><br>I just keep going. I try my might not to let life's changes/ch... Fri, 1 Jul 2016 12:09:00 EST Don't Let Your Fears Define You http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46774_abundance_appears_when_fear_disappears <img src="http://photosaws.sparkpeople.com/guid/f9aa8326-8a9e-4fd7-8c24-1f8968fee6bd.jpg"><br><br><br><br>I was recently prised out of my torpor and lassitude by the following: <br><br>"I see problems, instead of possibilities. <br>I find excuses instead of solutions. <br>I'm grumpy instead of gracious. <br>I've been seeing only scarcity instead of abundance. <br>I've been saying 'I can't' more than 'I can', 'why?' instead of 'why not?!' <br><br> Most importantly, I realized that I've been o... Fri, 1 Jul 2016 02:00:00 EST Transformation of the New you.. http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46764_transformation_of_the_new_you When you deiced that you want to make this Journey here on Spark People know it is not just a easy thing.. Your Journey will take a while.. To drop weight there is a lot of things that you need to do.. Some get skied up and think after a few months they should be there.. but think how long you took to get where you are now and where you want to be at.. Then you may have to go in the Hospital and there is a set back and maybe you get hurt.. that is a set back.. My Journey to my point took almo... Thu, 30 Jun 2016 17:40:00 EST Positive Attitude and keep going http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46743_positive_attitude_and_keep_going We have all been there before... One day we feel like we can do anything and we resolve to try... but a few days or weeks later we wonder how we can get up the desire to even get out of bed.... If we think real hard...maybe it is not that bad…but when it comes to keeping up with healthy eating and physical activity, perhaps it is... We tend to drag our feet and make excuses and then here we go.. Yo Yo.. Don't do this keep a positive attitude... Do you have a clear plan about how you're going ... Wed, 29 Jun 2016 01:02:00 EST Just Don't Give Up Trying http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46739_just_dont_give_up_trying I don't know if i'm the right person to be writing this. I am not a weight-loss expert. I have been trying to lose weight a good deal of my life. I am feeling a little different about losing this time - this time it has to do with my health. <br><br>Not that my doctor hasn't said that I should lose (she has said that many times over the years). It's more that I need to lose because I am putting too much work on my heart to push all that blood around this big body. My body is not as big ... Tue, 28 Jun 2016 21:45:00 EST How to overcome depression http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46736_how_to_overcome_depression Many people go through an occasional episode of depression and feel they are lost, sinking, or unable to cope. Depression is NOT a normal part of life, but if you make a few significant changes you can overcome it without medications.<br> 1. EXERCISE! Yes, it's very hard to feel motivated enough to get up and move, so enlist a friend to exercise with you, or borrow or obtain a dog. I used to borrow the dog from across the street which helped the neighbors, helped the dog, and forced ... Tue, 28 Jun 2016 14:03:00 EST How to change two lives by volunteering http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46715_how_to_change_two_lives_by_volunteering No time to volunteer? Too stressed? Too busy? Does this world and all its stress overwhelm you? You can change one little piece of the world you touch just by volunteering. <br>One of the best ways to make new friends and strengthen existing relationships is to commit to a shared activity together. Find something you enjoy doing, or better yet, go out of your comfort zone and explore something new by volunteering in an area you know nothing about. Can't cook? Volunteer at a soup kitchen o... Mon, 27 Jun 2016 08:16:00 EST Depression, anxiety and panic attacks are NOT a sign of weakness. http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46693_depression_anxiety_and_panic_attacks_are_not_a_sign_of_weakness <br><br><br><br><br>Depression, anxiety and panic attacks are NOT a sign of weakness. They are signs of having tried to remain strong for way too long. Did you know that 1 in 3 of us will go through this at some point in our lives? Show support that they are not alone.<br><br>“Anxiety is love's greatest killer. It makes others feel as you might when a drowning man holds on to you. You want to save him, but you know he will strangle you with his panic.” ~ Anaïs Nin<br><br>“After all, what is h... Sat, 25 Jun 2016 17:35:00 EST Miracles Are Happening http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46691_miracles_are_happening Read my today's blog about Miracles. No matter how far down the scale we go, we CAN benefit others with our experiences. <br><br>It is so easy to look at all the negatives. <br><br>Just for today, write down ten delights in your life. <br><br>When I look down on my life, I get a downer day.<br><br>When I look for good and beauty, my day is happier, I am healthier, more enthused about simply being alive.<br> <em>246</em> <br><br>If life is getting pretty rough around the edges, I insist on... Sat, 25 Jun 2016 13:48:00 EST THE ENGINE THAT COULD http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46678_the_engine_that_could Remember that story The Little Engine That Could. He kept saying I think I can... I think I can, and what do you know; he could! Doing anything requires belief that you can do it. If you don't believe it, than you won't be able to do it. If you believe that you can resist temptation, than you will resist temptation. You are stronger than that desire to do something that you know to be harmful or wrong! If you believe you can work out for so much time than you can. Don't let petty excuses come... Fri, 24 Jun 2016 15:12:00 EST Have you tried Meditation? http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46674_have_you_tried_meditation Truly, I find if we can take a few moments of our days just sitting quietly with no distractions such as television, radio etc we can come to a very peaceful place..<br><br>Here we can ponder on our inner feelings, our relationships,or our trust in a divine being guiding our destiny, and thus we can survive any complication or issue in our daily complex lives.<br><br>Do take this small time out of your busy day. It may be only ten to fifteen moments. It is best, I think, to do this in the ear... Fri, 24 Jun 2016 11:02:00 EST Stop Looking Down and look Up http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46663_stop_looking_down_and_look_up When you start your Journey here at Sparks People then this is where weight loss begins.. Your choices of food and login your food will begin you lifestyle has started.. Weight control requires a change in lifestyle... and it will be so much better as you make your choices.. Besides watching calories and eating better changing the mindset to a positive one will also help the quest for a new look and better healthy.. Weight loss and better health walk hand in hand..Everyone is different in ho... Thu, 23 Jun 2016 16:58:00 EST Secrets of a long and happy marriage http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46644_secrets_of_a_long_and_happy_marriage Maybe 41 years of marriage isn't long to some people but it seems to be longer than most marriages these days. Of the majority of our friends, we tease that we are still on our "starter" marriage, while most have exchanged partners at least once, some four and five times! My parents had a long and happy marriage and I decided to pattern my relationship with my husband after my parents. A few tips that work for us:<br>1. Always THANK your partner for what they do for you. I than my husband ... Wed, 22 Jun 2016 16:36:00 EST Manage your anger http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46630_manage_your_anger It's so easy to lose our temper, snap, go ballistic, or get angry. Whatever we call it, anger is an emotion that is "best served cold." It can be toxic, destructive, and harmful. It causes pain, stress and alienation.<br> There are two types of anger, destructive anger and constructive anger. Destructive anger is the source of revenge, retribution, and "pay-back." It is deadly, self-sabotaging, and is the life-wrecking anger that creates harm and ill-will, It is often bottles up inte... Tue, 21 Jun 2016 15:08:00 EST Being Positive Helps http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46629_being_positive_helps With the ups and downs in lift I try to stay positive. My son on the other side of the US starting a new job. Happy for him and his girl but I miss them.<br><br>Life is good and very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking. <br><br>Sometime it's not the song that makes you emotional it's the people and things that come to mind when you hear it. <br><br>Notice the people who make an effort to stay in your life.<br><br>Life is too short to wak... Tue, 21 Jun 2016 14:32:00 EST Some Spiritual Exercises http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46624_some_spiritual_exercises <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <br>The fact that I can plant a seed and it becomes a flower, share a bit of knowledge and it becomes another's, smile at someone and receive a smile in return, are to me continual spiritual exercises. <br>Leo Buscaglia <br> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <br><br>This harkens back to yesterday's secret, whatsoever sha... Tue, 21 Jun 2016 10:01:00 EST During Times when you CAN'T workout http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46615_during_times_when_you_cant_workout I've often been discouraged when, after being 'good' for so long, I hit my T.O.M. week. During this week, I CAN NOT do my normal activities. I always feel like it's a set back in my month and an obstacle to my fitness. And, believe me, I do NOT have a good track record with OBSTACLES.<br>Now, I have decided to view it as a Rest Week. I tone it down, heal, and put my brain to work accomplishing OTHER goals that perhaps I couldn't do the rest of the month, because I was so busy thinking of FI... Mon, 20 Jun 2016 21:38:00 EST How to really win friends and influence people http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46590_how_to_really_win_friends_and_influence_people In these days of social media it's easy to snap back at the ridiculous comments so many people seem to post. Bust just because they disagree with our views doesn't mean they are not worth knowing. I find it more and more important to listen much more than I speak. I have found a few ways that work for me when it comes to winning friends and being a good influence on people. <br>1. Just be nice! If you don't have anything nice to say, then don't say it! Show appreciation, gratitude, than... Sun, 19 Jun 2016 08:08:00 EST Be honest with yourself http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46568_be_honest_with_yourself On certain days I just want to be miserable. You know those days, you feel crummy, it is hot out, it is humid and I just want to be miserable. It is easy to take it out on your support network, aka. friends or family. Be honest with yourself on days like that. Recognize what you are doing. Recognize why you are doing it. Be sure to make amends with your support network or they won't be around much longer. Those people are the ones you can vent to when you need to, but try not to make t... Fri, 17 Jun 2016 13:32:00 EST Pick a Mantra http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46558_pick_a_mantra Pick a saying that speaks to you. It can change over your journey. <br><br>Currently, for me, I think of food "set backs" as flat tires. You wouldn't pop the other three tires because of one flat. You aren't happy about the flat, it is definitely upsetting and inconvenient, but you fix it and move forward. <br><br>Fix your flat!<br><br>Another mantra I've used is the Japanese proverb, "fall seven times, get up eight." We are not our set backs. We are defined by getting up. Getting up is more ... Fri, 17 Jun 2016 00:37:00 EST my life is not your story to tell http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46537_my_life_is_not_your_story_to_tell <br>My life is not your Story to tell<br><br><br><br>My life. My choices. My mistakes. My lessons. Not your business. Mind your own problems before you talk about mine. My life is not your story to tell.<br><br>Before you judge my life, my past or my character, walk in my shoes, walk the path I have traveled, live my sorrows, my doubts, my fear, my pain & my laughter... Remember everyone has a story, when u have lived my life then u can judge me....<br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br><BR><br>... Wed, 15 Jun 2016 18:18:00 EST Keeping the "it" out of my home http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46510_keep_your_it_aka_your_go_to_our_of_your_home This is a really old one, but so true. Yet time after time over the years I do self talk while shopping and say I will buy this for my DH, or DS and his family. Might I just add here that both DS and DH say I really don't need this (as they are eating away) and if it wasn't here I would not be eating it. So what does that say or should say to me. STOP BUYING THE "STUFF." No one in the family needs any of it... the it I am referring to is sweets/desserts.<br><br>This is sooo much harder ... Mon, 13 Jun 2016 22:27:00 EST Come on and get with it.. http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46500_come_on_and_get_with_it In today's time there are a lot of ways coming at you in all directions good ones and bad ones.. They are billboards and internet and all the commercials selling the weight loss pill to flush out all the fat.. The only things getting fat is their wallet and bank account.... So before you give these people money for food pre-measured and sent to you and the boxes with made up snacks.. Do a little bit of investigation before you do.. try and decipher what is truth.. what works and what's for re... Mon, 13 Jun 2016 11:24:00 EST 11 Tips for Staying Positive http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46497_11_tips_for_staying_positive Maintaining your positive attitude is critical when you want to achieve anything… or just to improve the quality of your life. Most success literature will talk about the power of positive thinking and how important it is. It’s often easier said than done.<br><br>Today we’ll look at 11 tips for maintaining your positive attitude no matter what’s going on in your life.<br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br><<BR>br>1. You Determine Your Reality<br><br>It’s important to realize that you determine y... Mon, 13 Jun 2016 07:48:00 EST Become your own best friend http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46492_become_your_own_best_friend Coming from a person who was accustomed to calling themselves "fat" "ugly" "cow" and pretty much belittling themselves for years, I have seen a major difference in my weight loss and energy levels just from changing the way I talk to myself. I no longer call myself names. I know that I am beautiful, inside and out. I feel better about who I am, and if you do this too, you will reach less often for food to feel emotionally stable... to cope with loneliness, depression, or anything else. <br><... Sun, 12 Jun 2016 22:40:00 EST Don't just Dream Do IT.. http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46475_dont_just_dream_do_it After a while and when you discover you have been a Couch Potato for too long.. You need to change you way of thinking.. Think like a Athlete become the one who wants to do it.. If you think it is hard.. I will say no to that cause I was there and you don't believe that.. If I can change my attitude and do it anyone can.. I stopped using my busy life as an excuse not to exercise... Put the plan in motion.. Now find something you like to do... Bowling.. Well I am not a sports person and the l... Sat, 11 Jun 2016 13:08:00 EST Never Idealize Others http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46472_never_idealize_others <em>43</em> <em>43</em> <em>43</em> <em>43</em> <em>43</em> <em>43</em> <em>43</em> <br>Never idealize others. They will never live up to your expectations. Don't over-analyze your relationships. Stop playing games. A growing relationship can only be nurtured by genuineness. <br>~ Leo Buscaglia <br> <em>43</em> <em>43</em> <em>43</em> <em>43</em> <em>43</em> <em>43</em> <em>43</em> <br><br>When Dr Buscaglia made the cited quotation, he was obviously refer... Sat, 11 Jun 2016 10:07:00 EST Forces at Work http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46458_forces_at_work <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <br>There are two big forces at work, external and internal. We have very little control over external forces such as tornadoes, earthquakes, floods, disasters, illness and pain. What really matters is the internal force. How do I respond to those disasters? Over that I have complete control. <br>~ Leo Buscaglia <br> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> ... Fri, 10 Jun 2016 08:57:00 EST Hesitation and Frustration http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46454_hesitation_and_frustration So I get frustrated when I don't see the scale moving. What do I do you ask I go on a bender with high fat loads of processed sugars & foods. This is not helpful in my cause. <br><br>In learning and relearning how to make portions size, get right nutrition, get my vitamins from food, get my fiber in AND next up strength training and cardio dosage just right to see/get my results it takes time.<br><br>I sometimes forget the old adage is that you have to burn more calories than the ones you tak... Thu, 9 Jun 2016 22:39:00 EST One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46452_one_flew_over_the_cuckoos_nest Weight loss can drive you crazy. The ups and downs on the scale. The unpredictability of how one meal at a restaurant might effect your progress. A million different people whispering in your ear; from marketers of millions of weight loss products to well meaning but ill informed people who all think they have the best solution for your weight loss needs.<br><br>So what to do? Focus. Accept the chaos of it all. It's life whether you are losing weight or not. I am a pastor so I should probably... Thu, 9 Jun 2016 21:56:00 EST Learning and Changing http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46440_learning_and_changing <em>58</em> <em>58</em> <em>58</em> <em>58</em> <em>58</em> <em>58</em> <em>58</em> <br>Change is the end result of all true learning. <br>Leo Buscaglia <br> <em>58</em> <em>58</em> <em>58</em> <em>58</em> <em>58</em> <em>58</em> <em>58</em> <br><br>Leo Buscaglia was an amazing man. He taught a non-credit course at the University of Southern California and there was always a waiting list to get into the class. People were actually going on a wait list ... Thu, 9 Jun 2016 10:36:00 EST A day at a time http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46429_a_day_at_a_time I take a day at a time, I challenge myself to do better from the day before. Ex: If I walked 1 mile yesterday, today I challenge to do 1.5 miles today. Whatever I did the day before, I try to improve or press forward the next day. My fit was programmed to 10,000 steps a day. I was not even doing 2,000 steps in a given day. I lowered it to 2,000. Now, I just raised it to 5,000. My average steps is above 4,000 now. Every week I look at my fit and reflect on what area I can improve. Before I kno... Wed, 8 Jun 2016 16:54:00 EST Keep A Spark Book http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46426_keep_a_spark_book I use a Spark Book / Spark Journal to keep myself happy, focused and motivated. <br><br>While this is now a commercialized concept - meaning you can go buy a branded Spark Journal these days...it began as an art school trick to keep students' creative momentum. <br><br>Really, any journal lined or unlined, hardback or soft spine, thick or thin, pocket-size or 8.5x11", all will work. Even a monthly planner will do. I have seen people use the daily calendar squares on a monthly planner to doodl... Wed, 8 Jun 2016 15:20:00 EST Creating new habits!! http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46405_creating_new_habits The weight-loss process has been a very daunting one. It seems like there is an obstacle around every corner, a monster lurking in the shadows. There are too many factors that are setting me up to fail. But isn't that why I am here? Isn't that why I don't weigh what I want to? Or look and feel the way I want to? There is a reason this happened. I am the only one who can take responsibility for this.<br><br>These obstacles are only there because I put them there. I made those choices; Not only... Tue, 7 Jun 2016 13:14:00 EST Easy ways to save money http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46385_easy_ways_to_save_money We all know debt is a huge stressor and trying to save money these days is almost impossible. It can be done, however, and I'll share a few ways to find " healthy greens."<br>1. Save all the change. Whenever my husband buys anything he tosses the change into a piggy bank at home. Then every few months I take the change, roll it, and carry it to the bank for deposit. It is usually over $100 which goes right into savings. It wont help you save if you buy what you don't need, but just savin... Mon, 6 Jun 2016 12:33:00 EST You are not just everybody.. http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46350_you_are_not_just_everybody We like to look at our bodies as I am OK just the way I am ... Well we are all unique in our own ways.. Everyone that wants to loose weight needs to know it is not about a number on a scale or the picture of a body builder as a example.. Shoot for the I feel good in my own skin.. All of us a human being have our own value and goal ... So accept and respect yourself now....Get comfortable with the real you inside and out...Accept your size and shape your feelings yourself unconditionally... Ac... Sat, 4 Jun 2016 16:12:00 EST Various suggestions of keeping a positive attitude during weight loss... http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46339_various_suggestions_of_keeping_a_positive_attitude_during_weight_loss Staying positive can be a tough thing to do especially with the ups and downs associated with losing weight. While there are many strategies and tactics that someone can use when setting and keeping goals, we’ll focus on a couple tips here.<br><br>Remember it’s about baby steps. Don’t overwhelm yourself with lofty goals. Set small manageable ones that are achievable along the way. It can be as simple as” tomorrow, I will get breakfast just right”. Remember how we climb a ladder? That’s right:... Fri, 3 Jun 2016 20:36:00 EST Make you happy http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46323_make_you_happy <br>Of this be sure: You do not need find the happy life -- you make it.<br><br>There is a new series on Huffington Post called "Talk to Me". It is children asking questions of their parents. I love it, I love the questions, I love the idea.<br><br>This got me thinking...if my darling Daughter asked me what I would want for her in her life, I would think of all kinds of things, success, health, love, but most of all, and by a wide margin, I want her to be happy.<br><br>Happy is a state of min... Fri, 3 Jun 2016 08:55:00 EST Thoughts on Courage http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46290_thoughts_on_courage <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <br> "Courage is on display every day, and only the courageous wring the most out of life." <br>~ Zig Ziglar <br> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <em>36</em> <br><br>"Courage is being scared as Hell and saddling up anyway"<br>~ John Wayne<br><br>Courage is doing what should be done when it should be done how it should be done.<br><br>... Wed, 1 Jun 2016 09:04:00 EST Measure Your Success http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46268_measure_your_success <em>205</em> <em>205</em> <em>205</em> <em>205</em> <em>205</em> <em>205</em> <em>205</em> <br>"Success must never be measured by how much money you have."<br>~ Zig Ziglar<br> <em>205</em> <em>205</em> <em>205</em> <em>205</em> <em>205</em> <em>205</em> <em>205</em> <br><br>How often do we judge people's success by the home they live in, the car they drive, the clothes they wear, the jewelry they wear, the events they attend, the vacations they take. These are a... Tue, 31 May 2016 08:00:00 EST POSITIVITY IS KEY http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46266_positivity_is_key I have been dealing with weight issues since I was about five or six years old. I have done lots of diets, exercise, and even a medical fast. I have had many levels of success and failure over the years. However, now I believe that I have a grasp on what I need to do to be successful. I have a compulsive eating disorder. I have to remain very structured in what I do every day. I am not somebody who can just come into work when there are doughnuts, have one and be fine about it. I have to be v... Tue, 31 May 2016 01:37:00 EST Think good thoughts http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46252_think_good_thoughts <br>You need to learn how to select your thoughts, just the same way you select your clothes every day. This is a power you can cultivate.<br><br>If you don't already get up every day with love for yourself and determination to make this a GREAT day, why not?<br><br>Why are you letting anyone dictate how your day will go, especially you? Why aren't you being as supportive as possible, as loving as possible, as determined as possible to YOU? After all, you treat your friends this way. Aren't y... Mon, 30 May 2016 10:10:00 EST Don't give up http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46243_dont_give_up So not giving up. That's the key. Even when you make a mistake like it ice cream or eat something you shouldn't. Just keep going. Just realize you make mistakes, but that doesn't mean that you have to throw in the towel. You can keep going even if you make caloric mistakes. All that counts is that in the end you have fewer calories overall. If you make a mistake one or two days a week and the other five days are good you're good if you make a mistake one hour and the other 23 you're good y... Sun, 29 May 2016 23:20:00 EST Staying Active And Healthy http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46226_staying_active_and_healthy We have been having a lot of fitness contests at work and I have been participating in all of them. We are currently having a steps contest and this is the second one since February. I came in sixth overall out of 325 people. I won a $25 Dick's Sporting Goods Gift Card. we had the contest in February and then again in April. Now a new one starts in June. I have been taking 10,000 steps by 7:00 am . I start walking at 5:30 am and then walk until 7:00 am even on the odd months we are not having... Sat, 28 May 2016 22:53:00 EST Stay & keeping motivation http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46205_stay_keeping_motivation I've noticed so many times that it’s hard to be motivated all the time.<br><br>No matter what or how I switch up my workouts, there are just days when I don’t feel like showing up. There will be workouts that I don’t feel like starting let alone think about even getting started. There will be reports at work that I just don’t feel like writing or working on. There will be responsibilities that I don’t feel like handling. And there will be “off days” when my energy and emotions are down the ra... Fri, 27 May 2016 18:13:00 EST Today stay positive http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46200_today_stay_positive TGIF everyday<br>By Melyssa Griffin<br>1. Actively appreciate the weather. If it’s sunny, go sit outside and let the warm rays beat down on your skin. If it’s rainy, leave your jacket at home and bask in the raindrops on your face. As much as we humans don’t like to admit it, we’re still a part of nature, and the natural world usually makes us feel pretty awesome.<br><br>2. Have you ever heard of the website, Cute Overload? Now you have. You’re welcome.<br><br>3. Connect with cashiers. Does t... Fri, 27 May 2016 11:29:00 EST You're worth it all right http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46198_youre_worth_it_all_right Maybe life isn't about avoiding the bruises. Maybe it's about collecting the scars to prove we showed up for it.<br><br>I have been swimming later at night, after the swim team, the kids, the people starting swimming, the seniors are all finished. I basically have the olympic pool to myself. It is serene, awesome, refreshing, and my very favorite exercise.<br><br>I got out of the pool at about 8:20 last night. The lifeguard and I were the only people in the pool area. I told her before I star... Fri, 27 May 2016 09:53:00 EST Use what you love http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46181_use_what_you_love When it comes to weight loss use what you love. If you're new don't try a whole bunch of new things all at one because that's a quick way to get discouraged if you don't like the new tasks or they don't fit well into your current routine. Take inventory of your personal loves and see what you can incorporate from there. Do you already have some vegetables you love to eat? What about any outdoor activities you love to do? <br><br>I personally love geocaching, so to get me more active I can get... Thu, 26 May 2016 13:25:00 EST Pick your voice http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46178_pick_your_voice You need to learn how to select your thoughts, just the same way you select your clothes every day. This is a power you can cultivate.<br><br>If you don't already get up every day with love for yourself and determination to make this a GREAT day, why not?<br><br>Why are you letting anyone dictate how your day will go, especially you? Why aren't you being as supportive as possible, as loving as possible, as determined as possible to YOU? After all, you treat your friends this way. Aren't you r... Thu, 26 May 2016 09:31:00 EST One day at a time http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46175_one_day_at_a_time Take one day at a time. It isn't so difficult if you are determined to just stay on track with nutrition and drinking water, and exercise for just one day. It doesn't matter what happened yesterday or last. Just one step at a time. <br><br>I joined Spark in 2008 and lost over a hundred lbs in weight and I did it by, taking a day at a time, and focussing on what was successful for me. I tracked my food every day and increased my exercise gradually and the weight came off steadily.<br><br>Unfor... Thu, 26 May 2016 05:08:00 EST Staying Committed Focused Be Stable http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46173_staying_committed_focused_be_stable Let’s be honest here. We will need something concrete to really motivate us when times get hard. There will come a day when you have a big fight with your mother on the phone or your boss is really demanding. Maybe the car won’t start and the kids are screaming. Suddenly the idea of motivation is out the window and all you want is a Snickers bar.<br><br>Or haven't or didn’t work out, and suddenly it’s eight o’clock on a cold winter night. You’re exhausted because it has been such ... Thu, 26 May 2016 00:50:00 EST When feeling overwhelmed http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46168_when_feeling_overwhelmed When you feel that you are so emotionally drained that you just want to give up on yourself, undo all the good you have done so far, first take a deep breath and then second turn to your Spark friends through journaling. <br>The support and friendship, caring and compassion shines through with the numerous friends you have made and the many more you will make through your need for comforting words, supportive quotes, and caring gestures.<br><br>I have had two years of woes since joining Spark... Wed, 25 May 2016 22:42:00 EST A Spark pep talk http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46157_a_spark_pep_talk A Sparked is struggling, and wrote me a Sparkmail asking for advice. Here is what I told her. (I hope it helps!!)<br><br>First of all, I was REALLY overweight last year. I have lost over a hundred pounds in a year. How did I do it, how am I continuing, and how have I made it work....<br><br>First, buy the Beck Book.<br><br>The Beck Diet Solution: Train Your Brain to Think Like a Thin Person<br>By Judith Beck<br><br>This book, chapter by chapter, gives you the tools to stop using food as a c... Wed, 25 May 2016 08:31:00 EST Hang in there http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46153_hang_in_there The Secret of My Success today getting me through the day minute by minute. Sometimes you just have to get through the day second-by-second minute-by-minute. You have to resist those feelings of Temptation every single second of every single minute of every single hour of every single day. It is extremely difficult. Other days it's super easy. The most important thing I found was to keep moving today even if it meant just lifting my legs up in March and I was standing still in the bathroom. O... Tue, 24 May 2016 22:42:00 EST Collect your scars http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46140_collect_your_scars Maybe life isn't about avoiding the bruises. Maybe it's about collecting the scars to prove we showed up for it.<br><br>I have been swimming later at night, after the swim team, the kids, the people starting swimming, the seniors are all finished. I basically have the olympic pool to myself. It is serene, awesome, refreshing, and my very favorite exercise.<br><br>I got out of the pool at about 8:20 last night. The lifeguard and I were the only people in the pool area. I told her before I star... Tue, 24 May 2016 09:22:00 EST The Low Carb http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46138_the_low_carb This low carb thing isn't too bad. I was able to find some very unique and delicious recipes that would fit right in to the low carb diet--even desserts!<br>Reflecting over my last 50. Years. Yes, I am one half of a century old. My body is feeling some of the aging, especially in the last year or so. I can do much better than I am with my weight loss and exercise goals. It was truly an amazing walk yesterday. The weather was perfect, and my husband and I explored areas and streets of our tow... Tue, 24 May 2016 08:41:00 EST be positive, please http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46126_be_positive_please HI! It is so hard to be positive, and it becomes more difficult when you are around negative people. In my job, I often have to deal with extremely frustrating and depressing things. This makes it hard to focus on being positive and when I get depressed, I tend to eat more. And it isn't healthy things I'll eat, it's all that junk/comfort food! Cookies, chocolate, grilled cheese, chocolate, quesadillas, chocolate...you get the idea. One of the tricks I learned this week, is "turn that n... Mon, 23 May 2016 13:47:00 EST My Last 50 http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46118_my_last_50 Reflecting over my last 50. Years. Yes, I am one half of a century old. My body is feeling some of the aging, especially in the last year or so. I can do much better than I am with my weight loss and exercise goals. It was truly an amazing walk yesterday. The weather was perfect, and my husband and I explored areas and streets of our town that we never paid attention to before. We we got home, we were both shocked to see that we had accomplished our biggest number of daily steps...just shy ... Mon, 23 May 2016 09:08:00 EST I Can Do Better http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46099_i_can_do_better I can do much better than I am with my weight loss and exercise goals. It was truly an amazing walk yesterday. The weather was perfect, and my husband and I explored areas and streets of our town that we never paid attention to before. We we got home, we were both shocked to see that we had accomplished our biggest number of daily steps...just shy of 15,000!<br><br>Making little changes in my activity level has helped me to be more positive. I've attempted to eat cleaner. I've been doing a lo... Sun, 22 May 2016 10:29:00 EST I Can Do Better http://www.sparkpeople.com/secrets.asp?tip=46098_i_can_do_better I can do much better than I am with my weight loss and exercise goals. It was truly an amazing walk yesterday. The weather was perfect, and my husband and I explored areas and streets of our town that we never paid attention to before. We we got home, we were both shocked to see that we had accomplished our biggest number of daily steps...just shy of 15,000!<br><br>Making little changes in my activity level has helped me to be more positive. I've attempted to eat cleaner. I've been doing a lo... Sun, 22 May 2016 10:29:00 EST