Things That Don't Suck about Getting Older

By , SparkPeople Blogger
Yesterday was a pivotal day. I said goodbye to being a 20-something and today I woke up as a 30-year-old woman. 
 
I don't really feel different, but I also kind of do. Maybe because when I was growing up, 30 seemed so old (certainly I don't feel that way now). It also seemed so "grown up" when I was a kid, a teen, and a college student.  Turning 30 has been on my mind a lot these past few weeks.
 
My dad, now nearing 60, has always told me that mentally, he doesn't feel any different now than when he was 25; it's only our bodies that show and feel our age. I think I understand that more and more as I get older. Each passing year, whether it's New Year's Day, a birthday or an anniversary, is a chance to reflect, regroup and refocus. You can choose to change or start fresh. But no matter what, these life events remind me that I need to appreciate the passage of time more than I do. It goes SO fast, and I can say for certain that every year I get older, time seems to fly by even faster than it did the year before.
 
Everyone who is older than me says that life get better with age. But I'll be honest: I sometimes have trouble seeing the upside of things. When my husband threw me a surprise party last weekend to celebrate, I felt sad about all the people who didn't come instead of being happy to mingle with those who did. And now that I'm another calendar year older, I can't help but think of all the things I haven't done—rather than recollecting all of my accomplishments to date. And then there's the big elephant in the room: babies! I thought that by 30 I'd feel ready (I do want kids), but I don't feel any more "ready" than when I was 22. I guess that only shows how little I really knew when I was younger!
 
Of course, even a glass-half-empty girl 30-year-old like me knows that it's not all bad. I mean, personally, I've always looked way younger than my age, so I'm actually hoping I look old enough to be perceived as a person with experience and credibility. (When I first joined the SparkPeople staff at age 22, my boss thought no one would take me seriously as a fitness expert because I looked, in his words, "15 years old.")  But there are even things about your body, your mind and your life in general that get better as you get older. So to celebrate each day you wake up alive, and each year that passes—and you're still here living it—here's a big list of things to look forward to as you get older (as told by SparkPeople members!).
 
  1. You're wiser.
  2. You know who you are as a person better than ever.
  3. Insurance discounts!  
  4. You are more secure and confident than when you were younger.
  5. You better appreciate life and the people around you. You don't take anything for granted.
  6. Being carded is a compliment.
  7. You have stronger resolve.
  8. There's still plenty of time to try new things.
  9. You worry less about what everyone else thinks of you and focus more on doing what makes YOU happy.
  10. Love.
  11. Relationships.
  12. Sex.
  13. You're still on this side of the ground!
  14. You can spot "BS" much quicker—and you're less willing to take it.
  15. You see the bigger picture.
  16. You take better care of yourself physically and emotionally.
  17. People take you more seriously.
  18. You run faster. (This is actually true, especially for women whose speeds peak between 35 and 39.)
  19. Senior discounts.
  20. You have found yourself.
  21. You know there is so much more to come.
  22. You get smarter!
  23. You worry less about silly things.
  24. You discover your inner strength.
  25. You're more likely to try new things.
  26. Everything makes more sense.
  27. Having kids. Being a mom/dad.
  28. Having grandkids. Being a grandparent.
  29. In a hostage situation, you are likely to be released first.
  30. You are better able to learn from past mistakes and grow from them.
  31. You're more likely to stand up for yourself.
  32. Perspective.
  33. You know how to work smarter, not harder.
  34. Your earning potential increases the longer you are in your profession.
  35. New doors continue to open.
  36. Your attitude and gratitude.
  37. You care more about having your style than being in style.
  38. Making a life becomes more important than having a life.
  39. You get more relaxed about getting older.
When I was younger, I thought I'd have everything "figured out" by the time I was 30. Now I know that's not true; but I do expect that I'll figure more things out each passing day. I also know and fully believe that getting older can be great when you take care of yourself nutritionally, physically and mentally. When you are healthy, you can slow down the effects of time—and get more out of each passing year.
 
"Do not regret getting older. It is a privilege denied to many." -- Unknown
 
Let us all embrace our ages and be grateful to be alive another day!
 
Do you think that everything gets better with age? What do you think is the best part about getting older? 

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Comments

KHALIA2 3/24/2018
Thanks, Coach Nicole. I feel so much better now after reading your list. Report
CAROLYNINJOY1 3/22/2018
I'm 70 and grateful for every day I wake up breathing. Gravity is tough but my mind is young. Report
PATRICIA-CR 3/21/2018
I dread getting older. I try and wish to change this, but haven't been able.
There are a couple of things I can say I love about aging, not having to deal with my period and hormones in that sense; and having my children gone. Report
KATHYJO56 3/3/2018
This is all true. I can vouch for them all. Report
FLAXENPOET1961 2/24/2018
This may be true until you reach about the age of 50. Then people start to treat you like you are just old. Also job opportunities seem to disappear and hormones play Havoc with your weight emotions and sometimes your overall health. American Society fails to see the wisdom that experience can bring. Maybe I'm just another girl that views the glass as half empty. Report
LARGELIVER 2/19/2018
Dumbest graphic ever to use on a weight loss blog entry. Trigger much? Report
COCOSCHAFER 2/18/2018
Hahaha!!! That's cute Report
SPUNOUTMOM 1/30/2018
Good article. As I get older having more aches and pains. So good points to remember. Report
CHERYLHURT 1/27/2018
Thanks Report
ANHELIC 1/19/2018
Thank you for your information. Report
AMYSUZEQ 1/19/2018
I am not bothered with my age. Report
CGH-ARTYPANTS 1/11/2018
I am about to turn 65. I think age is a frame of mind. I know some really old 40 year olds and some very young 80 year olds. My mom, grandmother and great grandmother were all wonderful examples on how to age gracefully. They kept young at heart and were always ready to learn new things. I plan to follow in their footsteps. Report
STUBBY_DOUGLAS 12/22/2017
I like the one about being first hostage to be released! :D Report
ROSSYFLOSSY 12/17/2017
Not bad getting older. Report
BOLEBRON 11/25/2017
Aging is unavoidable so the we have to try to make the best of it. One thing is right; as you age so worry less about what other people think about you. It is a relief not to care of whether I wear the same clothes week after week or whether my pants are lose or I don't look as good as my 10-year, younger co-worker. Those things do not matter anymore. Report
ADRIENALINE 11/13/2017
I am 65 and 11/12 (my next birthday is this month) and I'm 80 days away from retiring. My investments look good and I can continue to travel when I want to. I'm a bit taken aback by a getting older article written by someone who just turned thirty but it turns out most of the things she says are true at 65 too.

Happy birthday and enjoy your youth, it slips by too quickly. Report
LADYBUG1943 11/8/2017
Funny, I'm 74 and feel almost exactly the opposite of the previous commenter. The BEST thing about getting older is having so much knowledge about yourself and others. And feeling proud because I've always been active and am in pretty good physical health. And... finally enough money to pretty much do whatever I want. So many things that in the past were purchased for all the wrong reasons... now I know what I want and what suits ME.... not something to maintain a social standard. I know what looks good on me, and avoid what doesn't, and that includes relationships. I'm happy and content.

Congratulations on becoming 30. You seem very young to me, The road will continue to go up for you. Enjoy every moment of it. Report
MJLUVSANIMALS 11/6/2017
I'm sorry but getting older is a "B----h" One day your 30 and the next is your approaching your 70's and it happens all too fast. You lose interest, are more judging, hold lifelong grudges, stubborn as heck. No getting older is cruddy. Food doesn't taste that great anymore, too many aches and pains. Enjoy youth while you got it, because getting older is not fun at all. The worst part to me, is not wanting to do much anymore. Report
COLORMEGREEN 11/4/2017
My best friend and I ate our first senior meal at a restaurant..we laughed and had a good time. she is now gone and Im glad for the good memory.
Old age may be contagious but we don't have to take it laying down. Report
AMYISSUCCEEDING 10/27/2017
Not as insecure and you don't care about what others think so much. Report
FUNNYFACE101002 10/23/2017
Best part is living life instead of just surviving. Enjoying the simple things. Slowing down and doing things. Enjoying quietness. Report
FISHGUT3 10/14/2017
It doesn't get better when you get older Report
CACUJIN 9/24/2017
You are still alive, nothing greater than that. Some folks didn't make it that far. Report
GOLDENRODFARM 8/29/2017
I remember thinking 30 or 40 or 50 was old, now some one that is 80 doesn't seen old anymore, all perspective Report
PAMZILLA2 8/23/2017
At age 64, I still haven't looked under the right rock to find myself.

However, the closest I've come didn't occur until I was 40. My kids were in that pre-teen/early teen phase of being ashamed of their parents. My daughter voiced how she wanted me to be different because I embarrassed her. I snapped and said, "I've lived my whole life trying to please everybody else, be who everybody else wanted me to be. It didn't work. No more. So if you don't like who I am--TOUGH!" I never heard another word on the subject from either kid. Report
JULIENSMITH 5/3/2017
Love the hostage idea! I liked the article. Report
Ha - In a hostage situation, you're more likely to be released first. Now THAT is something I never thought of. Report
I can remember thinking that thirty was old when I was fifteen! Now, it seems so young! Our youngest will be 35 on her next birthday! Report
I'm 54 and you are not old at 30. I have children older then 30! At my age I don't have daily child care to worry about but I still get to enjoy my grandchildren. I can enjoy them and send them home. Report
SHELLYHAPPY
I'll be 60 this year. And I'm so excited!!!!! I think this is a good time of my life with the best time to come!! Report
FESTIE
All of this is good to a point. At 68, I can't think what might get any better really. It all seems to be going south now.....I'm still confused, no wiser than I have ever been, and wishing I was 30 again. Well, maybe 40. Report
FROGSMILE
I often joke that I'd heard that metabolism drops when you turn 30 but I didn't realize that they meant THAT DAY! As to the trepidation for having kids, it sure worked for me. And it's really the only way to enjoy #28--which I can attest is really great! Report
JANETFAYE
You can spot "BS" much quicker—and you're less willing to take it so True! Report
I'm 62. I never found myself. Report
I'm gonna be 55 this month, My kid reminds me I should celebrate afterall I am now eligible for senior discounts :-/

I remember when I turned 30 sex suddenly went from Good to WOW . HAHA.
I am at the point where I am no longer tolerant of BS and I see it coming from 50 feet.
I don't care anymore
I know whats important Now.
I have Wisdom and Hair Glitter.. HA! Report
lmbo at #29!!! =D
as a 40 something, what i personally enjoy the most so far is how i've learned to look inwardly. not sure how to explain it. i don't care what others think of me because i know who i am and i love myself. when you have confidence in yourself and you know your own heart, no one can bring you down. in my teens and 20s i was very affected by others. my 30s is where that slowly began to change. have fun!! =) Report
Happy Birthday enjoy being 30
I have yet to get up set over a Birthday number and I have had 66 of the hard ones for me were the first i had after losing a parent . Report
GREYTDOLPHIN
i'm a couple years late on the 30th birthday wish, but want to say you are a mini-me. I had the same thoughts when I was your age and still don't feel all that much older. Don't worry, things will all come in their own time and fall into place. I found the love of my life when I was in my early 60's. Go figure. We will be married 9 years this coming October and it has been sheer joy. By the way, I don't really go by calendar years. He's 15 years younger and a wonderful man. I love the #14--the part about being able to spot "BS" quicker and not taking it. That's my mantra in life. LOL. Report
Number 9 is the biggie - the older I get, the less I worry about what people think of me. I don't have time for that anymore!

Personally, if I could go back in age I wouldn't want to go much younger than 40. Report
I, too, had to laugh at Nicole thinking 30 was old! I am 70 and when I realize that my Grandmother lived to be 107, I still have 30 years+ left so being 30 was still a very young lady! Yes, I have some health limitations, and occasional aches and pains from arthritis slow me down a little - but I really think that "old" is a number that you put in your head. I refuse to get "OLD"!!!
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I think this is an excellent post. I wish an older Spark person (I am 59, so to me older is going to be someone 65 years or older). Reading about how turning 30 was deemed getting older kind of made me giggle. Not demeaning the massive emotional, social and mental changes one deals with as they realize they are no longer a "young adult", more just a comment as to how it reads to someone at my point in life. Gosh, my brain hadn't even started fully functioning until about 34! Report
Happy Birthday Nicole, you have a great attitude. I wish I felt so positive about getting older but for me so far its been a drag! Report
FOXGLOVE999
When you get to a certain age being carded is no longer a compliment, it's just silly. Report
This is an excellent post! I am turning 27 this year and I cannot believe all the things I thought I would have accomplished by now. But I know that I have plenty of time in my life and to focus on the good! Great post! Even the hostage situation I was like, what? Lol! Report
You are still young I started changing my view point at 60 then other things become more important got off the fast lane and after each year a slower lane Look feel understand whats important more Report
MICHELLEMAE1970
I used to get insulted when people thought I was younger than I really am. But now that I'm 42, it doesn't bother me when people think I'm 32 or even 25 for that matter!!

I agree with the writer, I basically thought it was an insult on my experience. It felt like no one takes me seriously. Report
Oops! Well, I'm just proud to be the last to wish you a Happy Birthday 2012, Nik, so, HAPPY BIRTHDAY!! Birthday advice? Sure! You've done well, Nik, and the good news is ... it only gets better! Congratulations and Godspeed!

~Ron Report
Happy Belated Birthday!! It DOES get better as you get older. At 55, I never imagined I'd be running marathons or half marathons, cycling 100 miles in a day, lifting the same weight as women 20 or 30 years younger. I may wake up cranky on some days, but I have a deep appreciation and thrill that I get to wake up and celebrate another fabulous day. Enjoy and love them all! Report
ERINBEAR2K
Happy birthday, Nicole!
I have two things to say about your entry- my grandfather died at 84, and a week before he died, he said to my uncle, "I never thought I would die this young." That's really stuck with me in so many ways.
2nd- you are never ready to have kids, even if you think you are, so just do it. I had my 5th when I was 29, and a friend of mine had her 5th at age 40. We can both tell you the pregnancies are easier when you are younger.... Report
Happy belated birthday! This list is so spot on, especially #23, worrying about small things. I am so much more rational (I've got 10 years on you, if you don't feel rational, wait for it. It will come.) and see more things for how they really are, and what difference they actually make. Report
 
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